Have you gotten this recording yet? | MP3

If you are planning to do something for my upcoming
birthday, you should do something for yourself first.

I made a special recording (that is free) that will
enhance your gift giving experience in more ways
than one.

Check it out here.

Love Can Set You Free | Amazing | Video

It's too bad this song could get lost, due
to the messenger. It has some beautiful
music and heartfelt, soulful lyrics.

"...I had so many questions
That you just kissed away

Tell me, I guess that cupid was in disguise
The day you walked in and changed my life
I think it's amazing,
The way that love can set you free."

What music do you identify with, and why?
Care to share?

Dopamine and Being Impulsive

Previously I wrote about Dopamine, a hormone that
can affect how a person feels early in a relationship.

It is something that erotic hypnotists might stir up
in someone to get them to feel "in love." If a
hypnotist is reading this, s/he might want to consider
the recent news that it appears that Dopamine
might encourage people to be impulsive.

Sadly, this news is as likely to be helpful to someone
who is wanting to manipulate another as it is helpful
for someone who wants to take care in their suggestion
making.

A person who might feel a dopamine high may act more
impulsively than he can afford to, or wants to. So,
for those "hypnotizees" out there who are reading this,
consider this a word of caution - especially if you
know that a recording is designed to interact with
your body's dopamine abilities.

For those who aren't hypnotized, but still find
themselves easily swayed by those on a phone sex line,
or in real life, this may be something to consider as
well. Those dopamine "hits" may be costing you more
than you realize.

Sometimes things seem to be small and seemingly
insignificant...but how often do we have all the
information we need to truly make the best choices
for ourselves?

When playing in the realm of the mind,
it might be wise to remember there is likely
to be much we still don't understand, and no
one is a better guardian for you than the person
you look at in the mirror every morning.

Hypnotic Quandry

On and off I hear a cry for hypnosis legislation. I hear about
people who want to make laws that can get the people who
abuse hypnosis reported, and legally affected in some manner.

Every time I hear about something like that, I have to wonder
how in the world they could do such a thing. It would seem
to me that those who would be "up to no good" would likely
be smart enough to fly under the radar. It also occurs to me
that it is possible that someone could be reported for doing
something that they never did, and how in the world would
anyone truly know?

The mind is an incredible thing, and one never knows what is
"real" and what is a "dream." Have you ever been convinced
that something happened a certain way, but it didn't? Or
forgotten something that was so vivid in another person's
mind? Perhaps one day there will be a way to tell. At the
moment, though, hypnotic memories are so sketchy, that courts
will not allow testimony based on what comes from a hypnotic
state.

A few years back, I had a conversation with a police department
regarding a situation. I was curious what they might say about
an event that I knew of in which it seemed someone was taken
advantage of. What I was told was that it would likely be
difficult to prove anything. Who's to say that the person didn't
just do what they did, had remorse, and decided to say otherwise?

Sadly I know of more than one event in which if there was
some recourse, the person involved might have attempted
to do something about it. I say might because in several
of the cases, the situation was too embarrassing and/or
painful to do anything about it, except just go on. I am
sure that some of these people are concerned about what
the fallout would be, and would prefer to be quiet and, if
need be, suffer in silence.

I got to thinking about this again (for the umpteenth time)
because of news item about a woman in Pennsylvania
who is suing her previous employer because of alleged
sexual assaults under hypnosis that occurred while she
was employed. (Click for link to story).

I will be curious to see what the outcome of this will be.
I use the word "alleged" only because there is no way for
me to know what happened, and in this country the
courts need to determine if alleged is "true" or not.

It is possible that she could be disgruntled and
making up her allegations. It is also possible,
should some pictures turn up, that she agreed to pose
for them, and now is embarrassed that she did. At the
same time, what she describes seems more than feasible
to me.

I read mind control stories that are works of "fiction."
However from some of what I know, I would believe that
there are possibilities that something similar could have
happened, or could be happening, somewhere to someone.

The only way to prevent people from being taken advantage
of hypnotically is if people were isolated from one
another. While we like to think the law can help us,
sometimes I think we need to seek more to interact with
things at the point of cause instead of the symptom.

Hypnosis can happen any number of ways - through text,
through IM, through a visual, through something auditory.
Not all things will work for all people at all times, but
the possibilities are endless, and don't always require
a trance state. Anyone who wants to manipulate and take
advantage will find a way to do it that looks "innocent"
enough.

In the meantime, it is difficult to know what can be
done in regard to the abuses that occur. I wish I knew
"the" answer, but the best I can come up with is to
make people as aware as possible of the possibilities,
and hope that they're able to do what they need to to
stay as safe as possible. Plus the more that we can
talk about this, the more likely someone who needs
help will be able to find a way to talk about it without
a fear of being ridiculed or ashamed for what happened.

I do, though, know of one instance when someone was in
over their head with one person only to find another who
was supposedly going to help him. Yeah, they helped
him, alright...into an even bigger mess.

What exactly is happening within people that is having
them desire to care so little for another and that
person's desires or, on the other end of the spectrum,
have others feel that they deserve to be treated so
poorly?

While I have seen abuse, I have also seen the amazing
power of the mind to help itself, when it has a belief
that it deserves better than what it is getting.

Interestingly that applies even without being entranced
maliciously by someone. We are entranced by life and
the events that happen to us, and can do things we'd
rather not be doing.

If you believe you deserve better, you have the ability
to awaken yourself to better things. Will it be easy?
Probably not...but worth it? Hell yeah! :)

Need some help? Let's talk.

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8/8 is going to be great!

Come celebrate the 8 Days of Isis with me.
Details to come.
Check back soon.

100% Certain. Really?

Just got an interesting call. It was one of
those pre-recorded deals. Not sure why I was
on their list, and maybe *I* wasn't, maybe it
was for someone who used to have my number.

It was a guy's voice. Very stern. Sounded
like he was from Massachusetts. He was saying
that it was "100% certain" that if I was over
60 years old and I was alone at home that I
would have a stroke, heart attack, accident,
or fall.

He then was nice enough to repeat the "100%
certain" part.

He was selling fear in the guise of a home
alert system.

Two questions that come to mind are:
* No one over 60 can live safely and without
incident? Really? (What about those under 60?
Are they not able to be scared or manipulated
as easily? Nothing ever happens to them?)
* How can he be so certain that it *will*
happen, unless he is hypnotizing someone
into thinking it will happen?

It sounds to me like preying on a person's
fears, rather than helping to support
another and make a difference for someone
and their needs.

I am sure many things can be useful and
helpful, but I find some of these tactics
abhorrent...especially if words are used
to influence actions based on unconscious
fears.

Then he also said, "Press 1 for more
information now" 3! times.

Alert the fear, create a suggestive state,
tell the person what to do, and...wallah!
You have a sale. Yuck.

We gotta do better than this. I don't
usually say things like that. But can't
we take better care of our neighbors
without scaring and manipulating them?

Maybe that's the problem. I'm thinking
more of the people than the money.

What do you think?

Are YOU the 1 in 5 person?

Have you heard this hypnotic statistic?

20% of the population has the most difficulty being hypnotized
20% of the population is the most easily hypnotized
60% of the population has an experience somewhere in between

I wish I could remember where I heard/read it, but it doesn't
really matter for the purposes of this discussion.

