On Friendship & The Power of Exchange

I have often found that those who could
pay me for what I have to offer would
rather become my friend, and get it
for free. Can't say I blame them, I
have felt myself in that same position
on more than one occasion.

One might say it is a manipulation and
taking advantage of the situation that
is desired, when it seems it might just
be a very deeply rooted desire to
connect with another.

It becomes difficult to know how to
handle situations like these. If I
became friends with everyone and they
got me for free, I wouldn't have any
money to live and take care of myself.

From what I can tell there are other
people who have the same kind of
issues and dilemma when it comes to
things like this, and it makes me
wonder if there is a another way of
looking at things that can empower
all parties concerned.

When I think about it, money is a
form of exchange. I want that apple,
so I need to give you some currency
that will work for you. It might be
that the "currency" could be a pear
for a pie you want to make later.
It also might be 25 cents so that
you can add it to other money so
that you can pay for your water.

As long as people understand what
the expected currency is, then what
occurs between two people is actually
a transaction - which even occurs
between friends.

I know there are some who feel they
shouldn't need to pay for phone sex,
or shouldn't need to talk to a person,
however in the absence of available
options currently in one's life,
wouldn't it be a smart choice to
find someone who would take the
currency he has to offer and give
him what he wants/needs in exchange?

The problem, perhaps, comes from not
truly knowing what is wanted or
needed. Perhaps a person really
wants a relationship with someone,
so by paying someone for phone sex,
he is paying for something he doesn't
really want, and therefore it might be
less than satisfying.

I can see why a person would then
come to resent paying for something
he doesn't want. The problem is
that we don't always consciously
make these connections, so we carry
on in life, based on what we think
we know.

Of course, phone sex could just be
phone sex and a person still may
not feel like it is right to have
to pay for it, however, just like
with any other thing we don't have,
we have to do without it or find
a way to exchange something we have
of value that another person wants
for the thing they have that we
value.

It really is that simple.

And not.

It's not because of all of the
meanings and feelings and other
things that we attach to our
experiences in life. We sometimes
have quite the tangled mess.

So...

I share this with you because it
is something that often is not far
from my mind and because I am hoping
that you could possibly entertain
the idea that we could still be
friends, and you could still pay
me for being me. Perhaps there are
other possibilities along the way,
however this friend has bills to
pay, and appreciates the fact that
she can be there for you because
there are those who are willing to
exchange the currency they get from
their work for what I have to offer.

Currency is truly just a way to say
"I value" something. You might
have a currency in time, however
if it isn't a helpful one for another,
it is helpful to have another option,
or find a different person that it
would be perfect for.

What you do for me in a financial
way shows me that you value who I am,
and the way that you do it for yourself
responsibly shows you that you value
yourself. It is that kind of dynamic
that I would say is a win/win/win:
a win for you, a win for me, and a
win for those who are affected by
the choices we make in our lives.

Thank you for the value you place
on what I have to offer, I really do
appreciate the opportunity to get to
know you, and oddly enough if it
wasn't for the platform I work on,
I bet the odds of us ever meeting in
the real world would be slim to none.

Funny to consider the things that
bring us together.

Oh, and by the way, I have often
been asked if I "just" do what I do
for the money. The answer is an
emphatic NO. I love that what I do
meshes so well with who I am. I love
the fact that I can get paid to talk
to people and get to know them.

I also do come to care for those I
speak to. If you call me and we
connect (whether it is 1 time or more)
and then you disappear, odds are I
will wonder how you are, what happened,
what is going on, how your situation is.

I won't sit around agonizing over it,
but there is a strong likelihood you
WILL cross my mind at some point or
another. You are more than just a
$ sign for me because I know there
is more to you than a horny boy.

Be well, and have a great week,
Isis
 

On the Subject of Pain

For anyone whose sense of touch is working
as it should, odds are better than good if
their hand went near something hot, it
would likely recoil pretty quickly. After
we have experiences in which our sense of
touch is activated with a feeling of pain,
we tend to learn to be careful with what we
do, and often try to avoid the possibility of
pain as much as possible.

I was thinking about this today, as it makes
perfect sense that when we are hurt, we will
attempt to avoid a recurrence. It isn't
restricted to "just" physical pain, however;
emotional pain has the potential same effect.

As I thought about it, I thought about how
important the feeling of pain can be to help
us avoid other pain. Without the feeling of
pain, we run the risk of even greater harm.
Think about a hand in a flame that doesn't
feel the heat.

In relationships, the feeling of pain is also
signaling us to pay attention. It might be
telling us to get out, or it might be telling
us to alter our direction. To numb the pain
is to create opportunities for issues to
escalate.

Some who have been hurt by another who is
close may use the threat of pain to avoid
being in another relationship. While the
pain may be real, the association is slightly
faulty. While there may be consistency in
terms of hot stoves, there isn't necessarily
going to be consistency from one person to
the next, one interpersonal dynamic to the
next.

So while our mechanisms have the best of
intentions, they come from an unconscious
place that doesn't have shades of grey.
Pain is pain.

Those who function from that unconscious
place only will likely feel more victimized
by their life and circumstances than one
who is willing to step back and take a
look at the pieces and parts.

If a person was to stay away from an oven
for fear of being burned, they may never
get to enjoy some delicious chocolate
chip cookies. One learns how to interact
with that "thing" that could harm, hoping
for the best with every interaction.

Does that mean there won't be any more
burns? Sadly, not likely. But it does
mean the oven and stove can be used to
the best of its ability creating some
really delicious goodies and meals...ones
that would be missed out on if the stove
was never interacted with.

The thing to remember is that we often
collapse things, and that the stove is
not the pain, but what we do around it
could have the potential to cause the
pain.

In the same way, relationships are
not the pain, but what occurs around
them could have the potential to cause
pain.

At the same time, there is the potential
for us to have some really good things
come out of our willingness to take a
risk with something that has the potential
to cause pain, and hope for the best.

A possible equation to consider:
No risk = No goodies.

My mind is still playing with these
thoughts...what are yours?
 

For a Smile

Me, Myself and I say you're wrong.
That's 3 against 1.

I saw this today, and share it with
you so that you might have an
advantage when you need one in an
argument. :P
 

Too hot? Really? Where is the Line? | Video

Apparently this ad has been banned
for being too sexual. Some talked
about the sound effects, and pointed
to the fact that you can hear them
at any tennis match.

I am going to guess it is more than
the sound effects that got it banned
(although I can't imagine why),
however I got to thinking about how
context can make a difference, and
how context is what can bring on a
potentially unconscious reaction.

What is really behind people's
objections to this ad? It is
very unlikely that it is as stated,
as it very rarely is. It reminds
me a bit of the commercial with
a fuller figured woman.

There seem to be inconsistencies
in what seems to be OK, but if
everything was analyzed, I bet
there would be consistency of
some sort, and it would likely
be one that collectively we likely
were told was of the "OK" type.

Where is the line? Anywhere
those with the most influence
wants it to be, I suspect.

What do you think of the video?
I actually think it's pretty
cool - especially the last line.
:)
 

A Healthier Alternative

I know that many of you who speak with me
are in the business world, so perhaps this
would interest you.

What it is is really cool.

Apparently the products that are used
to make dry erase markers in general are
quite toxic, and there are many that
wind up in the dumps.

