In the midst of what is going on with
my friend's dad, this poem was shared.
Apparently the author is the prolific
Anon Y. Mous
The Time is Now
If you are ever going to love me,
Love me now, while I can know
The sweet and tender feelings
Which from true affection flow,
Love me now while I am living,
Do not wait until I'm gone
And then have it chiseled in marble,
Sweet words on ice-cold stone.
If you have tender thoughts of me,
Please tell me now.
If you wait until I'm sleeping,
Never to awaken,
There will be death between us,
and I won't hear you then.
So, if you love me, even a little bit,
Let me know it while I am living
So I can treasure it.
Perhaps this will inspire you to
tell someone how you feel about
them...if they're anything like
me, it may be something that is
already known, but in the words
come the "real" meat.
And, sadly, sometimes while one
may think it is "known," people
don't realize what they mean to
others, and the words can make
all the difference (think: It's
A Wonderful Life).
Every day can be a special day
of Love and Appreciation, not
just holidays on the calendar.
Have a great day!
Sunday, October 31, 2010
Jon Stewart: A Beacon of Sanity? | Video
Ask Men says that Jon Stewart is
the Most Influential Man of 2010.
I'd like to say (as odd as that
may seem to some) that is good
news, given what is being
expressed by him.
He has some very wise words that
I think have a balanced, sane
sound to them. It is a message
that I can only hope that people
can hear.
Today he had a rally in DC, and
I thought some of what he had to
say quite profound. The video
below has his closing words.
Two quotes of particular note
for me were:
"If we amplify everything,
we hear nothing."
"The inability to distinguish
terrorists from Muslims makes
us less safe, not more."
I like how he breaks things apart
that have been unhelpfully
collapsed together.
If you haven't seen it, consider
taking the time and watching/
listening and see what you
might get from it, and share
with others.
He mentions nothing of hypnosis,
and yet what he describes is
hypnosis in action. When we
are hypnotized, we are paying
attention to what the hypnotist
wants us to see and experience.
As a result, our experience
becomes limited by the hypnotist's
focus, awareness, and direction.
(Interesting to note that the
first letter of each one of those
words creates the word FAD: defined
by Wikipedia "as any form of
behavior that develops...and is
collectively followed with
enthusiasm for some period..."
It's generally considered fleeting,
and is considered an alternative to
a trend which is more enduring.)
And it would seem these days that
we as a culture are quite
mesmerized, and not necessarily
by the things that do us good.
I am glad to see someone who is
doing and saying things that can
empower and engage doing his
best to awaken those in trance.
Things that happen in trance can
become real life realities if
reinforced over time. Good
hypnosis becomes who you are,
and is no longer what you do.
It might be good if all of the
"insanity" that Jon believes has
been present is more of a fad
than a trend. But only time
will tell. I know I am voting
for a fad.
What about you?
What do you think?
the Most Influential Man of 2010.
I'd like to say (as odd as that
may seem to some) that is good
news, given what is being
expressed by him.
He has some very wise words that
I think have a balanced, sane
sound to them. It is a message
that I can only hope that people
can hear.
Today he had a rally in DC, and
I thought some of what he had to
say quite profound. The video
below has his closing words.
Two quotes of particular note
for me were:
"If we amplify everything,
we hear nothing."
"The inability to distinguish
terrorists from Muslims makes
us less safe, not more."
I like how he breaks things apart
that have been unhelpfully
collapsed together.
If you haven't seen it, consider
taking the time and watching/
listening and see what you
might get from it, and share
with others.
He mentions nothing of hypnosis,
and yet what he describes is
hypnosis in action. When we
are hypnotized, we are paying
attention to what the hypnotist
wants us to see and experience.
As a result, our experience
becomes limited by the hypnotist's
focus, awareness, and direction.
(Interesting to note that the
first letter of each one of those
words creates the word FAD: defined
by Wikipedia "as any form of
behavior that develops...and is
collectively followed with
enthusiasm for some period..."
It's generally considered fleeting,
and is considered an alternative to
a trend which is more enduring.)
And it would seem these days that
we as a culture are quite
mesmerized, and not necessarily
by the things that do us good.
I am glad to see someone who is
doing and saying things that can
empower and engage doing his
best to awaken those in trance.
Things that happen in trance can
become real life realities if
reinforced over time. Good
hypnosis becomes who you are,
and is no longer what you do.
It might be good if all of the
"insanity" that Jon believes has
been present is more of a fad
than a trend. But only time
will tell. I know I am voting
for a fad.
What about you?
What do you think?
Saturday, October 30, 2010
I suppose this is supposed to be a good thing...
I went to Subway today for the first time in
a very long time.
I don't know if all Subways are doing what
this one is, but I don't find it appealing
in any shape, way, or form.
I can venture a guess as to why some may
say what they're doing is a good thing, but
there is not one reason that I can think of
out of those possibilities that out weighs
(in my mind) what they are in some ways a
substitution for.
What is this "thing?"
It is a touch screen machine that takes
your order. You tell the machine what you
want, and then you go pay someone at the
register for your order.
I won't be surprised if one day we walk
into a place and never have to interact
with another human being to do what we
need to do.
That will be a very sad day.
Some might say it is good in the guise
of efficiency, or in some way more
accurate (more like if there is a problem,
the person doing the transaction is to
blame, as they're the only one around).
For a long time now phone systems have
become like that. It is difficult to
get a human being to transact with.
I am under the impression that people may
have liked it at first, but I don't know
too many at the moment who do.
Like many things, our appreciation is
greater when the thing appreciated is lost.
I would rather not appreciate the value of
human interaction only after is has gone
the way of the dinosaur.
Yes. That may be a bit dramatic, but
sometimes the reality might be a lot closer
to the drama than we realize. Whether we
want to admit it, or not, our ability to
relate and interact in person is slipping.
Is it something we can afford to lose?
a very long time.
I don't know if all Subways are doing what
this one is, but I don't find it appealing
in any shape, way, or form.
I can venture a guess as to why some may
say what they're doing is a good thing, but
there is not one reason that I can think of
out of those possibilities that out weighs
(in my mind) what they are in some ways a
substitution for.
What is this "thing?"
It is a touch screen machine that takes
your order. You tell the machine what you
want, and then you go pay someone at the
register for your order.
I won't be surprised if one day we walk
into a place and never have to interact
with another human being to do what we
need to do.
That will be a very sad day.
Some might say it is good in the guise
of efficiency, or in some way more
accurate (more like if there is a problem,
the person doing the transaction is to
blame, as they're the only one around).
For a long time now phone systems have
become like that. It is difficult to
get a human being to transact with.
I am under the impression that people may
have liked it at first, but I don't know
too many at the moment who do.
Like many things, our appreciation is
greater when the thing appreciated is lost.
I would rather not appreciate the value of
human interaction only after is has gone
the way of the dinosaur.
Yes. That may be a bit dramatic, but
sometimes the reality might be a lot closer
to the drama than we realize. Whether we
want to admit it, or not, our ability to
relate and interact in person is slipping.
Is it something we can afford to lose?
Life, Death & Regret
The health of the father of someone I know
is failing, potentially fast. He has been
on a roller coaster ride (both my friend
and his father) the last year and a half.
It has been difficult to watch what is
happening as a friend, and at a respectful
and yet hopefully supportive distance.
The issues of life and death are
difficult to address on so many levels,
and yet it is one that we all must face
in one way or another at one time
or another.
I don't know about you, but things like
this make me take a step back and look at
life. His father apparently feels much
regret for things not done, and what he
perceives to be his inadequacies.
I am sure it is easy to look back on
things and think "if only I..."
I can only imagine that things to get in
times like this include becoming more
aware of NOW of this moment, of making
choices suited to who and what we are
and who and what we want to be.
Being resigned and giving into what
might appear to be the futility of a
circumstance certainly doesn't seem
to give anyone anything but potential
fodder for future regret.
Taking responsibility for this moment
it would seem is one of the most
valuable things we can do for ourselves.
It allows us to see choices even when
it would seem none exist. At the very
least, we have the choice as to how we
handle a situation.
When we live life like there is always
another tomorrow, it can be painful to
realize that at some point tomorrows
run out.
I know someone who believes that not a
single moment of life is promised us,
and that having an appreciation of our
mortality, we will be able to more
fully embrace what we do right now.
I promised myself on the precipice of
a major decision that I would be
without regret - no matter what
happened. I wasn't happy with the
results, but the beauty of my promise
was that I fully embraced the moment -
warts and all, and can look back without
any regret about what I chose to do.
Had I decided not to take the action,
I suppose I could have made the same
promise, but I would have likely have
wondered, "What if...?"
I knew I didn't want to look back and
wonder "what if," and my promise kept
me from any potential regret from what
I chose to do.
It was one of the most powerful times
of my life, and a lesson that I have
never forgotten.
I do things sometimes that people
(myself sometimes included) don't
understand, but I am doing what I
feel in my heart I must do. I can
only hope when my departure time
comes it comes with me knowing that
I have done all that I could with
what I had.
It's hard to know what the best
and right thing is to do, but
when we listen to our heart, we
can find our own best direction.
I would suspect regret often is
a function of not listening to
that inner guidance, that nudging.
I would suspect our mind tries to
steer us to be logical in the face
of what might seem to make no sense,
only to later have to face - with
regret - the memory of an opportunity
lost.
We only get to be here together for
a relatively short time in the grand
scheme of things, so (while this may
sound like a greeting card) my wish
for you is a life filled with love
and purpose and devoid of regret.
is failing, potentially fast. He has been
on a roller coaster ride (both my friend
and his father) the last year and a half.
It has been difficult to watch what is
happening as a friend, and at a respectful
and yet hopefully supportive distance.
The issues of life and death are
difficult to address on so many levels,
and yet it is one that we all must face
in one way or another at one time
or another.
I don't know about you, but things like
this make me take a step back and look at
life. His father apparently feels much
regret for things not done, and what he
perceives to be his inadequacies.
I am sure it is easy to look back on
things and think "if only I..."
I can only imagine that things to get in
times like this include becoming more
aware of NOW of this moment, of making
choices suited to who and what we are
and who and what we want to be.
Being resigned and giving into what
might appear to be the futility of a
circumstance certainly doesn't seem
to give anyone anything but potential
fodder for future regret.
Taking responsibility for this moment
it would seem is one of the most
valuable things we can do for ourselves.
It allows us to see choices even when
it would seem none exist. At the very
least, we have the choice as to how we
handle a situation.
When we live life like there is always
another tomorrow, it can be painful to
realize that at some point tomorrows
run out.
I know someone who believes that not a
single moment of life is promised us,
and that having an appreciation of our
mortality, we will be able to more
fully embrace what we do right now.
I promised myself on the precipice of
a major decision that I would be
without regret - no matter what
happened. I wasn't happy with the
results, but the beauty of my promise
was that I fully embraced the moment -
warts and all, and can look back without
any regret about what I chose to do.
Had I decided not to take the action,
I suppose I could have made the same
promise, but I would have likely have
wondered, "What if...?"
I knew I didn't want to look back and
wonder "what if," and my promise kept
me from any potential regret from what
I chose to do.
It was one of the most powerful times
of my life, and a lesson that I have
never forgotten.
I do things sometimes that people
(myself sometimes included) don't
understand, but I am doing what I
feel in my heart I must do. I can
only hope when my departure time
comes it comes with me knowing that
I have done all that I could with
what I had.
It's hard to know what the best
and right thing is to do, but
when we listen to our heart, we
can find our own best direction.
I would suspect regret often is
a function of not listening to
that inner guidance, that nudging.
I would suspect our mind tries to
steer us to be logical in the face
of what might seem to make no sense,
only to later have to face - with
regret - the memory of an opportunity
lost.
We only get to be here together for
a relatively short time in the grand
scheme of things, so (while this may
sound like a greeting card) my wish
for you is a life filled with love
and purpose and devoid of regret.
Friday, October 29, 2010
Yuck, Yuck, Yuck!!! | Manipulation
Ever since I have been learning more about
language in my role as a hypnotist, I have
found myself much more aware of when people
are talking to me in a manipulative way.
Just now I got a call wanting to pitch me
a vacation. I immediately said I wasn't
interested. But then, the person wanted
to at least tell me what I was saying no
to. She offered me a short version.
Since I knew she had a job to do, I thought
I would at least humor her. The way that
the offer was worded was so manipulative,
and didn't even sound like an offer. The
way it was worded there were certain inherent
assumptions.
I laughed.
She asked what was so funny (I could tell
from her tone she didn't get the "humor").
I told her that I was a hypnotist and was
aware of NLP and how a lot of what she was
saying was assumptive. She seemed to have
no idea what I was saying.
I bet she was just reading a script, and
had no idea that she was reading was
manipulative in nature (at least I'll give
her the benefit of the doubt, as many
wouldn't recognize it, either).
At that point there was no point in continuing,
so I politely extracted myself, wished her a
great day, and hung up the phone.
