Saturday, April 30, 2011
Friday, April 29, 2011
Maybe you can relate? | Video
In the following song about a relationship
that ended is the lyric, "I know my heart
will never be the same, but I'm telling
myself I'll be okay."
I think it is interesting to consider that
one's heart not being the same is something
of concern. Yes we get disappointed and
sad, and our heart breaks, and our heart
will never be the same, but it is those
experiences that give us some of our more
precious gifts.
We learn about ourselves, we learn what
we want, don't want, what we are willing
to put up with. We gain invaluable
experience. Our experiences create a
heart that is an artwork that is a work
in progress.
There is much about love and relationships
that make no sense. In a world in which
many people want to control and understand
things, works of heart certainly can
wreak their own kind of havoc.
Sara also talks about "getting stronger."
I would say that could be interpreted in
more than one way. In one regard it could
be getting stronger and better able to get
past what hurts. In another, it could also
be that our experiences have a way of making
us stronger as a person as a whole.
Sometimes it is the layers though that
give a work its character, and if you let
them, they will make life more beautiful
than ever before, and you will find a
better love than you ever imagined.
As always, a lot more easily said than
done - especially in the midst of
heartbreak. However, as sucky as the
moment may seem...one way or another
life goes on one breath at a time.
that ended is the lyric, "I know my heart
will never be the same, but I'm telling
myself I'll be okay."
I think it is interesting to consider that
one's heart not being the same is something
of concern. Yes we get disappointed and
sad, and our heart breaks, and our heart
will never be the same, but it is those
experiences that give us some of our more
precious gifts.
We learn about ourselves, we learn what
we want, don't want, what we are willing
to put up with. We gain invaluable
experience. Our experiences create a
heart that is an artwork that is a work
in progress.
There is much about love and relationships
that make no sense. In a world in which
many people want to control and understand
things, works of heart certainly can
wreak their own kind of havoc.
Sara also talks about "getting stronger."
I would say that could be interpreted in
more than one way. In one regard it could
be getting stronger and better able to get
past what hurts. In another, it could also
be that our experiences have a way of making
us stronger as a person as a whole.
Sometimes it is the layers though that
give a work its character, and if you let
them, they will make life more beautiful
than ever before, and you will find a
better love than you ever imagined.
As always, a lot more easily said than
done - especially in the midst of
heartbreak. However, as sucky as the
moment may seem...one way or another
life goes on one breath at a time.
Thursday, April 28, 2011
The 100/0 Principle | Video
I heard about the 100/0 Principle today, a
principle presented in a book by Al Ritter.
I would imagine that many will find his
way of looking at relationships questionable.
After all, there is the thought that relationships
should be 50/50. Oddly enough, I don't know
any that are even close to 50/50.
I think relationships are give and take,
and depending on what's going on there may
be more give than take or more take than give.
However it is the unique equation between the
two who are relating that makes it work, or not.
Al suggests that we take 100% responsibility
for the relationships we are in, and expect
nothing back. In his book he quote Tony Robbins:
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships
come from the fact that most people enter a
relationship to get something: They're trying
to find someone who's going to make them feel
good. In reality, the only way a relationship
will last is if you see your relationship as a
place that you go to give, and not a place you
go to take."
I have not yet read the book, but you can read
a sample here, and for today, the book is only
$10, and they throw in an additional one for
free. Don't want 2? Then buy something else,
and you'll get the book for free.
I have nothing to gain from you buying it, just
in case you are wondering. I just thought there
might be some who would read this, and might
find the idea to be of interest.
In the end, he suggests that there is a paradox
with a 100/0 relationship. The paradox, it
would seem, is that when one person acts in
this manner, the other person seems to get
there, too.
Here's a short promo video:
See what you think. If you get the book, I'd
love to know your thoughts/impressions.
Have a great day!
Isis
principle presented in a book by Al Ritter.
I would imagine that many will find his
way of looking at relationships questionable.
After all, there is the thought that relationships
should be 50/50. Oddly enough, I don't know
any that are even close to 50/50.
I think relationships are give and take,
and depending on what's going on there may
be more give than take or more take than give.
However it is the unique equation between the
two who are relating that makes it work, or not.
Al suggests that we take 100% responsibility
for the relationships we are in, and expect
nothing back. In his book he quote Tony Robbins:
"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships
come from the fact that most people enter a
relationship to get something: They're trying
to find someone who's going to make them feel
good. In reality, the only way a relationship
will last is if you see your relationship as a
place that you go to give, and not a place you
go to take."
I have not yet read the book, but you can read
a sample here, and for today, the book is only
$10, and they throw in an additional one for
free. Don't want 2? Then buy something else,
and you'll get the book for free.
I have nothing to gain from you buying it, just
in case you are wondering. I just thought there
might be some who would read this, and might
find the idea to be of interest.
In the end, he suggests that there is a paradox
with a 100/0 relationship. The paradox, it
would seem, is that when one person acts in
this manner, the other person seems to get
there, too.
Here's a short promo video:
See what you think. If you get the book, I'd
love to know your thoughts/impressions.
Have a great day!
Isis
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Earth as a Work of Art
image from Nasa
The above image is from a
series of 20 photographs from Space.
They're interesting to look at for
a number of reasons. There is one
that shows icebergs and they look
like little dots. I am sure they
are much more significant than the
picture could let on.
Perspective does have a way of
making the small large and the
large small, doesn't it?
What if...
we were born to a world without other
people? I know it's impossible to
consider at this stage in the game,
but what if.
If there were no other people there
would be no expectations. There
would be - in some ways - a blank
slate. We could do whatever we
wanted to do. I would have to
wonder if we would even know what
disappointment was...because how
would we know that what was wasn't
exactly how it should be.
How would we know sadness?
As I write, I am formulating this
"conversation," as it is difficult
to conceptualize what life would
be without another's influence,
as we are subject to others'
influences from the first moment
of life...and perhaps even before.
I think about things like this
sometimes because actions of those
I speak with are often influenced
by what others around them will
think.
There is zero judgment regarding
this, as I, too, am subject to the
same type of potential restriction.
I am not in any way exempt.
When I was in my teens I had a
conversation with someone about
appearances. The person I was
speaking with was trying to
convince me that if I was coming
out of a bar it might appear that
I was drinking. After all, for
most what does a person do in a
bar, if not drink?
I responded by saying that I
wasn't drinking, and what did
I care what someone thought.
She decided to try another approach.
She was a married woman. She said
what would it be like for her to
go out with a single man? My
response was what would it matter?
If she and he knew nothing was
awry, why should anyone care?
I look back on that conversation,
and I think about how the differences
in our approaches may have had something
to do with "adult" sensibilities.
As an adult, perhaps, we can see how
another's perception of who we are
can alter our world, and potentially
limit what we are able to do.
As a result, we limit ourselves first.
In speaking with someone recently,
I was saying that I wonder if I could
consider choices in isolation of others'
judgments if I would do things differently.
I was thinking of something in particular,
and it would be a case of I know what I
was doing and what I wasn't doing, but
if someone had a different perception,
or perhaps even judged what I thought
was OK as not OK in their experience, I
couldn't help but wonder what the net
effect could possibly be.
One who might consider himself or herself
wise might be wise to consider what one
does before acting on it, as there could
be unpleasant consequences.
But what does that ultimately cost us?
Those things we hold back on...might they
be things that would make a difference
for those in our lives and others in our
extended world family if they were to
be acted on? Might they make a difference
for the most important person in your
life - YOU?
I speak as a person who is quite often
the "odd" one, so I know what it is like
to try to walk on that tightrope. Often
my opinions and thoughts will vary from
those around me, and it isn't an easy
place to stand. When in Rome, do as the
Romans do, or get kicked out.
However the thing I have noticed is that
the more I am willing to take a stand
and be different - even in the difficulty -
the more it seems to help others be who
they want to be, and I think that is
pretty awesome.
We seem to need permission to be ourselves.
Unfortunately (or fortunately?) the only
person around who can do that for us, is us.
But watching and observing and interacting
with others can often help to prompt us to
act on what we already know.
Maybe it is good that we have others around.
Maybe it helps us to realize what is
important to us because to be OK with it
we have to take a stand.
I don't know that that is the case, but...
if we're going to have to be in a dynamic,
we might as well make it mean something
good and empowering, don't you think?
So while you are out living your life,
trying to figure out what the right thing
to do is, caring about what others may
think and how others may react, remember
that there are others who are attempting
to do the very same thing.
The more we can give people the freedom
to be themselves, the less likely we will
have to hide - or deny - parts of ourselves.
Also consider that while you may think you
know someone or something by appearance,
you may not have a clue. Consider that
judgments often come from who we think a
person is, rather than who s/he truly is.
If you're going to stand in judgment of
another, at least have your facts straight.
But better yet, see what you can do about
refraining from a judgment. What difference
does it make to anyone else if I was in a
bar drinking or a married woman goes out
with a single man?
Yes. I realize there are a whole bunch of
societal pieces and questions that can be
attached to those questions, but if you
feel compelled to be involved, then at
least do everyone a favor and "get your
facts straight" so that you are at least
responding to what is, and not what you
have created it to be in your own mind.
What do you think? Do you feel judged?
Do you judge? Do the judgments have a
bottom line effect?
people? I know it's impossible to
consider at this stage in the game,
but what if.
If there were no other people there
would be no expectations. There
would be - in some ways - a blank
slate. We could do whatever we
wanted to do. I would have to
wonder if we would even know what
disappointment was...because how
would we know that what was wasn't
exactly how it should be.
How would we know sadness?
As I write, I am formulating this
"conversation," as it is difficult
to conceptualize what life would
be without another's influence,
as we are subject to others'
influences from the first moment
of life...and perhaps even before.
I think about things like this
sometimes because actions of those
I speak with are often influenced
by what others around them will
think.
There is zero judgment regarding
this, as I, too, am subject to the
same type of potential restriction.
I am not in any way exempt.
When I was in my teens I had a
conversation with someone about
appearances. The person I was
speaking with was trying to
convince me that if I was coming
out of a bar it might appear that
I was drinking. After all, for
most what does a person do in a
bar, if not drink?
I responded by saying that I
wasn't drinking, and what did
I care what someone thought.
She decided to try another approach.
She was a married woman. She said
what would it be like for her to
go out with a single man? My
response was what would it matter?
If she and he knew nothing was
awry, why should anyone care?
I look back on that conversation,
and I think about how the differences
in our approaches may have had something
to do with "adult" sensibilities.
As an adult, perhaps, we can see how
another's perception of who we are
can alter our world, and potentially
limit what we are able to do.
As a result, we limit ourselves first.
In speaking with someone recently,
I was saying that I wonder if I could
consider choices in isolation of others'
judgments if I would do things differently.
I was thinking of something in particular,
and it would be a case of I know what I
was doing and what I wasn't doing, but
if someone had a different perception,
or perhaps even judged what I thought
was OK as not OK in their experience, I
couldn't help but wonder what the net
effect could possibly be.
One who might consider himself or herself
wise might be wise to consider what one
does before acting on it, as there could
be unpleasant consequences.
But what does that ultimately cost us?
Those things we hold back on...might they
be things that would make a difference
for those in our lives and others in our
extended world family if they were to
be acted on? Might they make a difference
for the most important person in your
life - YOU?
I speak as a person who is quite often
the "odd" one, so I know what it is like
to try to walk on that tightrope. Often
my opinions and thoughts will vary from
those around me, and it isn't an easy
place to stand. When in Rome, do as the
Romans do, or get kicked out.
However the thing I have noticed is that
the more I am willing to take a stand
and be different - even in the difficulty -
the more it seems to help others be who
they want to be, and I think that is
pretty awesome.
We seem to need permission to be ourselves.
Unfortunately (or fortunately?) the only
person around who can do that for us, is us.
But watching and observing and interacting
with others can often help to prompt us to
act on what we already know.
Maybe it is good that we have others around.
Maybe it helps us to realize what is
important to us because to be OK with it
we have to take a stand.