Someone has come along and created a
refillable type which looks pretty
awesome. I believe the initial outlay
is more than its non-refillable cousin,
however it seems it outlasts it
considerably, and likely makes it
more cost effective ultimately.

Of course, for those who care about
how our earth is treated, maybe you
don't need any more incentive than
knowing that you are helping to
minimize the load of trash in the
landfills...especially trash of the
toxic type.

If you use the markers, consider
checking them out, and let me know
how it goes.

Thanks!
 

Are you missing out?

Every so often (and more often than
I think I ever thought would be the
case) someone who is deeply emeshed
in erotic hypnosis tells me that he
isn't interested in mainstream hypnosis.

It seems that there is something
that happens that limits how the
experience of hypnosis is "supposed"
to occur.

As I do believe that each person
has their own "stuff" that is helpful,
I would never judge how they do what
they do. At the same time, what I
can do (and often do do) is ask
questions.

And what I wonder is how many will
consider how their interests may be
biased by the content of the MP3s
and hypnotists they listen to.

I also wonder how many of those
same people would be interested in
more main stream hypnosis with male
and female voices with non-erotic
content if given a clean slate in
which to listen.

So often I have heard people state
things as fact when the "fact"
could just as easily be changed
or manipulated (and for someone's
"good").

I mention this, in part, because
I recently heard from the person
this blog entry was about, and he
updated me on things and told me
how wonderful hypnosis has been -
without any erotic content.

In addition, his communication
sparked my interest, and I went
and listened to a recording by
someone I have never heard of,
and it sent me off to LaLaLand
(not a place I go off to easily
these days). I woke up feeling
amazing, and sometimes I have
heard that it is just as amazing
to awaken from trance without
a sexual feeling as it is to
awaken with one...and, actually,
sometimes even better.

If you've never had the experience,
it might be something to experiment
with. Do you have any non-erotic
recordings/hypnotists that you
have listened to/enjoyed?

If so, and you are willing to share,
please do so, as it may inspire
someone else.

I am wondering if I should share
my experience...and think I will
wait until I have had more of one
to relate.

In the meantime, happy trancing
to you.

Isis
 

A Random Thought

Is the only time you are willing
to listen to someone when they
are saying what you want to hear?

This seemingly random thought
occurred to me today, and it
seems to me an interesting one.

It seems it can go a few of
different ways:

If a person is very different
than you are, then listening
to him/her could possibly be
a negative experience that
could be unhealthy and unhelpful.

On the other hand, listening
to someone speak what you want
to hear could keep you locked
within whatever confines you
are in, and perhaps further
limit your world.

Another way to look at it
could be that you know who
you are and what you do and
what you want, and those
around you - and the messages
you hear - help to reinforce
the path you are on, or want
to be on.

I suppose it isn't so much
if you do it, as much as
why you do it and what the
ultimate effect is, and if
it is one that you want and
can live with.

Hmmm.

Your thoughts?
 

Feedback

I was going through some old feedback,
and came upon this one. I love his
way with words. :)

"Isis, Your pictures have lured me in;
I am now in an exquisite mental free-fall."
- peterpetiepete
 

Oreo - like you've likely never seen it before

Interesting analysis of an Oreo cookie
can be read here.

The author talks about the unconscious
associations we make in regard to
things, and discusses the various
elements of the cookies and what
it all may mean.

It may mean nothing, however it is
interesting to take something as basic
as a cookie whose details very few
have ever paid much attention to, and
discuss it in some depth, as she does.

In addition, it is also interesting
to note that the cookies were "born"
in NYC. Some very cool things have
come out of there. ;)

If nothing else, you may have some
odd info for a conversation starter
at your next party.

Have a great day!
 

I Can Relate, Can You? | Video

I think this song is beautiful...
and I love the lyric that Kelly
sings, "I don't want to just make
love; I want to make love last."

Sometimes it is easy to get caught
up in the moment, and lose sight
of the bigger picture...but when
one does that, there is sometimes
the possibility of endangering the
greater possibilities.

Any which way...I think this is
a beautiful song. See what you
think.

 

Zestra: Have you heard of it? | Video

Fascinatingly, I just heard about Zestra,
a product that is like the "little blue
pill" for women. It, however, isn't a
pill.

Supposedly a woman will "feel more,
effortlessly," within minutes of its use.

As I was seeking out more about it, there
seems to be a lot of talk about the product,
but just not in TV commercials.

It is an interesting disparity, as the
product hasn't been able to get networks
to show their commercials, and yet the
commercials (at times) seem to be endless
for men's products, like Viagra.

I share this for anyone who is in a
relationship in which there is a woman
who might need a bit of a pick me up.
Perhaps it will help.

I, of course, am a fan of hypnosis, and
prefer to work the magic of the mind,
instead of using any outside prompts,
but not everyone is interested in what
it has to offer.

That being said, it is always good to
have options.

See what you think:



 

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Making Amends & Communication

I recently wrote about someone who was
interested in me and didn't act on it,
and now there is someone else who is
trying to make amends with me.

I am wondering what is going on. The
most interesting thing for me about
this all is the fact that there is
someone I would like to hear from who
remains distant for reasons I don't
know, and therefore couldn't begin to
understand.

I tell you these things because life
doesn't always go the way we want it
to go. Sometimes it takes twists and
turns, and ties us up in knots. As
frustrating as people and situations
can be, it's how we handle it that will
make all the difference.

I tell you these things, too,
because there is sometimes a tendency
for people to feel as though they are
alone in their experiences...which
couldn't be farther from the truth.

However, when we don't talk about
what we exerience, it is easy to
think that you're the only one.
The problem is there are a lot of
things we don't talk about for
fear of shame, judgment, and a
myriad of other reasons.

I have found many times there is
a sense of relief that comes
when a person discovers that he
isn't alone in his sadness, his
quirks, his disappointments, his
joys. We seem to want to share,
and be connected, and yet we
so often put blocks in our way -
including our reaction to those
who might come back to us.

If a person comes back, perhaps
there is something to explore,
perhaps there is something to
learn, or some closure to be had.
To be emotional and block it is
to potentially block an
opportunity. You never know
what is possible until you open
up the channels of communication.

Of course, the same holds in
reverse. If you feel like you
should go back to someone, perhaps
there is something to explore,
learn, or some closure to be had.
To be emotional and block it is
to potentially block an
opportunity. You never know
what is possible until you open
up the channels of communication.

Consider being kind if someone
comes knocking on your door, and
consider that that person whose
door you go knocking on may not
have the perspective you do, so
it might be a little more
challenging. At the same time,
consider that your communications
are a welcome "relief," as they
had a strong desire to talk to you,
and they'll be more welcoming than
you might expect.

Everyone is just doing the best
they can, and there are times
you may be in a position to lead,
and there may be other times it
could be to your advantage to
have the other person take the
lead.

Closure allows for new beginnings
with the same person, or a new
one. There are no set rules,
despite the fact that most of us
often would like some. So...
anything is possible when you are
willing to allow others to be who
they are even in the midst of your
own frustrations and disappointment.

Consider that kindness to another
can be one of the greatest gifts to
give yourself, and that it might
just be the beginning of other good
things to come...or, at the very
least, it may create a clearing for
possibilities that weren't possible
while you were closed off and emotional.