I know there was a time I wasn't aware like I
am now, and was drawn in by how these people
speak. Many times I wasn't happy with my
decision because it wasn't what I really
wanted. I was just manipulated into it.
You can often tell when you are manipulated
into something when you are one, not happy
with your decision and/or two, find yourself
justifying your choice(s).
So the next time you are feeling uncomfortable
with a conversation, take a step back and
consider what is happening. While there could
be many reasons for how you feel, one of them
could be that the person is consciously (or
unconsciously) trying to manipulate you. If
you do that, you may be less likely to react
what is happening or being said.
It is one thing to ask to be manipulated
(such as in the erotic hypnotic world). It
is a totally different other thing when
someone comes along and does it for their
own benefit, and your potential detriment.
Of course, they'll never say it that way,
and of course it's always a good thing for
you...and that is just part of the potential
manipulative ploy that is being played.
Not all things are manipulation, but being
aware and conscious are two things that can
help prevent regret by declining actions
that may not be the right ones for us, in
the face of someone nudging us in a direction
we may not want to go.
At least erotic manipulation can be
wonderfully pleasant with the right
person (Isis). :D
(Can I just say one more time - YUCK!!!)
language in my role as a hypnotist, I have
found myself much more aware of when people
are talking to me in a manipulative way.
Just now I got a call wanting to pitch me
a vacation. I immediately said I wasn't
interested. But then, the person wanted
to at least tell me what I was saying no
to. She offered me a short version.
Since I knew she had a job to do, I thought
I would at least humor her. The way that
the offer was worded was so manipulative,
and didn't even sound like an offer. The
way it was worded there were certain inherent
assumptions.
I laughed.
She asked what was so funny (I could tell
from her tone she didn't get the "humor").
I told her that I was a hypnotist and was
aware of NLP and how a lot of what she was
saying was assumptive. She seemed to have
no idea what I was saying.
I bet she was just reading a script, and
had no idea that she was reading was
manipulative in nature (at least I'll give
her the benefit of the doubt, as many
wouldn't recognize it, either).
At that point there was no point in continuing,
so I politely extracted myself, wished her a
great day, and hung up the phone.
I know there was a time I wasn't aware like I
am now, and was drawn in by how these people
speak. Many times I wasn't happy with my
decision because it wasn't what I really
wanted. I was just manipulated into it.
You can often tell when you are manipulated
into something when you are one, not happy
with your decision and/or two, find yourself
justifying your choice(s).
So the next time you are feeling uncomfortable
with a conversation, take a step back and
consider what is happening. While there could
be many reasons for how you feel, one of them
could be that the person is consciously (or
unconsciously) trying to manipulate you. If
you do that, you may be less likely to react
what is happening or being said.
It is one thing to ask to be manipulated
(such as in the erotic hypnotic world). It
is a totally different other thing when
someone comes along and does it for their
own benefit, and your potential detriment.
Of course, they'll never say it that way,
and of course it's always a good thing for
you...and that is just part of the potential
manipulative ploy that is being played.
Not all things are manipulation, but being
aware and conscious are two things that can
help prevent regret by declining actions
that may not be the right ones for us, in
the face of someone nudging us in a direction
we may not want to go.
At least erotic manipulation can be
wonderfully pleasant with the right
person (Isis). :D
(Can I just say one more time - YUCK!!!)
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Raindrops keep falling on my head... | Video
I was out and about earlier, and it was
raining pretty hard...and I was LOVING it!
Someone at the bank said how she didn't
like the rain. I told her how living in
southern California I rarely ever saw rain,
and how I missed it.
I wonder if others are like me in that the
things I took for granted on the east coast
(like rain, and gorgeous fall leaves, and
snow) are things that would be missed if
the person changed the environment in which
one lived.
I know that those things can be a nuisance
when they seem to get in the way of other
things, but they can also be amazing, too,
if people can take a moment and sit back
and enjoy.
I thought this video apropos to this entry
for a couple of reasons: the rain, and the
perspective.
Enjoy some sweet innocence and
a bit of silliness.
raining pretty hard...and I was LOVING it!
Someone at the bank said how she didn't
like the rain. I told her how living in
southern California I rarely ever saw rain,
and how I missed it.
I wonder if others are like me in that the
things I took for granted on the east coast
(like rain, and gorgeous fall leaves, and
snow) are things that would be missed if
the person changed the environment in which
one lived.
I know that those things can be a nuisance
when they seem to get in the way of other
things, but they can also be amazing, too,
if people can take a moment and sit back
and enjoy.
I thought this video apropos to this entry
for a couple of reasons: the rain, and the
perspective.
Enjoy some sweet innocence and
a bit of silliness.
the patter of rain...
never sounded so delightful
as it does right now.
what wonderful sounds to
drift off to sleep by.
sweet dreams.
as it does right now.
what wonderful sounds to
drift off to sleep by.
sweet dreams.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Questions Answered Here. Even the Silly Ones.
A sign I saw:
"Questions answered here.
Even the silly ones."
I love that!
So many times what someone
may consider silly question
isn't really silly at all.
It is actually a valid and
good question to ask.
I love when people ask me
questions about hypnosis.
I never get tired of talking
about it, and I never get
tired of repeating myself.
You might be surprised to
know that your question is
likely not as unique as
you'd think.
If you have any questions
about hypnosis, please feel
free to ask me. Odds are
good that I will answer it
publicly, as it will help
others, too.
(If there is some aspect
that needs to remain private,
just let me know.)
Earlier today I saw a video
of a young teen asking for
things to do on YouTube, and
one of the things was for her
to watch a hypnotic video.
I don't know what the video
was, but in the middle of it
she was saying "Obey."
We need to learn to be more
inquisitive and ask more
questions instead of just
plowing through things or
ignorantly walking into them.
It might just help some people
(like yourself) stay out
of trouble.
If you have a valid question
that you truly want an answer
for, it is not a silly question...
and you should find an appropriate
person to ask.
I've heard it said "Information
is power," which means that a
lack of information can equate
to a lack of power.
If I can help you power up in
relation to your hypnosis experience
or in any other way that I might
seem helpful or knowledgeable,
just let me know!
"Questions answered here.
Even the silly ones."
I love that!
So many times what someone
may consider silly question
isn't really silly at all.
It is actually a valid and
good question to ask.
I love when people ask me
questions about hypnosis.
I never get tired of talking
about it, and I never get
tired of repeating myself.
You might be surprised to
know that your question is
likely not as unique as
you'd think.
If you have any questions
about hypnosis, please feel
free to ask me. Odds are
good that I will answer it
publicly, as it will help
others, too.
(If there is some aspect
that needs to remain private,
just let me know.)
Earlier today I saw a video
of a young teen asking for
things to do on YouTube, and
one of the things was for her
to watch a hypnotic video.
I don't know what the video
was, but in the middle of it
she was saying "Obey."
We need to learn to be more
inquisitive and ask more
questions instead of just
plowing through things or
ignorantly walking into them.
It might just help some people
(like yourself) stay out
of trouble.
If you have a valid question
that you truly want an answer
for, it is not a silly question...
and you should find an appropriate
person to ask.
I've heard it said "Information
is power," which means that a
lack of information can equate
to a lack of power.
If I can help you power up in
relation to your hypnosis experience
or in any other way that I might
seem helpful or knowledgeable,
just let me know!
Have you discovered "True Blue" yet? | Video
10:48 Length | $25
(click image to buy)
Here is a review of True Blue by me-chan:
Under Isis' influence, blue feels more awesome than ever.
This video is similar to Luscious Lacy Legs also released by Isis in that the only audio is in the fitting background music. The absence of her voice doesn't make it lacking at all; the music is soothing enough to let the sight of Isis work its magic on a viewer's eyes, and anyone who's listened to her voice before can imagine her words working pleasurable feelings through you as you watch.
Visually, True Blue is simply engaging and powerful. The colorful, foggy blue, the well-used video effect that turns a peek into a full view, the pretty pendulum, and Isis' cleavage in the wonderful red corset all combine to make your eyes grow accustomed to intense focus and staring. It feels like watching poetry artistically unfold; becoming mesmerized by this video was much quicker than I expected the first time watching. This is definitely the kind of video that if short enough would've been set on repeat. Fortunately though it did have length to it, and woke me up after what felt like hours of gazing.
Isis' videos are definitely some of the best out there in my opinion, and True Blue is one of the best yet. Isis' fans or not, this is something you'll love to watch a great deal. Thank You Isis.
Should I be who you want me to be? | Video
I suspect in regard to this video,
and the actions Lebron has taken,
there would be many who would say
"Yes" without blinking. But, put
them in a similar position and
odds are good they wouldn't want
someone telling them who to be
or what to do.
and the actions Lebron has taken,
there would be many who would say
"Yes" without blinking. But, put
them in a similar position and
odds are good they wouldn't want
someone telling them who to be
or what to do.
Friends that Disagree
A friend recently told me about a time
in college when a long time friend told
him he was going to get married, and
that he wanted my friend to be his Best
Man.
My friend always knew that is what his
friend wanted and intended when the time
came but, in this particular case, he
felt the choice wasn't one that he could
support, and told his friend that if he
married her, he could not be his Best Man.
His friend was pissed. His friend also
is now happily married to someone else,
and has a couple of kids. He chose not
to marry the other woman.
Did my friend have anything to do with
his choice? Who knows what happened
exactly? However, when the conversation
was had my friend pointed to some very
serious issues and considerations and
took a stand for the sake of his friend.
I was watching an interview with Lisa
Marie (Presley) recently in which she
said she was upset with how those in
her dad's life didn't help him until
she realized that he had (in essence)
an "agree with me" or "get away"
attitude. She also noted that Michael
Jackson had a similar situation as well,
surrounding himself apparently with
"yes" men.
While it is important for us to be true
to ourselves, it is also important that
we have friends who will stand up for
us in spite of what the consequences
might be. Someone might stand up and
be wrong in regard to what is indeed
right for us, but that friend might also
be a saving grace in some circumstances.
Who knows what the right balance is, as
it will vary from person to person and
situation to situation, so knowing what
the "right" thing to do falls again on
being connected with oneself and respectful
of another and his/her choices.
We can be at odds and be combative, or we
can be at odds and be respectful. There
is a big difference between the two, and
the difference can make or break a
relationship between people, organizations,
countries.
A challenge to what we believe and what we
want can really suck, but it can also be
the very thing that gets us where we need
to be.
Silencing those who look at things differently
than we do can be one of the greatest things
we can do to cause ourself harm, and so is
being swayed too easily by another's idea of
what is right for us.
Who ever said being human made sense, or
was easy? LOL. But the "funny" thing is
that it is easier than we think it is. It
just so happens that being human often
includes making things complicated.
But...odds are this would never apply
to YOU now, would it? :P
in college when a long time friend told
him he was going to get married, and
that he wanted my friend to be his Best
Man.
My friend always knew that is what his
friend wanted and intended when the time
came but, in this particular case, he
felt the choice wasn't one that he could
support, and told his friend that if he
married her, he could not be his Best Man.
His friend was pissed. His friend also
is now happily married to someone else,
and has a couple of kids. He chose not
to marry the other woman.
Did my friend have anything to do with
his choice? Who knows what happened
exactly? However, when the conversation
was had my friend pointed to some very
serious issues and considerations and
took a stand for the sake of his friend.
I was watching an interview with Lisa
Marie (Presley) recently in which she
said she was upset with how those in
her dad's life didn't help him until
she realized that he had (in essence)
an "agree with me" or "get away"
attitude. She also noted that Michael
Jackson had a similar situation as well,
surrounding himself apparently with
"yes" men.
While it is important for us to be true
to ourselves, it is also important that
we have friends who will stand up for
us in spite of what the consequences
might be. Someone might stand up and
be wrong in regard to what is indeed
right for us, but that friend might also
be a saving grace in some circumstances.
Who knows what the right balance is, as
it will vary from person to person and
situation to situation, so knowing what
the "right" thing to do falls again on
being connected with oneself and respectful
of another and his/her choices.
We can be at odds and be combative, or we
can be at odds and be respectful. There
is a big difference between the two, and
the difference can make or break a
relationship between people, organizations,
countries.
A challenge to what we believe and what we
want can really suck, but it can also be
the very thing that gets us where we need
to be.
Silencing those who look at things differently
than we do can be one of the greatest things
we can do to cause ourself harm, and so is
being swayed too easily by another's idea of
what is right for us.
Who ever said being human made sense, or
was easy? LOL. But the "funny" thing is
that it is easier than we think it is. It
just so happens that being human often
includes making things complicated.
But...odds are this would never apply
to YOU now, would it? :P
At Odds with Faith
Today I was reading an article about the Mormon
Church in relation to the LGBT community,
and it made me think about some of the
people and experiences I have had in regard
to those of varying faiths interacting with
ideas at odds with their religion.
There was a time that I was calling a dating
line that was more of a phone sex type of line
for many. One of the people I met there was
an Orthodox Jew. A married one. With kids.
