On Closure

One has to believe that on some
level we are always doing the
best that we can at any given
moment.

It is a good thing to know/believe
because so many kick themselves
when they believe that they are in
some way deficient.

This is not to say that we don't
always have opportunities to do
better, but just that we sometimes
need to be kinder to ourselves.

At the same time, though, it is
often a kindness that we give another
when we consider their needs. This
is not to override our own, however,
there are likely sometimes ways in
which there may be compromises made
that help another get what s/he needs.

All too often the way that some people
deal with things is not to deal with
them. Sometimes it would be hurtful
or painful to deal with them, however
many times the thought of pain is
more what is perceived to be the
possibility than what would likely be
the case.

So often things are not as bad as we
would make them out to be in our
fertile imaginings.

In addition, when we consider another,
we are allowing there to be communication,
that - left undone - leaves a hole for
both you and the other person.

Closure is just a way to end one chapter,
and begin another. Closure could also
be "THE END," but it need not be.

Closure is a way to acknowledge things,
and allow the parties involved to move
forward - together or apart - without
the past lingering or holding on and
potentially hindering the present.

The next time you consider not allowing
someone closure, consider you are not
doing yourself any favors, either.

There are all kinds of endings, and some
actually bring some beautiful new beginnings
that couldn't have happened without the
process of putting the past into perspective.

Sometimes people can get it on their own,
but it isn't the same as when it comes
from a mutual dynamic.

It's one of life's gifts to be able to
have closure in a mutually satisfying
way, but not often one that is accepted/
allowed, and most often the cause is
fear - F.alse E.vidence A.ppearing R.eal
(also F.orget E.verything A.nd R.un).

What may be holding you back may not even
be a "real."

As always, just my couple of cents, have
any you'd like to share?
 

Quote | On Love

"Love makes the wildest spirit tame,
and the tamest spirit wild."
- Alexis Delp

Interesting thought. One has to hope
that this is what is desired. If it
is, then it is a most fortunate and
beautiful thought.

Those who love us certainly have the
best possibility to influence us.

I hope you're having a great day!
 

"Coming Like a Woman"

Sometimes guys tell me they want to be
feminized because they want to "come
like a woman."

Perhaps there are those who will
encourage the "myth" that a guy needs
to feminized to feel that feeling.

The fact is, though, as a guy you
can feel some pretty amazing things
over and over and still be your
masculine self.

Curious?
I'd be happy to share that
experience with you over and over
and over and...
 

A Dose of Reality

I talk to many guys about many things,
including their interest in being with
other men. Before you leave this blog
entry thinking it may not be for you,
you should consider continuing to read.

I have written previously about HPV,
and I saw something recently that all
adults who are sexually active should
be aware of so I am sharing it in the
hope that it will be helpful info for
you or someone you know.

The following is from Cosmo (7/10)
"Many people think oral sex is safer
sex, and it's not. If your guy's bodily
fluids are infected with HIV or hepatitis
B, transmission can occur when his semen
is exchanged during oral sex. Bacterial
infections - like gonorrhea, chlamydia,
syphilis, and thrush (a yeast infection
in the throat) - can be contracted as
well. In some cases, herpes, genital
warts, scabies, and lice may be
transmitted via skin-to-skin contact.
HPV strains 6 and 11 can also be transmitted,
possibly causing a wart outbreak on the
tongue, gums, or throat."

Something to think about,
don't you think?
 

Ebbing

You may have noticed there are times
I write more than one entry in a day,
and other times when I go a few days
without saying anything.

I wonder if people make my absence
from here mean anything, given that
I am frequently posting.

I hope instead of making it mean
anything you consider just appreciating
what is here, and if you miss me...
pick up the phone! :)

I always love to hear from you, and
when my status says I am available
on NF, odds are good that I am.

I like being available to talk to you,
and I hope that you take advantage of
that fact when you can. :)

Have a great day!
 

Want to Feel Helpless?

I find many times that those who
are under a great deal of stress
want to feel helpless, and controlled
by another.