I don't know that that is the case, but...
if we're going to have to be in a dynamic,
we might as well make it mean something
good and empowering, don't you think?
So while you are out living your life,
trying to figure out what the right thing
to do is, caring about what others may
think and how others may react, remember
that there are others who are attempting
to do the very same thing.
The more we can give people the freedom
to be themselves, the less likely we will
have to hide - or deny - parts of ourselves.
Also consider that while you may think you
know someone or something by appearance,
you may not have a clue. Consider that
judgments often come from who we think a
person is, rather than who s/he truly is.
If you're going to stand in judgment of
another, at least have your facts straight.
But better yet, see what you can do about
refraining from a judgment. What difference
does it make to anyone else if I was in a
bar drinking or a married woman goes out
with a single man?
Yes. I realize there are a whole bunch of
societal pieces and questions that can be
attached to those questions, but if you
feel compelled to be involved, then at
least do everyone a favor and "get your
facts straight" so that you are at least
responding to what is, and not what you
have created it to be in your own mind.
What do you think? Do you feel judged?
Do you judge? Do the judgments have a
bottom line effect?
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
"Every day you don't do what's right... | Video
is a day that you've lost an option."
- quote from the following video
This video is quite profound.
I am certain there are those who would
make contrary arguments. I have to
wonder what is "true" in any regard.
How do we know if what is presented
here is true?
The fact is, we really don't.
However, something I would consider
equally factual is the fact that
since it could be true, it wouldn't
hurt us to consider that what is
being said is true, and find other
ways of doing things.
See what you think.
- quote from the following video
This video is quite profound.
I am certain there are those who would
make contrary arguments. I have to
wonder what is "true" in any regard.
How do we know if what is presented
here is true?
The fact is, we really don't.
However, something I would consider
equally factual is the fact that
since it could be true, it wouldn't
hurt us to consider that what is
being said is true, and find other
ways of doing things.
See what you think.
"Whatever."
I was talking to someone today about
something we don't see eye to eye on.
It is a difficult situation, as I
feel like the person isn't hearing
what I am saying. It is pretty
clear to me that there are all
kinds of meanings that are going
on behind the scenes that are creating
some of the conversational havoc.
During the conversation the person
said, "Whatever." You know how
good that sounds, don't you? It
totally strips away any value of
what you have just said. It basically
says that person perceives your
statement to have zero value.
In this case, I think it has perceived
zero value because it isn't a
perspective that can be understood
easily. It isn't to that person's
advantage to understand what was said,
because it could conceivably undermine
what they want and are trying to
accomplish.
When I said something about the
"whatever," I was met with "fine,"
whatever's sibling.
"Whatever" and "fine" often shut down
communications. They do not contribute
to any positive outcome. The other
person can be left defensive, and/or
feel the need to attack.
In my case, I took a step back, and
tried to figure out what to do/what
to say. At this point I am still
not sure what that will be. At least,
though, my biggest reaction is this
blog piece, sharing my thoughts with
you instead of reacting in a way that
could have likely only made matters
worse.
If you want to be heard, it would be
a good idea to say things in a way
that the other person can hear you.
When you say things like "whatever"
instead of how you really feel, or
instead of asking a question to
clarify, you are likely to get no
where fast. That is kind of ironic,
as well, as "whatever" usually comes
from the frustration of an outcome
that is going any way but the way
you want it to.
Want things to turn around? You'll
have a better chance of making that
happen if you are willing to ask
questions of yourself and the other
person. What is really going on?
Most times whatever it is has nothing
to do with what you think it does.
Uncover what "it" is, instead of
devaluing where the other person is,
and you will have a much better shot
at the outcome you want, or at the
very least come to a respectful
appreciation of the other person and
situation.
Sometimes your attempts at communication
will open up avenues of expression and
understanding between you and the other
person. Often it might feel safer to
shut down, or shut things down. After
all if you say what you really feel,
there is likely to be a feeling of
vulnerability...not a comfortable feeling
for most people. To be able to move
forward, we may have to be willing to
expose ourselves in uncomfortable ways.
We can't always have what we want, but
that doesn't mean that we can't always
treat those we interact with with love,
respect, patience, understanding...even
when - and especially when - they're
unable to communicate their frustrations
in a way that is helpful to either one
of you.
(That even includes yourself. Sometimes
it can get very frustrating to not know
how to communicate something so the other
person knows what you are really saying.
We all truly do the best we can with what
we got in any given moment. It's just
one of those things that some of what we
got is better than some of the other
stuff we got.)
And the next time you are tempted to say
"whatever" or "fine," consider that you
might be better off being quiet for a
minute and figuring out what you really
feel about what was said and expressing
that, or just acknowledge what was said.
Just because you don't understand it,
doesn't mean it isn't in some way valid
for the other person.
Odds are good if your reaction is extreme,
you really care about the person and/or
the situation, so consider treating those
things with the respect that things you
care about deserve.
something we don't see eye to eye on.
It is a difficult situation, as I
feel like the person isn't hearing
what I am saying. It is pretty
clear to me that there are all
kinds of meanings that are going
on behind the scenes that are creating
some of the conversational havoc.
During the conversation the person
said, "Whatever." You know how
good that sounds, don't you? It
totally strips away any value of
what you have just said. It basically
says that person perceives your
statement to have zero value.
In this case, I think it has perceived
zero value because it isn't a
perspective that can be understood
easily. It isn't to that person's
advantage to understand what was said,
because it could conceivably undermine
what they want and are trying to
accomplish.
When I said something about the
"whatever," I was met with "fine,"
whatever's sibling.
"Whatever" and "fine" often shut down
communications. They do not contribute
to any positive outcome. The other
person can be left defensive, and/or
feel the need to attack.
In my case, I took a step back, and
tried to figure out what to do/what
to say. At this point I am still
not sure what that will be. At least,
though, my biggest reaction is this
blog piece, sharing my thoughts with
you instead of reacting in a way that
could have likely only made matters
worse.
If you want to be heard, it would be
a good idea to say things in a way
that the other person can hear you.
When you say things like "whatever"
instead of how you really feel, or
instead of asking a question to
clarify, you are likely to get no
where fast. That is kind of ironic,
as well, as "whatever" usually comes
from the frustration of an outcome
that is going any way but the way
you want it to.
Want things to turn around? You'll
have a better chance of making that
happen if you are willing to ask
questions of yourself and the other
person. What is really going on?
Most times whatever it is has nothing
to do with what you think it does.
Uncover what "it" is, instead of
devaluing where the other person is,
and you will have a much better shot
at the outcome you want, or at the
very least come to a respectful
appreciation of the other person and
situation.
Sometimes your attempts at communication
will open up avenues of expression and
understanding between you and the other
person. Often it might feel safer to
shut down, or shut things down. After
all if you say what you really feel,
there is likely to be a feeling of
vulnerability...not a comfortable feeling
for most people. To be able to move
forward, we may have to be willing to
expose ourselves in uncomfortable ways.
We can't always have what we want, but
that doesn't mean that we can't always
treat those we interact with with love,
respect, patience, understanding...even
when - and especially when - they're
unable to communicate their frustrations
in a way that is helpful to either one
of you.
(That even includes yourself. Sometimes
it can get very frustrating to not know
how to communicate something so the other
person knows what you are really saying.
We all truly do the best we can with what
we got in any given moment. It's just
one of those things that some of what we
got is better than some of the other
stuff we got.)
And the next time you are tempted to say
"whatever" or "fine," consider that you
might be better off being quiet for a
minute and figuring out what you really
feel about what was said and expressing
that, or just acknowledge what was said.
Just because you don't understand it,
doesn't mean it isn't in some way valid
for the other person.
Odds are good if your reaction is extreme,
you really care about the person and/or
the situation, so consider treating those
things with the respect that things you
care about deserve.
Monday, April 25, 2011
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How did Isis The Enchantress - Erotic Hypnotist - come to be?
In 2008 I wrote about my erotic hypnotist beginnings.
Despite the fact that people say
they enjoy reading what I write,
I know it is unlikely that anyone
new will go back that far to
read my older gems.
As a result, I am dusting it off
and bringing it forward just for
you. I know that this kind of
thing can be interesting, so
perhaps if you are curious it
will fill that need in you to know.
In addition, I would like to put
together a list of posts that
would be good primers for anyone
who might be interested in me.
The first two have been posted
below the owl on the right. I
will add more as time goes by.
If you know of any blogs that
would be a good addition, please
let me know!
Have a great day!
Despite the fact that people say
they enjoy reading what I write,
I know it is unlikely that anyone
new will go back that far to
read my older gems.
As a result, I am dusting it off
and bringing it forward just for
you. I know that this kind of
thing can be interesting, so
perhaps if you are curious it
will fill that need in you to know.
In addition, I would like to put
together a list of posts that
would be good primers for anyone
who might be interested in me.
The first two have been posted
below the owl on the right. I
will add more as time goes by.
If you know of any blogs that
would be a good addition, please
let me know!
Have a great day!
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Happy Easter!
I said that to someone today who said
they didn't really
celebrate the holiday.
That's ok, I said...
I tend to want to
celebrate any reason
that has people
wanting to be
nicer to each other.
So...
even if it's not your "thing,"
I hope you have a very
wonderful and special day.
they didn't really
celebrate the holiday.
That's ok, I said...
I tend to want to
celebrate any reason
that has people
wanting to be
nicer to each other.
So...
even if it's not your "thing,"
I hope you have a very
wonderful and special day.
A Nice Retreat?
A soft, silk voice whispers in your ear.
There are sensations in your body
that feel amazing. Perhaps even
more amazing than any you have ever
felt in person with someone.
You feel such wonderful feelings as you
focus on this person who gives you a
feeling of incredible desire.
You want more.
It worked out so well the first time,
you seek it out a second time. And
the second time, well, it's even
better. This hypnotic thing is a
treat. It is even better than that;
it is a retreat.
You find yourself thinking about this
person and the pleasure more and more,
and you are finding you are thinking
about the things in your own life less
and less...especially the things that
aren't working.
It helps you cope with the stresses of
work and the stresses of that relationship
you're in. It helps you to deal with all
of the responsibilities you have.
This is a good thing.
Right?
You call more. You feel more. You retreat more.
No one really knows what you are going through,
and you yourself are even less aware, spending
more and more time retreating into a world that
is so much more pleasant and so much more
manageable. As a matter of fact, all you have
to do is obey, and that is so easy compared to
what else you have to deal with.
It's a world you love to enter, and you find
yourself entering it more and more because your
pesky life and relationships keep trying to
remind you of the things you'd rather forget.
You keep trying out new people...as you figure
you might be safer that way. You realize
something isn't quite right. A part of you
knows, and is desperate for you to know, but
you are doing your best to shut it up.
You know what you need, and it is escape.
Everyone needs a little escape every now and
then, and you deserve to have it with all that
you are going through. You are not going to
let anything get in the way...so you do it
even more, just so you can make sure you never
lose something that has given you the freedom
to retreat from the life you have.
The last person you are going to let take this
away from you is you. You need this.
You need it now, even more than ever.
You call even more, and you call even more
people. You occasionally refrain from calling;
it is your way of assuring yourself you have
things under control. At the same time, when
you call again, the urges are even stronger,
the feelings are more, and you go even more
deeply into the rabbit hole. But...
You did stop. So you have control.
You know you do.
But you wonder deep down inside,
do I really?
You silence that voice. You make it feel
wrong for wanting to question something so good.
And you keep going...
--
For anyone wondering...this is how things
can sometimes evolve when it comes to hypnosis.
There is trouble in your life and you find
an escape. Then you go to a place hypnotically
that becomes difficult to escape.
The problem is that it takes you away from
living a life that you could really love.
Maybe you don't love the life you live, but
if you escape it, you will never do anything
to change it.
Virtual life becomes better than the real one.
In actuality, if you are willing to take the
steps necessary, your real life could be
better than a virtual one - any day.
It is at a greater risk. It takes more work.