It was interesting speaking with him. He told
me how things were in relation to relationships
and his religion, and they were very strict.
It made it impossible for him to have the kind
of dynamic with his wife that would resemble
anything he might flirt with on a line like
the one we met on...and not that he would
necessarily want that, even if it was possible.
Not too surprisingly, the taboo (and his
curiosity) drew him in.
In the time that I have taken calls as an
erotic hypnotist, I have had priests, Mormons,
and those of the Jewish faith call, among others.
In the strictest sense of their religions, there
should never, ever be a reason for any of them
to call a line like what I have, and speak to
someone who does the kind of "work" I do.
In their religion, what they are doing would
be considered wrong, and yet they are doing
what - in some way - feels personally right.
For a long time I have suspected that the best
way to interest someone in something is to
make it taboo. It then has an invisible magnetic
quality that pulls people in.
I suspect certain things will still be of interest
to people, taboo or not, but when cultural devices
(such as religion) say "NO," I think it only
encourages what then gets labelled as "bad" behavior.
In a way, this entry is a complement to the last
blog entry about thinking for oneself. Religion
certainly does not encourage that, however I
suspect that there can be some really wonderful
people in the world without having a religious
background and label. In addition, if you were
to study religions now, you would find that there
are a multitude of choices and beliefs and practices,
even within the same type of label. So who's to say
who's right?
Of course, there are those who would disagree with
what I write here, and I'd say "good for them!"
(as long as they are thinking for themselves, and
the religion isn't doing the talking for them. I
know some may say religion knows best, but that
is a whole other conversation that is probably
best not to get into now as it would likely cloud
the discussion at hand. Suffice it to say, at
the core, I don't necessarily agree that religion
knows best, but how we would best determine a
perspective that would work for everyone is anyone's
guess, and not one faith or person has a lock on
an ultimate answer - yet - as far as I can tell).
I can't say what's best for any one person or any
one culture, but what I can do is ask questions
and present perspectives and observe how people
interact with ideas...and, it may be good to remember
that the same holds true for others. As frustrating
as it may sometimes be, I'd like to
think it is ultimately a good thing.
Church in relation to the LGBT community,
and it made me think about some of the
people and experiences I have had in regard
to those of varying faiths interacting with
ideas at odds with their religion.
There was a time that I was calling a dating
line that was more of a phone sex type of line
for many. One of the people I met there was
an Orthodox Jew. A married one. With kids.
It was interesting speaking with him. He told
me how things were in relation to relationships
and his religion, and they were very strict.
It made it impossible for him to have the kind
of dynamic with his wife that would resemble
anything he might flirt with on a line like
the one we met on...and not that he would
necessarily want that, even if it was possible.
Not too surprisingly, the taboo (and his
curiosity) drew him in.
In the time that I have taken calls as an
erotic hypnotist, I have had priests, Mormons,
and those of the Jewish faith call, among others.
In the strictest sense of their religions, there
should never, ever be a reason for any of them
to call a line like what I have, and speak to
someone who does the kind of "work" I do.
In their religion, what they are doing would
be considered wrong, and yet they are doing
what - in some way - feels personally right.
For a long time I have suspected that the best
way to interest someone in something is to
make it taboo. It then has an invisible magnetic
quality that pulls people in.
I suspect certain things will still be of interest
to people, taboo or not, but when cultural devices
(such as religion) say "NO," I think it only
encourages what then gets labelled as "bad" behavior.
In a way, this entry is a complement to the last
blog entry about thinking for oneself. Religion
certainly does not encourage that, however I
suspect that there can be some really wonderful
people in the world without having a religious
background and label. In addition, if you were
to study religions now, you would find that there
are a multitude of choices and beliefs and practices,
even within the same type of label. So who's to say
who's right?
Of course, there are those who would disagree with
what I write here, and I'd say "good for them!"
(as long as they are thinking for themselves, and
the religion isn't doing the talking for them. I
know some may say religion knows best, but that
is a whole other conversation that is probably
best not to get into now as it would likely cloud
the discussion at hand. Suffice it to say, at
the core, I don't necessarily agree that religion
knows best, but how we would best determine a
perspective that would work for everyone is anyone's
guess, and not one faith or person has a lock on
an ultimate answer - yet - as far as I can tell).
I can't say what's best for any one person or any
one culture, but what I can do is ask questions
and present perspectives and observe how people
interact with ideas...and, it may be good to remember
that the same holds true for others. As frustrating
as it may sometimes be, I'd like to
think it is ultimately a good thing.
Monday, October 25, 2010
Thinking for Oneself
Today I was reading Seth Godin's Blog. There is
a thought FULL man if there ever was one.
He was talking about a willful type of ignorance
that is fostered by the current media environment
that would seem to discourage people from thinking
for themselves. It would seem sometimes easier
to have someone else decide what is best.
Now, of course we can't all be experts in all
things, but it would seem to me that thinking
for one's self is something that would make sense,
even if it was at times time consuming or
confrontational.
Experts will say they know what's what. However,
I found it interesting that Niels Henrik David Bohr
says that an expert is someone "who has made all
the mistakes which can be made, in a narrow field."
How does one know when that occurs? I'd be willing
to bet there are people who call themselves experts
who haven't yet made every conceivable mistake,
which means that there may be people who would be
on the receiving end of an incorrect presumption.
In the current culture, "experts" are a dime a dozen.
So-called experts you will find will also disagree
on the points of one's study and profession. How
does one know that the advice they are being given
is as golden as the expert would like you to believe
it to be?
You don't.
And that is why it is important for us to pay attention
and ask questions and learn and grow and explore,
constantly. There is an endless amount of information
"out there" and it won't always be easy to tell which
piece is the "correct" one cognitively.
But asking questions is a good place to start, and
having "gut" checks is another method for decision
making. The more we tune into our gut and use it, and
the more information that we cull from, the more likely
we are to know what course of direction is the best
one to take.
Despite an expert's best intention, it may be prudent
to add, the expert is human, and human beings tend to
have times when they are fallible and will make
mistakes. Sometimes we won't know better to prevent
it, but there will be other times that we might just
be able to do or say the right thing to save further
difficulty or heartache - if - we are willing to
question the person doing the talking. And that will
mean we'll have to do some of the thinking for ourself.
As powerful as it can be to think for oneself, I hope
it's not as unique as some would think it to be,
and that it doesn't hurt too much for those that do it.
:P
(Sorry, the smart ass in me has to come out sometimes).
a thought FULL man if there ever was one.
He was talking about a willful type of ignorance
that is fostered by the current media environment
that would seem to discourage people from thinking
for themselves. It would seem sometimes easier
to have someone else decide what is best.
Now, of course we can't all be experts in all
things, but it would seem to me that thinking
for one's self is something that would make sense,
even if it was at times time consuming or
confrontational.
Experts will say they know what's what. However,
I found it interesting that Niels Henrik David Bohr
says that an expert is someone "who has made all
the mistakes which can be made, in a narrow field."
How does one know when that occurs? I'd be willing
to bet there are people who call themselves experts
who haven't yet made every conceivable mistake,
which means that there may be people who would be
on the receiving end of an incorrect presumption.
In the current culture, "experts" are a dime a dozen.
So-called experts you will find will also disagree
on the points of one's study and profession. How
does one know that the advice they are being given
is as golden as the expert would like you to believe
it to be?
You don't.
And that is why it is important for us to pay attention
and ask questions and learn and grow and explore,
constantly. There is an endless amount of information
"out there" and it won't always be easy to tell which
piece is the "correct" one cognitively.
But asking questions is a good place to start, and
having "gut" checks is another method for decision
making. The more we tune into our gut and use it, and
the more information that we cull from, the more likely
we are to know what course of direction is the best
one to take.
Despite an expert's best intention, it may be prudent
to add, the expert is human, and human beings tend to
have times when they are fallible and will make
mistakes. Sometimes we won't know better to prevent
it, but there will be other times that we might just
be able to do or say the right thing to save further
difficulty or heartache - if - we are willing to
question the person doing the talking. And that will
mean we'll have to do some of the thinking for ourself.
As powerful as it can be to think for oneself, I hope
it's not as unique as some would think it to be,
and that it doesn't hurt too much for those that do it.
:P
(Sorry, the smart ass in me has to come out sometimes).
Fear
I was speaking with someone yesterday who has
made a difficult decision after a long delay.
It was nice to be able to help him hypnotically,
as we've been speaking on and off for several
years now.
One of the interesting things that came up was
the topic of fear. He came to realize that he
was less comfortable with the fear he had of
staying in his situation than he had of the
fear of the unknown. As a result, after a long
and trying time (years) he reluctantly (and
optimistically and hesitantly) is moving
forward in spite of the unknown.
It's interesting to note that we are very
often motivated by pain and pleasure. When
someone wants to get us to do something, all
they have to do is make certain that we
focus on the right thing in the correct
measure.
They can either get us to focus on the pleasure,
and draw us in, or have us focus on the pain
(or possibility of pain that we want to avert)
to motivate us in the way they want us to be
motivated. Many sales are based on this idea,
as well as many other aspects of our life.
It doesn't have to be that way - but it takes
being consciously aware to avert the pitfalls
of this type of thing - and that is probably
one of the most difficult things to do in
the situations that are the most emotionally
charged for us.
However, it CAN be done.
I offered to help this person in any way I can
to help support him through the trying
transition, and would likely do the same for
anyone else who really wanted (and would use)
the help. If you're in a predicament, and
could use some support like what I can give
(and if you know me, you know it is likely to
be more than just hypnosis) reach out, and
let's talk.
Nothing is worse than having a problem and
feeling by yourself, not sure where to turn.
What makes hypnosis great for pleasure is the
same thing that makes it great for real life
circumstances and issues.
If you've never considered it,
you might just be surprised.
made a difficult decision after a long delay.
It was nice to be able to help him hypnotically,
as we've been speaking on and off for several
years now.
One of the interesting things that came up was
the topic of fear. He came to realize that he
was less comfortable with the fear he had of
staying in his situation than he had of the
fear of the unknown. As a result, after a long
and trying time (years) he reluctantly (and
optimistically and hesitantly) is moving
forward in spite of the unknown.
It's interesting to note that we are very
often motivated by pain and pleasure. When
someone wants to get us to do something, all
they have to do is make certain that we
focus on the right thing in the correct
measure.
They can either get us to focus on the pleasure,
and draw us in, or have us focus on the pain
(or possibility of pain that we want to avert)
to motivate us in the way they want us to be
motivated. Many sales are based on this idea,
as well as many other aspects of our life.
It doesn't have to be that way - but it takes
being consciously aware to avert the pitfalls
of this type of thing - and that is probably
one of the most difficult things to do in
the situations that are the most emotionally
charged for us.
However, it CAN be done.
I offered to help this person in any way I can
to help support him through the trying
transition, and would likely do the same for
anyone else who really wanted (and would use)
the help. If you're in a predicament, and
could use some support like what I can give
(and if you know me, you know it is likely to
be more than just hypnosis) reach out, and
let's talk.
Nothing is worse than having a problem and
feeling by yourself, not sure where to turn.
What makes hypnosis great for pleasure is the
same thing that makes it great for real life
circumstances and issues.
If you've never considered it,
you might just be surprised.
Journey of Pleasure Awaits | Video
Someone I know shot the
video above. I thought
it kind of cool,
and wanted to share this
view outside of the
passenger seat of the car.
Perhaps you could even
imagine me in the driver's
seat, taking you to that
place of pleasure.
YouTube gives music you can
overlay your own videos with,
and I thought the song playing
seemed appropriate.
What do you think?
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Beautiful Pics & Music | Video
So sometimes I go off on a tangent,
and find some cool things. I like
the images in this video, as well
as the music. It has a wonderful
sensuous feel to it. Perhaps you
will enjoy it, too.
Awesome Music | Video | Ryan Farish
Tonight a friend introduced me to Pandora.com.
If you haven't heard of it, it is online
music streaming that gives you the artist
you want to hear, and those that are similar.
I had never heard of Ryan Farish tonight,
and now I love his music. I think it's
so beautiful, I already got the tracks of
the album that is appropriately called
Beautiful.
Let me know what you think!
The Importance of Feedback
The site that I primarily work off of has
a feedback system that in some way rates
those who work on the site. Some who work
there take it as a Badge of Honor that
they never ask for ratings and feedback.
While that is quite noble, the fact is
that feedback and ratings are often what
has someone contact me in the first place
as long as it doesn't seem manipulated
or contrived.
(Perhaps you can even think back to when
you first contacted me...what was it that
drew you in*?)
For that reason, it is clear to me that
there is value in the comments left.
Some comments like "best on the site"
probably don't do much to encourage other
to call me because it is a relative comment
thatis difficult to prove - especially because
many say it about many others. In addition,
guys have told me it carries little meaning
for them, given how frequently is said.
