I love this Quote

In Nov/Dec 2008 Psychology Today,
there was a piece about Paul Potts
from Britain's Got Talent.

The piece ends with the following:
"On that television stage, he says,
his lack of confidence finally
didn't matter. Confidence comes
from the head. 'I sang from the
heart.'"

Something to think about the next
time you may doubt yourself, and
feel drawn to do something. When
your heart "sings" it will likely
take you exactly where you are
meant to be...as long as your
head doesn't stop you.
 

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I know I am thought of
often, but I don't
always have tangible
acknowledgement of what
goes through your brain,
as some only let me
know when we talk -
if even then.

When I am having a day
like this, knowing I
am thought of is
certainly a nice little
pick me up...and little
gifts make it even better,
and larger gifts even
better still. :)

Hope YOU are having a
great day, yourself,
and staying safe -
especially given the
weather that has been
occurring in the south/
southeast.

Be well.
Isis
 

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Mind & Medicine

I just read this article about The Placebo Effect,
and how the mind affects trials of drugs.

While you may have heard of this effect, you may
not be aware of how the mind can play tricks
and - perhaps as suggested in this article -
make many drug studies inaccurate in their
findings.

While absolutes are rarely absolute,
except within the framework they are
created, it seems to me that what this
article says is a good thing - except
for the multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical
industry.

While many who may contact me want
pleasure from hypnosis, it is always
amazing to consider the powerful effects
the mind can create for your health and
well being.

Let me know what you think!

Have a great day!

PS As always, when there is a discussion
about hypnosis and medicine, you should
always be responsible and speak with your
physician before acting on something
physical hypnotically.
 

Oh Baby | Video

I had made a recording that I couldn't
get a hold of for a while. As a result, I
made a similar one, but it wasn't nearly as
good as the original (so few things are).

Thankfully I was able to get the original,
sort of. It is a recording of the original
with some noise on it. However, I think
it only adds to the punchline that I
intended for it.

I made it into a YouTube video, and am
hoping that it will get to stay there,
so we will see.

For your viewing and audio pleasure:
 

Interesting thought...

I heard something to the effect of
if you don't take responsibility
for your life, someone else will
take control of it.

Hmmm....

Finding Your Own Unique Style (and sticking with it) | Video

The following video is about a teenager
who is doing quite well for himself with
an unusual two-handed bowling style.

What was interesting for me about the
story is the fact that so many were
trying to get him to do it the "right"
way, but he still stuck to his way,
and it seems to work quite well.

I also think it's great that his dad
respected his choice and didn't try
to override it, but instead, supported it.
For some people the tendency would
likely be to be "right" or "fit in."

For anyone open to the idea that right
can be different than what is expected,
can vary from the norm, and can be
uniquely and successfully defined by
an individual, this is a great example
of just that.

Enjoy!

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People Want to Be Heard

I heard news recently about how
Billy Ray Cyrus is saying things
that many consider negative and
controversial about his daughter
and the show she was on.

Since I don't know what has
happened behind closed doors,
I obviously cannot speak to
what is truly going on, however
it made me wonder if Billy Ray
is feeling like his concerns
and thoughts are being heard.

Often when someone feels that
s/he isn't heard, that person
will draw more attention to
themselves, but not necessarily
in a positive way. I don't
know if it's our inner child,
or something else, but most
know how children get when
someone they want to pay
attention to them, doesn't.

Interestingly, just because
someone hears words being
said doesn't mean that they
were truly HEARD. There is
an art to truly listening to
a person, and most people
will know if you're just
acting like you care or if
you really do.

Sometimes, though, there
are also times in which
you do really listen, but
there is something left
unsaid by the person who
is being persistent. So,
while you are fulfilling
what you think s/he needs,
there is still something
lacking.

It takes awareness and
patience to be able to
sort through the layers
of things sometimes, but
it can be sooo worth it,
especially when you are
on the receiving end of
someone doing that for
you.