It has a greater level of difficulty because
the rewards are so much greater.
Of course, life is about choices, and you are
making choices all of the time, even when you
don't think you are (non choices are by default
choices).
Are you choosing wisely?
If you are in doubt, odds are you might want
to reconsider what you are doing.
A part of you knows what is best, and it also
knows that making a change won't always be the
easiest thing you ever do, but it also knows
it will likely come with the greatest reward.
That voice will never give up on you.
It loves you, and it knows what you are going
through. And it knows that if you continue on
the path you are on, you aren't doing yourself
any favors because in the end, you will discover
there was a price to pay that was greater than
any you would have paid to face things.
It will help you get what you need...
you just have to be willing to...LISTEN.
Consider that when an escape becomes your
life it ceases to be an escape...instead
it winds up being a form of a prison.
If these thoughts resonate for you know that
you can get what you need without compromising
yourself. And, the best part is you can get
it in a way that works for ALL of you, not
just a part.
There are sensations in your body
that feel amazing. Perhaps even
more amazing than any you have ever
felt in person with someone.
You feel such wonderful feelings as you
focus on this person who gives you a
feeling of incredible desire.
You want more.
It worked out so well the first time,
you seek it out a second time. And
the second time, well, it's even
better. This hypnotic thing is a
treat. It is even better than that;
it is a retreat.
You find yourself thinking about this
person and the pleasure more and more,
and you are finding you are thinking
about the things in your own life less
and less...especially the things that
aren't working.
It helps you cope with the stresses of
work and the stresses of that relationship
you're in. It helps you to deal with all
of the responsibilities you have.
This is a good thing.
Right?
You call more. You feel more. You retreat more.
No one really knows what you are going through,
and you yourself are even less aware, spending
more and more time retreating into a world that
is so much more pleasant and so much more
manageable. As a matter of fact, all you have
to do is obey, and that is so easy compared to
what else you have to deal with.
It's a world you love to enter, and you find
yourself entering it more and more because your
pesky life and relationships keep trying to
remind you of the things you'd rather forget.
You keep trying out new people...as you figure
you might be safer that way. You realize
something isn't quite right. A part of you
knows, and is desperate for you to know, but
you are doing your best to shut it up.
You know what you need, and it is escape.
Everyone needs a little escape every now and
then, and you deserve to have it with all that
you are going through. You are not going to
let anything get in the way...so you do it
even more, just so you can make sure you never
lose something that has given you the freedom
to retreat from the life you have.
The last person you are going to let take this
away from you is you. You need this.
You need it now, even more than ever.
You call even more, and you call even more
people. You occasionally refrain from calling;
it is your way of assuring yourself you have
things under control. At the same time, when
you call again, the urges are even stronger,
the feelings are more, and you go even more
deeply into the rabbit hole. But...
You did stop. So you have control.
You know you do.
But you wonder deep down inside,
do I really?
You silence that voice. You make it feel
wrong for wanting to question something so good.
And you keep going...
--
For anyone wondering...this is how things
can sometimes evolve when it comes to hypnosis.
There is trouble in your life and you find
an escape. Then you go to a place hypnotically
that becomes difficult to escape.
The problem is that it takes you away from
living a life that you could really love.
Maybe you don't love the life you live, but
if you escape it, you will never do anything
to change it.
Virtual life becomes better than the real one.
In actuality, if you are willing to take the
steps necessary, your real life could be
better than a virtual one - any day.
It is at a greater risk. It takes more work.
It has a greater level of difficulty because
the rewards are so much greater.
Of course, life is about choices, and you are
making choices all of the time, even when you
don't think you are (non choices are by default
choices).
Are you choosing wisely?
If you are in doubt, odds are you might want
to reconsider what you are doing.
A part of you knows what is best, and it also
knows that making a change won't always be the
easiest thing you ever do, but it also knows
it will likely come with the greatest reward.
That voice will never give up on you.
It loves you, and it knows what you are going
through. And it knows that if you continue on
the path you are on, you aren't doing yourself
any favors because in the end, you will discover
there was a price to pay that was greater than
any you would have paid to face things.
It will help you get what you need...
you just have to be willing to...LISTEN.
Consider that when an escape becomes your
life it ceases to be an escape...instead
it winds up being a form of a prison.
If these thoughts resonate for you know that
you can get what you need without compromising
yourself. And, the best part is you can get
it in a way that works for ALL of you, not
just a part.
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Out of Fuel?
I just read the following quote,
and I thought others might find
it interesting:
A relationship with no trust
is like a car with no gasoline.
You can stay in it all you want
but it won't go anywhere.
(couldn't find an attribution.
If you know of one, please let
me know).
Might that hold true for a
relationship without love,
without respect, without...
as well?
Are the things that make a
relationship good and nourish
us the fuel that keeps a
relationship moving forward?
Is a relationship without
those things sitting metaphorically
disabled on the side of the road
complaining about being stuck, but
doing nothing about it?
So many stay in relationships
that don't go anywhere.
Are those relationships
out of fuel?
If this resonates for you you
might want to consider what can
be done to fuel up or find
an alternate way to go.
I bet where you are headed is
great...but what good is it
if you don't find a way to
get there?
What do you think?
and I thought others might find
it interesting:
A relationship with no trust
is like a car with no gasoline.
You can stay in it all you want
but it won't go anywhere.
(couldn't find an attribution.
If you know of one, please let
me know).
Might that hold true for a
relationship without love,
without respect, without...
as well?
Are the things that make a
relationship good and nourish
us the fuel that keeps a
relationship moving forward?
Is a relationship without
those things sitting metaphorically
disabled on the side of the road
complaining about being stuck, but
doing nothing about it?
So many stay in relationships
that don't go anywhere.
Are those relationships
out of fuel?
If this resonates for you you
might want to consider what can
be done to fuel up or find
an alternate way to go.
I bet where you are headed is
great...but what good is it
if you don't find a way to
get there?
What do you think?
Want MORE? | Video
This is one of my early videos.
It is short.
It is sweet.
But don't let the brevity fool you.
It is likely to be watched
again, and again on loop.
Long nails
Black lace bra
lots of cleavage
sensual
what's not to like?
You DO want this file.
For anyone who owns it, your
impressions and appreciation of
it would be welcome in the comments.
Thanks!
It is short.
It is sweet.
But don't let the brevity fool you.
It is likely to be watched
again, and again on loop.
Long nails
Black lace bra
lots of cleavage
sensual
what's not to like?
You DO want this file.
For anyone who owns it, your
impressions and appreciation of
it would be welcome in the comments.
Thanks!
Got Questions?
I LOVE when new people contact me.
I LOVE when they ask questions, as
it tells me they are being cautious
and considerate in their approach.
When I am able, I do what I can to
respond to what is asked. However,
as you may imagine, my "unpaid"
time is limited.
For that reason I thought I would
let you know about a few options:
To the right of my entries is a chat
box, here on my blog. There are times
you might just find me here/there.
When that happens, you are welcome to
ask me questions.
In addition I have an FAQ page
which you can view here
that may be of help to you.
And, last but not least, my blog
says a lot about a lot of things -
including hypnosis. You could
spend some time here.
Of course, you could always just
pick up the phone and call me. :)
I won't bite.
Hopefully that helps!
Play and Stay Safe!
Isis
Also see Can I Get Caught in Hypnosis?
I LOVE when they ask questions, as
it tells me they are being cautious
and considerate in their approach.
When I am able, I do what I can to
respond to what is asked. However,
as you may imagine, my "unpaid"
time is limited.
For that reason I thought I would
let you know about a few options:
To the right of my entries is a chat
box, here on my blog. There are times
you might just find me here/there.
When that happens, you are welcome to
ask me questions.
In addition I have an FAQ page
which you can view here
that may be of help to you.
And, last but not least, my blog
says a lot about a lot of things -
including hypnosis. You could
spend some time here.
Of course, you could always just
pick up the phone and call me. :)
I won't bite.
Hopefully that helps!
Play and Stay Safe!
Isis
Also see Can I Get Caught in Hypnosis?
Friday, April 22, 2011
On Ego
So much chatter about what Ego is, and often
it seems to be a "bad" thing. Today I saw
something that said that there is a perspective
of ego that is "self-organizing."
In that vein, I would have to say that was/is
a good thing. Without a self that has some
sense of itself, one would be lost.
As I type that I think about those in the
erotic hypnotic fetish, as well as in the
BDSM world who would likely say that
dissolving the ego - especially if it is
self-organizing - would likely be a good
thing.
I would have to wonder if that is the case.
I would have to wonder how someone would
know better than you what is right and good
and best for you. I would have to wonder
this because so often I have seen people
at odds with what they are instructed and
told. I have seen people fight the
"programming."
If you are one of those people, have you
ever considered that maybe YOU do know what
is best for you, but perhaps you just
haven't discovered it yet? Have you ever
considered that instead of finding your
way by having another lead (which often
is contrary and unlikely) you would likely
be better suited to someone helping you
find your way and supporting you as you
lead yourself?
Yes. The latter version takes more courage
and more work, but it just so happens it
is likely to give you more of what you
want and be more rewarding in the end.
As with my previous entry, anything can be
presented in any way. It is the perspective
that you feel empowered with that is likely
to be the one to pay attention to. You
could be empowered by the breaking down of
a version of ego that is so fluffed up it
gets in the way of the things you really
want, but to break down your ego in its
totality to be built up to someone else's
specifications is likely to leave you
wanting...especially if that person was
to no longer be a part of your life.
Who you are and who you are meant to be
might not yet look like what you think
it should be, but it doesn't mean that
someone else's version is better. You
can't know that if you have never sought
out the part of you that has been
covered up.
Perhaps the answer is not to cover up
yourself even more with others expectations
and demands, but to truly uncover and
discover who you are and what you have
to offer the world. Odds are whatever
it is, and whoever you are in that
context, is something and someone
pretty special.
Or not.
LOL.
In the end, you have to live with you,
and you need to decide what works best,
and who knows? Maybe I could be wrong.
After all, what did I say above?
"I would have to wonder how someone would
know better than you what is right and good
and best for you."
Just some food for thought, as always.
Have a great weekend!
it seems to be a "bad" thing. Today I saw
something that said that there is a perspective
of ego that is "self-organizing."
In that vein, I would have to say that was/is
a good thing. Without a self that has some
sense of itself, one would be lost.
As I type that I think about those in the
erotic hypnotic fetish, as well as in the
BDSM world who would likely say that
dissolving the ego - especially if it is
self-organizing - would likely be a good
thing.
I would have to wonder if that is the case.
I would have to wonder how someone would
know better than you what is right and good
and best for you. I would have to wonder
this because so often I have seen people
at odds with what they are instructed and
told. I have seen people fight the
"programming."
If you are one of those people, have you
ever considered that maybe YOU do know what
is best for you, but perhaps you just
haven't discovered it yet? Have you ever
considered that instead of finding your
way by having another lead (which often
is contrary and unlikely) you would likely
be better suited to someone helping you
find your way and supporting you as you
lead yourself?
Yes. The latter version takes more courage
and more work, but it just so happens it
is likely to give you more of what you
want and be more rewarding in the end.
As with my previous entry, anything can be
presented in any way. It is the perspective
that you feel empowered with that is likely
to be the one to pay attention to. You
could be empowered by the breaking down of
a version of ego that is so fluffed up it
gets in the way of the things you really
want, but to break down your ego in its
totality to be built up to someone else's
specifications is likely to leave you
wanting...especially if that person was
to no longer be a part of your life.
Who you are and who you are meant to be
might not yet look like what you think
it should be, but it doesn't mean that
someone else's version is better. You
can't know that if you have never sought
out the part of you that has been
covered up.
Perhaps the answer is not to cover up
yourself even more with others expectations
and demands, but to truly uncover and
discover who you are and what you have
to offer the world. Odds are whatever
it is, and whoever you are in that
context, is something and someone
pretty special.
Or not.
LOL.
In the end, you have to live with you,
and you need to decide what works best,
and who knows? Maybe I could be wrong.