But other comments that speak to the
unique quality of who and how I am seem
to help. In addition, recent comments
also seem to help as it makes it appear
that I have been recently active on the
site, and am still as good as those in
the past have said.
Ratings are helpful because they are what
give me my "standing" on Niteflirt. While
it doesn't really mean much, it does mean
something for those who will pay attention
to those kind of things.
I also find that people in general are
willing to give ratings and feedback,
they just don't remember to unless asked.
Some are willing to give ratings, but aren't
sure what to say, so they don't do anything.
For these reasons, I thought I would let you
know that I completely understand if you want
to stay off the NF radar, and not leave ratings
or feedback. At the same time, if you are
willing and able to leave ratings and feedback
both are appreciated. If you have no clue
what to say, ratings alone are still helpful.
For ease, here is the link to the page where
you can see your calls and opportunities to
leave your comments.
Not on Niteflirt? You can still leave your
couple of cents here.
*If you'd be willing to share what that was
privately or in the comments of this blog,
it would be interesting for me to know.
Thanks!
a feedback system that in some way rates
those who work on the site. Some who work
there take it as a Badge of Honor that
they never ask for ratings and feedback.
While that is quite noble, the fact is
that feedback and ratings are often what
has someone contact me in the first place
as long as it doesn't seem manipulated
or contrived.
(Perhaps you can even think back to when
you first contacted me...what was it that
drew you in*?)
For that reason, it is clear to me that
there is value in the comments left.
Some comments like "best on the site"
probably don't do much to encourage other
to call me because it is a relative comment
thatis difficult to prove - especially because
many say it about many others. In addition,
guys have told me it carries little meaning
for them, given how frequently is said.
But other comments that speak to the
unique quality of who and how I am seem
to help. In addition, recent comments
also seem to help as it makes it appear
that I have been recently active on the
site, and am still as good as those in
the past have said.
Ratings are helpful because they are what
give me my "standing" on Niteflirt. While
it doesn't really mean much, it does mean
something for those who will pay attention
to those kind of things.
I also find that people in general are
willing to give ratings and feedback,
they just don't remember to unless asked.
Some are willing to give ratings, but aren't
sure what to say, so they don't do anything.
For these reasons, I thought I would let you
know that I completely understand if you want
to stay off the NF radar, and not leave ratings
or feedback. At the same time, if you are
willing and able to leave ratings and feedback
both are appreciated. If you have no clue
what to say, ratings alone are still helpful.
For ease, here is the link to the page where
you can see your calls and opportunities to
leave your comments.
Not on Niteflirt? You can still leave your
couple of cents here.
*If you'd be willing to share what that was
privately or in the comments of this blog,
it would be interesting for me to know.
Thanks!
To the Losers...
Today I saw the umpteenth "mean queen"
talking about the ****ing losers that
serve her. If you think you're a loser,
then maybe she was talking to you.
She was attractive, but she was needy,
greedy, bitchy. Ok, I know, that is
probably turning you on, and you are
wondering who the person is.
Logically one may wonder why you
let women like this have your time,
your attention, your hard earned money
and "respect."
Even if you consider yourself a loser,
why wouldn't you want someone to
appreciate the things you do for them,
instead of expect them, and then
proceed to forget it because the next
"sucker" has arrived. Why would you only
want to be remembered when the person
who demands from you seeks to more money
and more attention?
Consider what it would be like to have
attention that is kind and appreciative.
I know it's likely unusual for you, and
I know of many who like the idea, but
just don't know how it could ever feel
as good as being treated like s***.
You know why it feels so good for you?
It's likely somewhere along the lines
your mind made an unconscious connection
between things that don't necessarily
belong together.
It could be a pretty girl who taunted you,
and when she did it humiliated you, and
because she was so pretty you were turned
on at the time so you tied arousal to
humiliation by a pretty girl.
You then probably tried to find opportunities
to have pretty girls do it to you again.
Each time it happened, it reinforced your
"need" to be treated in the way that the
original girl treated you. Along the way,
you may have found new girls added to the
mix, so your mind may have latched onto to
those things as well.
Maybe you even got into a relationship with
a pretty girl who treated you that way, and
demanded you spend money on her.
Each thing finds its way into our mind
through layers of connections, and they
become what we think are "needs." You
may have even found yourself paying for
the opportunity to be humiliated if no
real life opportunities were available.
I don't know too many people who wouldn't
prefer to be treated kindly and with respect,
however I know way too many who don't know
how to find their way out of what they know
to cause pleasure.
You don't have to allow people to treat you
this way, AND you can find greater pleasure
in being treated well and in being appreciated.
Hypnosis is good at so many things, including
creating and resolving perceived problems.
There is an author who wrote how he believed
that all hypnosis was a way to dehypnotize
someone from previous hypnosis.
Never been formally hypnotized? It doesn't
matter. Anyone who knows how to manipulate
others is likely proficient in a form of
hypnosis whether s/he realizes it, or not.
Some will tell you that to be the best man
you can be it's best to see yourself as
insignificant, small, unworthy and at the
same time needing to prove yourself in some
way worthy of time and attention.
Personally, I don't see how interacting with
someone who thinks so little of himself serves
me or anyone else. I would say it is in my
best interest to have someone who wants to
be attentive to me be the best of who he can
be - for himself and those around him.
I see too much encouragement from women like
the one above to have the men they interact
with disregard and disrespect the women in
their lives. I know some would say they
could never understand it, or do it, but
what these people don't realize is how the
person affected could even been torn, and
still do things potentially hurtful and/or
harmful to a relationship.
What is going on is likely to be something
that someone affected doesn't understand
either, because it comes from the unconscious
connections. I realize that some things are
choices, and there are some I certainly
wouldn't agree with, but when you are doing
things compulsively and can't stop, then it
might be something to reconsider - especially
if there is a part of you that isn't OK or
happy about what is going on.
Some people will say "It's just me. It's
just how I am." Because your behavior is
not who you are, that statement is inaccurate.
However since it is a common belief and
statement, it is often "accepted."
Most people are much more than they know
themselves to be. Many have no idea who
and what they are capable of because things
get in the way. Something so core to who
we are - such as sexuality - can create a
big diversion and/or stumbling block.
The thing is, though, deep down we know
better. Deep down we seek better. Deep
down we know there has got to be a better
way, and we choose to listen, or we don't.
When one listens, one also needs to recognize
what they have done previously, and it isn't
always easy and can sometimes be painful
and there can be guilt, remorse, anger and
other things that continuing the behavior
continues to cover up.
I can't say a change is going to happen
easily or effortlessly, but what I can say
is that you need to be kind to yourself in
the process. Things happen all of the time,
and that includes things we'd rather not
experience, however if we come to those
situations with the a mindset that allows
us to learn and grow from the experience
the best things can happen as a result,
and they're not often things we'd anticipate.
If you consider yourself a loser, and that
is how you want to continue to act, far be
it from me to convince you to do anything
any differently.
However, if there is a part of you that
thinks that you deserve better (which,
personally, I say you do) then it might
be worth seeing what can be done to give
you the pleasure you desire without
wreaking havoc on your life and the
relationships that you hold most dear -
including the one you have with yourself.
Arguments can be made for anything by
anyone at any time. Be careful which
ones you buy into. They're not all
worthy of your efforts and attention,
and likely very few are.
A last thought...
If you are belittled and worn down,
what is left of you to give? In
the end, I suspect that is at the
core of what we as humans want to
do...we want to give another a piece
of ourselves so that we can feel like
we belong and that we are wanted and
needed by someone else and if we don't
know that we can get attention in a
positive, affirming way we'll get it
in a destructive one. If you're off
self destructing you're not going to
see the things that are helpful and
supportive and loving -
but they are there.
talking about the ****ing losers that
serve her. If you think you're a loser,
then maybe she was talking to you.
She was attractive, but she was needy,
greedy, bitchy. Ok, I know, that is
probably turning you on, and you are
wondering who the person is.
Logically one may wonder why you
let women like this have your time,
your attention, your hard earned money
and "respect."
Even if you consider yourself a loser,
why wouldn't you want someone to
appreciate the things you do for them,
instead of expect them, and then
proceed to forget it because the next
"sucker" has arrived. Why would you only
want to be remembered when the person
who demands from you seeks to more money
and more attention?
Consider what it would be like to have
attention that is kind and appreciative.
I know it's likely unusual for you, and
I know of many who like the idea, but
just don't know how it could ever feel
as good as being treated like s***.
You know why it feels so good for you?
It's likely somewhere along the lines
your mind made an unconscious connection
between things that don't necessarily
belong together.
It could be a pretty girl who taunted you,
and when she did it humiliated you, and
because she was so pretty you were turned
on at the time so you tied arousal to
humiliation by a pretty girl.
You then probably tried to find opportunities
to have pretty girls do it to you again.
Each time it happened, it reinforced your
"need" to be treated in the way that the
original girl treated you. Along the way,
you may have found new girls added to the
mix, so your mind may have latched onto to
those things as well.
Maybe you even got into a relationship with
a pretty girl who treated you that way, and
demanded you spend money on her.
Each thing finds its way into our mind
through layers of connections, and they
become what we think are "needs." You
may have even found yourself paying for
the opportunity to be humiliated if no
real life opportunities were available.
I don't know too many people who wouldn't
prefer to be treated kindly and with respect,
however I know way too many who don't know
how to find their way out of what they know
to cause pleasure.
You don't have to allow people to treat you
this way, AND you can find greater pleasure
in being treated well and in being appreciated.
Hypnosis is good at so many things, including
creating and resolving perceived problems.
There is an author who wrote how he believed
that all hypnosis was a way to dehypnotize
someone from previous hypnosis.
Never been formally hypnotized? It doesn't
matter. Anyone who knows how to manipulate
others is likely proficient in a form of
hypnosis whether s/he realizes it, or not.
Some will tell you that to be the best man
you can be it's best to see yourself as
insignificant, small, unworthy and at the
same time needing to prove yourself in some
way worthy of time and attention.
Personally, I don't see how interacting with
someone who thinks so little of himself serves
me or anyone else. I would say it is in my
best interest to have someone who wants to
be attentive to me be the best of who he can
be - for himself and those around him.
I see too much encouragement from women like
the one above to have the men they interact
with disregard and disrespect the women in
their lives. I know some would say they
could never understand it, or do it, but
what these people don't realize is how the
person affected could even been torn, and
still do things potentially hurtful and/or
harmful to a relationship.
What is going on is likely to be something
that someone affected doesn't understand
either, because it comes from the unconscious
connections. I realize that some things are
choices, and there are some I certainly
wouldn't agree with, but when you are doing
things compulsively and can't stop, then it
might be something to reconsider - especially
if there is a part of you that isn't OK or
happy about what is going on.
Some people will say "It's just me. It's
just how I am." Because your behavior is
not who you are, that statement is inaccurate.
However since it is a common belief and
statement, it is often "accepted."
Most people are much more than they know
themselves to be. Many have no idea who
and what they are capable of because things
get in the way. Something so core to who
we are - such as sexuality - can create a
big diversion and/or stumbling block.
The thing is, though, deep down we know
better. Deep down we seek better. Deep
down we know there has got to be a better
way, and we choose to listen, or we don't.
When one listens, one also needs to recognize
what they have done previously, and it isn't
always easy and can sometimes be painful
and there can be guilt, remorse, anger and
other things that continuing the behavior
continues to cover up.
I can't say a change is going to happen
easily or effortlessly, but what I can say
is that you need to be kind to yourself in
the process. Things happen all of the time,
and that includes things we'd rather not
experience, however if we come to those
situations with the a mindset that allows
us to learn and grow from the experience
the best things can happen as a result,
and they're not often things we'd anticipate.
If you consider yourself a loser, and that
is how you want to continue to act, far be
it from me to convince you to do anything
any differently.
However, if there is a part of you that
thinks that you deserve better (which,
personally, I say you do) then it might
be worth seeing what can be done to give
you the pleasure you desire without
wreaking havoc on your life and the
relationships that you hold most dear -
including the one you have with yourself.
Arguments can be made for anything by
anyone at any time. Be careful which
ones you buy into. They're not all
worthy of your efforts and attention,
and likely very few are.
A last thought...
If you are belittled and worn down,
what is left of you to give? In
the end, I suspect that is at the
core of what we as humans want to
do...we want to give another a piece
of ourselves so that we can feel like
we belong and that we are wanted and
needed by someone else and if we don't
know that we can get attention in a
positive, affirming way we'll get it
in a destructive one. If you're off
self destructing you're not going to
see the things that are helpful and
supportive and loving -
but they are there.
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Lego Printer | Video
I find those who think out of the usual
boxes come up with some cool things.
Who knows what those things provide
other than a cool factor, but sometimes
they can be fun to watch in action.
Here is one of those things:
boxes come up with some cool things.
Who knows what those things provide
other than a cool factor, but sometimes
they can be fun to watch in action.
Here is one of those things:
Friday, October 22, 2010
Life a Beach?
with a friend of mine,
and this was my fortune.
Interesting perspective.