In the time that I have been a hypnotist, I have had a few "tough"
cases, but for the most part most people who want to be
hypnotized, can be. I've had some tell me that others weren't
successful, only to find themselves coming out of a trance with me.

Those people aren't going to fall within the first 20% group,
however those picked for a stage show (and remain on stage)
will be a part of that group. A stage hypnotist better know how
to pick those folks, or else it'll be a boring show.

In the world of phone sex, those 20% will have the greatest
likelihood of being carried away by anyone they find appealing,
as they'll likely find themselves aroused and affected by a trance-
like state. In the world of domination and submission, it is
what many might call sub space.

These same 20% are easy pickings for those who want to take
advantage of another in the real world, as well as the virtual
one. Even an inept hypnotist could likely have an effect, because
the person will likely be hypnotizing (or already has hypnotized)
him/herself. Since many won't know to call it hypnosis, it
will likely go by other names. Most won't care what it is called,
just that it "works."

This means that 1 in 5 people are likely to be more open than
they might want to be to suggestion. Most times it probably
won't matter all that much. However, in the world of eroticism
and hypnosis, there is a chance that you will want to care if
this is your "type."

It is this type that is the one that is most likely to find himself
in big do-do before he can do anything about it. It is the
kind of thing that seems to be of fiction, however, as I always
tell people, when fantasy becomes reality it may not always
be pleasant.

I am always telling people to be careful. I often get polite
"um-hums," and not too many that believe that what I say
can happen to them. You don't know if it can happen to
you, or not, until you know, and it may just be too late.

Even those who are in the other 60% may have an "opportunity"
to become more suggestible/open, and could also be
affected in unpleasant and unwanted ways.

So "un-hum" me if you want to, and while you're at it...

Guy Walks Across America. Well, not quite. | Video

I thought this an interesting video, and
likely one fun to shoot. Editing must have
been a bear.

They actually RV'd themselves across the
country, with an occasional shot here and there.

I wonder if it's like how some of us experience
life. We go along, and see things, but the
ones we truly pay attention to are the ones
that we "shoot" along the way.

I am sure there was much more to the trip, but
it isn't covered in the resulting video. Does
that mean it didn't happen? Or wasn't important?

Not likely. It just isn't what was chosen to
be remembered by the "memory" created by the
maker of the video.

Interesting, too, that something that likely took
hours and days was whittled down to a mere 1:53.
How many parts of our life are either excluded by
choice or necessity? How many parts are the ones
we value enough to retain? What determines what
stays or what goes?

How many times do we make absolute statements like
"guy walks across America" about events that only
appeared to take place, and contain only partial
information?

As the maker of your videos, how do you make your
edits? What do you remember?

Guy Walks Across America @ Yahoo! Video

What a Sweet Message...

I received this email today. I am often told
how my voice is appreciated, and sometimes I
might even "enhance" someone's experience of
it hypnotically.

However, this came from someone "untouched,"
as I have never hypnotized him. I love to
hear nice things about me (doesn't everyone?)
but while I'd like to think all I am doing
is making the good better, however I personally
prefer it when it comes from a "pure" place.

Dear Isis,

I feel that You absolutely have the sexiest
most erotic voice on the internet. Actually,
You have the most amazing voice I have ever
heard.

Thank You for sharing it with me.

Thank you for the compliment.

Never quite know what people hear in my voice
- especially men - but I am glad to know that
it has such a pleasurable effect.

Have a good night!

Empathy for Escape

I once was an observer to a conversation between another
erotic hypnotist and someone who enjoyed being hypnotized.
The latter was asking the former about how some hypnotists
are affected by their own work. She suggested he not believe
the "hype." Based on what I observed, it seemed to me that
she wasn't much into being hypnotized herself.

I find that interesting, as I believe that the more I can
understand about a person's experience hypnotically, the
better I am a a hypnotist. While I am unable to experience
everything, and every nuance of an individual's experience,
it gives my perspective an added dimension.

Is she a good hypnotist? Apparently some think so, so
perhaps it isn't necessary to walk in the other person's
world to be effective in affecting them.

However, when I can relate to another, my approach benefits
a person more I believe when I can understand more of why
a person feels and acts the way he does. I remember someone
I know once telling me long before I got into this type of "work"
that he liked to be submissive at times because he had a lot
he had to be in control of.

It is a common thing that I hear. I heard it, and it made
sense to me logically, but a greater understanding of it
came in time when I got to have my own experiences of
feeling overwhelmed by the things that were going on in
my life. I wanted to just get away for a while. It wasn't
the first or the last time that it would happen, but given
the comment I was able to identify it differently than I
had at other times.

One possible problem with this type of coping mechanism
is that it can overtake a person, and instead of it being a
vacation, it becomes a permanent destination.

It is a fine balancing act we must do as human beings.
And the key is to balance. The problem is that perfect
balance is practically impossible to obtain, and even
when it is, even the slightest thing can cause a dip to
one side or another.

I suppose how we handle those moments is the difference
between a tip and a dip. When you are feeling the need
to escape, it is likely things have been building up for
quite some time, and it is equally likely that a time like
that is a time that you will be taking a sizable dip. In
a way, it makes sense, as you've gone so far to the other
side, you have to take a huge step in the other direction.
It is also a time you are most likely to REACT to a situation,
and that creates its own set of dynamics.

It is likely best to have outlets along the way. I know that
certain people's voices have a calming effect on me.
One time one of them even said, "Everything is going to
be alright," and in that moment, it felt like all was right
with the world, even though in daily life there was much
that was questionable. It was an amazing gift, and it
wasn't so much the words, but the feeling behind them.
That person was taking a stand for me in that moment
giving me some strength when I didn't feel so strong.

Sometimes it is nice to have someone be our strength,
however there are some who would turn that around
and use it to weaken you. Just because you have
moments of weakness, doesn't mean you are weak.
Just because you have moments of wanting to let go,
it doesn't mean you are submissive.

It's very easy to collapse things, and those collapses
will often serve one person or another. Even allowing
yourself to believe things about yourself that aren't
true serves you. In some ways, it allows you off the
hook. The thing is, that you are trading a part of
yourself for it and you might want to ask yourself,
is it worth it?

Ultimately we need to find our own way and strength,
and sometimes it takes another to help us recover
and discover what we have within, especially since
it is capable of hiding so well in times of stress.

Some say that time spent with me, and listening to
my voice, is soothing and supportive. If I can help
you in any way, please let me know.

Soothing Music | Scott August | Video

I find this music to be beautiful and soothing.
Perhaps you will, too.
The images of the
Grand Canyon are a nice addition.

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One of my favorites of his is called
Sedona Sunrise.
I couldn't find it on YouTube.
However if you're interested/curious,
click on the title,
and you can hear a sample.

Great music to relax to (and more).
It is like musical honey.

Who deserves you?

"The things we love tell us what we are."
- St. Thomas Aquinas

I'd say who and how we are is most certainly
reflected in our world by those things and
people we hold most dear, and those things
and people we give our energies and love to.

We can give the gift of love to anyone, as it
is not really ours in the first place. However
who we give ourselves to is a different matter.

Who deserves YOU?

Anyway I Love You | Video

Another gem.

Perfect since we've been "talking" about love lately.