So...the next time someone
is more persistent than
seems to make sense,
consider that there may
be something that s/he
hasn't felt heard about,
and see what you can do
to discover what that
might be, and even better
still see if there might
be something you can do
about it. There may be
nothing, but a person
who feels you really heard
them will likely appreciate
your efforts. Just realize
that many times things just
need an outlet, and don't
necessarily need to be
"fixed."

Alternatively, if you try
to ignore it, it will likely
make the situation worse, as
the more something is denied,
the louder it will likely roar.
 

Belief and Action

God Will Save Me
Anon. Y. Mous

There came a big flood, and the water around a man's home was rising steadily.

The man, standing at the front of the house, was watching water rising all around him when a man in a boat came along and said, "Get in the boat and I'll get you out of here. He replied, "No thanks, God will save me."

The man went into the house, and the water was starting to pour in so he went to the second floor.

As he looked out, another man in a boat came along, and called out, "Get in the boat and I'll get you out of here."

Again, the man replied, "No thanks. God will save me."

The water kept rising so he went up to the roof.

A helicopter flew over, and the pilot called down him, "I'll drop you a rope, grab onto it, and I'll get you out of here."

Again the man replied, "No thanks. God will save me."

The water continued to rise, and soon nearly covered the whole house. The man fell in, and drowned.

When he arrived in Heaven and saw God, he asked Him, "Why didn't you save me from that terrible flood? Did I not show you my faith?"

God replied, "What more would you have me do? I sent people in two boats and a helicopter?"

I remember the first time I heard this story. It is one of those things that left an impression immediately.

Some people question if they are doing right by God by indulging in phone sex, or doing other things that might be morally questionable for others. The question that always comes to mind for me is "How do you know that what you're doing isn't serving a purpose in God's eyes? How do you know that it isn't exactly perfect?"

For some that could be a rationalization that allows for questionable behaviors, but it seems to me that anything can be rationalized for any purpose. It seems to me that there are great pains that are inflicted on others in the name of God - and that is OK.

I am thinking about this today because I heard about the two couples who were killed by pirates. The news has taken great effort to mention that their yacht was filled with Bibles. While I am sad to hear such news, I can't help but wonder if there was a thought something like "We're doing God's work, and speaking His word, so He will protect us."

I want to be careful here, as any conversation like this is ripe for difficulty no matter how you slice it, and I also want to respect these four people who put themselves out there in a way so few will in the name of something they believed in.

However, there seems to be something here for us to look at and question. Do we do things because it is the right thing for us to do? Or do we do them because we believe that God (or some other power) believes it is the right thing for us to do? And, even more importantly, how do we tell the difference?

There is no way that I could know what the "right" thing was for these four people to do. I can only hope that they were doing what was best for them to do when they were doing it. I am sad for them and those that loved them that a gesture that I would believe to have the right intentions could end in such a violent way.

Every day - whether you believe in God, or not - there are "powers" that will tell you what the right thing is to do. They will tell you what to believe and how best to believe it. If you follow blindly, or make assumptions about how things are to be carried out, you might find yourself wondering "what the heck just happened?"

This is a complex topic that is difficult to cover in a short blog entry, as it would be easy to go off on many different tangents. However, in the end, what I am hoping to do is have you consider your considerations and see how the resulting actions fit for you...instead of allowing someone else or someone else's belief do it for you.
 

On Bald(ing) Men and Other Superficial Things

There is someone that I was
speaking to recently who was
insecure because he was
balding.

While I realize for many men
(and women!) this can be a
significant issue, I thought
I would share with you a
few of my thoughts on the
matter.

If people are going to love
you, they are going to love
you for who you are and not
how you are packaged, or for
the later packaging changes
(gaining weight, wrinkles,
grey hair, no hair, hair in
various unusual places...)
and those are just the
physical things. You should
likely include what you
choose to do for a living,
the car you choose to buy,
the clothes you wear, the
money you have in the bank.

EVERYthing is mutable. The
mistake we make is to think
otherwise.

Some will find that if they
give a woman what she wants
they "feel loved and needed,"
but are they really loved
and needed? That all depends,
of course, on your perspective.