After all, what did I say above?
"I would have to wonder how someone would
know better than you what is right and good
and best for you."
Just some food for thought, as always.
Have a great weekend!
Zero & Value: Perspective | Video
Some would say zero is nothing, worthless.
Nissan put together a fabulous commercial
for their LEAF electric car.
Whether or not the car interests you, the
idea behind it can go for almost anything:
whatever you believe something to be can
be relative.
Recently someone was asking for help.
Many people were saying they were in no
position to help. I made the point that
if helping was their desire, even $1
would work.
We often forget that things can add up.
There are some who do phone sex work
who will be happy to take the minute
call here and the minute call there
because those minute calls can add up
to money in their pocket.
They have a perspective that might
put a few more dollars in their account
than someone who doesn't want those
types of calls.
It is difficult to remember that there
is more than just the one perspective
we experience. It isn't always
convenient to recognize another
perspective, either. However there
are times that remembering it might
just give us the advantage we need.
If you haven't seen the LEAF commercial,
here it is:
Nissan put together a fabulous commercial
for their LEAF electric car.
Whether or not the car interests you, the
idea behind it can go for almost anything:
whatever you believe something to be can
be relative.
Recently someone was asking for help.
Many people were saying they were in no
position to help. I made the point that
if helping was their desire, even $1
would work.
We often forget that things can add up.
There are some who do phone sex work
who will be happy to take the minute
call here and the minute call there
because those minute calls can add up
to money in their pocket.
They have a perspective that might
put a few more dollars in their account
than someone who doesn't want those
types of calls.
It is difficult to remember that there
is more than just the one perspective
we experience. It isn't always
convenient to recognize another
perspective, either. However there
are times that remembering it might
just give us the advantage we need.
If you haven't seen the LEAF commercial,
here it is:
Another Reason to be Cautious
I was just reading about how Gonorrhea could
become a Super Bug, ineffectively treated
by medication.
Apparently having it doesn't necessarily
give symptoms, but it can have some very
detrimental effects.
I love how some people can be so adventurous
sexually, but I can't help but wonder if
they know they're playing a game of Russian
Roulette.
I never judge people for the choices they
make, but hope that they judge their own
choices, and how it might affect themselves,
or someone they love. Someone you are
intimate with in a significant other
relationship is more at risk than someone
who would be more cautious with you who
wasn't in that dynamic.
Pleasure and adventure are wonderful things,
but if they wind up coming at a great cost,
is it worth it?
I know of at least one person who had a
health scare from his myriad of adventures.
He came back to me after that, knowing that
he could feel awesome hypnotically, experience
what he wanted to, and be safe from any
potential diseases.
I realize it's not the same. But if you
wind up with some disease, your life will
never be the same, either.
Here's the article of Gonorrhea.
become a Super Bug, ineffectively treated
by medication.
Apparently having it doesn't necessarily
give symptoms, but it can have some very
detrimental effects.
I love how some people can be so adventurous
sexually, but I can't help but wonder if
they know they're playing a game of Russian
Roulette.
I never judge people for the choices they
make, but hope that they judge their own
choices, and how it might affect themselves,
or someone they love. Someone you are
intimate with in a significant other
relationship is more at risk than someone
who would be more cautious with you who
wasn't in that dynamic.
Pleasure and adventure are wonderful things,
but if they wind up coming at a great cost,
is it worth it?
I know of at least one person who had a
health scare from his myriad of adventures.
He came back to me after that, knowing that
he could feel awesome hypnotically, experience
what he wanted to, and be safe from any
potential diseases.
I realize it's not the same. But if you
wind up with some disease, your life will
never be the same, either.
Here's the article of Gonorrhea.
An Experience of Obedience
Someone who has been calling me for over
a year now recently wrote about his
experience with me.
I share it with you, as it might give you
something to consider. I know there are
some who could relate to his quest.
I also know that there are some who would
think that the only reason it happened was
because he wanted it, and he trusted me.
I will tell you that I don't believe that
those two pieces need to hold true for
something like this to happen. It would
just likely be a much more potentially
unpleasant experience.
If you have any questions about it, please
let me know. In addition, if you have
any questions for him about his experience,
please ask those as well. I will see if
he is willing to answer.
Click here to read his account.
As always, be well, be safe.
Isis
a year now recently wrote about his
experience with me.
I share it with you, as it might give you
something to consider. I know there are
some who could relate to his quest.
I also know that there are some who would
think that the only reason it happened was
because he wanted it, and he trusted me.
I will tell you that I don't believe that
those two pieces need to hold true for
something like this to happen. It would
just likely be a much more potentially
unpleasant experience.
If you have any questions about it, please
let me know. In addition, if you have
any questions for him about his experience,
please ask those as well. I will see if
he is willing to answer.
Click here to read his account.
As always, be well, be safe.
Isis
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Proof that women do all the work? | Video | Humor
Btw...I always have cookies ready.
(To get that, watch the video)
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
A First Session
Recently someone came to me for a live call.
It is often what I recommend FIRST - even
before recordings. However, the recording
that he chose is one that will potentially
work without "live" contact first.
Some people go only by their experience with
live recordings when judging their ability
to be hypnotized. It really isn't a good
gauge for a few reasons.
In the end, you will hear how successful our
time together was...maybe it will give you
something to consider.
***
What can I say..my first live call ever and She has me enthralled! It started out as a friendly conversation, which for our first session was perfect. We had previously became acquainted in chat...but to hear Her live...calling me Her good boy...Incredible! She quickly softened the tone of the conversation as She began Her induction. I had been listening to Her mp3 “Release” so I suppose I was softened up a bit, but, She quickly had me melting away...it was like I was inside myself falling deeper and deeper. There are some gaps in what I recall...remember the first time (I think) She woke me and it seemed like only 10 minutes had passed when in reality it was a half-hour.
After that things progressed quickly, at least it seemed that way to me…wave after wave of pleasure, just because I was obeying Her...just to feel that pleasure. Then there was the most gracious praise She heaped upon me…if I hadn’t been on fire with ecstasy I would have blushed. I had told Her in chat that I was worried about how good a subject I would be...She told me afterward that I was worrying over nothing, but I think it had more to do with Her skill than my suggestibility. The euphoria I am feeling borders on addicting but I know She wouldn’t want me to engage in anything destructive...She is that benevolent...I can only describe it as “Adoration”.
Even now...I feel Her absence...i want to hear Her soft, seductive voice…taking me deeper...melting away...*shudders*. I look forward to the next time I am in her presence (either live or in chat) and I hope with all my heart that She has something for me to do for Her.
I can't say enough about Her.
It is often what I recommend FIRST - even
before recordings. However, the recording
that he chose is one that will potentially
work without "live" contact first.
Some people go only by their experience with
live recordings when judging their ability
to be hypnotized. It really isn't a good
gauge for a few reasons.
In the end, you will hear how successful our
time together was...maybe it will give you
something to consider.
***
What can I say..my first live call ever and She has me enthralled! It started out as a friendly conversation, which for our first session was perfect. We had previously became acquainted in chat...but to hear Her live...calling me Her good boy...Incredible! She quickly softened the tone of the conversation as She began Her induction. I had been listening to Her mp3 “Release” so I suppose I was softened up a bit, but, She quickly had me melting away...it was like I was inside myself falling deeper and deeper. There are some gaps in what I recall...remember the first time (I think) She woke me and it seemed like only 10 minutes had passed when in reality it was a half-hour.
After that things progressed quickly, at least it seemed that way to me…wave after wave of pleasure, just because I was obeying Her...just to feel that pleasure. Then there was the most gracious praise She heaped upon me…if I hadn’t been on fire with ecstasy I would have blushed. I had told Her in chat that I was worried about how good a subject I would be...She told me afterward that I was worrying over nothing, but I think it had more to do with Her skill than my suggestibility. The euphoria I am feeling borders on addicting but I know She wouldn’t want me to engage in anything destructive...She is that benevolent...I can only describe it as “Adoration”.
Even now...I feel Her absence...i want to hear Her soft, seductive voice…taking me deeper...melting away...*shudders*. I look forward to the next time I am in her presence (either live or in chat) and I hope with all my heart that She has something for me to do for Her.
I can't say enough about Her.
Corset Cleavage & Curls | Wallpaper | JPG
Do you like the above pic?
It is based on one of my call buttons
in the right column of this blog.
Since the original image is
appreciated so much, I decided
to create a few wallpapers from
it. There are 3 versions: color,
b&w, and color and b&w. In
addition, I decided to throw
in an animated gif file that
changes colors.
If you like the image, you'll love
it screen sized.
Red corset
cleavage
curls
There are no artistic brush effects.
1024x768 | 3 Images JPG + BONUS Animated GIF | $10.00
Not Perfect = Not Good?
In a previous blog entry about being
back on the east coast, I said "Life
is good." Interestingly, it gave
someone the impression that my life
was perfect.
I had said good because I was focused
on something that made me feel good.
I didn't say good because life is
perfect. As a matter of fact, it is
a far cry from perfection.
There are things I am frustrated about,
depressed by, saddened by, confused by...
the list goes on. However I keep going,
and I keep reminding myself of the
things that I tell other people, and
it helps - a lot. Sometimes.
I tell you this because it is easy to
look at another person and their
circumstance and think they "got it
made." You never know what is going
on in their world and in their mind.
We all have our moments. Hopefully
just not all at once because that
would really suck!
In the meantime, if your life is
feeling sucky at the moment, you
are not alone. If you want to feel
better find something you can feel
good about - and focus on that.
Want to go back to feeling sucky?
Odds are you might. Just keep
bringing yourself back to that
good thing. Will it be easy?
I think you already know the
answer to that question.
You may even give up. Be kind
to yourself if you do. It
happens. What also happens is
sooner or later you will come
out of what you are in.
Just realize that just because
this moment is less than perfect
doesn't mean that your life is
less than good.
back on the east coast, I said "Life
is good." Interestingly, it gave
someone the impression that my life
was perfect.
I had said good because I was focused
on something that made me feel good.
I didn't say good because life is
perfect. As a matter of fact, it is
a far cry from perfection.
There are things I am frustrated about,
depressed by, saddened by, confused by...
the list goes on. However I keep going,
and I keep reminding myself of the
things that I tell other people, and
it helps - a lot. Sometimes.
I tell you this because it is easy to
look at another person and their
circumstance and think they "got it
made." You never know what is going
on in their world and in their mind.
We all have our moments. Hopefully
just not all at once because that
would really suck!
In the meantime, if your life is
feeling sucky at the moment, you
are not alone. If you want to feel
better find something you can feel
good about - and focus on that.
Want to go back to feeling sucky?
Odds are you might. Just keep
bringing yourself back to that
good thing. Will it be easy?
I think you already know the
answer to that question.
You may even give up. Be kind
to yourself if you do. It
happens. What also happens is
sooner or later you will come
out of what you are in.
Just realize that just because
this moment is less than perfect
doesn't mean that your life is
less than good.
You'd never be wrong. But, if you were.... | Video
In this video Kathryn distinguishes what it
is to be wrong, and how we usually relate
to those who don't agree with us when we
think we are right.
There are things she says that, in my
experience, seem to hold truer than most
of us would like. At the same time there
is a great deal of love and optimism for
who we are as "human."
See what you think.
is to be wrong, and how we usually relate
to those who don't agree with us when we
think we are right.
There are things she says that, in my
experience, seem to hold truer than most
of us would like. At the same time there
is a great deal of love and optimism for
who we are as "human."
See what you think.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
The Time to Take Action
I just read about the Air Traffic Controller
who was watching a movie while working,
and the article discussed other traffic
control concerns.
When I read it, there were several things that
came to mind, not the least of which is a
metaphor for things that are happening in the
world in which we live in right now, here in
the US.
The controllers have only had 8 hours in between
shifts up until now. Many people need that many
hours to function properly, so the fact that they
need some of those hours to commute and take care
of things doesn't seem to me to be a good thing.