Dan Fogelberg has written many songs with
some really great lyrics.
In this particular song,
see if you can figure out why
I like the following part:

"So if you ever feel a need for me
Let it carry you along
Don't be shy and try to hold it down
Cause what you feel just can't be wrong."

Maybe the song will speak to you, too.

Enjoy.

Bewitched | Video

Just love the things you can find on YouTube,
especially when you're not looking.
This seemed kinda fun.
Be Bewitched.

Artistic Eroticism | Quote from a Caller

"I love Isis' artistic eroticism.
It is as beautiful as it is
suggestive and seductive."

- MarkTwain79

Happiness & Love | Quote from Victor Hugo

"“The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved --
loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves.”
- Victor Hugo

Isn't that what love is about?

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International Fun (Would never happen in the US) | Video

Stereotypes for Laughs | Video

After I posted the last video, I wandered into
the following videos. Often things said in jest
have some truth to them. However, I'd say it's
important to remember that they're just pieces,
and not the whole. I'd also say that it's
important to remember that individuals may not
necessarily fit the stereotype just because they
appear to wear a certain label (ie "man" "woman").

If you don't think that is possible, you may
either be caught off guard one day and/or treat
someone in a way that isn't suitable to who they
truly are, and perhaps miss out on something
pretty great.

Ever have one of those days? | Video

I usually try to stay on the positive side of things,
but sometimes a situation doesn't leave much room
for positivity.

When I saw this video, I couldn't help but share it.

Perhaps you can relate.

"have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way?" | Arjuna Ardagh

"have you loved for real, in a total and undefended way?
If not, and here’s where you have to be honest with yourself,
is that ok with you?
Is it ok to die one day without the heart’s gift haven been fully given?"

Yesterday I wrote about how I feel many people
might be looking for love when they call me.

Today I came upon a wonderful blog entry called
Why it is Wise to Worship a Woman by Arjuna
Ardagh, the author of the above quote.

What he writes about is something that many talk
about in erotic hypnosis and in the Femdom world,
however his form of worship (it seems to me) has
a different, more complete, more respectful
context.

I thought what he wrote, while long, is beautiful,
and that is why I wanted to share it with you
(just click on the title of the blog to read it
for yourself).

He says that his entry was prompted by a Facebook
entry about his wife that he posted before going
to bed:

"'I have had many many great teachers in my life.
A super abundance. No one and nothing comes close
to the woman who is now asleep in my bed. My
marriage has become the sat guru, the salvation,
the muse, the crack through which the divine shines
through.'”

What beautiful words that are beautiful because
they come from deep within. So many will give
lip service to ideas that sound good, but will
ring hollow. When you truly feel something, it
is something that just flows easily, and the
beauty is that you don't have to convince, or
train, yourself to believe it.

He addresses phone sex, "For $1.99 a minute, you
can see her breasts, maybe her vagina, and you can
stimulate yourself in a sad longing for deeper
love." To some degree I suspect he may be
talking about what I was yesterday. He says
phone sex stimulates a longing, when in actuality
I wonder if it's the longing that sends someone
searching.

Any which way you go, I'd say it's something to
think about. There is beauty in people, and there
is beauty in both genders and what they can offer
each other.

There is nothing greater than the profound
connection that we can have with another,
and I suspect it is what drives us to find
it. The thing is, though, I think we want
the connection so badly we seek to create
it, when it is actually something that
creates itself, and what we're supposed to
do is recognize what has been uncovered.

I wonder if we might we sometimes miss
access to the wonder of this dynamic, too
busy trying to create something that is
right in front of us.

What do you think? Would love to know your
impressions of Arjuna's blog.

Have a great day!

Always Good to Laugh at Yourself | Video

Being from the NYC area, I am very aware of the
multitude of stereotypes from the different
patches of geography that make up the NYC and
surrounding areas personality landscapes.

In the video below a girl from Staten Island
has some fun with Katy Perry's California Gurls
song ala Staten Island. Some people find it
offensive. However, when anything is taken
piecemeal it is easy to come away with the wrong
impression. Just ask President Obama, he likely
can relate regarding the recent Agriculture
Secretary debacle. Oops.

If you're from the area, what do you think of
this video?

Mark the Date!

Love is a Many Splendored Thing | Video

Have you ever heard that we define what love
looks like differently?

For some love could be associated with pain.

For some love could be associated with the
things another does for you.

For some love could be denial.

There are as many ways to experience love as
there are people on the planet. Yes there
will be similarities, however the exact (and
complex) composition of what equates to love
for each individual will vary.

I mention this because love is a very primal
thing. It seems to be something that we all
want in some form or fashion, but often seems
to be elusive. It seems to be something that
when found is like a magical elixir. All
seems to be right with the world for a time.

Our hormones play a role in that process, and
can sometimes be deceiving when they stop
doing what they once did to have us feeling
the "love drug." How one experiences that
"drug" can vary as well, depending on what
dynamics trigger it.

I found myself wondering how many people who
call me are looking for the "love connection"
with me. This is not to say they want to
fall in love with me, or even have a conscious
awareness of what they're unconsciously seeking.
It is also not to take away from any current
relationships or to judge.

What it is is a thought about something so
profound that we as human beings will seek it
out, and when it is found in a way that clicks
with the person's perspective and perceived
needs, it makes me think that it is an
easy abyss to fall into.

Whether or not the abyss is a safe place or
not will depend on many things. The key is
does it work for the parties involved?

Some will call me and want to experience
pain and humiliation, and I am unable to
help them. If that is to them a form of
"love," then I am unable to love them in
the way that they think they need to be
loved. Of course, they won't likely view
it as love, it will likely be labelled as
something much less deep.

Depending on their mindset, they might be
open to a kinder version of what love can
look like, however more often than not
they're off to find someone that they can
(even if subconsciously) "fall in love"
with.

Of course, this is all speculation on my
part, as there is no way to know these things
for sure. Most people (I would suspect) who
would find themselves in the middle of this
perspective would likely be unwilling to
address the possibility because of the
discomfort of the "attached" meanings, both
their own, and others. Since we don't live
in a void, we are often biased by what others
think should be.

Love truly is a beautiful and profound thing,
and it is something that in its purest form
is a gift. When it gets attached to people
and things it is very often when it is
confusing and can lead to disappointment,
and other not so great emotions and circumstances.

Love in its purest form is unlimited in quantity,
and is able to be shared in a myriad of ways
with a myriad of people without detriment. To
deny ourselves that perspective is to deny
ourselves of one of our most basic needs and
one of our most delicious nutrients.

This is of course, what I believe. As they say,
your mileage may vary. However, if it makes
sense to you, perhaps consideration of this
perspective will give you a gift of some sort.

For more on the subject of love, and to learn
about a MP3 I have called Pure Love: The Gift,
please click here.

Here's an oldie with lyrics that came into my
mind as I was writing. It is likely written
about a romantic relationship, but the beauty
is I believe it transcends that limited
perspective.

"Love is a many splendored thing"

"It's nature's way of giving a reason to be living"

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I've got my plan, Stan...

I have finalized my plans for Baltimore
and New York, however I am not going to
post them publicly.

If you are in either area and want to
meet in person with me, please email me
to inquire about specifics.