The Rose | New Sensual MP3
New Recording.
"A wonderfully
sensual recording
with a
beautiful,
positive
message...
A Mssterpiece."
-hotseeker22
It's not about being
dominated or controlled.
It's just about pleasure
and releasing the things
that are best to
be released.
For some it will be
a potent quickie.
The Rose is
awesome Isis.
Felt like I
was taken under
by sheer pleasure
and relaxation...
Your voice
worked its
potent magic
on me...
it's golden.
-anon
It's a little rough,
but should still be
a sensual and helpful
recording.
Because of this I am
offering it as a Payment
Request on NF. If you
find it helpful and/or
enjoyable, I'd appreciate
you accepting the request.
It is primarily for those
hypnotized by me, but *may*
be effective for others.
If you aren't a NF customer,
ask me for it directly.
Any questions?
Just ask.
13:06 MP3 | $6.00 (Payment Request)
Legislating the Symptom | Michigan, Schools & Parents | Video
is advocating sending parents to jail for
3 days in Michigan if they do not attend
Parent Teacher Conferences. To be "fair"
to the topic, apparently the action will
be a last resort option only, and will
have certain exceptions.
I find a few things interesting about this
interview. The woman who is being interviewed
makes the comment about how many say we
shouldn't legislate morality, but then goes
on to say that we already do as a form of
defense for doing it yet again.
Just because we do something, does it mean
we should do it again? Somehow there seems
to me to be a fault in that logic, even
though I know that our courts work on just
those types of arguments.
We seem to value what has come before,
but we also seem to cherry pick what
we value, based on whatever it is that
we seek to create in the present.
This particular school district is doing
their own form of cherry picking from
the past to attempt to legislate the
actions they deem best, as a RE-action
to behaviors they think are problematic.
Behaviors that are moderated often don't
help when the cause remains untouched.
In one interview in the piece a woman
says if the law gets involved it might
give people an incentive to act. While
I wouldn't necessarily disagree, there is
a bigger issue at hand that will remain,
even if the law is enacted.
Reacting to an issue isn't the same as
taking actions which focus on the source
of an issue. If parents aren't involved
with their kids' schooling, there could be
a number of issues that prevent it, and
those who just aren't interested in taking
part won't necessarily be making different
choices if threatened with a jail term.
One just has to look at the already
crowded jails to know that the threat of
incarceration isn't much of a deterrent
for what some segment of society considers
undesirable behavior.
There is a much bigger issue here, and
attempting to lawfully regulate something
that is already not working, based on what
has occurred in the past, with a disregard
for the cause of what is occurring in this
moment, could quite possibly make matters
worse.
What would this issue look like if those
who cared to make a difference stopped
reacting and stepped back and looked at
things for what they are, and made decisions
based on what could really make a difference
instead of affecting a superficially acceptable
outcome?
It might be worth considering that the video
says that the children who seem to do best
have involved parents. A parent forced into
taking an action like the one suggested does
not an involved parent make.
Thursday, October 21, 2010
What a Difference a Degree Makes | Video
This, in my opinion, is an awesome
video on a very simple concept. It
could apply to any number of things.
I know that there are many managers/
business-folk among my callers, so
perhaps this will even be something
you can share with those you work with.
I share it, in part, too because I
can see how it relates to one's
hypnotic experience. It is yet
another way to explain what happens
as one is hypnotized.
Metaphorically someone could be
hypnotized 211 times and on the 212th
time, he could find his environment
radically changed.
Watch the video, and see what you
get out of it, and as always, I'd
love to know what'ya think!
Have a good one.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Close the Door & Turn Off the Lights | Video
Sultry. Sensual. Steamy.
His music will
bring on the 3 H's
Hot. Hard. Horny.
Enjoy!
"You sounded annoyed" | On Clear Communication
I was speaking with someone today who hadn't
called in a few months, and the silence
started after our last call.
He remembered what we were talking about, and
suggested that my response at the time had a
feeling of being annoyed attached to it.
When he told me what it was, I told him that
I wasn't annoyed. If he heard anything, it
was just my own internal frustration about
the subject.
He didn't stay away the whole time because of
it, but the misinterpretation is what initially
had him refrain from calling.
I suggested that in the future he confirm with
me his interpretations if they were to affect
our communications. His response was something
to the effect to that it was something akin to
calling someone on something, and how no one
likes that.
While that is true, if we don't communicate what
we suspect, then we'll never know if we're
incorrect. To make matters worse, if we act on
our incorrect notions, then we are creating
another level of the issue.
I could have been annoyed, but so what? He
could have also have asked me if I was, and
I could have lied and said, "No." Perhaps
I could have said no out of denial. Any number
of possibilities would have existed, and do
exist daily, with those we interact with.
A person should be able to get clarification
without the other person being offended or
feeling defensive. A person should also be
able to accept whatever answer is given without
having to push or pry.
This is not to say that if someone lies to you
it's ok, however sometimes people don't know
they're even lying to themselves. We need to
be willing to accept people's honest answers
if we want to encourage them to give them. In
many cases deceit is intentional out of a fear
of some sort of rejection.
We also need to be able to say the things we
need to say. If I had been annoyed I could
have said I was, and explained why or perhaps
have apologized, or just said, "I am sorry but
I just don't want to talk about this right now."
We also need to be able to remain silent at
times, as it allows us to figure things out
without the adding complication of bringing
someone into the drama in our head while at
the same time realizing that the drama might
just be self inflicted.
Being able to have an effective conversation
means being as clear as one can be about what
is being said, or about what is left unsaid.
There are ways to say things in a responsible
manner. For instance in the above regard the
person could have said, "When we were talking
about ___, it sounded to me like you were
annoyed by something I said. Can you tell me
what it was, or tell me if I might have
misinterpreted your reaction?"
Or he could have said, "When we were talking
about ___, you sounded annoyed. Did I say
something to annoy you? If so, I wanted to
apologize, because that certainly was not my
intent."
It's like a dance - one most of us never learned
to do. We might think we know how to communicate
because we interact and talk, but sometimes - many
times - those interactions and words only get in
the way of communication.
We don't need to walk around questioning everything,
but in cases where the meaning may be unclear, it
might be best to refrain from assuming, especially
if it means a further break down of communication or
the furthering of a disagreement.
If you're going to get mad or upset or take something
personally, wouldn't it be better to know that what
you thought was true indeed was instead of something
you made up in your own mind?
(You do know how good
at that you are, don't you?)
called in a few months, and the silence
started after our last call.
He remembered what we were talking about, and
suggested that my response at the time had a
feeling of being annoyed attached to it.
When he told me what it was, I told him that
I wasn't annoyed. If he heard anything, it
was just my own internal frustration about
the subject.
He didn't stay away the whole time because of
it, but the misinterpretation is what initially
had him refrain from calling.
I suggested that in the future he confirm with
me his interpretations if they were to affect
our communications. His response was something
to the effect to that it was something akin to
calling someone on something, and how no one
likes that.
While that is true, if we don't communicate what
we suspect, then we'll never know if we're
incorrect. To make matters worse, if we act on
our incorrect notions, then we are creating
another level of the issue.
I could have been annoyed, but so what? He
could have also have asked me if I was, and
I could have lied and said, "No." Perhaps
I could have said no out of denial. Any number
of possibilities would have existed, and do
exist daily, with those we interact with.
A person should be able to get clarification
without the other person being offended or
feeling defensive. A person should also be
able to accept whatever answer is given without
having to push or pry.
This is not to say that if someone lies to you
it's ok, however sometimes people don't know
they're even lying to themselves. We need to
be willing to accept people's honest answers
if we want to encourage them to give them. In
many cases deceit is intentional out of a fear
of some sort of rejection.
We also need to be able to say the things we
need to say. If I had been annoyed I could
have said I was, and explained why or perhaps
have apologized, or just said, "I am sorry but
I just don't want to talk about this right now."
We also need to be able to remain silent at
times, as it allows us to figure things out
without the adding complication of bringing
someone into the drama in our head while at
the same time realizing that the drama might
just be self inflicted.
Being able to have an effective conversation
means being as clear as one can be about what
is being said, or about what is left unsaid.
There are ways to say things in a responsible
manner. For instance in the above regard the
person could have said, "When we were talking
about ___, it sounded to me like you were
annoyed by something I said. Can you tell me
what it was, or tell me if I might have
misinterpreted your reaction?"
Or he could have said, "When we were talking
about ___, you sounded annoyed. Did I say
something to annoy you? If so, I wanted to
apologize, because that certainly was not my
intent."
It's like a dance - one most of us never learned
to do. We might think we know how to communicate
because we interact and talk, but sometimes - many
times - those interactions and words only get in
the way of communication.
We don't need to walk around questioning everything,
but in cases where the meaning may be unclear, it
might be best to refrain from assuming, especially
if it means a further break down of communication or
the furthering of a disagreement.
If you're going to get mad or upset or take something
personally, wouldn't it be better to know that what
you thought was true indeed was instead of something
you made up in your own mind?
(You do know how good
at that you are, don't you?)
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Lost Track of Original Meaning
In a previous entry I said how easy
it can be to sometimes lose track
of the origin of something.
Here is another example. Do you
know why brides wear white? You
may think you do, based on what
you've often heard. But here's
the "real" reason.
Perhaps this is a case where it
doesn't really matter that the
meaning has changed, just that
it has. Interesting to note,
none-the-less.
it can be to sometimes lose track
of the origin of something.
Here is another example. Do you
know why brides wear white? You
may think you do, based on what
you've often heard. But here's
the "real" reason.
Perhaps this is a case where it
doesn't really matter that the
meaning has changed, just that
it has. Interesting to note,
none-the-less.
Want to Make a Difference & Get A Gift for You?
I came across this website recently:
http://www.wishuponahero.com/ and love
the idea of it. There are many ways
to make a difference for another, and
some won't cost more than a stamp.
Until the end of October, I am going
to make a special offer. Fulfill one
request, and receive any picture file
of mine for free. Fulfill two requests,
and receive any audio file for free.
Fulfill three requests receive both
a picture and audio file for free
from me.
The conditions are as follows:
Fulfill the request(s) and then email me
links to the request(s) you fulfilled.
Give me your ID/name on the site (it
won't tell me who you are by "real"
name, so your privacy will be
maintained). You can email me on
NF or email my Yahoo address.
You get to choose the files from
what is currently available. If
for some reason a file is not
available, I may ask you to
substitute with a back up option.
If you do not receive a response from
me within 48 hours, please check with
me to make certain your email was
received.
I may withdraw this offer at any time
and/or amend it for any reason.
I dislike "legalize," so let's just
all please be reasonable human beings
and work together to make this work
in a way that can have some wonderful
and helpful repercussions.
I would love it if those who took
advantage of this offer wanted to
help others first, and then got to
get a bonus for themselves in
exchange, however, generosity is
still generosity even if it comes
from a motivation that makes a
difference for oneself.
So...take a look at
http://www.wishuponahero.com/
and see what you think.
See where you might
be able to
fulfill a request,
and then be in touch.
Thanks for being willing and
able to make a difference.
I have to hope (and would like
to think) that people who are
able and willing to help others
in cases like these make the
world a better place for
all of us.
Any questions, just ask!
Have a good night.
http://www.wishuponahero.com/ and love
the idea of it. There are many ways
to make a difference for another, and
some won't cost more than a stamp.
Until the end of October, I am going
to make a special offer. Fulfill one
request, and receive any picture file
of mine for free. Fulfill two requests,
and receive any audio file for free.
Fulfill three requests receive both
a picture and audio file for free
from me.
The conditions are as follows:
Fulfill the request(s) and then email me
links to the request(s) you fulfilled.
Give me your ID/name on the site (it
won't tell me who you are by "real"
name, so your privacy will be
maintained). You can email me on
NF or email my Yahoo address.
You get to choose the files from
what is currently available. If
for some reason a file is not
available, I may ask you to
substitute with a back up option.
If you do not receive a response from
me within 48 hours, please check with
me to make certain your email was
received.
I may withdraw this offer at any time
and/or amend it for any reason.
I dislike "legalize," so let's just
all please be reasonable human beings
and work together to make this work
in a way that can have some wonderful
and helpful repercussions.
I would love it if those who took
advantage of this offer wanted to
help others first, and then got to
get a bonus for themselves in
exchange, however, generosity is
still generosity even if it comes
from a motivation that makes a
difference for oneself.
So...take a look at
http://www.wishuponahero.com/
and see what you think.
See where you might
be able to
fulfill a request,
and then be in touch.
Thanks for being willing and
able to make a difference.
I have to hope (and would like
to think) that people who are
able and willing to help others
in cases like these make the
world a better place for
all of us.
Any questions, just ask!
Have a good night.