How often do we do with less of something that
should be good for us? How often do we hurt
ourselves in the pursuit of something?
Have the controllers spoken up? I don't know,
but I have to wonder. How often do we speak up
when something is not working? How often are
we at the effect of someone else's decisions
and choices which in turn can affect another's
decisions and choices?
These controllers are sleeping through "important"
moments in their lives and the lives of others.
At a minimum, a nuisance or inconvenience, at
a maximum, it could be catastrophic.
How often do we sleep walk through our own lives,
or sleep through (metaphorically, or otherwise)
the important moments in our lives?
While the issue may very well be an issue of
sleep - or, rather a lack of sleep - if we focus
on it alone there may be other things that run
deeper and are missed. The fact that someone
was watching a movie - someone who had to be
aware of the trouble the others had been in -
someone who knew the rules and broke them -
someone who knew their actions could adversely
affect others - tells me that there is more
going on, and given the way things are going,
we would do ourselves a favor by taking a look
at the bigger picture and asking ourselves
questions instead of focusing on just this one
industry/series of events.
In order to change, we have to first be willing
to look at what is, and we don't all have a
governing body looking over our shoulder calling
attention to perceived problems and difficulties.
It also means that that are likely to be times
that we alone are also responsible for the pickles
we get ourselves into, as there is no one telling
us what to do, or how to do it.
The harder it is to look, the more likely cleaning
up the potential mess afterward is going to be a
lot harder than if you had faced what needed to be
faced in the first place.
It is much better to create dynamics that help
us rather than create a patchwork that appears
to work - but we know it's just a quick fix.
Not many things can be patched over and over
and maintain their strength and integrity. In
addition a fix made with love and forethought
is likely to have a better and longer lasting
impact than one that is just slapped together
and expected to last a lifetime.
Air Controllers aren't the only ones who are
having issues, and the sooner that we in our
own personal lives and in our lives as co-
citizens on this planet are willing to look
at how things are, the sooner we can make
changes and potentially avert disasters in
other words start ACTING and stop REACTING.
The time to take action is before you need to;
you'll have a much better chance of preserving
whatever that thing is that you value than if
you wait. That applies to Liberty and Health
and Relationships and Money, and...
who was watching a movie while working,
and the article discussed other traffic
control concerns.
When I read it, there were several things that
came to mind, not the least of which is a
metaphor for things that are happening in the
world in which we live in right now, here in
the US.
The controllers have only had 8 hours in between
shifts up until now. Many people need that many
hours to function properly, so the fact that they
need some of those hours to commute and take care
of things doesn't seem to me to be a good thing.
How often do we do with less of something that
should be good for us? How often do we hurt
ourselves in the pursuit of something?
Have the controllers spoken up? I don't know,
but I have to wonder. How often do we speak up
when something is not working? How often are
we at the effect of someone else's decisions
and choices which in turn can affect another's
decisions and choices?
These controllers are sleeping through "important"
moments in their lives and the lives of others.
At a minimum, a nuisance or inconvenience, at
a maximum, it could be catastrophic.
How often do we sleep walk through our own lives,
or sleep through (metaphorically, or otherwise)
the important moments in our lives?
While the issue may very well be an issue of
sleep - or, rather a lack of sleep - if we focus
on it alone there may be other things that run
deeper and are missed. The fact that someone
was watching a movie - someone who had to be
aware of the trouble the others had been in -
someone who knew the rules and broke them -
someone who knew their actions could adversely
affect others - tells me that there is more
going on, and given the way things are going,
we would do ourselves a favor by taking a look
at the bigger picture and asking ourselves
questions instead of focusing on just this one
industry/series of events.
In order to change, we have to first be willing
to look at what is, and we don't all have a
governing body looking over our shoulder calling
attention to perceived problems and difficulties.
It also means that that are likely to be times
that we alone are also responsible for the pickles
we get ourselves into, as there is no one telling
us what to do, or how to do it.
The harder it is to look, the more likely cleaning
up the potential mess afterward is going to be a
lot harder than if you had faced what needed to be
faced in the first place.
It is much better to create dynamics that help
us rather than create a patchwork that appears
to work - but we know it's just a quick fix.
Not many things can be patched over and over
and maintain their strength and integrity. In
addition a fix made with love and forethought
is likely to have a better and longer lasting
impact than one that is just slapped together
and expected to last a lifetime.
Air Controllers aren't the only ones who are
having issues, and the sooner that we in our
own personal lives and in our lives as co-
citizens on this planet are willing to look
at how things are, the sooner we can make
changes and potentially avert disasters in
other words start ACTING and stop REACTING.
The time to take action is before you need to;
you'll have a much better chance of preserving
whatever that thing is that you value than if
you wait. That applies to Liberty and Health
and Relationships and Money, and...
Monday, April 18, 2011
I am back!
As you may know, I am from the east coast
originally but took a detour to California.
My heart never left,
even though my body did.
While California is absolutely gorgeous,
and most days you don't even have to think
about what to wear or to worry about if
you're going to get wet, I prefer the
seasons and the climate diversity of
the east coast.
Except for issues with winter weather
driving cross country, I managed to miss
any major winter weather, so we'll see
how I feel as we go into winter this
upcoming year. Although I suspect I
will be just fine, as I am fortunate
enough to not to have to go any where
when the storms come.
In reflection, I thought about how
one doesn't really realize what s/he
has until they don't have it any more.
Yes. It is likely obvious, and yet
we so often forget it until something
reminds us and we go, "oh yeah."
I didn't go back "home," but instead
chose a new adventure so while I am
not back with my family, I am a heck
of a lot closer than I used to be.
Odd how 250 miles can feel different
than almost 3000.
I am glad to be here, and continue
to work on settling in. It is a
process, to be sure, and where I
am is only temporary so there is
more adventure to come.
So...if you happen to be on the east
coast and are any where near the
Baltimore or NYC area, it will be
easier than ever for me to do a live
session should you ever want to
meet in person.
Have a great day. I am off to enjoy
my slightly overcast one that has
nothing to do with smog. :)
Life is good.
PS
Here are a couple of links regarding
how an in person session was:
me-chan
hypnoprogrammed
originally but took a detour to California.
My heart never left,
even though my body did.
While California is absolutely gorgeous,
and most days you don't even have to think
about what to wear or to worry about if
you're going to get wet, I prefer the
seasons and the climate diversity of
the east coast.
Except for issues with winter weather
driving cross country, I managed to miss
any major winter weather, so we'll see
how I feel as we go into winter this
upcoming year. Although I suspect I
will be just fine, as I am fortunate
enough to not to have to go any where
when the storms come.
In reflection, I thought about how
one doesn't really realize what s/he
has until they don't have it any more.
Yes. It is likely obvious, and yet
we so often forget it until something
reminds us and we go, "oh yeah."
I didn't go back "home," but instead
chose a new adventure so while I am
not back with my family, I am a heck
of a lot closer than I used to be.
Odd how 250 miles can feel different
than almost 3000.
I am glad to be here, and continue
to work on settling in. It is a
process, to be sure, and where I
am is only temporary so there is
more adventure to come.
So...if you happen to be on the east
coast and are any where near the
Baltimore or NYC area, it will be
easier than ever for me to do a live
session should you ever want to
meet in person.
Have a great day. I am off to enjoy
my slightly overcast one that has
nothing to do with smog. :)
Life is good.
PS
Here are a couple of links regarding
how an in person session was:
me-chan
hypnoprogrammed
On Top | JPG
my legs with some
beautiful red, ankle boots.
I am sitting on a bed, and there
is a person (male) laying below me.
It is unlikely to be a distraction -
unless you wanted to be distracted,
thinking you are him.
700x712 | 1 Images JPG | $6.00
A Week of Sundays
I have decided to extend yesterday's special
offer for Release til Saturday.
I know sometimes people aren't always around
and may miss it. This now gives them the
opportunity to see it, and take advantage
of the recording at this special price.
I guess you can consider it an early Easter
present, LOL.
Have a great week.
Isis
offer for Release til Saturday.
I know sometimes people aren't always around
and may miss it. This now gives them the
opportunity to see it, and take advantage
of the recording at this special price.
I guess you can consider it an early Easter
present, LOL.
Have a great week.
Isis
Sunday, April 17, 2011
A Sunday Special | MP3
April 25, 2011 Edit:
I have decided to keep this offer for
anyone who happens to stumble upon it.
It will be a special treat for anyone
who happens to be tip-toeing through
my past. So...if it interests you,
even though the timeframe is passed,
you will be able to get it at the
special price just for taking an
interest and the time to look around.
Enjoy!
Have you heard of this recording yet?
It's a 15 minute MP3 which helps you
be the best good boy you can be for me.
It also has the added benefit of releasing
anything you might want to let go of.
You can listen to a short sample here.
Special price today JUST$19.95 $7.98
It is likely anyone who would like to
experience the pleasure of being a
good boy for me would enjoy this
recording - whether he has previously
been hypnotized by me, or not.
Get it while you can - at over 50% off!
I'd be willing to bet
you'll be glad you did.
I have decided to keep this offer for
anyone who happens to stumble upon it.
It will be a special treat for anyone
who happens to be tip-toeing through
my past. So...if it interests you,
even though the timeframe is passed,
you will be able to get it at the
special price just for taking an
interest and the time to look around.
Enjoy!
Have you heard of this recording yet?
It's a 15 minute MP3 which helps you
be the best good boy you can be for me.
It also has the added benefit of releasing
anything you might want to let go of.
You can listen to a short sample here.
Special price today JUST
It is likely anyone who would like to
experience the pleasure of being a
good boy for me would enjoy this
recording - whether he has previously
been hypnotized by me, or not.
Get it while you can - at over 50% off!
I'd be willing to bet
you'll be glad you did.
Change
I heard someone today say,
"change requires changing."
It is kinda like a "duh,"
don't you think? And yet
when things aren't working
out the way we want them to,
and we know that what we're
doing isn't helping or working,
we still often remain the same.
Why is that?
It's because we are comfortable
in the familiar surroundings.
How we are is like home to us,
and because of that we keep
wanting to get home by our actions.
The only way we're going to change
is to move, or to in some way
create a new place to come home to.
We could change the furnishings,
and our environment isn't the same.
Some things are drastic, others more
subtle. If you want to make a change
(see a need for one) then it is
important to find the way that works
for you...and odds are, it is the
way that is unlike the one you've
been doing.
One last thought...we have an easier
time making changes when WE personally
see the need to make them. If you're
having difficulties making a change
ask yourself if YOU really want to or
if it is someone else's desire for you.
Some battles can end right there.
Have a great week!
"change requires changing."
It is kinda like a "duh,"
don't you think? And yet
when things aren't working
out the way we want them to,
and we know that what we're
doing isn't helping or working,
we still often remain the same.
Why is that?
It's because we are comfortable
in the familiar surroundings.
How we are is like home to us,
and because of that we keep
wanting to get home by our actions.
The only way we're going to change
is to move, or to in some way
create a new place to come home to.
We could change the furnishings,
and our environment isn't the same.
Some things are drastic, others more
subtle. If you want to make a change
(see a need for one) then it is
important to find the way that works
for you...and odds are, it is the
way that is unlike the one you've
been doing.
One last thought...we have an easier
time making changes when WE personally
see the need to make them. If you're
having difficulties making a change
ask yourself if YOU really want to or
if it is someone else's desire for you.
Some battles can end right there.
Have a great week!
Why are some people...
Why are some people inclined to act so jerky?
I would like to really call them a jerk,
but being aware that the action does not
the person make, precludes me from doing that.
What I really don't get is why people call me
to do something with them, but don't want to
answer my questions. They make think the
answers inconsequential, but there is likely
a reason I am asking.
In addition, when they don't get their way
in the first few moments (ironically someone
who wants to be controlled) they hang up
the phone or are impatient it makes me
wonder how a hypnotic relationship of some
type would be - although I suspect I DO know.
Variances of opinion happen all of the time,
however - for me - it is how they are handled
that makes all the difference in the world.