In and of itself, it wouldn't
necessarily be a "bad" thing, as
we as human beings seek balance.

The problem comes when one - in
search of balance - winds up in
a situation that is less than
desirable.

It is one thing to come to a choice
as a reaction to an event or
circumstance, and it is another
to come to it as a choice that is
an action that you choose on your
own, free from issues that may
drive you to escape.

If you are indulging in things as
a form of escape, you are likely
compounding your issues. There
was a person I once spoke with,
and during the course of our time
together it became painfully clear
that the hypnosis he had been
receiving had only masked his pain.

Some might believe that masking
pain is OK, but it often is less
than desirable, as masked pain
is still pain and it will express
itself in other ways if not
diffused and is only buried.

There is another person I know of
who was into submission and
humiliation in a big way, and he
had started to do therapy for
issues in his life that had nothing
to do with anything erotic or
hypnotic or submissive. It was
never a part of the conversation.

However, the more that he went to
sessions, the less inclined he
was to spend money and time on
being things he came to feel were
abusive. You could say those
things lost their charm.

Is this going to be the case at
all times with all people? I
would venture a guess that it
wouldn't be likely. However,
I would also venture a guess that
it is more than likely that a
person who has issues and deals
with them will interact with his
desires to be controlled and
submissive in a different and,
perhaps ironically, more powerful
way.

Dems my couple of cents. Want
to share yours?
 

On the Numbers... | About Me

I did say I was going to tell you
yesterday what the numbers in the
blog of a couple of days ago meant
to me, and I am a bit late.

Oops.

Got caught up with some "stuff."

I appreciated Isisfollower's additional
numbers, and thoughts, and still welcome
the thoughts of others as well.

These numbers come at a time when there
have been several people who have come
back to me after an absence. I have
learned that I can never count on
someone calling more than just the
call that is the current one.

I know people I speak with what to
feel like I am invested in our
conversation, and I certainly am.
Sometimes even more than I should be.

However, I have learned to keep myself
in a space in which I can totally and
completely appreciate what is without
becoming attached to all of the many
who call me.

If you think about it, it makes sense.
After all, if I got attached and
expected you'd be calling all the
time and you didn't, it would be a
disappointment for me.

This is not to say that when you are
silent I don't think about you, and
wonder how you are, and what is going
on in your life. Believe me when I
say if we've spoken a few times, I
more than likely DO remember you and
you WILL cross my mind at some time
or another.

It is in the nature of who I am to
care about those I speak with. I
may not always remember every detail,
but I remember more than some think
I would.

I feel as though the numbers mean
something and nothing all at the
same time. For some, the numbers
would mean that they're just one
of many, a paycheck for me. I'd
say that it's the numbers of people
who have allowed me into their mind
that has provided me opportunities
to become who I am and has provided
perspective that I can now bring
to my conversation and hypnosis
with each person I speak with.

I do what I do because I like to
do it. Sometimes I even LOVE what
I do. There are many variables
that go into what makes the
difference between love and like,
so please refrain from reading too
much into it.

I'd like to think the numbers
represent how much I do enjoy
what I do, as there are repeat
callers.

I'd also like to think the numbers
mean I am doing something right.
How could I have been doing this
for so long and with such consistency
if I wasn't giving a majority of
people what they're asking for.

In a world in which "fresh meat"
is a lure, I feel very fortunate
to have those who want to - and
do - come back. I feel very
fortunate that people recognize
that I recognize things about
them, their attitudes, and their
desires, and that I in some way
can give them what they need.

It also means to me that I get
to be myself - and it works! :P

I know many struggle with how to
be true to themselves, often feeling
that who they are is in some way
inferior, and when one steps into
who s/he is, it isn't always
comfortable, or easy. I know this
because I have been there.

It hasn't often been easy being me.
From Day One I have felt a need to
carve out my place in the erotic
hypnotic world - a place that
often hasn't aligned with the
"marketplace" or the "shoppers."

It has at times been frustrating
and maddening. However I knew
the only way it would work for me
is if I was as true to myself as
I could be. It turns out that
that is the only way it really
works out for anyone else, too.