Of course, there will be exceptions
to what I am talking about, as there
are some unhealthy, obsessive dynamics
that can sometimes come into play.

What I talk about is never absolute:
for everyone, every time. However,
if it resonates for you, there
may be a thing, or two, for you to
consider and and an action, or two,
to take.

Here's to more love and loving
communication in all of our lives!

Have a great day!
 

For those who don't believe in hypnosis | Video

This video speaks to hypnosis, but doesn't
call it by its name - which is quite often
the case.

There are many things that are hypnotic in
effect, but not necessarily trance-like in
appearance.

See if you can pick out what I am referring to:

Getting Along | Video

When I see things like these following
videos, I think there is something to
be learned from those who don't seem
to have expectations, those who live in
the moment, those who haven't been
biased by another's beliefs.

Being human is supposed to be superior,
isn't it?

On Love & Hypnosis & Love

In erotic hypnosis there is much talk
around the idea of falling in love
with the hypnotist.

Not everyone desires it, but there
are several who want it, and I can't
help but wonder is it the hypnotist
herself the person wants to love or
if it is just an innate desire to
love, or if the feeling of loving
someone leaves a person feeling loved.

Many times people will shoot for
an outcome and ask questions later,
if at all. However, it would be good
to know what is at the core of your
desires because there may be other
ways to achieve a desired outcome
without compromising yourself or
perhaps even those you love in your
day-to-day life.

The more I talk about Love, the more
I find that those who follow me can
relate - or it has an opposite effect
and scares people off.

We all want Love, to love and to be
loved, and yet there needs to be a
willingness to be vulnerable for Love
to be able to get in. Maybe that is
what hypnosis does for a person?
Maybe it helps them get past their
defenses and guards?

If so, that can be an awesome thing,
but it depends on what the results
are and what the person on the
receiving end does with that openness
and vulnerability.

As always, I do believe that different
things can work for different people,
so I don't believe there are any
standard "one sized fits all" answers.

However, if in the absence of the one
you love there is pain....If in the
presence of the one you love there is
abuse (that you don't appreciate, but
are told to)...If you feel dependent
on the one you love...If you are
demanded to do things that would hurt
or compromise you - and you do them...
odds are what you have is something
that is filling a void, and is something
else going by the name of Love. If it
is truly Love, it won't be seamless and
easy, but it will empower you in its wake
and aftermath, instead of weakening
or demoralizing you.

While it may sometimes be scary to
take it in and you may at times feel
like you aren't worthy of the real
thing, please know that the very
fact that you here and living and
breathing tells me, and should tell
you, that you are worthy of the REAL
thing. Just because you feel inferior
or deficient in some way doesn't mean
that you are unworthy...if anything,
it likely just means you need it even
more.

No one is perfect. If we waited for
perfection for things to happen -
nothing would ever get done. Perfection
is a nice - yet improbable - standard.
The best we can hope for is to do the
best we can with what we've got, and
at times we might just be lucky enough
to find ourselves at perfect.

If these words speak to you and your
heart, then please never accept any
saccharine form of Love. It's never
as good as the real thing, and can
also have some harmful side effects.

I realize this is an usual topic of
discussion, however, I am seeing more
and more how necessary it is. When
I speak with someone from my heart,
it often allows me to have a conversation
that comes from their heart.

Just because it isn't spoken of,
doesn't mean it shouldn't be
addressed, and also doesn't mean
that it will diminish your erotic
experience. If anything, a person
who is aware of himself and his
motivations and his escapes is
more likely to find what he was
looking for than someone who
unconsciously signed on to what
another told him he should want
to fulfill his quest.

And...even better still...that
same person may just find LOVE
in the REAL world, instead of
having to settle for some
version of it in the virtual one.

If you want to explore the idea
of love more in the context of
hypnosis, I have a few recordings
that you can do it with, just ask
me about them.

Have a great day! And may Love
be with You. :D

Isis
 

Why you are here? | Quote

"You are not here merely to make a living;
you are here in order to enable the world
to live more amply, with greater vision,
with a finer spirit of hope and achievement.
You are here to enrich the world, and you
impoverish yourself if you forget the errand."

Woodrow Wilson
US President 1913-21
 

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Get a Grip | Video | Humor

Spring has Sprung!

It's 7:21 ET, and it's official,
Spring has Sprung!

I LOVE that, given how into the
number 7 I have been lately.

Today I received some feedback
regarding my Focus on Love MP3,
and it has been quite poetic, and
profound, and touching, and just
so many things.

I am appreciative of the words that
have come from those who have
listened, and have had positive
reactions. I think part of what held
me back was the reaction some
may have to the work.

It is a bit "out there" for some, and
I didn't want me or my work to be
judged on the merits of one piece,
if that one piece happened to be a
bummer for someone.

The reaction I have been receiving
has encouraged me to be even more
generous in sharing it. So...in honor
of Spring, in honor of Love, in honor
of growth and anticipation of good
things, I have decided to make my
MP3 universally available for 7ish
hours...til 3AM ET tomorrow the 21st.

If you want to learn more about the
recording see this entry.

Just contact me via email before 3AM,
and I will send you a link for the
file. You may have to wait til
tomorrow to receive the info, depending
on when you send your message...but
rest assured if you get your request
in on time, you can expect to receive
the file within the day.

I hope you will find yourself to be
one of those profoundly touched by
its message.

I'll leave you with one of the things
I was told about it:

"This file should be offered to the smithsonian or some other humanities museum as a guide to people interacting with themselves and connecting with the spirit of life. Your voice is beautiful, the control of Your tones are masterful but most of all it is the sincerity of Your file the thoughts the beliefs the openness of understanding human love. Lust is a momentary fling at explosive release, longing is the focus of wanting something out of reach, but love is the focus of strength of growth of understanding and You have done a marvelous creation with Focus on Love guiding the listener to embrace and accept that which resides within."

Thank you iceTiger :)

and here's another comment:

Isis, this is a beautiful file. I was not expecting this. I have listened to it 3 times and each time it opens me more. This is a huge blessing to me as lately I have been cut off from Love: or I have been cutting myself off from it.

Throughout my life I have been the one that the people in my life have come to for comfort or light: Love. And I thought it was dimming in me. I realized what a dark little ugly world I was focusing on. You invited me to focus on Love and I did.

[My] experience was not sexual or sensual for the most part and although while listening to it the first time I have to admit I felt a twinge of disappointment: I find your voice and personality, your Energy, stimulating and this usually makes me think of sensual things. But once I settled into it, I was deeply happy that what I felt was Love."
 

Defending an Idea as if it is Oneself

Have you ever noticed that often it
is easy to collapse an idea with
the person who suggests it?

When that happens, those involved
don't always recognize what is
happening.

The person who sees the idea as
himself might take what is said
to be a personal attack, whether
it is one, or not.

The person who addresses the idea
may be actually attacking the
person instead of the idea, since
he is unaware that they are not
one in the same.

Yes, the two can certainly be
related, however, when we are
able to have respect for the
person, we are able to acknowledge
his opinion without attempting
to diminish him as a person, as
we address his opinion with ours.

We all have unconscious connections
that either support or diminish us.
We know which by our own experience
of life. I may not agree with
someone else's ideas, but I respect
their right to have them. If those
ideas affect me, then I must do
what I can for myself and my own
well being and peace of mind.