If you work with me, I can work with you.
A person who thinks he is wasting his money
in the few minutes we are talking is losing
a lot more than a few dollars.
With patience and respect you will get a lot
more out of me than if you demand me to be
a certain way.
Have a good night.
I would like to really call them a jerk,
but being aware that the action does not
the person make, precludes me from doing that.
What I really don't get is why people call me
to do something with them, but don't want to
answer my questions. They make think the
answers inconsequential, but there is likely
a reason I am asking.
In addition, when they don't get their way
in the first few moments (ironically someone
who wants to be controlled) they hang up
the phone or are impatient it makes me
wonder how a hypnotic relationship of some
type would be - although I suspect I DO know.
Variances of opinion happen all of the time,
however - for me - it is how they are handled
that makes all the difference in the world.
If you work with me, I can work with you.
A person who thinks he is wasting his money
in the few minutes we are talking is losing
a lot more than a few dollars.
With patience and respect you will get a lot
more out of me than if you demand me to be
a certain way.
Have a good night.
Saturday, April 16, 2011
On Being Forced
One big thing that many look for from an
erotic hypnotist is to be forced into
something he may not want to do - perhaps
feminization and/or being with a guy, or...
the list goes on.
Depending on what the "thing" is, I tell
people that they don't really want to be
forced, as it can set up an inner conflict
that can cause all kinds of problems, even
worse than one that might exist without
additional "official" hypnotic input.
(I say "official" as there is so much that
can be hypnotic with or without trance).
While there may be some things that seem
to be taboo to be interested in, it is
likely better to deal with the inner conflict,
and decide what one personally feels than to
give a surface reaction to what does or does
not happen.
I wonder sometimes if people consider this
option before going off and asking for
someone to force them into something. I
suspect they do not, as not a single person
that I have suggested this to as a possibility
even knew it was one.
It may be of interest for you to know that in
those cases in which I tell them what I have
told you, a good percentage will take me up
on my perspective and suggestion.
For anyone who thinks it will take away
something, let me assure you there are other
ways to get you to pleasure and they do not
need to entail setting yourself up. You
would likely be surprised.
As always, if you have questions, just ask!
erotic hypnotist is to be forced into
something he may not want to do - perhaps
feminization and/or being with a guy, or...
the list goes on.
Depending on what the "thing" is, I tell
people that they don't really want to be
forced, as it can set up an inner conflict
that can cause all kinds of problems, even
worse than one that might exist without
additional "official" hypnotic input.
(I say "official" as there is so much that
can be hypnotic with or without trance).
While there may be some things that seem
to be taboo to be interested in, it is
likely better to deal with the inner conflict,
and decide what one personally feels than to
give a surface reaction to what does or does
not happen.
I wonder sometimes if people consider this
option before going off and asking for
someone to force them into something. I
suspect they do not, as not a single person
that I have suggested this to as a possibility
even knew it was one.
It may be of interest for you to know that in
those cases in which I tell them what I have
told you, a good percentage will take me up
on my perspective and suggestion.
For anyone who thinks it will take away
something, let me assure you there are other
ways to get you to pleasure and they do not
need to entail setting yourself up. You
would likely be surprised.
As always, if you have questions, just ask!
Thursday, April 14, 2011
The Greatest Thing | Video | Music
A friend of mine shared this song with me
a few years ago. As old as the song is,
it seems timeless in its message.
A contestant from American Idol pulled it
out and dusted it off for people who likely
never heard it before last night.
Hearing about the news is what reminded me
about it.
In addition, kudos to Casey for sticking to
his guns and going with what felt right to
him. Yes it was atypical, and that is
likely what was so great about it.
It says a lot about the greatness that can
come from going with the beat of our own
inner drummer, or outer bass (LOL).
Of course, the true verdict remains to be
seen with the voting, but I gotta believe
regardless of the outcome, he is sitting
in a better place for it.
For some it will be about the trophy,
which does have its own rewards, but for
others winning is about the reward of
finding oneself and the valuable things
that come along with that - things that
no one else can give you which, for that
reason, may just be inherently more
valuable.
If you haven't heard the song, here's
your opportunity.
and Casey's Version
a few years ago. As old as the song is,
it seems timeless in its message.
A contestant from American Idol pulled it
out and dusted it off for people who likely
never heard it before last night.
Hearing about the news is what reminded me
about it.
In addition, kudos to Casey for sticking to
his guns and going with what felt right to
him. Yes it was atypical, and that is
likely what was so great about it.
It says a lot about the greatness that can
come from going with the beat of our own
inner drummer, or outer bass (LOL).
Of course, the true verdict remains to be
seen with the voting, but I gotta believe
regardless of the outcome, he is sitting
in a better place for it.
For some it will be about the trophy,
which does have its own rewards, but for
others winning is about the reward of
finding oneself and the valuable things
that come along with that - things that
no one else can give you which, for that
reason, may just be inherently more
valuable.
If you haven't heard the song, here's
your opportunity.
and Casey's Version
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Toggle Heart | JPG
deep rich red robe
gorgeous red toggle heart necklace
cleavage
818x617 | 1 Image JPG | $3.50
I love a rainy day...
especially one in which I get to lay
around in bed and take calls...it
combines 2 things I love to do. :)
Wanna join me? ;)
around in bed and take calls...it
combines 2 things I love to do. :)
Wanna join me? ;)
Monday, April 11, 2011
Want to help?
As you might imagine, I spend a lot of time
at my desk and computer and for that reason
I invest in a nice chair to sit in.
The time has come for a new chair, and I
wondered if anyone out here would be
interested in contributing funds to
help that happen.
I have made 4 buttons below, so you can
contribute at any of the levels, or even
make your own by sending me an Amazon
Gift Card.
Ultimately I will likely get a chair from
Amazon, so that will likely be the best
choice of all available options.
I'll let you know when I have gotten the
funds, so until you see an update, your
contribution is welcome and appreciated.
Every dollar counts, so know whatever your
contribution, it IS APPRECIATED.
Thanks!
$100 $75
$50 $25
at my desk and computer and for that reason
I invest in a nice chair to sit in.
The time has come for a new chair, and I
wondered if anyone out here would be
interested in contributing funds to
help that happen.
I have made 4 buttons below, so you can
contribute at any of the levels, or even
make your own by sending me an Amazon
Gift Card.
Ultimately I will likely get a chair from
Amazon, so that will likely be the best
choice of all available options.
I'll let you know when I have gotten the
funds, so until you see an update, your
contribution is welcome and appreciated.
Every dollar counts, so know whatever your
contribution, it IS APPRECIATED.
Thanks!
$100 $75$50 $25Does this apply to you?
Take a good, hard look at your life.
Are you where you want to be?
It is easy to get caught up in the things
you think matter, which diverts you from
the things that really do matter.
Sometimes we miss the things that have
the most value for us because we are unable
to label and box them. Some of life's
most amazing things are unexpected and
unclassified.
Numbers are nice, but they don't always
add up the way we want them to. You can
spend your time and money getting the
facts as they are, or you can spend you
time, money and energy on creating the
joys you want in your life.
You can be reactive to what life brings
you, or you can be proactive and learn
how best to dance with the moves life
brings you, and learn when and how to
take the lead.
You can ask for facts, or you seek
solutions. Facts take less work, less
understanding, less self awareness.
Do you want a support structure, or
leaning post? Do you want to be supported
until you have your own strength, or do
you want to be ever leaning on another?
Do you want to be stuck in what is, or
do you want to stretch and grow?
Do you
need a plan?
need support for that plan?
need someone impartial?
strive to improve yourself?
feel like there's more to life and you're missing out?
know who you are?
know where you are?
know where you are in relation to where you want to be?
have a willingness to change in action or perspective?
feel out of tune with life?
know the difference between what fear says and your gut tells you?
If you...
need a plan...
need support for that plan...
need someone impartial...
strive to improve yourself...
feel like there is more to life and you're missing out...
don't know who you are....
don't know where you are...
don't know where you are in relation to where you want to be...
have a willingness to change in action or perspective...
feel out of tune with life...
don't know the difference between what fear says and what your gut tells you...
We should talk.
Many will tell you you need to do things differently,
but the only one you need to consider listening to
is that voice within that says that things aren't
working in your best interest as they currently are.
Many will tell you that their way and their way of
looking at things is the best. What is best will
vary from person to person and circumstance to
circumstance.
If you are caught up in what "should" be instead of
being able to be who you truly are, odds are
something is telling you to reach out and do things
differently.
If that is the case, I may just be able to help.
It doesn't need to be me, of course, however I highly
suggest you listen to that part of you that is
seeking to help you find your way.
As a child there were adults who did what they could
to help you learn what you needed to, sometimes even
expediting the process. Someone who can do the types
of things I can can also help to expedite the changes
you desire as the incredible adult you now are.
If you are happy with the way things are, then perhaps
a conversation will serve to make the good even better.
Any which way, when the time is right to do something,
you know. Whether or not you act on it is another
story, but you DO know.
Have a great week!
Isis
Are you where you want to be?
It is easy to get caught up in the things
you think matter, which diverts you from
the things that really do matter.
Sometimes we miss the things that have
the most value for us because we are unable
to label and box them. Some of life's
most amazing things are unexpected and
unclassified.
Numbers are nice, but they don't always
add up the way we want them to. You can
spend your time and money getting the
facts as they are, or you can spend you
time, money and energy on creating the
joys you want in your life.
You can be reactive to what life brings
you, or you can be proactive and learn
how best to dance with the moves life
brings you, and learn when and how to
take the lead.
You can ask for facts, or you seek
solutions. Facts take less work, less
understanding, less self awareness.
Do you want a support structure, or
leaning post? Do you want to be supported
until you have your own strength, or do
you want to be ever leaning on another?
Do you want to be stuck in what is, or
do you want to stretch and grow?
Do you
need a plan?
need support for that plan?
need someone impartial?
strive to improve yourself?
feel like there's more to life and you're missing out?
know who you are?
know where you are?
know where you are in relation to where you want to be?
have a willingness to change in action or perspective?
feel out of tune with life?
know the difference between what fear says and your gut tells you?
If you...
need a plan...
need support for that plan...
need someone impartial...
strive to improve yourself...
feel like there is more to life and you're missing out...
don't know who you are....
don't know where you are...
don't know where you are in relation to where you want to be...
have a willingness to change in action or perspective...
feel out of tune with life...
don't know the difference between what fear says and what your gut tells you...
We should talk.
Many will tell you you need to do things differently,
but the only one you need to consider listening to
is that voice within that says that things aren't
working in your best interest as they currently are.
Many will tell you that their way and their way of
looking at things is the best. What is best will
vary from person to person and circumstance to
circumstance.
If you are caught up in what "should" be instead of
being able to be who you truly are, odds are
something is telling you to reach out and do things
differently.
If that is the case, I may just be able to help.
It doesn't need to be me, of course, however I highly
suggest you listen to that part of you that is
seeking to help you find your way.
As a child there were adults who did what they could
to help you learn what you needed to, sometimes even
expediting the process. Someone who can do the types
of things I can can also help to expedite the changes
you desire as the incredible adult you now are.
If you are happy with the way things are, then perhaps
a conversation will serve to make the good even better.
Any which way, when the time is right to do something,
you know. Whether or not you act on it is another
story, but you DO know.
Have a great week!
Isis
Sunday, April 10, 2011
A Shift | Video
In the last entry I wrote about how
perspectives can empower or be
destructive. On the heels of that
I saw this video. I believe it is
a remake of sorts of another video
that was in Italian(?)
Actions are often stopped or taken
by the meaning behind the words
we use, and their resulting meaning.
Just like the previous blog, I am
looking more at the perspective
shift that is possible, the one
that is able to empower a seemingly
disabled situation.
I suspect is much more possible in
our day-to-day lives, if we are
willing to be more aware and alter
how we go about the things we need
to do.
If you have a minute, check it out,
and let me know what you think.
perspectives can empower or be
destructive. On the heels of that
I saw this video. I believe it is
a remake of sorts of another video
that was in Italian(?)