There may still be some chance to meet
for a live session so if you're interested,
you definitely should speak up now.

I am so excited!

This trip is going to be awesome, and if
I am fortunate, I might even come back
with some live video of a session, or two.
No promises, but dreamy possibility.

Have a great day!

The mind, the body, and YOU

At one point I had someone call me who would
go to those places in town where he knew men
frequented. He had a fantasy that if he ever
knew that he was terminally ill, he'd want to
go there and just go to town with the men,
letting them have his way with him.

I suggested that he might want to be careful
with that "fantasy" because some people believe
that there is energy in thoughts, and that he
might wind up terminally ill if that was the
case, and did he really want that to be a
reality?

His response was that he wanted me to help
insure that outcome for him, should it ever
happen.

I told him I wasn't the right person for him.

I don't "know" what is "true" when it comes to
the reality of the connection between thoughts
and what occurs. However, every day I am
learning more and more, and there seems to be
science that backs up the idea that what we
think creates a neural pathway in our body that
stirs up a physical reaction.

Whether it is true, or not, I am of the mind
that I never want to do something that could
potentially be injurious for a person, even
in "fun" or in "fantasy."

I had a guy recently write me a cryptic email
about a fetish about being punched in the stomach.
Not sure if he meant him, or me. However, he
better be careful if someone who hypnotizes him
is willing to do it. If the mind is powerful
enough to cause a blister to be formed on a hand,
believing it was touched by something hot, then
he could really feel punched. People have died
from being punched in the stomach.

As far as I am concerned, unless it can be
proven that the mind and body are disconnected,
I am going to operate in the realm of the
possibility, and be mindful and aware of the
potential impact of my words. As always, I will
never judge a person's desire, but I will judge
whether or not my part in it would be something
I would be willing to contribute to.

Might I suggest that you consider something
similar, and be mindful and aware of the
potential impact of the words of those you let
into your mind?

Interestingly, there are some who smoke who
unconsciously have a desire to die, and they
smoke in an effort to kill themselves. The
mind is an incredible place that will find
ways to satisfy itself, even at the cost of
life itself. Just because you think you want
something, it doesn't always mean it's the best
way to go. If you're doing something that is
weakening you, demoralizing you, hurting you,
you might just want to consider other possibilities.

I won't say "life is a gift," like some would.
But I will say that there is likely to be more
to you than you even know, and if you ever
realized that potential, you might be amazed,
and those around you grateful.

I respect you enough to know that despite what
*I* say and believe, *you* will do what you're
going to do. However, if you are ever looking
to do things that could be harmful to you,
please don't ever think that I will be willing
to be a part of it.

Can you feel it? | Leg Jpg

Treat me to a Movie

Sometimes people ask me what they
can do for me.

I like offering a diversity of possibilities.

Some cost nothing,
and then there are some
that cost just a few dollars.

I am always happy if someone gets a file,
then we both get something.
However, sometimes those who
enjoy me and my work
want options.

So here's one...

Sex, Evolution, & Innovation | Video

I just love TED talks (Technology, Entertainment, Design).

They always have interesting topics and speakers. The
talks are short, and packed with thoughtful tidbits.

This one with Matt Ridley is about When Ideas Have Sex.
He speaks about how we have evolved over time, and
how it has allowed us to become more specialized.

He doesn't judge it, however it would seem to lean in
a positive direction. While I think it is good to see how
we are not as independent as we may sometimes we
think we are (as there are many who are involved in the
production of even the simplest of things) it is something
I wonder about.

In some ways I think technology is having us feel more
separated from the things in our life, and are separating
us from life itself. There are many more "things" and
therefore many more diversions.

I won't blame technology for what is happening, however
I do see it as a piece of the puzzle. How can we know
who we are, if we're either unwilling or unable to look
through all of the stuff that surrounds us?

Simpler often seems like it's the "poor man's choice."
However, chosen simplicity can be its own reward.
Have you see this video of Jay Shafer's little home?

As always, I don't know what THE answer is...there
are so many more questions. However, I'd say it's
something to step back and consider on an individual
basis. Is your stuff empowering you? burying you?
supporting you? overwhelming you?

It's no fun to look at the things that don't work,
however it seems to be a starting place for a change.
A problem unrecognized continues to be fed.

The good thing is you only have to look at it long
enough to make a change, because once you recognize
it for what it is, you can focus on what you truly want
instead.

Watch, and let me know what your thoughts.

Satisfaction

"Isis is always alluring, sensual and very, very perceptive
in giving you what you want. It feels so very good to
be the good boy of someone who is so caring."
-Watwick

ALWAYS a pleasure!

Another Metaphor for Your Hypnosis Experience

Yesterday I gave a metaphor for what hypnosis experience someone might have with a sampling.

As I thought about it some more, I came up with a few more metaphors of how the hypnotic experience might be, depending on what element is involved.

I was thinking about artists. There are different kinds of artists. They will work with different media, they will work on big projects, they will work on small ones, some have complex lines, some have simple ones, some do many, some do a few, some work fast, some work slow.

If you were to take an artist out of his area of expertise, s/he might be able to create something, however, it is quite possible that it would be inferior to what is possible in their realm of comfort and expertise.

Odds are you might enjoy it, if you enjoy the artist, but you would likely be able to tell that something wasn't quite right. It might even feel a bit forced, or not as harmonious as their other efforts.

To come to an artist who works in canvas and expect them to sculpt is likely to leave you disappointed. Likely if you wanted a work on canvas you would find an artist who was suited to that kind of work.

Once you found that artist, the next thing you would need to do is find out what size of work they're accustomed to doing. Perhaps you want a big mural, but they're only used to doing small 4x6 images. You may want to consider looking elsewhere.

Then you would ask other types of questions of those that you investigate for the work until you found the right combination of sensibilities to make sure you had the greatest chance of success.

Of course, you could throw all caution to the wind, and cross your fingers, and hope that the artist has a hidden talent they never knew they had, however it is quite possible that you won't get what you want or need.

The same would go for almost any service, actually if you think about it. You could think someone cuts hair, and expect him to know exactly how to cut your hair because that's what they do. We both know it doesn't always work that way, especially for women. :P

Keeping that in mind, when one explores hypnosis, it is good to learn a little bit about it, and about the areas of expertise and comfort. It is also good to learn something about the approach and demeanor of the hypnotist.

To come to the arena with an attitude that all hypnotists are created equal because they hypnotize is to limit your experience of hypnosis by your choice. You will be treated to an experience, the question is will it be what you want?

You may not know enough to know what you want, in which case a place to start would be to determine what you don't want. You'll want to be clear that the person you choose will respect your desires, and will either honor them, or tell you otherwise. You'll also want to respect her response to you instead of trying to force an outcome that will likely not work for either of you.

Even if you think you know hypnosis, or know what you think you are likely to get and know what you think you can expect, the one unknown is what will occur from the one particular person you are asking to direct your experience. Trying to mold the artist around your idea of the art may be laden with difficulty.

Respect the art of the artist, and you will likely wind up with a
masterpiece (or even being one :)).

As always,

Can I Have a Sample?

If you had the chance to rent a sports car,
would you ask for a "sample"?

If you did, let's say that they say OK.
However they tell you you can only go up to
5 miles an hour, and maybe 10, but that is
the max. Knowing that that is your sample,
do you think it would be a fair
representation of what a full experience
would be?