If you give a woman your "all,"
it is going to feel a lot
better to the core of you if
you believe those things, and
belief comes without the other
person's reality entering the
equation.

It might be difficult - if not
impossible and possibly undesirable
- to stand back and look at a
situation and discover what
the other person's reality is.

You get something from your
belief, and stepping back
will potentially threaten
what you are getting from
your (sometimes intentional)
ignorance.

You might consider being kind
to yourself if you discover that
things weren't as you thought
they were. After all, you were
doing what we are made to do -
get what we feel we need - even
if it doesn't truly work for us.

In a situation like this, you
are obviously a person who has
much to share and give, and
I would be willing to bet that
there is someone out there that
would be appreciative and worthy
of your efforts.

The thing is, though, you have
to recognize what you're doing,
and change it, and let it go,
so that something more positive
can show up. Of course, you
also need to believe you are
deserving of someone who will
appreciate you.

Easy? Probably not. But when
have I ever said being human is?
(Yeah. I know. It sucks, doesn't it?)

At the same time, becoming
aware of who you are in the
world and the value you offer
will help when the few pounds
creep on or the last few
remaining hairs fall.

People have said you have to
love yourself for others to
love you. Sometimes that is
a hard thing to grasp.

At the same time, it makes
sense because when you love
yourself you will use
different words, the quality
of your speech will vary, you
will carry yourself differently,
you will dress differently, so
much will vary from the person
who feels unloved. As a result,
the person you present to the
world - as bald as he may be -
will be someone that another
could fall in love with.

I realize opinions on this
will vary - as they do, on
everything. However, you
are no less a person because
another doesn't appreciate
who and how you are. You
are only less of a person
when you allow another's
detrimental judgment of who
they think you are based on
a characteristic you have
become your own. And that
has nothing to do with
anyone else, but YOU.

That, though, is the GOOD
NEWS. Something that starts
and ends with you is something
you have control over.

It is also the bad news for
those who have become victims
to their circumstances because
those types of situations tend
to feed off of themselves, and
when you start to starve them,
they tend to react in a way
that is desperate to hold onto
what is "known."

However, what is good is the
fact that with time and
determination, your old diet
will become a thing of the past,
and you will become so removed
from who you once were, that
person will be unrecognizable.

For some, it may be hard to
believe that it is possible.
But take my word for it -
IT IS.

Want some help jump starting
the changes? Let me know the
next time we speak.

I have to tell you one last
thing. I dated a guy who,
at the time, was in his
younger 20s who CHOSE to be
bald. I have to tell you,
I found it pretty darn sexy.
Of course it helped that I
liked him, too.

One other "last thing,"
sexy is an attitude that
comes in many shapes and
sizes. The next time you
go to judge yourself when
you look in the mirror,
you might consider these
words.

(It also occurs to me to
mention my recording I am
a Sensual God...if you want
something that encourages
attractive energy, the
MP3 would be a great choice).

Have a good night.
 

If you're thinking of calling me...

you should do just that.

Now.

I look forward to
talking to, and
having fun with, YOU.

Now is the time.
(Really!)

(You'll be so glad
you picked up the
phone.)

:)

Hypnotic Ads | Video

Have you seen these ads?

What do you think of them?


 

Hearing Voices | Video

Another country beauty...this one has
hypnotic undertones, but most people
would probably not realize it.

See if you can figure out what I mean,
and let me know what you think...

 

The beauty in the bumps? | Video

Sometimes we can't see or know
how much of what does and
doesn't happen can lay the
foundation for other things
that are yet to come.

There have been things in my
life that I can look back on
and I can see how the sometimes
bumpy road brought me something
great in the end.

That is why I can relate to the
song "This" by Darius Rucker
that I share below.

It's a country song that I
recently had the pleasure of
becoming acquainted with. I
have been listening to a lot
of country in the last few
weeks, and am coming to really
have an appreciation for the
messages in the music.

It seems to me that much of
popular music has become
pretty shallow and has very
little depth or substance.

Of course, I could be wrong,
but it seems to be more the
case than not.