Interestingly, diminishing the person
won't do much in that regard. However,
addressing the idea, and interacting
with it is more likely to have an
effect. Personal attacks - or even
ones that seem to be personal by
interpretation - often derail what
the real topic is, which in turn,
minimizes any possible good that could
come from a respectful dynamic.

I find myself sometimes engaging those
whose opinions vary from my own
because I think I might learn a thing,
or two. I find that some are leery of
doing that - given past outcomes, but
often those who know me know it is safe
to express their opinion - even if it
varies from what they perceive mine to be.

In addition, I suspect when people don't
feel free to express themselves there
is a potential for more conflict in
the world than less. Just because an
opinion isn't expressed doesn't mean it
doesn't have influence.

The next time you have a disagreement
with someone about something, it might
be worth taking a step back to figure
out what really is the issue because
odds are if you're getting no where
fast, those involved could be interacting
with anything but what is perceived to
be the issue.

Even when you are clear that what you are
discussing is what you think you are
discussing, there is no way to insure
an outcome that works, as there is the
added dynamic of interpretation, as well
as no insurance that either one of you
will be willing to step outside
of what you perceive the reality to be.

However, if you at least have the possibility
in your head that the idea is not the person,
then you may also have the possibility of
having a productive and helpful conversation.

As often is the case, sometimes it is difficult
to see the forest for the trees. All we can
hope for as a society is that enough people,
enough of the time can - and will.

with Love & Respect,
Isis
 

I would really like to know...

I would really like to know
what you get from your
interactions with me and
my likenesses (my images,
my videos, my MP3s, etc).

I realize that at the core
for many, and for many
occasions, is likely to
be acute horniness...and if
that is all there is, then
that's what I'd like to know.

However, I'd like to think
(and I would like to find
out if I am incorrect) that
there is more in the grand
scheme of things than great
orgasms.

Anyone up for letting me know
your thoughts? As always,
publicly is great, if you are
willing to share that way,
and private is just as good.

I REALLY would like to hear
from anyone that has read
this. REALLY. TRULY.

Please. Thank you!

Have a great night!
 

For Leg & Boot Lovers | GIF

Sexy red
lace up boots,
black stockings
My Legs...
Enjoy :)

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Speak Up

Today I found out that someone I met
4 years ago has had a crush on me,
but never acted on it.

Well...he did, but what he did was
send mixed signals.

I share this with you because there
have been interpretations that he
has been carrying around that whole
time that have been inaccurate,
and even made it uncomfortable for
him to talk to me.

He could have avoided all of that if
he had been willing to speak up, and
clear the air by saying what was on
his mind.

Funny how we do these types of things
to ourselves. It would have meant
taking a risk, which isn't always
easy to do. However, had he taken
the risk, things would have been
cleared up in moments, just like they
were ultimately today.

I suppose it is a little difficult,
after all, not everyone is like me.
Others may have reacted differently
than I did, which was nothing more
than essentially a shrug on my part
over the circumstances that had
weighed so heavily on his mind.

If you are interested in someone,
find a way to find out if they're
interested in you - don't guess,
and don't wait until circumstances
close the door on your opportunity,
or at the very least make it more
difficult to attain.

At the very least you will know
where you stand, should the outcome
be different than you like, and at
the very best, you might just find
yourself in a relationship with
the person who has attracted you.

Need help? Talk to me. Perhaps
I can help you find the words and
the perspective that will leave
you feeling empowered, even if
things don't work out the way you'd
like them to. It is as amazing as
it sounds, and it IS possible.

Have a great night.
 

Be Enchanted Today | Gif

A Look Behind the Doors

I recently put together a web page
that is a series of email messages
between me and someone curious
about hypnosis.

In some ways, I believe what is
written will be self-explanatory,
however, I will tell you why I
share it.

1. First and foremost, I share it
because the anonymous person was
generous enough to allow me to.

2. I share it because I feel that
there may be others who will read
his words and will identify in some
part with his experience and exploration.

3. I share it because I believe it
will give you some insight into me,
my world, and the way I look at some
things. I figure you will likely
get to know me better as a result.

If you choose to read it, I ask that
you consider:

1. Reading the whole thing so that you
have as complete a context as possible.

2. That it is not the whole conversation,
as certain parts needed to be omitted to
preserve privacy.

3. That - like with anything - there
are possibilities for misunderstandings
and judgments of things said. I would
ask that if you take issue with something,
you let me know directly so that I may
address it directly.

So...without further ado...
The Conversation.
 

Cracked Windows | Video

We have a tendency to need the things
we interact with to jive with the
things/the patterns that have come
before, so that we feel continuity.

If the continuity lacks, and things do
not "compute" we often become disoriented.
Expected patterns become those that are
repeated (familiar = comfortable, sound
familiar?).

Dan Phillips is talking about homes and
the construction industry, however the
things he discusses also apply to another
type of house - one that is much more
personal - the House of You.

I almost didn't watch this video. I
thought the topic would be interesting,
but the title itself: "Creative houses
from reclaimed stuff" was misleading.

Yes, it is about that, but it is about
so much more. Yet another reason I
am not big on labels, LOL. It is so
easy to jump to a conclusion and miss
out on something.

He talks about how nature isn't as
perfect as the perfection we create in
our head, and yet while we pursue that
perfection, attempting to bend nature
to our designs, we create a lot of waste.

While he speaks of objects, it occurs
to me that it, too, is a metaphor for
those who seek to be impossibly perfect.

There is likely waste in that regard, too.
Wasted energy. Wasted time. Wasted...
More life could be lived, if the parts
already lived didn't have to be redone.

Dan speaks about how professionals think
a certain way. That thinking in turn
filters to the consumers who come to
expect things the way the professionals
have said they should be. The advertisers
get involved, and we wind up with things
we didn't even know we wanted.

ALL of this is a form of hypnosis, and
it is so inherent in our human nature,
it often goes undetected, unless we are
willing to break out of the trance and
get uncomfortable.

Those who understand these dynamics of
human nature are also able to use them
to purposely manipulate outcomes - and
sometimes not the ones YOU want.

Watching this video is interesting for
a few reasons, not the least of which
is a house that was built based on a
Budweiser can.

Let me know what you think!

PS Curious about the title of this
blog? You'll just have to watch the
video (and perhaps reread this blog
to understand. :)

Think you are just a number...?

Interesting how perspectives go.

Some people say they speak
with me because it is
apparent that I have
experience - because I have
had so many calls and so
much feedback.

Some people say they
considered not speaking
with me because I have had
so many calls and so much
feedback, and they think
they'll just be one of
the many.

If someone only calls me
once or twice, I am not
necessarily going to
remember them. However,
it wouldn't be surprising
if I did - especially if
we had spoken at length
those couple of times.

The more someone calls me,
the more likely I am to
not only remember him, but
also wonder how he is, if
he stops calling. Yes,
people I speak with randomly
cross my mind on occasion.

I experience each call
and each person individually,
and enjoy making the kind
of connection that lasts.

You may think you are
insignificant on my landscape,
but that is not the way I do
things. I don't just do
things to you...I connect
with you, and seek the many
ways that connection will best
work for the both of us.

When we talk, you are the
only thing that matters.