(The History of) God in America (Probably not what you think) | Video
"I cannot give up my guidance to the Magistrate because he knows no more of the way to heaven than I do and has less concern to direct me right than I am to go right." -Thomas Jefferson
Apparently, we not only have Thomas Jefferson to thank for the Declaration of Independence, but also the First Amendment. At the time that he helped to forge the way to the amendment, he was helping a group of people who had specific religious beliefs, and while he claimed not to agree to the substance of what they said, he felt that he could and should defend their right to say it.
He believed that there was a bigger picture to the possibilities that existed in the relatively new world. He believed that LIBERTY could bind people together, and that specific religious beliefs weren't necessary. Up until that time the foundation was slowly being laid for a culture that felt that religion was necessary to hold the threads of society together.
The United States, and its people, were the "chosen" ones only as long as they did what they were "supposed" to under God. So all people were more than encouraged to play by the "rules." Saving its people was the way to save the culture that was developing. For that reason, those who didn't play by the rules needed to leave because the "world" was at stake.
The irony throughout time is that people made their way to this world in pursuit of freedom of expression, only to turn around desirous to halt other newcomer's expressions. It is highly unlikely that anyone has ever seen it that way. In addition, there have been people who have managed to look at the same things, and create different perspectives, and therefore different expectations and desires.
In watching God In America I was amazed to see history repeating itself over and over and over. The program itself never said it, but viewing what happened over time it became apparent that various generations came to the same places as those before them. It is also worthy to note that more than once those who were present at certain times in history (the Civil War, WWI) thought that Armageddon had come.
It became apparent to me through the twists and turns of the events and the historic "players" words and roles that religion itself didn't seem to be the "problem" as much as those who represented it. It is worthy to note that people always had the best of intentions in what they were saying and doing, but the idea that "good" only came in a religious form was something that got attached and hasn't been able to be successfully detached over time and, as a matter of fact, a strongly encouraged belief. There have even been times in history when it has been said that someone not religious was not patriotic.
When meanings and things get collapsed, that is when we have the greatest difficulty getting along with others who may have a different idea about how things should be. Also added to the mix was the idea of becoming "Modern." Some religions felt in the name of "progress" things should change. An interesting idea, to say the least. If an idea is a good one, does it have the ability to be dated?
God in America is about 6 hours long. A long time to sit and watch. What I found pretty cool is that on the page on the internet where you can watch the videos, they have the transcripts and a study guide and a group guide, among other things, for free. The show says that it took words from diaries and from history for those figures that it represents. It really seems more like a documentary than anything else, but if it has leanings, I would say that it doesn't make religions look all that great in how the people within them affect other people and ultimately society. It also shows how even though in this country religion and government are meant to be separate, there seems to be an inevitable possibility of a crossover.
I have heard about the Civil War in school, but never heard the idea before that it was a "religious" war, of sorts. The North thought slavery was demonic, the South thought it to be a part of God's gift/plan. Both sides were thought to believe that to preserve the world that God wanted them to have, they were required to pick up a gun and fight. Both sides thought that the other was breaking their agreement with God for this nation, and therefore the nation's relationship with God was in jeopardy.
It also discusses how schools came to be an important factor in creating "good citizens" by, of course, certain religious teachings.
I also have a new appreciation for Martin Luther King. They showed how he chose to stay outside of the circle of political power, instead of indulging in it like others had.
It covers the complexity of all of the issues in a way that makes so much sense and in a way that I have never been exposed to before. I watched the show with great interest over the course of just 2 days.
It is easy to lose track of why things are the way they are. I remember hearing a story about a woman who was cutting off the ends of a ham that she was making for a holiday dinner. When she was asked why, she said that is the way her mom always did it. When they went to the mom, the mom said it was the way her mother always did it. When they went to the grandmother and asked her why, she said it was so it would fit into the pan.
I think things like this create conversations that need to be had and encourage questions that need to be asked. People can believe and do and say whatever they like it this country and the liberty we have is pretty pure and simple, but it's the other stuff that can cloud what we do and how we do it.
Thomas Jefferson apparently had a great respect for mankind and is ability to choose wisely based on a value that all could agree upon, and appreciate. I can only hope that somewhere in the midst of everything that is happening we can find the way best to keep this great vision alive, believing in what wonderful things man is capable of, with or without a religious vision, or a belief in God.
If you have an opportunity to watch the series, please let me know what you think. I don't think it necessarily biased, but could see how some might say or think otherwise. I also realize when there is a bias sometimes it is so much of self that it is difficult to discern. Would love to hear YOUR thoughts.
To view (or explore) visit http://www.pbs.org/godinamerica/
Apparently, we not only have Thomas Jefferson to thank for the Declaration of Independence, but also the First Amendment. At the time that he helped to forge the way to the amendment, he was helping a group of people who had specific religious beliefs, and while he claimed not to agree to the substance of what they said, he felt that he could and should defend their right to say it.
He believed that there was a bigger picture to the possibilities that existed in the relatively new world. He believed that LIBERTY could bind people together, and that specific religious beliefs weren't necessary. Up until that time the foundation was slowly being laid for a culture that felt that religion was necessary to hold the threads of society together.
The United States, and its people, were the "chosen" ones only as long as they did what they were "supposed" to under God. So all people were more than encouraged to play by the "rules." Saving its people was the way to save the culture that was developing. For that reason, those who didn't play by the rules needed to leave because the "world" was at stake.
The irony throughout time is that people made their way to this world in pursuit of freedom of expression, only to turn around desirous to halt other newcomer's expressions. It is highly unlikely that anyone has ever seen it that way. In addition, there have been people who have managed to look at the same things, and create different perspectives, and therefore different expectations and desires.
In watching God In America I was amazed to see history repeating itself over and over and over. The program itself never said it, but viewing what happened over time it became apparent that various generations came to the same places as those before them. It is also worthy to note that more than once those who were present at certain times in history (the Civil War, WWI) thought that Armageddon had come.
It became apparent to me through the twists and turns of the events and the historic "players" words and roles that religion itself didn't seem to be the "problem" as much as those who represented it. It is worthy to note that people always had the best of intentions in what they were saying and doing, but the idea that "good" only came in a religious form was something that got attached and hasn't been able to be successfully detached over time and, as a matter of fact, a strongly encouraged belief. There have even been times in history when it has been said that someone not religious was not patriotic.
When meanings and things get collapsed, that is when we have the greatest difficulty getting along with others who may have a different idea about how things should be. Also added to the mix was the idea of becoming "Modern." Some religions felt in the name of "progress" things should change. An interesting idea, to say the least. If an idea is a good one, does it have the ability to be dated?
God in America is about 6 hours long. A long time to sit and watch. What I found pretty cool is that on the page on the internet where you can watch the videos, they have the transcripts and a study guide and a group guide, among other things, for free. The show says that it took words from diaries and from history for those figures that it represents. It really seems more like a documentary than anything else, but if it has leanings, I would say that it doesn't make religions look all that great in how the people within them affect other people and ultimately society. It also shows how even though in this country religion and government are meant to be separate, there seems to be an inevitable possibility of a crossover.
I have heard about the Civil War in school, but never heard the idea before that it was a "religious" war, of sorts. The North thought slavery was demonic, the South thought it to be a part of God's gift/plan. Both sides were thought to believe that to preserve the world that God wanted them to have, they were required to pick up a gun and fight. Both sides thought that the other was breaking their agreement with God for this nation, and therefore the nation's relationship with God was in jeopardy.
It also discusses how schools came to be an important factor in creating "good citizens" by, of course, certain religious teachings.
I also have a new appreciation for Martin Luther King. They showed how he chose to stay outside of the circle of political power, instead of indulging in it like others had.
It covers the complexity of all of the issues in a way that makes so much sense and in a way that I have never been exposed to before. I watched the show with great interest over the course of just 2 days.
It is easy to lose track of why things are the way they are. I remember hearing a story about a woman who was cutting off the ends of a ham that she was making for a holiday dinner. When she was asked why, she said that is the way her mom always did it. When they went to the mom, the mom said it was the way her mother always did it. When they went to the grandmother and asked her why, she said it was so it would fit into the pan.
I think things like this create conversations that need to be had and encourage questions that need to be asked. People can believe and do and say whatever they like it this country and the liberty we have is pretty pure and simple, but it's the other stuff that can cloud what we do and how we do it.
Thomas Jefferson apparently had a great respect for mankind and is ability to choose wisely based on a value that all could agree upon, and appreciate. I can only hope that somewhere in the midst of everything that is happening we can find the way best to keep this great vision alive, believing in what wonderful things man is capable of, with or without a religious vision, or a belief in God.
If you have an opportunity to watch the series, please let me know what you think. I don't think it necessarily biased, but could see how some might say or think otherwise. I also realize when there is a bias sometimes it is so much of self that it is difficult to discern. Would love to hear YOUR thoughts.
To view (or explore) visit http://www.pbs.org/godinamerica/
Monday, October 18, 2010
Separation of Church & State | Eloquent Kennedy | Video
In the last couple of days I have been watching
a PBS Series called God In America. There is
so much to say about the series, and once I
have completed watching, I will be posting about
it and my experience of it.
In the meantime, in viewing it, I became aware
of the talk below. I thought it eloquent and
very clear in its communication. Many of our
problems, it would seem, come from meanings we
have created and recreated over the years, but
more on that as soon as I can sort out my
thoughts on the series.
If you watch the video below, as always I would
love to know your thoughts. Many like to think
they know where to draw lines, but I have to
wonder what they are basing their choices on
and, if indeed, it is in the interest of the
many or if it really is just for a few.
a PBS Series called God In America. There is
so much to say about the series, and once I
have completed watching, I will be posting about
it and my experience of it.
In the meantime, in viewing it, I became aware
of the talk below. I thought it eloquent and
very clear in its communication. Many of our
problems, it would seem, come from meanings we
have created and recreated over the years, but
more on that as soon as I can sort out my
thoughts on the series.
If you watch the video below, as always I would
love to know your thoughts. Many like to think
they know where to draw lines, but I have to
wonder what they are basing their choices on
and, if indeed, it is in the interest of the
many or if it really is just for a few.
Saturday, October 16, 2010
The Relationship Body
"When you find your husband..(sic)
you have to be willing lose
yourself to become one with
him. Its (sic) not just YOU
anymore. Its US."
- AngelaSimmons on Twitter
I find it amazing how many
people believe this idea,
but then again enough people
say enough things at the
"right" time and those ideas
prevail.
Of course everyone is entitled
to his or her opinion, but I
have to wonder why people don't
consider that one can still
maintain oneself within the
body of a relationship.
To me, it's kinda like a physical
body. It has distinct parts.
Arms. Legs. Head. And so on.
And each part has parts.
Each part has a distinct role
within the body, and while
occasionally parts can play
other roles, the body has a
master design that works for
a majority of people.
Of course if an arm or a leg
was trying to be off doing
its own thing, it could be
trouble for the body. However,
for many the arm and the leg
function as it should, and
within the context of the body.
It keeps its role without
losing itself and maintains
itself within the overall
framework that has been
created.
Might it not make sense to
consider relationships in this
context? Perhaps one does not
need to lose oneself as much as
one might need to respect the
relationship "body."
Just a couple of my cents,
with inflation, who knows
what they're worth? But
they're yours to do with
what you will. :)
Have a great night.
you have to be willing lose
yourself to become one with
him. Its (sic) not just YOU
anymore. Its US."
- AngelaSimmons on Twitter
I find it amazing how many
people believe this idea,
but then again enough people
say enough things at the
"right" time and those ideas
prevail.
Of course everyone is entitled
to his or her opinion, but I
have to wonder why people don't
consider that one can still
maintain oneself within the
body of a relationship.
To me, it's kinda like a physical
body. It has distinct parts.
Arms. Legs. Head. And so on.
And each part has parts.
Each part has a distinct role
within the body, and while
occasionally parts can play
other roles, the body has a
master design that works for
a majority of people.
Of course if an arm or a leg
was trying to be off doing
its own thing, it could be
trouble for the body. However,
for many the arm and the leg
function as it should, and
within the context of the body.
It keeps its role without
losing itself and maintains
itself within the overall
framework that has been
created.
Might it not make sense to
consider relationships in this
context? Perhaps one does not
need to lose oneself as much as
one might need to respect the
relationship "body."
Just a couple of my cents,
with inflation, who knows
what they're worth? But
they're yours to do with
what you will. :)
Have a great night.
No Instruments? No Problem. | Video
The environment on the subways of NYC is certainly
one of many things and experiences.
I have many stories of time spent commuting
when I lived there. Some things were anything
but desirable, while others were downright
awesome. This video seems to have filmed one
of those pretty awesome ones (although I
imagine there could have been some who felt
assaulted, as can happen with unwanted
"entertainment.")
It is also a great story. Funny how
sometimes we get more attention when
things are less than "perfect." Good
for these guys that they didn't easily
give up. Who knows what's next? But
it looks like they're having some fun
along the way, despite the pretty big
bump in the road.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Quite a Feat | Tunnel | Video
So today there was notable news around
the Alps. Apparently when all is said
and done, they will have the longest
tunnel in the world.