Have you heard this song?
What do you think of the
message?

 

A Man After My Own Heart | Video

There is much conflict and discussion over
whether or not there is global warming.

The one thing I have said consistently is
that whether or not we believe that there
is global warming, we can do things better.

We do a lot of damage to this place we call
home, and it would be great if we could we
could focus on treating it better just
because it was the right thing to do, rather
than having a focus on fighting over whether
or not the things we do cause global warming.
In my opinion, whether or not they cause
global warming doesn't matter as much as the
quality of life that we are creating for
ourselves and future generations (which could
also be us, if you believe in reincarnation).

The maker of this film seems to agree with
me...and I think it's great! I look forward
to seeing more about it.

See what you think.

Happy Valentine's Day!

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to take advantage of the offer.
 

A First

I got a call from someone I have spoken
to a few times. I am not really what
he wants or is looking for, and we've
never really spoken at length.

Today he called to ask me for another
person's NF extension.

I found it rather amusing, and wondered
how others might react to such a
request.

I am guessing that it might mean that
he sees me as approachable, and that
would seem to me to be a good thing.

It might mean something else, instead,
but I think I'll go with what I just
said. It sounds good to me. :P
 

Some Beautiful Art

I just saw these works today. I'd
say this woman is a very talented
artist, and also quite sensual.

What would you say?
 

When you know...

When you know something is right,
there is a feeling you get.

The feeling is a feeling of
strength, of conviction.

When you know something is right,
there is a peace where there might
otherwise be a possibility of turmoil.

When you know something is right,
walking into the unknown there
is a sense of fearlessness.

When you know something is right,
it is something that you know
you must do.

When you know something is right,
and you don't act on it, the
feeling can be torturous.

When it's right, the mountains are
more likely to seem like molehills.

When you know something is right,
there is an inner knowing that
will guide you through - and you
will get to where you are going
amazed that you ever questioned
yourself, and amazed by the
reactions of others - as you will
most likely think nothing of it.

What do you know is right?
And, more importantly,
are you acting on it?
 

Uncovering and Discovering

I just saw a poll asking if the person
being polled thought that Gabrielle
Giffords' husband should take the
shuttle mission.

My thought: Why is this anyone's
business (outside of Gabrielle and
her husband)?

Why do we spend so much time and effort
focused on other people's issues? Is
it in part because we don't want to
face our own?

If so, what does that say?

Perhaps it is time for a change.

I know it's never easy to look at the
things you have spent time avoiding,
however once you are willing to look
- and better yet - act, it is likely
to be better than you might imagine.

Remember - we go for the things we
know - even when they don't work
for us. Just because it is in our
nature to do it, doesn't mean we
can't make a change. It just might
be a little more difficult, scary,
or uncertain, but it is possible,
and quite likely preferable when
we are numb or unhappy.

I had a caller who didn't know who
he truly was. He had been conditioned
by religious hypnosis, societal hypnosis,
and also by a mistress and a hypnotist.

He was scared to uncover who he truly
was, and yet a part of him already knew
that there was someone inside who wasn't
being addressed, as he was very confused.

By the time we were done, he felt more
in control and more at peace, and was
on his way to discovering what had been
covered up. You might even say he was
nervously excited.

It is easy to see why, as all that he
had known had disappeared, and he then
had a great opportunity to create and
recreate until he found what he needed
and who he wanted to be.

You can't furnish a room that has
already been furnished. Clean things
out, and you'll have an opportunity
to create something better than you
even imagined.

Need help?
Come and find me. :)
 

One drop too many

Have you ever wondered why something
seemingly small and insignificant
seems like a big deal?

Consider a bucket that collects drops
of water. The first few probably
don't seem like much. But once you
have added many more, there is going
to come a point that one more drop
will have the bucket overflow.

But it's ONLY a drop, right?

And then there is another drop, so
there is more overflow, and even
more drops will soon make a mess.

But they're ONLY drops, aren't they?

If a person focuses on the drops,
they'll never see the big mess
that is the overflow.