Above all, the numbers mean to me
that there are many people to thank
for the way that I have been fortunate
enough to make a living the last
several years. It hasn't always
been easy, as I have never been
one to limit another's experience.
I would like to think that in the
end it all becomes what it needs
to be for the best of all who I
am touched by and those I get to
touch with my hypnotic words and
hypnotic fingers.

I am also extremely appreciative
of those who were with me at the
start. It was their willingness
to allow me to use them as "guinea
pigs" or "lab rats" that helped
me get my feet wet, and what has
now allowed you to swim in pleasure.
Amazingly enough, there are a few
of them that are still in touch.

If you're one of those people,
please know that you have a
special place in my mind and
heart.

And if you're not one of those
firsts, you still have a special
place (it's just a different one)
in my mind and heart.

Hard to do this for as long as I
have, and be untouched by those
who have called.

Those numbers may mean something,
but the real meaning comes from
the moments that we share,
something that is much more
difficult to measure and define
than a bunch of numbers.
 

Oh the irony...

In regard to the events of Tuscon, there
are many thoughts wandering through my
head. Two of them in particular I want
to share with you.

1. So many were upset with the map that
had been on Sarah's site, so upset in
fact that they took screen shots of it
and shared it with anyone who was paying
attention. How much do you want to bet
that even more people than ever saw that
map thanks to those who decided to show
everyone what they felt was inciting
violence.

2. People are saying that we need to
be more careful about what we say, and
yet there are those who are saying very
inflammatory and unkind things about
Sarah Palin. I know people are upset,
but aren't times like those the times
we might want to consider being more
careful about what we say? After all,
one never knows when something said
might incite or encourage another to
act in a potentially detrimental way.
If one says words matter, doesn't that
mean THEIR words, too?

Anyone beside me see any irony in these
two things?
 

30,000 8,000 1,000 7 | Do Numbers Talk?

30,000 The total number of rating points
on Niteflirt (Closing in on this figure.
As of this writing, I am at approx 29850).

8,000+ The number of calls taken as Isis.

1,000 Closing in on this number of blog
entries. This entry is #904.

7 The number of years I have been known
as Isis The Enchantress. Well, almost.
My anniversary is actually March 9th.

So, what do you think? Do these numbers
say anything to you?

I'll tell you what they say to me -
tomorrow. :)

PS Speaking of numbers, how cool is it
that today is 11111?
 

When are Words Not "Just Words"? | Thoughts on Tuscon Shooting

Truly, words really are "just" words.

However, when they're combined with
individual meaning and interpretation,
the words can become who we are and
what we do.

I know people who kid around about
things, thinking that what they're
saying is insignificant.

Maybe it is, and maybe it isn't.

I know it gets a little heavy for
some to consider that words can
become our reality and as a result
it can be mocked or ignored, or
any number of reactions that
suggest that there is no truth to
the idea.

Now let me ask you...does anyone
really KNOW with 100% certainty
that words (and let's throw
images in there, too) are unconnected
to the realities that we face?

I would say some would say yes to
that question...but I want proof.
How do you KNOW with ABSOLUTE
certainty?

The "fact" is that it would be very
difficult, if not impossible, to
prove that the two are isolated
from one another.

Going from that premise, it gives
me reason to question how we go
about things. If there is even
the slightest chance that what
we do and say and present to the
world can affect it, then might
it make sense for us to be more
careful about our contributions
to the world at large and the
individuals around us?

I bring this up as a result of
the sad events in Arizona yesterday.
There is speculation that an
image of Sarah Palin's contributed
to what happened. However, it has
yet to be stated as fact, even
though the conjecture is pretty
damning, whether it is "true,"
or not.

Whether or not it had anything to
do with the events, might we want
as a culture to consider that
imagery and rhetoric that has to do
with a gun might be inappropriate
for a world in which violence is an
undesirable outcome?
 

Want to Sit Next to Me? | Image

New Image likely to be enjoyed
by feet lovers the most. But
if you've ever wondered what it
would be like to sit next to
me on a plane, this image could
also be for you.