When we're not talking, I
am still aware that you exist
in the world, and am here when
you are ready to connect with
me again.

If you by any chance are a
number with me...it is #1.

Have a great day.
 

Happy St. Patrick's Day!

Love & Vulnerability | Quote

This quote complements the
last entry on vulnerability:

"Love anything and your heart will
be wrung and possibly broken. If
you want to make sure of keeping it
intact you must give it to no one,
not even an animal. Wrap it carefully
round with hobbies and little luxuries;
avoid all entanglements. Lock it up
safe in the casket or coffin of your
selfishness. But in that casket,
safe, dark, motionless, airless,
it will change. It will not be broken;
it will become
unbreakable,
impenetrable,
irredeemable.
To love is to be vulnerable."
- C. S. Lewis
 

The Power of Vulnerability Brene Brown | TED Talk | Video

Here is yet another TED Talk. If you haven't
seen any, you should check them out. Their
talks are incredibly insightful, and you
might just discover a gem, or two, for yourself.

The video is well worth watching, so if you can
take the time to watch, please do.

At the same time, I pulled out a few choice
pieces that stood out to me that might be
something you can take away even if you don't
make the time.

Brene has spent several years studying people and
their behaviors around vulnerability, and she
found that the more worthy a person feels, the
more likely they are to accept that vulnerability
"just is."

She explains that the original meaning of courage
is to: "Tell the story of who you are with your
whole heart."

Brene says that those who felt worthy "let go of who
they thought they should be so they could be who
they are," a quality she says is essential for
connection.

She extrapolates from her research that blame is
"a way to discharge pain and discomfort."

Those who had a sense of being worthy in the
research live in a "whole hearted" way which
includes:

*a willingness to say "I love you" first.

*a belief that what made them vulnerable -
made them beautiful.

*a willingness to do something with no guarantees.

*a willingness to invest in relationships that may
or may not work out.

She says that while vulnerability is the core
of things like shame and fear, it also seems
to the the "birthplace" of things like belonging
and love.

Brene points out that we live in a vulnerable world,
and that one coping mechanism comes in many numbing
forms: financial, weight, addictions. And while
we may be able to numb the negative (like fear), it
isn't selective so it isn't without a cost to the
positive (like love).

She talks about other methods that you will likely
recognize, and quite likely utilize in some degree,
and suggests an alternative way to be which includes
loving with our whole heart without a guarantee.

Brene is fun to watch, and quite real. What she talks
about isn't an easy thing to talk about, or to listen
to, especially if one struggles with the issues she
is addressing. However, she didn't always see things
as she does, and describes her process to get where
she has gotten.

For me personally, it was a validation for me of how
I am - how I have come to be in recent years. I
have extended myself on more than one occasion -
embracing the fear - and hoping for the best in an
unknown situation while embracing my vulnerability,
offering it up, holding my breath. Sadly, it often
has not ended the way I would prefer, however, the
process has brought me some incredible things that
would not have been possible had I not taken the steps
I did to "tell the story" of who I am with "my whole
heart."

Easy? Nope! And she doesn't believe it to be, either.

Worth it? Likely. Your mileage may vary.

In my case...it's an emphatic (if even in some cases a
slightly melancholy) YES.

If you watch, please let me know what you think!

PS A couple of other blogs about
vulnerability can be seen here.


If you can't view above, try viewing it here.

Focus on Love | MP3

So...finally...I am releasing this MP3.

I had really wanted to do it on my
anniversary, but for various reasons,
some of which I can't pinpoint, I
have delayed it - until now.

I have had several unusual types of
recordings, and this one I have to
say is one of the most unusual.

It was one I did off the cuff one day.
I wasn't sure how it came out, so I
asked a few to listen to it so I
could have some input.

The reactions varied greatly.

The person who will likely appreciate
this recording the most is one who
is philosophical, a conceptual thinker,
romantic, right brained, and someone
who enjoyed my previous Pure Love
recordings. However, there was one who
was like that who got caught up in some
of how I presented the concepts, and
didn't appreciate it as much as another
did, and even said it is likely that
he'd be unlikely to listen to it again.

It is most definitely a mixed bag.

Having said that, the recording is
22 minutes long, and has minimal voice
effect (slight echo and reverb).

It is also designed to work for
someone, even if they've never been
hypnotized by me before.

There are two possible outcomes to
the recording (and possibly more,
depending on how your mind interprets
the content/suggestion). One is
sexual, the other asexual.

It is all about Love, as you might
figure, given the title Focus on Love.

It also ends in 22 minutes, but your
experience of it may last longer than
that, as I never officially bring you
out of the state you are in. You are
given a suggestion to awaken when you
are ready.

There are no suggestions for submission
or obedience. Nothing fem domme.

Anyone who enjoys feeling loved is
likely to benefit from the recording
in some way, as long as s/he is is
able to just sit back and allow it
to unfold.

Yes...I did say "she." I don't usually
make recordings that are gender neutral,
but I would say this one would be OK
for either sex.

If you are "just" a fan of my voice,
whether or not the idea works for you
won't matter, as you can likely just
sit back and enjoy hearing me speak
uninterrupted for a a length of time.
You might also get lucky and get more
than you bargained for in the process.

If you have any questions, feel free
to ask prior to purchase. For those
who are my regular callers on NF, you
have nothing to lose. If you buy the
MP3 but don't like it, I will send
you free minutes to compensate.

I am only charging $7 for this MP3 for
the time being, because it is my 7
year anniversary. I will likely up
the price at some point, so if
you are interested...now is a great
time to act.

You have nothing to lose...
and the incredible feeling of
LOVE to gain.

Click below to purchase, and please
feel free to share your comments
about your experience below, as it
may help others decide if this could
be a good choice for them.

Thanks, and have a great day!


Update:
Here are a few of the comments I
have received since this MP3s release.

"This file should be offered to the smithsonian or some other humanities museum as a guide to people interacting with themselves and connecting with the spirit of life. Your voice is beautiful, the control of Your tones are masterful but most of all it is the sincerity of Your file the thoughts the beliefs the openness of understanding human love. Lust is a momentary fling at explosive release, longing is the focus of wanting something out of reach, but love is the focus of strength of growth of understanding and You have done a marvelous creation with Focus on Love guiding the listener to embrace and accept that which resides within."

Thank you iceTiger :)

and here's another comment:

"Isis, this is a beautiful file. I was not expecting this. I have listened to it 3 times and each time it opens me more. This is a huge blessing to me as lately I have been cut off from Love: or I have been cutting myself off from it.

Throughout my life I have been the one that the people in my life have come to for comfort or light: Love. And I thought it was dimming in me. I realized what a dark little ugly world I was focusing on. You invited me to focus on Love and I did.

[My] experience was not sexual or sensual for the most part and although while listening to it the first time I have to admit I felt a twinge of disappointment: I find your voice and personality, your Energy, stimulating and this usually makes me think of sensual things. But once I settled into it, I was deeply happy that what I felt was Love."
 

Technology and Communication | Video

In the last day I received two emails
from 2 different types of people that
contained a message that could have
just as easily - if not more so - have
been said in a recent phone conversation.

More and more it seems that communication
- if one can truly call it that - is
happening via technology. In a case
where something is said via text, I
would suggest it is more a statement of
perceived facts.