It is being built as a way to keep the
roads clear, as well as provide a
railway for freight trains and passenger
trains, as well.
Is it just me, or does anyone else
wonder if things like this are a good
thing?
It kind of reminds me of someone who
has a small house, and has a few things.
They get a few more things, and a few
more until they need to eventually get
a new house to fit all of their things.
Of course another option would be to
get rid of some things, but most opt
at least metaphorically to take up
more space. Each time the available
space is used up, a bigger place is
required.
We don't often think about running out
of space, as the mentality often is that
we can always do, get, be more.
What happens when the roadway and the
tracks aren't enough? What's next?
When does there's always more become
no more?
the Alps. Apparently when all is said
and done, they will have the longest
tunnel in the world.
It is being built as a way to keep the
roads clear, as well as provide a
railway for freight trains and passenger
trains, as well.
Is it just me, or does anyone else
wonder if things like this are a good
thing?
It kind of reminds me of someone who
has a small house, and has a few things.
They get a few more things, and a few
more until they need to eventually get
a new house to fit all of their things.
Of course another option would be to
get rid of some things, but most opt
at least metaphorically to take up
more space. Each time the available
space is used up, a bigger place is
required.
We don't often think about running out
of space, as the mentality often is that
we can always do, get, be more.
What happens when the roadway and the
tracks aren't enough? What's next?
When does there's always more become
no more?
It Gets Better...? | About Being Who You Are | Video
With the recent number of deaths of
teens who have been bullied, there
has been an outpouring of videos that
speak to how "it gets better."
Most of the cases have been children
who are GLBT, however it isn't universal
as bullying in general seems to be a
big problem.
What I find interesting about all of
those who are speaking to how it gets
better is that even though they are
talking about issues that relate to
not fitting in and being bullied in
regard to being GLBT, but it the
message fits for more than just them.
It fits for so many who don't feel
like they fit, or made to believe
that they are a misfit in some way.
There are things about myself that I
used to want to hide when I was
growing up...things that made me
different...things that I now revel
in because they are the things that
make me, ME.
It has taken time to find that
perspective, and to appreciate who
I am, and sadly the kids who take
their own lives will never get a
chance to see how wonderful their
uniqueness truly is.
Many adults - as good as they may
say life comes to be - even struggle
to be who they truly are. For some,
the stigma may have faded, but the
scars remain. For others, there is
a constant struggle to stay within
the range of what is considered the
norm and acceptable.
While I do not have statistics, I
am fairly certain that the problems
highlighted by these recent events
are not unique to a particular
demographic. I am fairly certain
that lives are lost every day and
new pains inflicted everywhere -
we just don't hear about it all.
Being true to oneself is one of the
best things that we could ever do,
but it is also likely to be one of
the most difficult especially when
someone is in your face, tormenting
you. Is it no wonder that many
adults have difficulty being who
they truly are after a foundation
of being told that who they are is
not good, right, perfect, etc...?
Who we are is built on the foundation
what has come before. If we are
unable or unwilling to discover what
is in that unconscious foundation, we
just build over it and pretend that
everything is OK when it really isn't.
Every day I hear people tell me that
they want something that will
effectively cover up something they
don't like. Often they don't realize
that that approach won't net them what
they want, and might likely cause more
problems.
So the adults have issues that haven't
been dealt with, and the adults are in
some ways no better equipped to deal
with things than their kids. We are
taught many things in school, but not
taught about ourselves.
My heart goes out to anyone who is, or
has been, affected by bullying of any
sort, for any reason. It just goes to
show we have a long way to go...and
very little to go on to get there.
While programs like "It Gets Better"
are not likely to stop the crisis,
every little bit can help as conversation
helps to create an awareness, and with
awareness comes opportunity.
Below is the video that prompted today's
thoughts. If you have the time, consider
watching, and see if there is anything
you might get out of it for yourself, or
someone you care about.
teens who have been bullied, there
has been an outpouring of videos that
speak to how "it gets better."
Most of the cases have been children
who are GLBT, however it isn't universal
as bullying in general seems to be a
big problem.
What I find interesting about all of
those who are speaking to how it gets
better is that even though they are
talking about issues that relate to
not fitting in and being bullied in
regard to being GLBT, but it the
message fits for more than just them.
It fits for so many who don't feel
like they fit, or made to believe
that they are a misfit in some way.
There are things about myself that I
used to want to hide when I was
growing up...things that made me
different...things that I now revel
in because they are the things that
make me, ME.
It has taken time to find that
perspective, and to appreciate who
I am, and sadly the kids who take
their own lives will never get a
chance to see how wonderful their
uniqueness truly is.
Many adults - as good as they may
say life comes to be - even struggle
to be who they truly are. For some,
the stigma may have faded, but the
scars remain. For others, there is
a constant struggle to stay within
the range of what is considered the
norm and acceptable.
While I do not have statistics, I
am fairly certain that the problems
highlighted by these recent events
are not unique to a particular
demographic. I am fairly certain
that lives are lost every day and
new pains inflicted everywhere -
we just don't hear about it all.
Being true to oneself is one of the
best things that we could ever do,
but it is also likely to be one of
the most difficult especially when
someone is in your face, tormenting
you. Is it no wonder that many
adults have difficulty being who
they truly are after a foundation
of being told that who they are is
not good, right, perfect, etc...?
Who we are is built on the foundation
what has come before. If we are
unable or unwilling to discover what
is in that unconscious foundation, we
just build over it and pretend that
everything is OK when it really isn't.
Every day I hear people tell me that
they want something that will
effectively cover up something they
don't like. Often they don't realize
that that approach won't net them what
they want, and might likely cause more
problems.
So the adults have issues that haven't
been dealt with, and the adults are in
some ways no better equipped to deal
with things than their kids. We are
taught many things in school, but not
taught about ourselves.
My heart goes out to anyone who is, or
has been, affected by bullying of any
sort, for any reason. It just goes to
show we have a long way to go...and
very little to go on to get there.
While programs like "It Gets Better"
are not likely to stop the crisis,
every little bit can help as conversation
helps to create an awareness, and with
awareness comes opportunity.
Below is the video that prompted today's
thoughts. If you have the time, consider
watching, and see if there is anything
you might get out of it for yourself, or
someone you care about.
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On Questioning the Labels & Silencing the Opposition
Bill O'Reilly has reportedly said,
"The truth is that if moderate
Muslims all over the world would
stand with Americans against
radical Islam, the terrorists
couldn't exist. But obviously,
that is not happening."
I heard about his appearance on
The View, and how there was much
controversy over his handling of
the subject of Muslims. For some
reason, I didn't want to be drawn
into the drama, so I didn't pay
much attention at first.
However today I saw the above
comment, and that stood out as
something to address. As with
many things, there are complicated
webs that we weave around them,
and it is often very easy to lose
sight of the things that we should
truly be addressing.
So while the issue may seem to be
about one thing, it might actually
be about something else, and while
there is indeed a bigger conversation
to be had in regard to the topic,
that is not my intention here.
My intention is to look at the above
statement - and question it in a
broader way. I am not sure how he
thinks that a matter can just be
handled in the manner that he seems
to think it can be.
Just because we don't want things in
our world doesn't mean that others
agree. It also doesn't mean that
they can be stopped from their
expression, whether it is violent,
or otherwise - much to the chagrin of
almost any human being who is passionate
about something.
Yes, we can collectively work together,
but there will always be someone labelled
similarly to us, who will vary from us.
Given human nature, one might make broad,
sweeping statements about the label that
are unfair and unjustified in some cases.
It can go either way - making the "good"
look "bad" or the "bad" look "good."
There are those who would be quick to label
me, and what I do as an erotic hypnotist, as
"bad," but they would likely be people who
have no clue who I am. Those who have
taken the time to get to know who I am know
that I have the best interest of those I
speak to at heart, and it's not an illusion
or a manipulative ploy.
However, someone who lumped me into the
bunch of "bad" people would likely have
little desire to get to know the real me
and how I may vary from their preconceived
notions.
It is that willingness to label and box in
people and situations that will get us into
trouble more times than not. When people
speak, others listen.
Bill O'Reilly may have a point that needs
to be heard and addressed, but the problem
is that it may be lost when there are
sweeping statements that are made that
cause others to get riled up in unhelpful
ways.
People don't always do what we want them to
do, or speak the way we think they should,
and in some ways, that can be a good thing -
as long as we continue to think for ourselves
in the process, and be careful about reacting
to the things we think we know.
I realize in today's world that is a tricky
proposition, however, if the way we choose to
interact with it is by addressing how we
silence the perceived opposition (which could
include the radical Islamists or Bill O'Reillys
of the world), rather than finding a way to
interact with them, we will have a much bigger
problem on our hands.
It might be worth considering that the
opposition isn't our enemy, as much as the
silence is.
It also may be worthy of note that trying to
silence a perceived problem by trying to
stamp it out rarely - if ever - works.
Just ask King George III.
"The truth is that if moderate
Muslims all over the world would
stand with Americans against
radical Islam, the terrorists
couldn't exist. But obviously,
that is not happening."
I heard about his appearance on
The View, and how there was much
controversy over his handling of
the subject of Muslims. For some
reason, I didn't want to be drawn
into the drama, so I didn't pay
much attention at first.
However today I saw the above
comment, and that stood out as
something to address. As with
many things, there are complicated
webs that we weave around them,
and it is often very easy to lose
sight of the things that we should
truly be addressing.
So while the issue may seem to be
about one thing, it might actually
be about something else, and while
there is indeed a bigger conversation
to be had in regard to the topic,
that is not my intention here.
My intention is to look at the above
statement - and question it in a
broader way. I am not sure how he
thinks that a matter can just be
handled in the manner that he seems
to think it can be.
Just because we don't want things in
our world doesn't mean that others
agree. It also doesn't mean that
they can be stopped from their
expression, whether it is violent,
or otherwise - much to the chagrin of
almost any human being who is passionate
about something.
Yes, we can collectively work together,
but there will always be someone labelled
similarly to us, who will vary from us.
Given human nature, one might make broad,
sweeping statements about the label that
are unfair and unjustified in some cases.
It can go either way - making the "good"
look "bad" or the "bad" look "good."
There are those who would be quick to label
me, and what I do as an erotic hypnotist, as
"bad," but they would likely be people who
have no clue who I am. Those who have
taken the time to get to know who I am know
that I have the best interest of those I
speak to at heart, and it's not an illusion
or a manipulative ploy.
However, someone who lumped me into the
bunch of "bad" people would likely have
little desire to get to know the real me
and how I may vary from their preconceived
notions.
It is that willingness to label and box in
people and situations that will get us into
trouble more times than not. When people
speak, others listen.
Bill O'Reilly may have a point that needs
to be heard and addressed, but the problem
is that it may be lost when there are
sweeping statements that are made that
cause others to get riled up in unhelpful
ways.
People don't always do what we want them to
do, or speak the way we think they should,
and in some ways, that can be a good thing -
as long as we continue to think for ourselves
in the process, and be careful about reacting
to the things we think we know.
I realize in today's world that is a tricky
proposition, however, if the way we choose to
interact with it is by addressing how we
silence the perceived opposition (which could
include the radical Islamists or Bill O'Reillys
of the world), rather than finding a way to
interact with them, we will have a much bigger
problem on our hands.
It might be worth considering that the
opposition isn't our enemy, as much as the
silence is.
It also may be worthy of note that trying to
silence a perceived problem by trying to
stamp it out rarely - if ever - works.
Just ask King George III.
Cutting Deep?
I was chatting with someone tonight
who said, "You have a voice and tone
that could cut deep into one's soul."
WoW.
who said, "You have a voice and tone
that could cut deep into one's soul."
WoW.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Hypnotic Treat
here is an early treat.
Perfect Hypnotic Necklace
Hypnotic Animation
Cleavage
Red Tank Top & Black Bra
Be mesmerized and enjoy this file :)
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Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Truth, Lies, Acceptance and Respect
Gavin Rossdale has admitted to being with a man.
Apparently, his wife Gwen Stefani didn't know
to what extent.
I hope when everything is said and done all will
be well between the two of them. I know many
people who would prefer the truth to a lie, but
not all would be truly OK with truth, which is
what often leads people to lie.
It is most unfortunate that people feel the need
to lie about things so that they can be accepted.
In Gavin's case, he probably figured it was the
past, and didn't want it to influence his present
possibilities. To some degree, in the culture in
which we live it would seem to make sense to cover
that tidbit up. However the question becomes
which is worse: the lie or what happened?
As for myself, I like to know what I am walking
into. If one truly has a love and respect for
another, much is possible, and sometimes the
things that happen for me are what others would
deem impossible.
Until we as a culture of people can find a way
to embrace people for the whole of who they are,
we unfortunately should expect situations like
these. The irony is, though, that even though
there are some that are more open and accepting
than others, we've been trained to believe
otherwise.