Image of me on a plane.
Long denim skirt,
nude stockings,
and
pink dangling sandal.

If you aren't a NF customer,
ask me for it directly.

Any questions?
Just ask.

800x968 | $3.50

Looking to Spice Things Up? | Tantric & Tasty | Video | Humor

Maybe this will inspire you, LOL.

Pornographic Weather Report? | Video

Here's another opportunity to determine
how "dirty" your mind is...


 

Who wants to...?

Who wants to do something nice
for me today?

I'm not feeling so great, and
am going to get some rest.

Who'd like to help me rest by
giving me a little gift?

I expect that good boys will
want to consider this opportunity.
;)

You can click below, or send an
Amazon Gift Card in any amount
you choose (see right column for
Amazon info).

Thanks for taking care of me today.
We all need some TLC from time to
time...don't you think?



Have a great day.
 

This is for Fun | Answers

Wondering if these were the words
you came up with in the previous
entry (if you haven't seen that
one yet, you should check it out
first before reading any further)






Answers:

1. FORK

2. PULSE

3. SIX

4. PANTS

5. BOOKS

6. RANDOM

So...tell me...how dirty
is YOUR mind, hmmmm?
 

This is for Fun

How fast can you guess these words?

1. F_ _K

2. PU_S_

3. S_X

4. P_N_S

5. BOO_S

6. _ _NDOM

Wondering what words you came up with,
and how it compares with "mine."

Answers tomorrow. :)
 

Hypnotic Stupors & Hangovers

I had a friend who had never had liquor
before,and her first drink was a mixed
drink. Since it was her first drink,
the liquor was a minimal amount of the
total beverage.

She was drinking it, but wasn't feeling
the effects of the alcohol, so she
decided to add more to the drink.
Still not feeling it a few sips later,
she added more, and did it a few times
more, each time with less and less
orange juice diluting her drink.

You might guess what happened.

She woke up the next morning with a
pretty bad hangover.

I was reminded of this story today
because I brought it up as a metaphor
of what can happen with hypnosis.

Some people think that the recordings
and sessions are not affecting them,
and they keeping adding to the mix,
thinking that what they're doing will
help them feel the effects of
hypnosis.

But instead of it being a subtle and
slow effect, it becomes one that seems
to come from no where and can be quite
overwhelming.

For some, it can be a dream come true.

However...

If you are one of those types that
think that you aren't to be affected,
you may listen to some things that
aren't the type of things you would
ultimately like to have an effect
on you. And when it hits suddenly
you might be so "drunk," you won't
even know what's going on and some
hypnotic stupors and hangovers are
no fun, at all.

As always, play (& stay) safe.
 

Do You Have a Sustainable Relationship?

Complementing my last blog entry,
the New York Times had an article
recently about what a study says is
the style of a successful -
sustainable - "modern" relationship.

You might find it of interest.

It also references a very short
and to the point quiz that you
can take regarding what your
relationship provides you and
rates it on their meter in
regard to your self expansion
within the relationship (which
is how they rate how sustainable
a relationship is).

As with anything, you could take
what is said with a grain of sand.
However, if it resonates for you,
it might be something to consider
going forward.

Thank you to IsisFollower for
bringing it to my (and now your)
attention.

Have a great night.
 

Relationships That Bring Out the Best

I've often said that I think that
the best relationships for me are
the ones where I have interests,
he has interests, and we have
interests that overlap.

I think that there is much to be
said for what someone can bring
to my life, and bring to me as a
person. I have often found the
best of me as well as parts of me
that have been hidden or unexpressed
when I am in a relationship that
allows me to be me.

In exchange, I can only hope that
someone who is intimate with me
finds similar things for himself/
about himself.

It makes sense to me that someone
who challenges us can also help
us grow. That word, "challenge"
though isn't one that I mean in
a confrontative way. I mean it
more as in challenging one to
think, to question, to inspire,
to be inspired, to grow.