Many times when people interact,
they only see the drops, and many
times it is difficult, if not
impossible, for someone to see
another's overflow because
individual buckets have unique
contents which when added up
create a unique combination of
things that can cause a lot of
stress and a big mess.

Ever have someone ask, "What's
the big deal?" and it pissed you
off? Maybe you even wondered, too.
But if you went back and looked at
what had been happening up until
that point, you may recognize
what was adding up, and how those
little drops became a "big" thing.

I'd like to think that people
want the best for those they care
about, but often their observations
and suggestions aren't helpful
(or are minimally beneficial)
because they are unable to take
into consideration the entire
mix that is causing the reaction
of anger, of stress, of whatever
might be going on at the moment.

The unique chemistry that is you
is what will give you the
experience you have, and there
are only so many things that can
be added together before the
cracks will begin to show.

The best thing you can do for
yourself is recognize what is
happening. After you recognize
it, you can share with others
your recognition. It might help,
but, sadly, most still will not
get it because they will still
be focused on the drop and
unable to understand what is
going on for you. It is still
worth a shot, though, because
you never know when it might
be helpful, and ease some of
the pressure of their need to
be helpful in a way that isn't
so helpful.

You could also let the person
know that if they want to help,
the best thing they can do is
listen, and resist the urge to
try to help resolve your problem.

Another thing you could do is
just stay away from others for
a bit. It isn't always the
best solution, but sometimes
it can be helpful, as their
input only adds to the overflow.

Last, but not least, is probably
the most obvious and likely most
overlooked piece which is to
empty that bucket.

When you let the stress go, you
are better able to cope with the
things that truly are "just a
drop."

Don't know how to let them go?
There are lots of ways, but the
biggest trick will be to allow
yourself to utilize one or more
of them.

Often it feels "comfortable" to
hold on to the stress, as odd
as that may sound.

Of course, hypnosis can help,
but so can breathing properly
(many times we don't breathe
properly when stressed),
breaking up the pattern that
is occurring, doing something
fun, speaking with someone
who will just listen.

Sometimes we just need to
express ourselves to be able
to diffuse the pressures
that have been built up
within.

One last thing to consider
is what it feels like to
be on the other side. It
is easy to see how this
might suit our own
overwhelming experiences,
but it also suits the
ones those we care about
are having, too.

The next time someone is
feeling overwhelmed, and
is talking to you, consider
that the best thing you
can do is to listen, and
refrain from the attitude
of "what's the big deal?"
 

Want to feel weak?

I find many people I talk to who consider
themselves submissive tell me how weak
they feel, or want to feel.

They do this - in part - because they
want another person to be strong.

This is a perspective that is quite
common and encouraged over and over.

While I may sometimes work within that
context, it is rare, because contrary to
popular belief, feeling weak is unnecessary
to accomplish the experience you want to
have.

As with everything, there are varying
perspectives and I will always respect
a person's choice. I will also respect
their ability to choose, which many
conversations around this will take
away.

I tell you this because I find that not
everyone truly wants to feel weak, they
just think they're "supposed" to.

As with many things in regard to me,
you would likely be very surprised
at what is possible.

Hypnosis is magical, and so is an
experience with me.

Have a great day, and stay safe.
 

Brain Science & Differences in Perception | Video

This video is about an hour long. I know for many
spending that time might be difficult to do, however,
if the way our mind works is of interest to you,
it is an hour likely to be well spent.

The piece I found most interesting was the part
that said that our mind is as unique as our
fingerprint. That being the case, there truly
can't be any general assumptions about how the
world is seen. Of course, that creates difficulties
when the moral judgments of some become the laws
of all.

Of course this is a tricky topic, and there are
many shades of gray, however, one would have to
hope that we can come together in a way that
there are shades that most of us can come to
some form of agreement on.

Another thing that struck me is that, as with
anything, the good that could come out of this
could also be used for things not so good.

If you watch the video, I would love to hear
your thoughts in the comments below, or even
privately...it's up to you. However, I wouldn't
mind an interactive conversation here. :)

Watch the full episode. See more NOVA scienceNOW.