My guess is likely not. My guess is you
may want more, but you still wouldn't really
know much about what to expect. You just
got into the car, and then you'd have to
get out.

You might even walk away thinking, "what's
the big deal?" and never come back. You
also might be tempted to go forward, having
the tease, but they would be no way to know
until you were in the situation and then,
it could be too late. You may "sample"
yourself out of a good opportunity.

I bring this up because I often get callers
who want to "sample" what is possible.

Now, if they were in person with me that
would be a much easier thing to do, as
there are ways to physically induce trance
pretty quickly.

On the phone, however, I don't have that
element at my disposal. Sure I could give
5 or 10 minutes of what I do, but then it
likely wouldn't seem like anything much
different than a regular kind of phone sex
call. The meat comes after most sample
periods would be over.

I tell people I am happy to go less than
the 30 minutes I recommend for a first call,
IF we accomplish what we need to sooner.
I think some think I just want to take
their money. However, I also tell them
that after a first call, I am more than
willing to do quickies. They just gotta
make the initial investment.

If for some reason things don't seem to
working, I won't keep a person on the
phone, and I can usually tell that within
10 minutes, or so.

It is unfair to a caller's experience to
do less than what I know is possible,
and I lose many calls and callers over
that detail.

My feedback more than tells someone it
should be worth the investment, however
I realize not everyone will see it that
way. If you are a person who can see
how my perspective might be worth your
while, let's play - or, rather, let me
play with you :)

If you're willing to work with me, I am
more than happy to work with you so that
we both feel good about the outcome and
are happy campers...but you gotta give
me more than a one minute conversation
to entice you into my hypnotic, erotic
world.

I love you, too - but...

"I love you, too - but I don't like you all the time."

It's what a young child said in a video.

We could all use a little of that balance.

How often is it that people think that when they
love someone that they have to like them, and
if they don't like them, then they think they don't
love them?

What might be helpful is to consider breaking
apart the action from the person. When one
does that, it isn't the person you aren't liking,
but rather the things that s/he does.

Often we'll treat someone like their actions and
who they are are one in the same, but it is a
distinction that is often missed.

I may not enjoy how some new callers approach
me, and I could say all kinds of things about
them, but it's the approach that I am likely to
take issue with, not with them themselves.

Big difference.

Btw, someone read my entry about guys who
call with a "do me" attitude, and thought I
might have meant him. I'd like to clarify that
I meant someone I have never spoken to
before who calls me for a first time, and
likely wants me to be done in 10 minutes,
or less.

I never mind when someone who is a regular
wants a quickie...I even suggest them!

However there is a difference between someone
I've established some sort of dynamic and
rapport with and someone who just comes
at me.

I hope that clarifies for anyone else who may
have had those thoughts.

Until we meet again :)

Personality Quiz | My Type | What's Yours?

I took a personality test recently, and found
that I am considered an "Advocate" with my
personality type.

It said I am...
introspective
values-oriented
inspiring
social
passionate
experimental
and...
extremely expressive.

It also said that I "bring attention" to things
that I find important, and specifically mentioned
ethics and current events.

According to the test I have
excellent people skills
warmth
energy
creativity
positivity

Sounds nothing like me, does it? ;P

Interestingly, only 7% of the population is supposed
to be like me. However there are 16 overall types,
and I haven't explored it enough to know what the
distribution is over the types. It does seem like a
small number to me, though.

What was I saying about labels recently?
LOL. Sometimes they may seem to be a good thing
when they say nice things about you. :)

However...all strengths ("good" things) can occur
as weaknesses ("bad" things) and vice versa,
depending on the circumstances. I think I'll
lean toward the positive at the moment though.

Interested about your type?
Check out MyPersonality.Info and take the quiz.

Would love to know if anyone is surprised
by their results.

Have a great day!

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Practical Hypnosis Application | Hypnotic Surgery

Did you ever hear the story about the woman
who underwent a Hypnotic Gastric Bypass?

It was a story in the news last year.

I love stories like this. Ironically, often
those who are interested in hypnosis for
erotic pleasures aren't always interested
in it for the practical applications.

That woman's experience was an awesome
example of what is possible.

I recently had someone that I have spoken
to for several years now finally take
advantage of the practical side. He
was quite amazed at how well it worked,
and how quickly.

"You're great, Isis! As you know, I've
had a personal OCD issue that has been
bothering my life for the past 2 years.
I can't believe the solution we worked
out worked in just two sessions. I am
now happy to say that our work and your
technique and understanding were able
to help solve my problem.

Thank you Isis!"

Thanks for taking me up on it. :)

Who's next?

Dance Me to the End of Love | Video

Several years ago I took off some time from work to "find myself.'

It was a relatively short period of time, but I wanted to
see if I could make a go at a different type of job and
career. I wanted something outside of the 9-5.

That was the first time that I could get up when I wanted
and do what I wanted for work, and I spent a lot of time
out and about. One day I was in a McDonalds, and I
struck up a conversation with a woman.

She was a Holocaust survivor. It was an incredible
conversation that we had, and when she shared what
she did, I could feel the pain of what she survived,
and the pain of the life that she had following her
experiences. It was a very profound moment in
time that I will never forget.

How in the world do you respond to something so
tragic that you haven't experienced personally? What
can you possibly say that won't sound lame? I listened
a lot that day.

I am reminded of her today because of the controversy
surrounding a survivor of Auschwitz. Apparently his
daughter wanted to create something that would have
an impact for people, and she filmed her father and his
grandchildren dancing at Auschwitz.

Some people think that what he did trivializes what
happened, or at least that there is the potential for
that. Others are supportive.

Just like anything in life, I suppose.

What I think it shows is the resilience of a man who
was not beaten. I think it shows that he chose to
celebrate life, instead of focusing on the pain and
what he lost.

Life is about the choices we make. Many are not based
in something as horrific as this man's experiences, however
little things can sometimes whittle away at our soul, and
the bigger ones can call our attention for a time to the
things that really matter in life. They can shake up things
and shake us out of the trance-like experience that we
are having that can pull us down.

Sadly, I don't think that woman I met that day had the
experience of being victorious over life like this man
seems to. Perhaps there is something positive in this
for us all...we just have to allow ourselves to see it.

IF our life is created through our focus, it would seem to
me that this man's take is one that could empower us
moving forward.

The video below isn't the one that caused so much
controversy, but it is a part of the series, and I think the
song is beautiful, and that the overall message is a
celebration of life and love.


Come dance with me.

Relationships and the Stigma of Labels

There's a dating website (and maybe others, too , that
I don't know about) that requires its users to say what
the length of their longest relationship was. It goes
from over one year to over ten years.

It is just one more box and label to give a person so
that another may judge them and deem them worthy,
or not.

It got me thinking about the labels that are used.

Someone I know who has been married, and is now
divorced that would consider himself "single," which
of course he is. However there is the label "divorced"
that needs to be used in contexts like this, so that
he doesn't appear to be deceptive.

I know another person who has been married and
divorced twice, and of course those is society who
just look at the "facts" would be quick to make some
judgment from that fact.

Another who is in his 40s, and never been married.
If everyone lays off of him because he's never been
married at 40, he may never get married because
he'll never be young again.