And while I am thinking about it,
I suspect that this is who I am
with anyone that I am in contact
with. I find that I often encourage
the best of a person, sometimes
in spite of themselves! (And,
FYI, the best never means their
"perfect" self.)

Personally I think life would
be boring if things never changed
or grew. I decorated my home the
way I always thought I would like
it to be, and now it is in the
process of becoming something
else - just like me...
ever growing,
ever changing,
ever curious.

Welcome to my rabbit hole.
Going down? :)
 

I Love this! | Quote

"Stewing is worse
than doing."
- Ellen Kreidman

Love what she said,
how true it often is!
 

Who's in Control?

I just heard something to the effect
that if we don't take responsibility
for our life, someone else will take
control of our life.

So...

I ask you,
Who's in control?
 

On Generic Recordings & Self Hypnosis

I am listening to what someone is calling a
"Self Hypnosis" recording.

It is a very generic recording that talks
about taking action over and over and over,
and about changing one's thoughts in regard
to their financial situation.

The one thing that I can say about it that
might be helpful is that in speaking of
finances the hypnotist ties being
calm to feelings about money.

However, I personally feel that one is
misled in how the session is framed,
as the author of the recording is guiding
the session which makes it something other
than "self" hypnosis. It can't be "self"
hypnosis if someone else is guiding you.

I am not sure why this person thinks otherwise.
I suppose this might be one of those things
where there is some disagreement in how
something is looked at within the profession.

The recording is mostly the type of things
you might be told when you are awake and
alert, however, if you were to be in a
hypnotic state, the hypnotist would be
talking to your unconscious.

Telling your unconscious to change your
thinking and what to focus on is helpful
to some degree, as it will potentially get
you to pay attention to things that you
might not otherwise pay attention to.

However, while he is addressing the "things"
around one's financial situation, he isn't
necessarily addressing the "cause" of any
unconscious blocks or concerns.

Since this is a generic recording for the
"masses," one would have to create broad
brushstrokes and "hope" to touch on what
is affecting those who listen.

Because people vary in their suggestibility
and how they are hypnotized, there are
likely to be people who will listen to
the recording and feel like there is no
hypnosis involved, and that it is just a
soothing voice saying things that should
already be evident.

If it was that "easy" to change one's mind,
we'd all have a different one when it comes
to the things that don't seem to work for us.

While a recording like this might help to
some degree, any effect might not be very
long lasting since the cause of any issue(s)
may be lingering in the background.

This is not to say that one shouldn't
consider recordings like this, but rather
to make note of your experience. Couple
it with what you know of what is possible,
it will likely help guide what you do
next. For some it would be way to easy
to say "hypnosis doesn't work" or "hypnosis
is a sham" or any other number of negative
things that would be counterproductive for
you to actually enjoy and benefit from
hypnosis.

Most people can be hypnotized. The
experience of an individual will vary,
based on a number of factors, including
the ability of the hypnotist to induce
trance and to offer helpful perspective
and suggestion while the person is under.

As with any profession, those who practice
it will vary in their style, their approach,
and in their ability to effect the outcome
of the person on the receiving end of their
work.

It'd be nice if it was simple.
But what fun is that? :P

As always, if you have any questions,
please feel free to ask privately or
via the comment section below.
 

Never let someone stop you (including YOU)

You may wonder if you should do
something. You may wonder if
it is worth doing. You may
wonder if you'll be let down
by doing it. You may wonder
about something, but you'll
never know about something
until you actually INTERACT
with it.

For many the pain of not
knowing is worse than the
pain of knowing something
that one does not want to
know.

As you go forward in this
brand spanking New Year,
consider taking the actions
that correlate with your
desires.

You'll never know what can
happen until whatever is
going to happen does.

Up until then it's all
speculation.

Seriously...there is no time
like the present to give
yourself this present.

Will you always get what
you want? Odds are the
answer is no, but you will
likely have a greater success
rate than you might think.

At the very least you will
always be able to say you went
after it, and that is much
easier to live with than regret.

Once again, Happy New Year,
and all the BEST to you
in 2011 and ALWAYS.
 

Happy New Year!