So many times I will say something, and mean it,
and I am still treated as though I said something
else, or that I couldn't possibly mean what I
have said, or that it must be a trick or a
manipulation. After all, that is a ploy that
is used by some - who aren't telling the truth,
either.
In a world with respect, we will respect each
other enough to tell the truth, AND respect the
other enough to choose what works for them, even
if it's not what we would like, want, or hope for.
In my estimation, anything less is to some degree
swimming against the tide and forfeiting a part of
ourself and those we love and care about. Is it
OK? That is only for you to decide. Everything
has a cost.
In the end, is it worth it?
Apparently, his wife Gwen Stefani didn't know
to what extent.
I hope when everything is said and done all will
be well between the two of them. I know many
people who would prefer the truth to a lie, but
not all would be truly OK with truth, which is
what often leads people to lie.
It is most unfortunate that people feel the need
to lie about things so that they can be accepted.
In Gavin's case, he probably figured it was the
past, and didn't want it to influence his present
possibilities. To some degree, in the culture in
which we live it would seem to make sense to cover
that tidbit up. However the question becomes
which is worse: the lie or what happened?
As for myself, I like to know what I am walking
into. If one truly has a love and respect for
another, much is possible, and sometimes the
things that happen for me are what others would
deem impossible.
Until we as a culture of people can find a way
to embrace people for the whole of who they are,
we unfortunately should expect situations like
these. The irony is, though, that even though
there are some that are more open and accepting
than others, we've been trained to believe
otherwise.
So many times I will say something, and mean it,
and I am still treated as though I said something
else, or that I couldn't possibly mean what I
have said, or that it must be a trick or a
manipulation. After all, that is a ploy that
is used by some - who aren't telling the truth,
either.
In a world with respect, we will respect each
other enough to tell the truth, AND respect the
other enough to choose what works for them, even
if it's not what we would like, want, or hope for.
In my estimation, anything less is to some degree
swimming against the tide and forfeiting a part of
ourself and those we love and care about. Is it
OK? That is only for you to decide. Everything
has a cost.
In the end, is it worth it?
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Knowing When to Say When Vs Til Death Do We Part
Courtney Cox and David Arquette have split up.
Have you heard? Odds are most anyone reading
this couldn't care less about what the two of
them do, or don't do.
However, I found it interesting to see the
reaction of people to David's statements on
the Howard Stern Show.
What I find interesting is people judging
David and Courtney's reaction to each other.
I suppose there is no surprise there, given
how much people tend to judge.
However, what I experience when I read the
details are two people who seem to care very
much about each other as well as themselves.
Some might call that selfish, and label it
a bad thing.
The problem, as I see it, is that when one
starts to say "This is what's WRONG with you,"
it is never productive and can often lead
to potential stifling behavior. If it is
kept up long enough it can lead to passive
aggressive behavior, resentment, and other
types of things that aren't necessarily
healthy or helpful to an individual, or
a relationship.
I see what they are doing as quite healthy,
as it is allowing the other to be who the
other wants to be for their own best well
being and happiness. Yes, relationships
involve some level of compromise, but if
in the process of compromising, a person
is compromised, the relationship also will
also likely be, ultimately.
In a relationship, a person has various
options to interact with the other person,
none of which involves changing the other's
habits or personality. It all needs to
come from within, and while perspective
shifts can happen, they often don't, and
it's not necessarily because either party
is selfish. It might be that it's just
time to make a change.
Yes, relationships take work, but there
comes a time for some that "working on it"
ceases to work any more. When that happens,
the two people involved can love each other
enough to know that the time has come to
love one another at a distance, and that
can be the greatest gift of love that anyone
could ever give.
Have you heard? Odds are most anyone reading
this couldn't care less about what the two of
them do, or don't do.
However, I found it interesting to see the
reaction of people to David's statements on
the Howard Stern Show.
What I find interesting is people judging
David and Courtney's reaction to each other.
I suppose there is no surprise there, given
how much people tend to judge.
However, what I experience when I read the
details are two people who seem to care very
much about each other as well as themselves.
Some might call that selfish, and label it
a bad thing.
The problem, as I see it, is that when one
starts to say "This is what's WRONG with you,"
it is never productive and can often lead
to potential stifling behavior. If it is
kept up long enough it can lead to passive
aggressive behavior, resentment, and other
types of things that aren't necessarily
healthy or helpful to an individual, or
a relationship.
I see what they are doing as quite healthy,
as it is allowing the other to be who the
other wants to be for their own best well
being and happiness. Yes, relationships
involve some level of compromise, but if
in the process of compromising, a person
is compromised, the relationship also will
also likely be, ultimately.
In a relationship, a person has various
options to interact with the other person,
none of which involves changing the other's
habits or personality. It all needs to
come from within, and while perspective
shifts can happen, they often don't, and
it's not necessarily because either party
is selfish. It might be that it's just
time to make a change.
Yes, relationships take work, but there
comes a time for some that "working on it"
ceases to work any more. When that happens,
the two people involved can love each other
enough to know that the time has come to
love one another at a distance, and that
can be the greatest gift of love that anyone
could ever give.
The Power of Association: The GAP Scrap
Recently GAP decided to change their logo,
and the discontent and uprising that resulted
was huge that they changed their mind.
Some may wonder why the big reaction.
Certainly in a world that faces many
significant issues, one might wonder
why a changed graphic would elicit
such a response.
Marketers and advertisers will tell
you that it has to do with the meaning
that the logo has for those who are
interested in the brand, and it would
seem to be correct.
However, it cuts even deeper than
what that sounds like. After all,
where does the meaning come from?
Likely some unconscious place.
The unconscious likes the sameness of
things. It never wants to mess with
the comfort of the status quo.
When people react in the way they did
with GAP, what they likely don't
realize is that, despite what they're
saying and may believe, their actions
are dictated by the part of them that
wants to stay stuck in the known.
I have to wonder if people realized
that happened if they would continue
to respond to things as they do, or
if they would better be able to put
the use of their energies and attentions
into perspective with the other things
in the world.
It is much more powerful to act than
react. I'd be willing to bet that
most who responded to the news
reacted, and the reason I say this
is because if one takes a step back,
s/he would realize that in the grand
scheme of things, it doesn't really
matter what the graphic looks like.
Whatever meaning has been assigned to
the graphic should still hold true
for the brand that these people
appreciate, regardless of how it is
packaged.
Is it no wonder that companies and
brands spend millions on something
we can often unconsciously manipulated by?
and the discontent and uprising that resulted
was huge that they changed their mind.
Some may wonder why the big reaction.
Certainly in a world that faces many
significant issues, one might wonder
why a changed graphic would elicit
such a response.
Marketers and advertisers will tell
you that it has to do with the meaning
that the logo has for those who are
interested in the brand, and it would
seem to be correct.
However, it cuts even deeper than
what that sounds like. After all,
where does the meaning come from?
Likely some unconscious place.
The unconscious likes the sameness of
things. It never wants to mess with
the comfort of the status quo.
When people react in the way they did
with GAP, what they likely don't
realize is that, despite what they're
saying and may believe, their actions
are dictated by the part of them that
wants to stay stuck in the known.
I have to wonder if people realized
that happened if they would continue
to respond to things as they do, or
if they would better be able to put
the use of their energies and attentions
into perspective with the other things
in the world.
It is much more powerful to act than
react. I'd be willing to bet that
most who responded to the news
reacted, and the reason I say this
is because if one takes a step back,
s/he would realize that in the grand
scheme of things, it doesn't really
matter what the graphic looks like.
Whatever meaning has been assigned to
the graphic should still hold true
for the brand that these people
appreciate, regardless of how it is
packaged.
Is it no wonder that companies and
brands spend millions on something
we can often unconsciously manipulated by?
Monday, October 11, 2010
Thursday, October 7, 2010
So you think you know...do you?
Recently someone told me that he didn't
know what to tell someone in regard to
a situation, and he was quite frustrated
because it was apparent that the other
person wanted to talk.
I asked if he knew what the other person
wanted to talk about, and he had some
idea, and speculated about what the
details could be. Based on what he
speculated, he wasn't sure what could
be said.
The fact was while he had some idea, he
didn't really KNOW what the other person
would say, and because of that he truly
didn't know that he didn't know what to
say. Had he been willing to have a
conversation with the person (and at the
time he wasn't) he might have discovered
that he would uncover exactly what needed
to be said because the interaction with
the other person would have brought to
the conversation whatever needed to be
discussed.
The interaction would have been like
a scientific experiment. It would
have brought two things together into
something with a different characteristic
than the two things have when separate.
Not knowing what that would be (as organic
as situations like that can be), one
could only guess at what might be the
outcome, and quite possibly be incorrect.
It is interesting to think we know things
when we really don't. Even more interesting
is to jump into these situations with an
open mind and without any particular
expectation. One never knows what can
happen in cases like that. Granted, that
is the fear that holds people back, but is
also the possibility of something wonderful,
as well.
So the next time you think you know something
and it holds you back or frustrates you,
consider that you may not know anything at all,
or that what you "know" is taking you to the
wrong destination because the information (or
interpretation of the information) is faulty.
For those of you who are perfectionists
and/or those of you who have to have
everything figured out, this will quite
possibly be a challenge to do. I promise
you, though, if you listen to your heart
and let it lead it will help out that head
of yours, should you be willing to take
the leap.
By the way, I know *wink* what I am talking
about, as I used to be one of those types
of people. I still have my moments, but
I have been amazed how walking into a
situation without everything figured out
can net some wonderful results.
As always, just a little something to
consider as you wind your way through life.
know what to tell someone in regard to
a situation, and he was quite frustrated
because it was apparent that the other
person wanted to talk.
I asked if he knew what the other person
wanted to talk about, and he had some
idea, and speculated about what the
details could be. Based on what he
speculated, he wasn't sure what could
be said.
The fact was while he had some idea, he
didn't really KNOW what the other person
would say, and because of that he truly
didn't know that he didn't know what to
say. Had he been willing to have a
conversation with the person (and at the
time he wasn't) he might have discovered
that he would uncover exactly what needed
to be said because the interaction with
the other person would have brought to
the conversation whatever needed to be
discussed.
The interaction would have been like
a scientific experiment. It would
have brought two things together into
something with a different characteristic
than the two things have when separate.
Not knowing what that would be (as organic
as situations like that can be), one
could only guess at what might be the
outcome, and quite possibly be incorrect.
It is interesting to think we know things
when we really don't. Even more interesting
is to jump into these situations with an
open mind and without any particular
expectation. One never knows what can
happen in cases like that. Granted, that
is the fear that holds people back, but is
also the possibility of something wonderful,
as well.
So the next time you think you know something
and it holds you back or frustrates you,
consider that you may not know anything at all,
or that what you "know" is taking you to the
wrong destination because the information (or
interpretation of the information) is faulty.
For those of you who are perfectionists
and/or those of you who have to have
everything figured out, this will quite
possibly be a challenge to do. I promise
you, though, if you listen to your heart
and let it lead it will help out that head
of yours, should you be willing to take
the leap.
By the way, I know *wink* what I am talking
about, as I used to be one of those types
of people. I still have my moments, but
I have been amazed how walking into a
situation without everything figured out
can net some wonderful results.
As always, just a little something to
consider as you wind your way through life.
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Sometimes I wonder...
As I go through my day sometimes I wonder
as I hear guys around me speak, if they
might ever have called me for erotic
hypnosis.
Odds are, it's a long shot. However, I
can't help but wonder how many men that
I see have that "secret" side to them
that involves phone sex, or anything
along the lines of what I do.
Given my experience, I am guessing many
more than I ever even gave a moment's
thought to before I ever began to do
this type of work. In very much the
same way that I never really thought
too much about what the men I worked
with were thinking about me and my
cleavage and legs behind the "closed
doors" of their mind.
I find myself wondering sometimes if
others who are in this environment in
some way, shape, or form have the same
thoughts.
I recently spoke with two callers who
happened to be in the same city the
same night and for the same time frame.
I didn't ask what for. However I found
it intriguing to consider that these
two men who consider themselves my
good boy may have been within the
same proximity, and could have even
have spoken with each other.
Just some of the odd things that wander
into my mind, especially late at night...
as I hear guys around me speak, if they
might ever have called me for erotic
hypnosis.
Odds are, it's a long shot. However, I
can't help but wonder how many men that
I see have that "secret" side to them
that involves phone sex, or anything
along the lines of what I do.
Given my experience, I am guessing many
more than I ever even gave a moment's
thought to before I ever began to do
this type of work. In very much the
same way that I never really thought
too much about what the men I worked
with were thinking about me and my
cleavage and legs behind the "closed
doors" of their mind.
I find myself wondering sometimes if
others who are in this environment in
some way, shape, or form have the same
thoughts.
I recently spoke with two callers who
happened to be in the same city the
same night and for the same time frame.
I didn't ask what for. However I found
it intriguing to consider that these
two men who consider themselves my
good boy may have been within the
same proximity, and could have even
have spoken with each other.
Just some of the odd things that wander
into my mind, especially late at night...
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