I would need to look up the actual
definition of communication to know
if what I am saying is accurate,
however I can't help but wonder how
helpful one-sided communications are.

When one can interact with another it
is a whole different dynamic than when
words are volleyed over the internet
fence.

There are enough misunderstandings
that happen when people actually talk,
there doesn't need to be more from things
that are misinterpreted via messages,
and can never be corrected, especially
when the message is a good bye.

The author in the video below talks
about how there are certain distinctions
that children are making because of
technology. She says that often they
don't know how to be alone without it
meaning that they are lonely. She says
that they don't know how to end
conversations. She says many interesting
things that I am not sure are limited
to the younger demographic.

It might seem that technology is a good
thing because it allows one to hide and
not face those in front of them. It
allows one to not have to discuss or
confront another's perspectives, thoughts,
wishes, words...It might seem a heck of
a lot safer.

The thing is, though, that there is great
power in being able to say what you feel
and think while at the same time allow
another to do the same. We may not always
agree (and likely often do not) but there
is something incredible about being able
to talk about things and make conscious
decisions as a result that love and value
who you are and who the other person is.

Many people do not seem to know how to
face the uncomfortable, and technology
has given them their out. It has also
deprived them the gift of being really
connected with another and able to freely
express themselves in more than just a
few words.

Life is often uncomfortable. Life often
sucks - especially when other people get
involved in ways we don't like. However,
to avoid situations that don't work for
us instead of working through them can
be robbing us in ways that are unable to
be calculated.

Another thing to consider is how you feel
when someone does it to you. Most people
want to be heard, and if a person does it
to you, you are deprived of having your
say. It likely doesn't feel very good,
and yet odds are good you've done it
yourself at one time or another.

Learning to communicate isn't easy -
especially after you've learned how to
get by without doing it effectively.
I know...because while I may have been
taught the superficial ways to communicate,
I never was taught how to express myself
in ways that were particularly healthy
and helpful - especially in times of
conflict. As a matter of fact,
avoidance was something I was pretty
darn good at - to my (unconscious)
detriment.

What I know now is something I had
to learn as an adult, and it is
something I am still learning
and still go back to my old ways
from time to time. The thing is,
though, that I have seen how
incredibly amazing true and effective
communication is, so I am often
unwilling to give up its benefits.
But it is still very difficult at
those times that the people or
things are nearer and dearer to me.
What I learned has been a gift, and
it is why I share it with you.
While I can't give you the gift, as
it's one you must give yourself,
I can give you the promise of the
possibilities that can come from
being able to share perspectives
with another in a way that respects
and empowers those involved.

Someone I know told another something
to the effect that there isn't anyone
he has disagreed with more but has
liked as much as me. I love that.
I love that because it makes more
available to us than would otherwise
be if we just avoided each other or
were clashing all of the time.

I often feel like a fish out of
water because of the way I look
at things. I rarely use a cell
phone and would rather pick up
a phone and talk to someone over
sending a series of emails.

I find it more even more rewarding
to connect with someone in person
than on the phone. It also can
suck more, too.

Life isn't any better because we
avoid it. Avoiding it only leaves
those things untouched to fester.
Facing them helps them morph into
something helpful and useful, or
dissolves them into nothingness.

There is an expression "What you
resist, persists," so you're not
gonna get off that easy the next
time you are unwilling to face a
person or situation squarely.

Of course, as with anything, you
are free to live life as you choose
to. You are free to go on as you
always have. In some ways, it is
effective because it is what you
have learned. However, does it
truly work for you? Does it leave
you feeling satisfied? Fulfilled?
At peace?

At the same time, you are free to
pick up the phone and talk to that
person you've been avoiding, and
have a heartfelt conversation.

Any which way you go, consider being
loving and kind to yourself and those
you interact with. We're all just
doing the best we can with what we got.

 

Emotions, Words and Reaction

Your emotions
bring about
your words and actions
which
in turn
brings about
others' emotions
which
in turn
brings about
their words and actions
which in turn
brings about
your emotions...

That is...

unless something
stops one of you
from REACTING and
gets you to ACT
in regard to the
thoughts and actions
that affect you.

We all have things
that trigger us...
and not often to
good effect.

The next time your
reaction is extreme,
perhaps consider taking
a step back before
saying any words or
taking any actions.

You may just wind up
with better results.
 

Taking Steam out of an Attack | Video

Want to know the fastest way to
take steam out of someone's
attack?

Agree with them.

When you disagree, it only adds
fuel to the fire and ire.

Not to say that you need to agree
with everything, but if there is
some way to hear what the person
is saying, and relay it in a way
that the person feels like you
heard them, you will take the
steam out of their engine.

A friend of mine once had a girl
tell him something, and she was
really mad. He thought about it
a minute, and realized she was
right. He agreed.

All she wanted to do after that
was apologize.

If you can't say it, and mean it,
then it really won't help. And
it won't really help if you use
it as a manipulative ploy. However,
if you can find some way to give
the person what they want and need
to hear, they will likely have
nothing more to say.

Here is a video that inspired today's
entry. Wondering what the shockwaves
will be through the troll population...

When Dreams Come True | JPG

Beautiful
Burlesque style,
red corset.
Cleavage.

Another angle of
the same corset
from the previous
posting.

Enjoy :)

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Special Thanks to the person
who made this picture possible. :)

Breathe in the Pleasure | GIF & JPG

Beautiful
Burlesque style,
red corset.
Cleavage.

Not much more
to say. :)

GIF is animated.

Enjoy :)

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The Top 10 Reasons Relationships End (according to Reuters)

A Reuter's recent study cited
the following 10 things as being
primarily responsible for the
demise of relationships.

1. Weight gain
2. Money issues
3. Anti-social working hours
4. Personal cleanliness
5. In-laws/extended family – too much/too little
6. Lack of romance
7. Alcohol abuse
8. Snoring
9. Lapsed fashion – wearing the same old clothes
10. Bathroom habits – stray nail cuttings, etc

What do you think of the list?

As some of them are certainly
the kind of thing that perspectives
may vary, I have to wonder if they
should really spell the end of a
relationship.

I also wonder if it might be a
cumulative thing. One thing might
be OK, two might be OK, but by the
time you get to the third - seemingly
insignificant thing (on its own) it
gets to be too much.

Relationships seem to be complex
mathematical equations that can
become even more complex over time
since people tend to bias their
futures on what has happened in
the past. As a result, feelings
from events that have nothing to
do with the present sometimes are
factored in.

I would think that the equation
could be simplified if people were
willing to recognize what they are
doing, and be willing to communicate
with themselves and their significant
other about what is really affecting
their emotions, words, and choices.

It's not about the weight - it's
about what the weight MEANS.

It's not about whether there is
romance or not - it's about whether
the person feels what s/he needs to
feel, and romance may be the conduit
for that feeling. With the thing
that feeds that feeling missing,
something else could take its place,
but the parties involved would need
to be aware enough to make that
happen.

Sometimes things can also cover up
other things. If people are
constantly doing romantic things,
it could be that they are wishing
to feel something that is lacking.
As a result, when the romance is
missing, what doesn't work shows
up more clearly. So, it isn't the
lack of romance that ends the
relationship, but rather the thing
the romance was covering up.