Actions are often stopped or taken
by the meaning behind the words
we use, and their resulting meaning.
Just like the previous blog, I am
looking more at the perspective
shift that is possible, the one
that is able to empower a seemingly
disabled situation.
I suspect is much more possible in
our day-to-day lives, if we are
willing to be more aware and alter
how we go about the things we need
to do.
If you have a minute, check it out,
and let me know what you think.
Need Help? *GASP*
I heard something today to the effect
that men are humbled by the time they
seek out someone to help them. Those
who are willing to seek out the help
usually find that it is done as a last
resort because they can't seem to
accomplish what they need to on their
own. As a result, some will label
themselves as weak.
I find that interesting, as it is
something that there would be those
who would want to manipulate that
would use that as an argument.
"You are obviously a weak man, and
you need my guidance."
It is also interesting for me to
sometimes sit back and observe how
arguments are made and won by how
they are presented. Is someone
weak, or are they just a human
being who is in need of some
assistance?
If every human being that was in
need of assistance was weak, we'd
all have to go by that label.
Then, once labelled that way, we
judge ourselves as inferior, and
the downward spiral would continue.
On the other side of things one
could make the argument that a
smart man knows when he needs
some assistance to accomplish
his goal. And this smart man
is empowered by seeking out that
help.
If life is lived in the focus
that we have, then almost anything
could be configured in a way that
empowers or is destructive.
If you are in one place and you
want to get somewhere else, but
haven't been able to on your own,
I might be able to help.
You would be surprised how
seamless things can be with the
right kind of assistance, and
it doesn't necessarily need to
be a long, drawn out ordeal.
I realize that it may be something
that consciously is difficult to
grasp, however it makes more sense
than you may be able to grasp which
would make sense because if you had
grasped it, things would have been
different already.
You could go to a city on your own,
or you could go to a city and visit
with an expert guide. By yourself
you may find things interesting that
the guide would gloss over. With
the guide, your attention may be
drawn to something you would have
missed.
There are pluses and minuses with
the choices we make. The mistake
we can sometimes make is to label
them in a way that is positive or
negative or right or wrong when,
in fact, it is just "different."
One last thought on the idea of
"help." A man may have the skill
to be able to build a building on
his own, and he might be able to
do just that. The thing is, though,
his destination - a completed
building - will likely be reached
that much more quickly with some
help. Does that mean he is weak
or inferior?
You may be looking to get somewhere
in your life. And you may just be
able to get there on your own.
But you might get there quicker and
with a better use of your resources
if you have some assistance.
You're a smart man. I know you
will choose wisely, and what is
best for you...you do know that,
don't you? If you didn't, I hope
with what I have said, you will
reconsider who you think yourself
to be and the options you choose.
Sometimes having good company
along the way can make things
seem so much more simple and
effortless.
I am available to be a part of your
crew...if interested, let me know
when I can start! :)
Have a great day!
that men are humbled by the time they
seek out someone to help them. Those
who are willing to seek out the help
usually find that it is done as a last
resort because they can't seem to
accomplish what they need to on their
own. As a result, some will label
themselves as weak.
I find that interesting, as it is
something that there would be those
who would want to manipulate that
would use that as an argument.
"You are obviously a weak man, and
you need my guidance."
It is also interesting for me to
sometimes sit back and observe how
arguments are made and won by how
they are presented. Is someone
weak, or are they just a human
being who is in need of some
assistance?
If every human being that was in
need of assistance was weak, we'd
all have to go by that label.
Then, once labelled that way, we
judge ourselves as inferior, and
the downward spiral would continue.
On the other side of things one
could make the argument that a
smart man knows when he needs
some assistance to accomplish
his goal. And this smart man
is empowered by seeking out that
help.
If life is lived in the focus
that we have, then almost anything
could be configured in a way that
empowers or is destructive.
If you are in one place and you
want to get somewhere else, but
haven't been able to on your own,
I might be able to help.
You would be surprised how
seamless things can be with the
right kind of assistance, and
it doesn't necessarily need to
be a long, drawn out ordeal.
I realize that it may be something
that consciously is difficult to
grasp, however it makes more sense
than you may be able to grasp which
would make sense because if you had
grasped it, things would have been
different already.
You could go to a city on your own,
or you could go to a city and visit
with an expert guide. By yourself
you may find things interesting that
the guide would gloss over. With
the guide, your attention may be
drawn to something you would have
missed.
There are pluses and minuses with
the choices we make. The mistake
we can sometimes make is to label
them in a way that is positive or
negative or right or wrong when,
in fact, it is just "different."
One last thought on the idea of
"help." A man may have the skill
to be able to build a building on
his own, and he might be able to
do just that. The thing is, though,
his destination - a completed
building - will likely be reached
that much more quickly with some
help. Does that mean he is weak
or inferior?
You may be looking to get somewhere
in your life. And you may just be
able to get there on your own.
But you might get there quicker and
with a better use of your resources
if you have some assistance.
You're a smart man. I know you
will choose wisely, and what is
best for you...you do know that,
don't you? If you didn't, I hope
with what I have said, you will
reconsider who you think yourself
to be and the options you choose.
Sometimes having good company
along the way can make things
seem so much more simple and
effortless.
I am available to be a part of your
crew...if interested, let me know
when I can start! :)
Have a great day!
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Ever get a song caught in your mind? | Video
For some reason, this song is going
through my head today. Although it
has been more the music than the
actual words, since I didn't really
know what they were.
Do you?
If you don't, take a moment and
really listen. The message is
simply beautiful.
through my head today. Although it
has been more the music than the
actual words, since I didn't really
know what they were.
Do you?
If you don't, take a moment and
really listen. The message is
simply beautiful.
Friday, April 8, 2011
Hypnotic Ring | GIF and JPG | Cleavage
Ribbed Knit Top,
Lacey White Bra,
Red Nails,
Purple & Silver Hypnotic Ring,
Heart Necklace
Image has dreamy, romantic feel.
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Your Personal Tipping Point
I was once in a relationship that I couldn't
leave. I should have left (and did) many
times. We weren't even married, and yet
I so much wanted it to work out, and it
was to great emotional cost to stay. It
was around the time that things finally
broke up for the last time that I realized
that one could be lonelier in a relationship
than by oneself.
It is difficult for anyone to understand a
dynamic that keeps two unhappy people in
a relationship together. Many who have
never had that dynamic think it is easy
to just walk away. If it was that easy,
many of those I talk to would. Instead,
it seems easier to cover up the wounds
and pretend like everything is OK.
The problem is that the source of the
issue is never addressed, and it can
create new wounds, and coping that way
comes at a greater and greater cost.
Eventually I was able to finally take a
stand for myself, and it took everything
I had to walk away. It just so happened
I got to my personal tipping point. I
had had enough, and I felt that I deserved
more than what I was getting (interestingly
those around me had agreed in that regard
a long time before I ever acted).
No relationship or person will ever be
perfect, but if you aren't able to be
who you are, consciously living a life
that you love, then it might be something
to really look at as it would be akin to
just handing over all of your money to
someone and saying, "Here take all this
money. It's OK if it doesn't belong to
you. I am giving you permission to walk
away with it. I like being trapped here
with you."
By your actions, are you doing things that
are trapping you and limiting your options
in regard to another? If you love someone
and feel that you'd be taking away from them
by separating, there are ways to make
things work at a distance. Sometimes it
it is a loving act to separate.
All too often society will tell us what
we should want, what we should think,
what we should accept. Perhaps all of
the time you have spent unhappy will be
the foundation for a version of you that
can have the happiness deep down you know
you deserve (odds are good you wouldn't
be trying to escape if you didn't think
you deserved more).
It is possible that the lessons we learn
in life are the things that help us to
become the person who is able to be the
kind of person who can be the ideal partner
and attract one. However for that to happen,
there are things to say, and risks to take.
If you are escaping, and feel compromised,
perhaps you can consider that there are
other options. Sometimes hypnosis can
help, too, as it may be able to help you
identify what is unconsciously tying you
to your situation.
If you're willing to go that route...and
want a guide/partner, let's talk. It's
not about me helping you to leave, but
rather assisting you to discover yourself
and what is best for you. When you
discover things you might not have known,
you may even find things shifting in your
current situation.
No one can stand up for you - except you,
and when the time is right for shifts and
changes, you will find your own personal
tipping point, and when you get to the
other side don't be surprised to hear
yourself cheering for who you have become. :)
leave. I should have left (and did) many
times. We weren't even married, and yet
I so much wanted it to work out, and it
was to great emotional cost to stay. It
was around the time that things finally
broke up for the last time that I realized
that one could be lonelier in a relationship
than by oneself.
It is difficult for anyone to understand a
dynamic that keeps two unhappy people in
a relationship together. Many who have
never had that dynamic think it is easy
to just walk away. If it was that easy,
many of those I talk to would. Instead,
it seems easier to cover up the wounds
and pretend like everything is OK.
The problem is that the source of the
issue is never addressed, and it can
create new wounds, and coping that way
comes at a greater and greater cost.
Eventually I was able to finally take a
stand for myself, and it took everything
I had to walk away. It just so happened
I got to my personal tipping point. I
had had enough, and I felt that I deserved
more than what I was getting (interestingly
those around me had agreed in that regard
a long time before I ever acted).
No relationship or person will ever be
perfect, but if you aren't able to be
who you are, consciously living a life
that you love, then it might be something
to really look at as it would be akin to
just handing over all of your money to
someone and saying, "Here take all this
money. It's OK if it doesn't belong to
you. I am giving you permission to walk
away with it. I like being trapped here
with you."
By your actions, are you doing things that
are trapping you and limiting your options
in regard to another? If you love someone
and feel that you'd be taking away from them
by separating, there are ways to make
things work at a distance. Sometimes it
it is a loving act to separate.
All too often society will tell us what
we should want, what we should think,
what we should accept. Perhaps all of
the time you have spent unhappy will be
the foundation for a version of you that
can have the happiness deep down you know
you deserve (odds are good you wouldn't
be trying to escape if you didn't think
you deserved more).
It is possible that the lessons we learn
in life are the things that help us to
become the person who is able to be the
kind of person who can be the ideal partner
and attract one. However for that to happen,
there are things to say, and risks to take.
If you are escaping, and feel compromised,
perhaps you can consider that there are
other options. Sometimes hypnosis can
help, too, as it may be able to help you
identify what is unconsciously tying you
to your situation.
If you're willing to go that route...and
want a guide/partner, let's talk. It's
not about me helping you to leave, but
rather assisting you to discover yourself
and what is best for you. When you
discover things you might not have known,
you may even find things shifting in your
current situation.
No one can stand up for you - except you,
and when the time is right for shifts and
changes, you will find your own personal
tipping point, and when you get to the
other side don't be surprised to hear
yourself cheering for who you have become. :)
Thursday, April 7, 2011
Thanks Shakespeare | Video
Apparently it is believed that when
Shakespeare felt writer's block, he
made up words...one of which is
"enchantment."
I wonder what people were before he
created that word.
Hmmmm.
Shakespeare felt writer's block, he
made up words...one of which is
"enchantment."
I wonder what people were before he
created that word.
Hmmmm.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
It's a Delight Duo
lacey camisole,
silver long necklace,
long, curly hair.
VERY LARGE images
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Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Does it Bother You That I am Married?
I sometimes get asked that question:
Does it bother you that I am married?
Interestingly, if it did bother me
that men who were married called me,
I wouldn't have many men to talk to,
because I think that they (and men
in a relationship) account for
at least 50% of those I speak to.
I know there are some men who would
take more objection to the idea than
I do. These same men couldn't imagine
being in a relationship feeling that
they needed to go and speak erotically
with another.
Occasionally (although it is a fairly
small percentage) I will get a man
whose significant other knows that he
calls a phone sex line - and even
encourages it.
It is a tricky subject, this. There
are many women who would take issue
not only with their man making the
call, but the fact that there is a
woman he can make the call to.