As a whole, we seem so quick to judge. Someone
who has been in a long term relationship isn't
necessarily more "bankable" than someone who is
in the above mentioned categories.

Someone who has been in a long term relationship
could have had a dysfunctional relationship that he
was unwilling or unable to leave. If one is going to
judge, that would be something to consider. However,
a simple designation of being in a relationship over
8 years is never going to tell you the details of what
transpired.

The more we label things, the more we cloud the
possibilities. Sometimes it might be better to not
know things, and allow those we interact with to
speak with their actions and words in relation to us.

Perhaps a person has changed since their other
relationships. Perhaps a person was responsible
to the people he was in a relationship with, and
knew that the best thing he could do for all parties
was to move on. Perhaps the dynamic between
him and a previous person somehow managed to
bring out the worst in both of them.

I have a friend who is very sane, and very practical,
and down to earth. At one point she told me that
she wanted to kill her then boyfriend. Apparently
things were really bad (that sounds like a huge
understatement). Eventually they went their
separate ways, marrying other people, and what
was the worst of their relationship didn't carry
over to those that they wound up with. She has
never again felt that way about someone.

Consider that there are things we'll never know
about a person and that there are qualities we may
mistakingly assign a person by the labels they
wear. If that is a possibility, then the resulting,
preconceived notions could have us miss out on
something good, or have us choose something
not so great.

I won't say labels never help...but something
designed to "help" I think often can hinder.

What do you think?

A Session with a Satisfied Caller

"Stunning! I don't remember the details
but the end results were... astoundingly erotic."
-SRS777

Just what I like to hear!

Plans Pending...

When you depend on other people, it is difficult to know
what to do sometimes. :)

It looks like I'll definitely be in Baltimore next month, but
I am not exactly when just yet, and am currently unsure
about NYC.

If you are interested in meeting with me LIVE (a VERY
unusual opportunity) in either place, now is the time to
let me know. Later may be ok, but it also may be too
late.

Contact me at IsisWantsYouATYahoo.com if you're
interested, and we can see if there is something we might
be able to create.

Hope you're having a great day.

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On Being Different | Quote

"You have to be different from the world
to make a difference in the world."

As seen in a Tweet from David Archuleta

I've never seen that quote before, and
it makes a lot of sense to me. It would
seem to be the difference between being
empowered by being different, or suffering
from feeling like you don't fit.

I suppose if you don't want to make a
difference in the world it might be a
different story.

What story are you writing for yourself?

Ever have one of those days?

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Yesterday was an interesting day for me.

At one point I was out and about in the nice, hot day
and appreciating the sight of the mountains, the sun,
the beauty that was around me.

I noticed the flowers, everything just seemed so
bright, and so beautiful. I found myself in a state
of gratitude that was quite profound, and is not
often present enough.

I got to thinking about how we get caught up in our
life, and how easy it is to focus on the things that
disappoint us, frustrate us, bring us down. It's
kinda like the "gorilla effect" video I previously
posted.

Then last night I had a dream about someone I had
been in a relationship with, someone who has been
out of my life for quite some time. I got to see in the
dream something I never saw before. Even though we
weren't good together, and likely were meant to part,
I got to see him in a different light, and found myself
grateful for the perspective.

I spoke previously about a couple of guys admitting
that they realized some perspective in regard to
what they lost in relation to me, and I found myself
addressing my new perspective in an email with the
person in my dream. I have to wonder sometimes
what perfection is in cases like this. Some would
likely think perfection meant something working
out, but maybe it sometimes comes in the form of
something that doesn't look so perfect, but is better
than we can imagine. The gift of perspective is invaluable.

I have no desire to go back. I have no desire to find
the me that once was. I have no desire to be a new
me in an old context.

However, the beauty is the perspective allows me to
be a better me now, and to move forward, and for
that I am extremely grateful.

What are you grateful for?

Do You See What You Want to See? | Video

Have you ever heard of the Monkey Business Illusion? It is an
interesting experiment that has to do with (in some ways) a
slight of "hand." The experiment involves giving the participant
something to focus on, and then asks questions about what the
person viewed, and what they remember seeing.

(This is the link on Yahoo where I first saw this conversation)

Take a look at this video and see how you do:


What is interesting about this for me as a hypnotist is that I see
how when a person's mind is focused on something, it is what
can become their reality, whether it is for a moment (like during
a session) or many moments (like causing a change of behavior).

When the mind is directed, it can miss other things that somehow
don't seem to be as important. Ever wonder how you were
affected by something and can't figure out how it happened?
Odds are you weren't focused on that thing that your mind still
observed and processed without your awareness, while you were
focusing on something else.

Sometimes we're so cavalier in how we treat the workings of our
mind...it seems there is a lot we really don't know. I would
imagine it could be a good thing at times, not so good at others,
depending on the outcome of the resulting events.

It seems to give credence to the idea that we create our own
reality if what we're focused on is what we'll access information
about.

Makes me think there may be more times than we might like when
we may miss out on something while we are so focused on a
particular aspect of a situation. It seems that what we focus on
determines what is important, and it isn't always going to be what is.

Hmmmm.

Would love to know what you think.
What do you get from all of this?

Leading a Man to His Soul...

Funny how things coordinate sometimes.

Today I was talking with some people about
how I approach erotic hypnosis and after the
conversation I saw this quote for the first
time. I'd say the "highest calling" part aligns
with how I view my role with those who want
to be hypnotized by me. (For that matter, I'd
say it also extends to my "real" life attitude
and desire as well, and that "man" and "woman"
could just as easily be interpreted as mankind.)

"A woman's highest calling is to lead a man
to his soul; so as to unite with source, her
lowest calling is to seduce; separate man
from soul; and leave him aimlessly
wandering." - Cherokee Indian Tribe

I always want those who are affected by me
to be bettered by our association. I am not
interested in drones or clones. I am not
interested in tearing anyone down, humiliating
him, or hurting him.

Some will say those things serve a purpose.

Maybe in another's world.

Not in mine.

I want people to be the best that they can be,
and I believe everyone has something to be
in this life and has something to offer, and
I don't want to take that away from anyone,
or the world.

I like when people add to my life by being
who they are, and don't appreciate the
mentality that makes everyone the same.

The world needs people to be who they're
meant to be and not who I, or someone else,
think(s) they should be.

If you like the idea of that, let's talk :) and
see what you're made of...I bet it's something
pretty spectacular.

Bad Communication or Just Different?

People communicate differently. Sometimes people think they're
communicating, and those who are receiving the communications
won't understand, almost as if the two are speaking a different
language.

If you are an English speaker, you wouldn't say that someone who
spoke French was a bad communicator. What you might say is
that they are "bad" in communicating in English. You wouldn't
judge them because they couldn't speak English, especially if
you were in France, and you were in their world. Even if they
were in an English speaking part of the world, if they weren't a
native, and hadn't been living there for a long time, there is
still plenty of room for understanding, as they wouldn't be
practiced in the language.

(This metaphor has a few difficulties in that it is one of the many
hot buttons these days, and it would be easy to go off topic here.
So if it is OK with you, let's just use this example in its purest
form for the purposes of this discussion. We can always speak
about other parts of this conversation another day.)

So back to the topic...