It is a wonder why in the midst of
all of this that people continue to
seek out intimacy with another.

Makes you think that a connection
with someone that really works is
worth the risk and that it is an
opportunity worth exploring,
doesn't it?

What are your thoughts?
 

You just gotta smile... | Video

This video is great.

The couple had such a good
attitude about everything
that happened. I know many
people would not have been
laughing - or smiling - or
enjoying themselves, and
maybe even fighting.

There is a lot to be said
for knowing that while the
physical things in one's
life may not work out, the
ones that really matter do.

Got the time? See what you
think.

Be Hypnotized | GIF | Hypnotic Eyes

7 years ago today...

I began my journey as Isis The Enchantress
7 years ago today. It is amazing to consider
how things have been during that time.

The person and the hypnotist I was then isn't
the same person that I am today, however I'd
likely say the essence of who I am has
remained the same - and maybe has been
reinforced with the experiences I have had.

I knew early on I wouldn't be for everyone,
and I am glad to see that there are those
who appreciate my perspective and the way
I approach things. I love what I do, and
I am still finding my way - even now.

I tell people that is important to be true
to oneself, and it isn't always an easy
thing to do, due to other's expectations
and judgments, and a whole series of
reasons that seem to make perfect sense.

However when a person gets to a point that
something feels right, the reasons fall
away and are replaced by other things once
thought unfathomable.

Life is truly a journey, one in which I
am uncertain if there is any destination
despite the fact that we may often think
otherwise. Quite frequently those
destination points wind up being more
the origin of something else.

It is often easier to know where one
comes from than where one is going to,
and who the heck knows where I am
headed. I do know that there are
things that are coming, just not sure
yet how they will be expressed.

A lot of who I am and have come to
be has a lot to do with who "You"
have collectively been for me. It
is the things I see, hear, and
experience that tell me that there
is something more to you than a
horny boy, and that that part of
you needs attention too, and
sometimes even more than the
horny part of you.

It isn't always easy to straddle
the fence the way I do, but it is
with love and respect for you that
I do it. Not everyone will
appreciate that fact, however for
those of you who do, I will likely
leave you feeling the best you
ever have...in more ways that one.

Below is an image that is free in
a larger size, if you'd like it
for your desktop (without the Isis
text). Just a little something for
you on this special day.

In addition, I will be putting out
a new, impromptu recording that I
just recently made. I have all
kinds of ideas for recordings, but
there is a part of me that won't
always allow the thoughts to
manifest. I realize that some
are looking for harder, harsher,
more controlling material, however
if I ever did some of those things
you wished for, I am thinking you
wouldn't enjoy them, as you would
likely be able to tell they didn't
really suit me.

I am not looking for mindless,
obedient slaves. But, if someone
that I get to know, and who gets
to know me, wants to be mindless
and obedient, that is a different
story.

We all have different sides to
ourselves that need expression,
and it is all too easy to
sometimes confuse the side
with who we truly are...kinda
like confusing the side dish
for the main course.

Keeping perspective isn't always
desired or wanted, but it is
the most valuable of things
when it is able to be acknowledged
and accessed.

Looking back is valuable, and
looking forward even more so.

Thanks for helping to make the
7 years possible, and here's
to what comes next!

Cheers.


 

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It's All in the Perspective

A man had an interview at a large company.
In looking over his application the
HR Representative said:
"Well, in looking over your work history
I see you have been fired from every
job you have held!"
"Yes." the man said.
"Well, how would you explain that?"
said the HR Rep.
"There isn't much positive
about that work history!"
"Sure there is... !"
says the man.
"It shows that I am not a quitter!"

Wonder if the guy knows there is more
than one way to quit, LOL.

Something to think about, perhaps? :)
 

Read this...and let's both see what happens.

Do you feel like there is pleasure in
doing what I say?

Do you feel like you want to, need to,
crave to please me?

If you knew that something would please
me, would you do it?

This is a little test for you.

Stare at the image below for 1 minute,
and then click it, and let's both see
what happens.

Football Baseball & Relationships

I was speaking with someone recently
about communication within a relationship,
and a metaphor occurred to me that I
wanted to share with you as I think
it is something that could be helpful.

The person's spouse was saying that
this person was needy, as they could
not understand why certain things
requested were desired.

Interestingly, since we tend to pick
our opposite for a relationship, this
type of thing is not unusual, and can
often be difficult to navigate.

However in a situation where the
partners care about one another it
would seem to be something that
would be worth navigating.

The metaphor that I was sharing was
about a baseball player and a football
player. They have different frameworks
and tools, and if the baseball player
gave the football player a bat he may
wonder "what the heck am I supposed
to do with this?" He might even say
"I need a football," to which the
baseball player would say, "Why do
you need a ball like that? It doesn't
work with this bat, but THIS one does."

Is the football player needy for needing
the thing that he needs that fits his
framework?

In thinking about this I realized that
the two players could have a great
difficulty understanding each other for
several reasons:

one runs around in circles
while the
other runs in one direction

one hits a ball with a special tool
while the
other throws one without a special tool

on player runs into other players
as an intentional event
while the
other runs into other players
as an unintentional event.

one player plays a game that is timed
while the
other plays an untimed game.

Do any of these differences make one
more superior than the other? Putting
aside that there are opinions about
sports and that there are perspectives
that would say yes, generally speaking
the answer would be NO.

And while people can likely see the
logic of this conversation, they often
likely will not be able to give the
same flexibility to another person
when there seems to be a difference.

Often when there is a difference, the
perspective of the "right" one is the
one that comes from the person doing
the doing or speaking.

The next time that you are having
some difficulty speaking with someone,
and getting what you need, perhaps
this metaphor will help.

"Perhaps you don't need (fill in) to
know that you are loved, but I do,
and it doesn't make me needy, it
just makes me, me. Just in the same
way that you may need (fill in) and
it is just what makes you, you."

Mind you, people can't always give
you what you want and need, but you'll
have a better chance of getting it,
if your framework is understood.

It is important to know what is
important to you, and to know what
things are things you need. If the
person you are with is unable to
give them to you, the next step is
even harder than trying to make
things work: you need to decide
if it is time to move on.

I am not saying you should bail
at the first sign of trouble,
however if what you really need
is unavailable you can still
stick around - with the knowledge
that you will be left unfulfilled.

Either way, it is your choice...
even if it seems you don't have one.

Your best bet will be to see what
you can do to learn to communicate
in a non-threatening, responsible
way, and see if that person you
love and who loves you is willing
to compromise in a way that doesn't
leave either one of you feeling
compromised.

Oh what fun! :P

Awake Stirring and Asleep | Quote

"There are three kinds of people in the world, those who are asleep, those who are stirring, and those who are awake.

If you try to wake up the sleeping person he will just mumble and go back to sleep. If you wake up the stirring person he will wake up just long enough to curse you and then go back to sleep.

Instead of trying to wake them up, if you come across someone who is asleep or stirring what you should do is, fluff their pillow, tuck them in, and kiss them on the forehead.

The important joy for those who are awake is to seek each other out, connect with others who are awake, talk, sing and celebrate together. This will create a groundswell of awareness. As this groundswell increases and spreads out, it will awaken the stirring and will begin to stir those who are still sleeping."