Is it OK for a man to make the call?
A loaded question if I ever heard one.
You likely realize - even if you don't
want to acknowledge it - that there
are going to be those who will say,
"Yes, absolutely, no harm done," and
there will be those who will say,
"Absolutely...NO."
In between there are a whole designer's
bunch of grays.
Where I fall is that if it's OK for
you, then it is OK for me.
Having said that, I also want to add
that there might be things to be
considered within the dynamic we may
create.
You may want to come to the call, and
forget that you have a wife or significant
other, and you may want to keep that
part of your life "separate." That
is something I can respect, however
it is important to for me to know if
you have someone else so that my
suggestions do not interfere with the
dynamic you have with that person.
You may think you should be the sole
arbiter of deciding that, but if you
are hypnotically affected, you will
not always recognize or realize it,
and what we do could have the VERY
REAL possibility of sneaking up on
you - and not necessarily in a good
way.
In addition, I find that there are
occasions in which someone will call
me as an escape to their current
situation. In and of itself that
isn't necessarily a bad thing, but
if you have a tendency to take up
residence there and hide out more
than you are dealing with what is
happening in your life for real, you
may be not only doing yourself a
disservice, you may also run the
risk of hurting yourself or another
as things avoided sometimes come
back and bite one on the butt.
Asking me the question is probably
not a bad idea, however perhaps a
better question to ask is does it
bother me that I am married and
doing this?
Societal guilt will likely want to
prompt a YES from you. However I
am not one to pull that card. As
a result, I swim in murkier, more
controversial waters. I am a believer
that we all know what is best for us,
and that we very often do not do it.
The reasons we don't do it aren't
always clear, and the reasons we do
it aren't always (or often) understood
by others.
Being driven by guilt is never a good
thing, and yet it is an ample fuel in
the society in which we live. The
problem is it may drive us, but we
don't always want to go where it wants
us to. It can in turn create lots of
problems and difficulties work-wise and
personally.
The place to start is with oneself, but
it is sometimes the hardest place to look.
The place to begin is with the facts -
divorced of their meaning.
When you can look within, and you can
review the facts, you can then decide
what you need to do. It could be that
what you need is to make a change in
your life, and that calling someone
like me is just covering it up, stalling
any changes from being made.
If you are OK with that, who would I -
or anyone else - be to say anything
about it? In our own situations we
may have our own dilemmas to face, and
the results of which to live with.
The same goes for you.
You have choices.
Your choices will create results.
That is what it comes down to.
Along the way you might consider other
things and those you will affect, but
without being clear about yourself,
your goals, your wishes, your desires,
your willingness to live with the
outcome (whether it is a desirable one,
or not) you will likely find yourself
drifting in life, once in a while finding
what you think is an answer, only to
find that it is a mirage that will
disappear leaving you unprepared for
what you are truly facing and leaving
you thirstier than ever.
In the end, it won't bother me that
you are married, but it WILL bother me
if you don't tell me that you are.
You may not think it is any of my
business, but I promise you, it is
wise for you to make it my business.
What we do next, we'll create together,
and you'll likely be glad we did.
Does it bother you that I am married?
Interestingly, if it did bother me
that men who were married called me,
I wouldn't have many men to talk to,
because I think that they (and men
in a relationship) account for
at least 50% of those I speak to.
I know there are some men who would
take more objection to the idea than
I do. These same men couldn't imagine
being in a relationship feeling that
they needed to go and speak erotically
with another.
Occasionally (although it is a fairly
small percentage) I will get a man
whose significant other knows that he
calls a phone sex line - and even
encourages it.
It is a tricky subject, this. There
are many women who would take issue
not only with their man making the
call, but the fact that there is a
woman he can make the call to.
Is it OK for a man to make the call?
A loaded question if I ever heard one.
You likely realize - even if you don't
want to acknowledge it - that there
are going to be those who will say,
"Yes, absolutely, no harm done," and
there will be those who will say,
"Absolutely...NO."
In between there are a whole designer's
bunch of grays.
Where I fall is that if it's OK for
you, then it is OK for me.
Having said that, I also want to add
that there might be things to be
considered within the dynamic we may
create.
You may want to come to the call, and
forget that you have a wife or significant
other, and you may want to keep that
part of your life "separate." That
is something I can respect, however
it is important to for me to know if
you have someone else so that my
suggestions do not interfere with the
dynamic you have with that person.
You may think you should be the sole
arbiter of deciding that, but if you
are hypnotically affected, you will
not always recognize or realize it,
and what we do could have the VERY
REAL possibility of sneaking up on
you - and not necessarily in a good
way.
In addition, I find that there are
occasions in which someone will call
me as an escape to their current
situation. In and of itself that
isn't necessarily a bad thing, but
if you have a tendency to take up
residence there and hide out more
than you are dealing with what is
happening in your life for real, you
may be not only doing yourself a
disservice, you may also run the
risk of hurting yourself or another
as things avoided sometimes come
back and bite one on the butt.
Asking me the question is probably
not a bad idea, however perhaps a
better question to ask is does it
bother me that I am married and
doing this?
Societal guilt will likely want to
prompt a YES from you. However I
am not one to pull that card. As
a result, I swim in murkier, more
controversial waters. I am a believer
that we all know what is best for us,
and that we very often do not do it.
The reasons we don't do it aren't
always clear, and the reasons we do
it aren't always (or often) understood
by others.
Being driven by guilt is never a good
thing, and yet it is an ample fuel in
the society in which we live. The
problem is it may drive us, but we
don't always want to go where it wants
us to. It can in turn create lots of
problems and difficulties work-wise and
personally.
The place to start is with oneself, but
it is sometimes the hardest place to look.
The place to begin is with the facts -
divorced of their meaning.
When you can look within, and you can
review the facts, you can then decide
what you need to do. It could be that
what you need is to make a change in
your life, and that calling someone
like me is just covering it up, stalling
any changes from being made.
If you are OK with that, who would I -
or anyone else - be to say anything
about it? In our own situations we
may have our own dilemmas to face, and
the results of which to live with.
The same goes for you.
You have choices.
Your choices will create results.
That is what it comes down to.
Along the way you might consider other
things and those you will affect, but
without being clear about yourself,
your goals, your wishes, your desires,
your willingness to live with the
outcome (whether it is a desirable one,
or not) you will likely find yourself
drifting in life, once in a while finding
what you think is an answer, only to
find that it is a mirage that will
disappear leaving you unprepared for
what you are truly facing and leaving
you thirstier than ever.
In the end, it won't bother me that
you are married, but it WILL bother me
if you don't tell me that you are.
You may not think it is any of my
business, but I promise you, it is
wise for you to make it my business.
What we do next, we'll create together,
and you'll likely be glad we did.
Monday, April 4, 2011
It's Windy Outside...
Just thought I'd share that with you.
I just love the rain, and the wind, too.
It's too bad they can cause so much
harm in their wake...when they're not
at their worst, there is nothing like
cool rain on a hot summer's day or
the feeling of wind gently blowing
against the skin. It is something
- for me - that is so incredibly
powerful and invigorating.
I hope it is a safe night wherever you
are - especially for those expecting
the wild weather in the east/southeast.
Wishing you the sweetest of dreams...
Isis
I just love the rain, and the wind, too.
It's too bad they can cause so much
harm in their wake...when they're not
at their worst, there is nothing like
cool rain on a hot summer's day or
the feeling of wind gently blowing
against the skin. It is something
- for me - that is so incredibly
powerful and invigorating.
I hope it is a safe night wherever you
are - especially for those expecting
the wild weather in the east/southeast.
Wishing you the sweetest of dreams...
Isis
Ponderings...more
I just read where the author of the movie
Message in a Bottle got the essence of
his story from. It is no wonder why the
story has the emotional note that it does.
(See my previous blog entry on my experience
with the movie).
I won't say more than that, as I know some
are not big on spoilers. However if you
are interested in knowing what I found out,
just ask, and I will tell you...or just do
some research for yourself. Apparently if
what I read is true, he discussed it in an
article for the New York Times when the
book came out.
Be well, and have a great day.
Isis
Message in a Bottle got the essence of
his story from. It is no wonder why the
story has the emotional note that it does.
(See my previous blog entry on my experience
with the movie).
I won't say more than that, as I know some
are not big on spoilers. However if you
are interested in knowing what I found out,
just ask, and I will tell you...or just do
some research for yourself. Apparently if
what I read is true, he discussed it in an
article for the New York Times when the
book came out.
Be well, and have a great day.
Isis
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Late Night Ponderings...
Ever watch the movie
Message in a Bottle?
I stumbled into it tonight,
and had no idea what to
expect.
There were a few lines that
I thought were great. One
was between the two main
characters. One said, "You'll
just forget about me," to
which the other replied,
"Every day."
And then Paul Newman was
talking to his character's
son and said, "Choose between
yesterday and tomorrow.
Pick one."
I identify with the first
one because despite our
efforts to do something
sometimes, it is something
we must do over and over.
The second one is significant,
too, as we often tend to live
our lives in anything but the
moment. Having said that, if
it is to be a choice between
yesterday and tomorrow, which
will it be?
It was a story about love and
how things don't always go the
way we want them to, but it
doesn't mean that we still
can't cherish the bits of
love and happiness we're able
to grasp along the way.
The story was melancholy -
just like life sometimes is.
The movie, as contrived as it
was, was almost too real in
the emotions it evoked. In
life, we may not always be
able to identify with another's
situation and thoughts and
experience, but often we
will be able to identify with
the emotions that come from it.
At the core of who we are, we
are all very much the same...
it's too bad we so often forget
that.
Last, but not least, I find the
movie has me considering that
the path I am on sometimes is not
the one I would have chosen; it
seems there are times it certainly
chooses me. Sometimes life is
about taking chances, in spite
of what we think we know or what
we think we know. Sometimes life
is about stepping into the unknown.
Sometimes life is about being
vulnerable and offering up love
in the face of uncertainty. It
is the ability to be able to do
that that often allows one to be
without regret.
Ok...enough deep thinking for now.
:P Sweet, sweet dreams when you
get there...
Isis
Message in a Bottle?
I stumbled into it tonight,
and had no idea what to
expect.
There were a few lines that
I thought were great. One
was between the two main
characters. One said, "You'll
just forget about me," to
which the other replied,
"Every day."
And then Paul Newman was
talking to his character's
son and said, "Choose between
yesterday and tomorrow.
Pick one."
I identify with the first
one because despite our
efforts to do something
sometimes, it is something
we must do over and over.
The second one is significant,
too, as we often tend to live
our lives in anything but the
moment. Having said that, if
it is to be a choice between
yesterday and tomorrow, which
will it be?
It was a story about love and
how things don't always go the
way we want them to, but it
doesn't mean that we still
can't cherish the bits of
love and happiness we're able
to grasp along the way.
The story was melancholy -
just like life sometimes is.
The movie, as contrived as it
was, was almost too real in
the emotions it evoked. In
life, we may not always be
able to identify with another's
situation and thoughts and
experience, but often we
will be able to identify with
the emotions that come from it.
At the core of who we are, we
are all very much the same...
it's too bad we so often forget
that.
Last, but not least, I find the
movie has me considering that
the path I am on sometimes is not
the one I would have chosen; it
seems there are times it certainly
chooses me. Sometimes life is
about taking chances, in spite
of what we think we know or what
we think we know. Sometimes life
is about stepping into the unknown.
Sometimes life is about being
vulnerable and offering up love
in the face of uncertainty. It
is the ability to be able to do
that that often allows one to be
without regret.
Ok...enough deep thinking for now.
:P Sweet, sweet dreams when you
get there...
Isis
For the Romantics | Video
These are two beautiful songs by Taylor Hicks.
Apparently, they have been around for a while,
but they're new to me. They spoke to the
romantic in me, so I thought I'd share them
with the romantic in you. Enjoy.
Apparently, they have been around for a while,
but they're new to me. They spoke to the
romantic in me, so I thought I'd share them
with the romantic in you. Enjoy.
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