People communicate differently. Both men AND women. To be
able to communicate effectively, one must realize that those
that he interacts with may not communicate the same way.
To have a successful communication interaction with another is
to be mindful of that fact and be responsible for the fact that
you may not be heard the way you wanted to be heard.

The problem is that because two English speakers THINK that
because they're speaking the same language, they think they're
communicating effectively, and at times there is little tolerance
for a lack of understanding. If the other person doesn't seem
to get it, it's the OTHER person who has the problem. The other
person doesn't get it because they're "male," "female," "young,"
"old," "ignorant," "stupid."

If you talk, you communicate. The thing is WHAT do you
communicate? What you communicate may not be what the
recipient hears and experiences. Often, though, there is an
inherent assumption that we all understand things the same
way, and it becomes too easy to find fault and assign blame
for perceived deficiencies.

Often because people don't realize this dynamic, they cope
by labeling, boxing in, pointing fingers, arguing. Odds are
whatever you're doing and thinking, the other person is, too.
So maybe you're both OK, and just not speaking the same
language.

The next time you get into a disagreement, consider it may
just be that the other person isn't hearing you the way you
want to be heard, or that you're hearing the other person
differently than s/he intended. It won't always be the case,
but it happens more than you might realize. You can't step
away from the weapon that is your mouth, but if you take a
moment, and take a breath, and consider these words, it
might just help.

Do you think I communicate well? You wouldn't have recognized
me about 10 years ago. So if you're frustrated, there may be
hope for you yet! LOL. Once someone grasps this idea, and
implements it, the difference it makes is immeasurable.

Effective communication is a learned skill, just like another
language, and maybe one day it can be one of the basics taught
in school along side reading, writing, and arithmetic.

John Lennon & Lady Gaga | Things aren't always what they seem | Video

Thanks to a controversy that includes Lady Gaga and a piano
once owned by John Lennon, I was led to this song and video.



I hadn't heard it in a long time. It is a beautiful and profound
song, and it is a wee bit ironic in my mind that there is a
controversy that some of this visionary's fans are creating
over something that seems inconsequential. I say "seems"
because everything is truly relative.

However, when you admire someone enough to "stand up"
to something you think doesn't honor the person, wouldn't
it seem to make sense that you'd honor his message? If his
fans honored his inclusive perspective, I am fairly certain
there'd be no room for a controversy like this.

Having said that...

Even though this may seem like a "little" thing to some, it
seems to be important for some reason. It would be easy
to disregard the brouhaha as something worth "fighting"
for/about when viewing the broad spectrum of world
events, happenings, and concerns.

The thing is, though, odds are these people are RE-acting,
and not to what they think they're reacting to. There is likely
some internal mechanism/trigger that they're responding to
that has nothing to do with Gaga, and it likely would be
worth finding out what it is.

At least then those people would be fighting for something
that truly matters - to them, instead of being distracted by
some outside stimulus. The only problem is, most don't
realize that the things we think upset us are often only
superficial representations of something deeper and much
more personal and, even if they did know, they may not
want to go there.

Your thoughts?

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The Shades Between the Absolutes

Often people will have an "all or nothing" attitude
about things. Either something is good, or it's not.
Either something is negative, or it's positive.
Something is black, or it's white.

I was writing to someone recently and I said,
"sometimes you can make your own reality in the
shades between the absolutes." It is another
way of saying that there might be pieces of things
that will work for you in the midst of something
as a whole that might not.

Since I recently brought up religion, I was thinking
about the Bible. So many associate it with religion,
and Christianity, and may be inclined to disregard it
for all sorts of reasons, including its association
with those who may appear fanatical.

I tend (as you may know if you know me) to look at
things from a perspective of what works, and what
is responsible to others I share this planet with.

In that vein, I thought I would share two things
in the Bible that stand out for me and support how I
look at things, and a little about why I highlight them.

Judge not, that ye be not judged (Matt 7:1)

I pick this one because I find judgment rampant in
society. There is always going to be someone that
will be in a different position than you. What
you think of them is likely to say more about you
than what it says about them. In addition, I think
this in some way calls attention to the fact that
what we do can be (and likely is) done to us. Just
because we stop, it doesn't mean others will.

However, the more who take this on, the more
compassion there will be in the world. I don't
know about you, but I certainly wouldn't object to
that, but we might have to find other things to
talk about. :)

He that is without sin among you, let him cast the
first stone at her. (John 8:7)

I find that behind closed doors most people will
have their "thing" that they're unwilling, or
afraid, to express to the world for fear of judgment.
How many conservative politicians have gotten caught
in situations that run against how they publicly
position themselves? They're not the only ones
who have desires that seem unacceptable enough to
lie about them on the surface.

I think what Jesus said makes a lot of sense. If
we were to realize that we are those we interact
with and judge, perhaps we'd stop "throwing stones."

There is much in the Bible that might be questionable,
and one might wonder what is "real" or "true," and
it would be easy to get caught up in a superficial
argument about what "is." Personally I'd be inclined
to find things we might agree upon, and go from there.

Interestingly, I am not sure everyone would agree
even with the two quotes that I have pulled out.
Some might find that they can, and will, believe that
how they look at things is somehow superior, and
their actions justifiable within those beliefs.

However in the
end how does that help?

Supposedly things only produce more of what they are.
If that is true, then one will never have peace from
violence. One will never have love come from hate.
The possibility for love and peace are always present,
however, isn't it interesting to consider that we
somehow think that the "positive" thing we want is
attainable through a "negative" mechanism that is
likely bring us more of its own kind, instead of the
"positive" desired result?

There is a conversation about war that is brewing
in my head...and I am tempted to flesh it out,
however, it is not really a topic for this post...
so perhaps it'll be for another day. Just know,
though, that I acknowledge that some might say that
war brings peace, and I am not so sure about that.
However that is a discussion for another time.

In the meanwhile, consider considering the things you
toss to the side in totality. You may be throwing
away a gem.

Have a great day!

Two Types of People

There are two types of people -
those who come into a room and
say, "Well, here I am!" and
those who come in and say,
"Ah, there you are."
- Frederick L. Collins

Just curious...which type do
you think I am?

Unsolicited Advice

I often do my best to be careful about what advice I offer,
especially if it is unwanted or unsolicited. I wish I could
say that I was perfect in this regard but, sadly, I am not.

However, there are times like today that are a reminder
to really do my best to be responsible to those I interact
with in that regard.

Someone I don't even know, and have never met, offered
me advice on how I approached something. It came
totally out of the blue, in the guise of being helpful,
"neutral," and non-judgmental.

He failed. Miserably. Of course, he thought so much of
what he had to say, I am sure he didn't see it that way.

I took what he said, and made it public as I figured others
might be of the same mind, and then I added that if
someone doesn't like something about me, there is no
need for him/her to tell me. I respect that there are
differences, and that any "help" offered, especially if it
is unsolicited, is more often about the person offering
it than the person it is intended for.

There are times like this that it is difficult to be different.
More and more the boxes and limiting perspectives that
people are stifled by, and try to use on me, are pissing
me off.

As you can read by other things I write, I try my best to
maintain balance and respect in my approach. But
sometimes it really does get to me.

Someone I know has occasionally used the term
"Cranky Goddess" for times like these. LOL.