- Buckminster Fuller

Which type are you?
Are you awake? Want to make some noise together? ;)
 

Oh Mighty Isis | Video

This morning someone called and told
me he used to watch a Saturday morning
show that was "with" Isis. He said
the woman was gorgeous.

I went to YouTube and found the
following video, and must say I agree.
What you will find at the end of the
video may be interesting to you:
"Isis...foe of evil, defender of the
weak, champion of truth and justice."

When I was choosing what name I would
use in this realm, I had done some
research, and liked what I had heard
about who Isis was. I remember
protective was a big thing, as well
as being supportive and benevolent.
She also had a reputation for having
something to do with relationships,
given all that she had done to get
her husband back.

I probably was - in some degree -
all of those things before I started
this path, however in looking back,
it would seem that these characteristics
have become stronger and taken on more
shape in the time that I have been Isis.

People say there is energy in words
and language. In a case like this,
I do have to wonder if it is true.
Although, to the opposite point, the
person who is also a hypnotist and
also uses the name Isis on Niteflirt
appears to be nothing like that, so
who knows? (Make sure you find me
under one name IsisTheEnchantress).

Anyway...enjoy the video, and the
nostalgia for those old enough to
remember it.

Have a great day!

 

Quick & Nasty?

I just got a call from someone
who was looking for something
"quick and nasty."

While I can sometimes be quick
with those who have called me
before, ironically what he
wanted couldn't have been more
the antithesis of who I am and
what I have to offer.

Too bad for him that he is so
quick that he doesn't take the
time to find out what is
possible.

Oh well. Too each his own,
and I'd say odds are good that
what he wants works for him a
good part of the time which is
why he is so quick to abandon
ship when it's not available.

It's also great that he knows
what he wants, as he is more
likely to get what he needs
as a result. In this case,
though - it just won't be
with me. :)

Hope you're having a great
weekend. If you've been
dropping by, and haven't
been catching me on chat,
please keep trying. I
suspect some of you come
and go so quickly (no ironic
pun intended) that it might
be difficult to connect,
unless I am sitting in front
of the computer all day and
night...but ya just never
know, you know?

Be well.
Isis
 

Ain't it the truth? | Quote

"The heart has its reasons
which reason knows nothing of."
- Blaise Pascal

On Technology | Video

In this video Tod speaks about
"multi-tasking," which is a myth.
I remember hearing that several
years ago, and it makes sense
that what you are doing is just
moving between things - as you
can truly only focus on one
thing at any given time.

If there is "help" in this video,
if there is any, is in the form
of perspective. Notice, among
other things, what it says about
technology and relationships.

Do you manage technology
or
does technology manage you?
 

Everything is Relative | Video

I imagine that the facts presented in this
video have changed many times, and will
continue to change. It is interesting when
a fact is something that is considered
concrete. How often do the things we
believe falsely take on a concrete status?

As always, interested in knowing what
you think.

 

Facebook makes changes | Video | Humor

Have you seen these Facebook changes?
A little humor for your day. 

We don't always get what we want - sometimes we get better | Video

Whether you believe in God, or not, this
song has a great message about how things
sometimes work out better than the way
we wish it to.

Something to think about.

I can think of a few things in my life
that didn't work out, only to have something
better come along.



Along those same lines, Matt Damon
talks about his new film and how
he met his wife in the following
video. (As a side note if you see
his new movie Adjustment Bureau,
please let me know what you think).

If time is limited, begin the video
at 2:50.

 

Update on Updates

Just wanted to let you know that
it seems there is a bug with
the interactive widget, so I
took it down.

If I can find a replacement,
I will attempt the idea again
in the future.

In the meantime, there is a
chatroom widget that has been
added that seems to be working
just fine.

If you are visiting the blog,
and would like to speak to
me or perhaps another here,
please feel free to do so.

I would like to for it to
become a place that people
can connect. Perhaps if
you are someone who knows me
you can share with someone
who doesn't about your
experience with me...you
know, talk about me behind
my back. LOL.

Of course there are likely
to be other possibilities,
likely to be revealed in time.

Hope you're having a great
day...and hope to speak
with you soon!

Isis
 

"Hello, this is Niteflirt..."

So tonight I was in the grocery store.

I was taking my time, going aisle to
aisle seeing what goodies might
entice me.

I am in the check out, pretty much
getting ready to pay when the phone
rings.

I went to look to see who it was,
and I hit the speaker button, and
what is heard, fairly loudly is,
"Hello, this is Niteflirt..."

I tried to hang up on it, and
it was like a comedy of errors.

Couldn't help but wonder who could
hear that, it was pretty darn loud.

And...I have to say, pretty darn
funny, too. Guess if the woman
who was doing the check out needs
extra money, she may have found
an outlet. Or, better still,
maybe she already knows what
Niteflirt is all about.

It was a moment for the memory
books, LOL.
 

The Past is Still Present

It is interesting sometimes to review
things done in the past, especially
when there remains a consistency.

I recently came across a paper I wrote
in high school, and there were several
pieces that were consistent with who
I still am.

I was just re-reading my second entry
here and, even though it was in some
ways a lifetime ago, the words still
resonate for me.

I bring it up now, and share it, as
I know that many people won't go back
and read every entry ever made, and
I think it is a worthy addition to
anyone's reading of my blog who may
be interested in getting to know me
better and/or calling me.

Got Questions? (<-Click to read)

I hope you find it helpful!
 

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Makes Me Think

I don't know if the things on the
following site are true, or just
sound good (a wee bit skeptical
sometimes, I suppose), however I
don't think it matters.

The site is MakeMeThink.com. It
has all kinds of things that people
share that might make one step
back, take a beat, and then...?

One that stuck out to me
(although there were many) was:

"Today, like every day for the last
4 years, my father picked a fresh
flower from his garden and took it
to my mother. This time I decided
to go with him to see her. And as
he placed the flower on her grave,
he said, 'I just wish I had picked
her a fresh flower every day when
she was alive.'”

Even though we often receive messages
that there is "no time like the
present" to appreciate something or
someone, we still miss opportunities
to show our appreciation.

What can you do - with consistency -
for those you care about - now -
while they are still present?

Let me know if you visit the site,
and what you think. One warning
before you go, as you might imagine,
the site lives up to its name.

Odds are good it will make you think.

Have a great day. :)
 

On a Serious Note

The following is a
Reuters Article about HPV.

It might be interesting to
take note of the facts.

FYI.
 

Some Adjustments

Occasionally I will tweak things,
and did a few tweaks here today.

In the right column you will now
find a section that has questions
and answers.

I am not sure how it is supposed
to be used, however, I thought
it might be interesting to see
what could come of it.

So...

I added two questions to start,
and I invite you to ask questions
of me, or others, and give
answers yourself.

I am not sure what will come of
it, but let's see where it goes!

Anyone game?

Updated:
I just tried to see how it would
work, and am not sure there is
a way for anyone to interact
with the gadget. Wondering if
it is just me, or if others have
the same issue. If you are game,
and can't contribute, please let
me know, and I'll take it down
if it doesn't work. Thanks.

Another Update:
It looks like the above may not
work. I am looking into other
options. In the meantime, I
have added a chat box. Feel free
to chat with others in my absence.
If I happen to be present when
you are, we might even have a
chance to chat a bit. :)

We'll see how it goes.
Oh baby!
 

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