Ok. Rant over.

Consistent & Unpredictable

I was having a conversation with someone who was
saying how he thought it was great that I could be
both consistent and unpredictable.

That is so me. People like to think they have me
figured out, and yet I do manage to surprise them.

I wonder sometimes if what they think they "know"
is rather me with a shade of bias from something
they may attribute to me by a label they perceive
me to wear: woman, hypnotist, sensual, brunette,
and so on...

The one thing I feel good about is my consistency,
and it's nice to know that others can experience
it, too.

I think the combination is one reason people find me
intriguing and mysterious, as well.

And that is even without a trance...LOL.

Hope you're having a great weekend!

Advice: On interacting with someone on the rebound

A guy asked for my advice recently. A girl that he is
interested in just recently broke up with her boyfriend
of two years, and said she isn't interested in dating
anyone. He asked me what he should do.

My first comment to him was a question:
What do you want?

He didn't know.

I explained to him that it had to start there. He then
said that he just wanted to "hang out" with her.

I said that if he just wanted to "hang out" then he could
potentially tell her, "I know you just broke up with
someone, and I think you're cool. I'd like to just hang
out with you, if that would be OK." If he really wanted
to be brave, he could add, "Make no mistake, I am
attracted to you, and I respect where you are right
now, and should you change your mind we can talk
about it."

I told him that if he said those words he'd have to mean
all of them, otherwise she might see through him, and
he might wind up frustrated or disappointed. I also told
him that If he said those words, and meant them, he'd
also be OK with whatever her response was, even if she
wasn't interested.

He asked what the difference between just hanging out
and dating was. I said there may be no difference, that
each person's idea may vary. However he needed to
be honest with himself if he felt they were one in the
same, as the knowledge that she said she isn't interested
in dating right now tells him that they're in different
places. That alone is an answer.

Someone who is just coming out of a relationship is
going to be reactive. Many times you'll hear people say
that rebound relationships don't work out. You also run
the risk that the person could get back with their previous
partner. I once tried to end a relationship twice, before it
finally ended on the third attempt.

The dance of relationships is never easy, and it is made
more complicated when people aren't honest with themselves,
and/or they come with expectations that may or may not be
met. Even in the healthiest and best of situations, there is
a tendency to have expectations and often the one who
has them can wind up disappointed.

Some would say to stay away from a situation like this.
However, it all depends on what you want, and how you
walk into it. The relationship that I tried to get out of three
times was one that going into it I had questions. However
I felt at the time that what I was about to do was something
I felt I needed to do. If I didn't, I'd always wonder, "what if..."
So I made myself a promise that no matter what happened,
I would be OK with it and, in the end, I was.

He could also walk into it clear that he is OK with "just
hanging out," and find that he develops feelings for her in
the process that aren't reciprocated. He needs to realize
that this is a possibility, and he needs to take responsibility
for his experience, and be OK with whatever outcome results,
even one that he doesn't want.

Problems come when people aren't clear. I wish I could say
clarity negates disappointment, but unfortunately, things
don't always work out the way we want them to. Each person
needs to decide for themselves what is an acceptable course of
action, and it needs to start with an honest assessment of oneself
and the situation.

The beauty of life is that you just never know what can happen,
and if you listen to what others tell you, you may miss out on
pain and disappointment, and you also may miss out on
something pretty special.

No one ever said life was easy, or would be without pain, and to
avoid the possibilities of those things is sometimes to avoid the
possibility of some of life's greatest pleasures.

In the end, the value of anything is the worth you assign to it.
There may be more value for you in avoiding the pain than there
is in the possible pleasure. I wish I knew THE answer to give this
guy, or anyone, but I don't have it. Only he knows what the best
thing to do for him is, and it starts with asking the right questions.

On Pornography | Video

I watched this video, and was curious to see what
was said. I thought it was very well presented,
balanced, and brought up many good points. It was
mostly addressing how women were being treated,
which I found interesting, as what she describes
as abuse affects men, as well.

In addition, she mentions that it is a form of
education for boys which makes sense, as they are
likely to be hypnotized into believing that what
they see is "right" or "good" or what is to be
expected in a relationship.

Porn is not representative of what a relationship
"should" be, however, I am not surprised that it
is becoming collapsed, and the idea of a "healthy"
form of intimacy is being replaced by something
that masquerades as intimate.

I would be curious about your thoughts.

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Playboy, Jesus and the Naked Women

Apparently Playboy in Portugal has gone too far.

The cover of a recent issue shows "Jesus" with
a naked, tattooed model. Inside the issue
apparently there are other models and pictures
as well.


It was supposed to somehow be a "tribute" to
a novel about the life of Jesus. I don't know
what the novel was, and I have no idea how the
idea was conceptualized, however, I find the
reaction intriguing.

Jesus supposedly loved everyone. He was also
a man. I don't know the Bible well enough to
know if there was ever talk about him having
sex (somehow doubt that there was), but does
that mean there wasn't any? and there are
stories about him and Mary. (If you find the
idea intriguing, there is a book called
I Remember Union that is a beautiful, well
written and poetic story. However, I warn you
that those who have the most strict of Christian
beliefs would likely be appalled by the story
and its message).

I also find the tattooed woman interesting,
because she has "marks." How many times are
those with "marks" outcast.

I realize I might be going to places that were
possibly unintended, or maybe deeper than most
would consider. However I am always trying to
look at things in various ways, and it can
sometimes create unique perspectives.

I have to wonder why religion and sexuality
often have to be split down the middle. If
one believes in a God, why wouldn't they
believe that S/He wanted his/her people to
enjoy one another? There is something very
beautiful in a mind/body/spirit connection,
and you can't have it without the body's
participation.

Of course, there will be explanations for why
this is, and if it empowers someone, I am all
for it. However not all things empower all
people, despite what other people may believe
or say to the contrary.

Some will tell you strawberries are good for
you, and that you should eat them regularly,
but anyone who is severely allergic to them
could eat one and be hurt or die. I realize
it isn't quite the same, but I do believe
the essence of it works for comparison.

We may all be human, but we all are individuals
trying to share an experience of life.
Experiences and results will vary, whether we
want them to, or not. The more we try to force
something, the more likely someone or a bunch of
someones is going to suffer.

A person should stand up for what he believes in.
At the same time, might the world be a better
place if the stand was more observational in
nature than judgmental? Others will always believe
differently than we do. I'd say how we interact
with those of differing beliefs is almost more
important than the belief itself.

What do you think?

Do you S.I.N.?

SIN: Self-Inflicted Nonsense

Just saw that, and had to share.

Hope you're having a great weekend.

One Step Closer - NYC and Baltimore...

Ok...so...it looks like I am likely to
be in the NYC and Baltimore areas the
first week of August. The plan at the
moment is 1-2 days in Baltimore.

There is still a chance I could be in the
Baltimore area longer, and will hopefully
have a better idea about that before the
weekend is out.

I need to start narrowing plans down and
committing to dates, so if you're interested
in a live session, you should let me know
your interest ASAP.

I have been brewing up some ideas, and I
am certain we will have a great time.

Remember, this is a rare opportunity, do
you really want to miss it? Interestingly
those who have expressed an interest will
have significant travel to meet me (so cool,
I must say!) and I am honored. :)

Let me know!