A Gray Line.

Previously I wrote about the Financial Fetish and me.

I spoke about how I would never want to contribute
to things that could be detrimental for another,
at the same time acknowledging that it could be
a fine line, as I can't make decisions for others.

The same goes for anything I do.

I got to thinking about this because one of my
callers likes to be "dumb" and "stupid" for me.
It is part of a bigger whole, but the first time
he spoke about it, it wasn't something I thought
I would be able to do.

However, like many who call me and enjoy our
sessions together, he was persistent. As a result
we got to know each other over time, and I got to
see that he never wanted to be dumb or stupid in
real life. It also became apparent that he felt that
way for a time, it was a release, and he was back
to himself. It was also clear that what happened
during those sessions were things that were not
going to have a long lasting impact on him.

As a result, within a predefined context - I wind
up calling him dumb and stupid.

I want to make it clear, in case it is not, that
this is not something I do with just anyone. As
a matter of fact, over the years I have been doing
this, he is the only one. He was also the one
who requested it and initiated. It is not something
that I would ever seek to do to someone, just
because I could.

Being in the position I am in I get many types of
requests, many of which I decline to do. Some of
which I decline - until I do them. However if there
is something that I have declined and altered my
path on, it isn't usually a universal course change,
but one that is done on a case by case basis. At
the same time, there was a time I never used to
use the term "Good Boy," and now it is more often
used than not.

In life we evolve and the change that occurs effects
us one way or another. It is my desire that
everything I do not only has a benefit for those
touched by me, but also a benefit that is never at
the expense of who the person is and what is
important to him.

In the erotic hypnosis world there is a large gray
line between fantasy and reality, and I have seen
it tip in harmful directions more than once. For
that reason, I am cautious and suggest you be, too.

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On Love & Hypnosis & Love

In erotic hypnosis there is much talk
around the idea of falling in love
with the hypnotist.

Not everyone desires it, but there
are several who want it, and I can't
help but wonder is it the hypnotist
herself the person wants to love or
if it is just an innate desire to
love, or if the feeling of loving
someone leaves a person feeling loved.

Many times people will shoot for
an outcome and ask questions later,
if at all. However, it would be good
to know what is at the core of your
desires because there may be other
ways to achieve a desired outcome
without compromising yourself or
perhaps even those you love in your
day-to-day life.

The more I talk about Love, the more
I find that those who follow me can
relate - or it has an opposite effect
and scares people off.

We all want Love, to love and to be
loved, and yet there needs to be a
willingness to be vulnerable for Love
to be able to get in. Maybe that is
what hypnosis does for a person?
Maybe it helps them get past their
defenses and guards?

If so, that can be an awesome thing,
but it depends on what the results
are and what the person on the
receiving end does with that openness
and vulnerability.

As always, I do believe that different
things can work for different people,
so I don't believe there are any
standard "one sized fits all" answers.

However, if in the absence of the one
you love there is pain....If in the
presence of the one you love there is
abuse (that you don't appreciate, but
are told to)...If you feel dependent
on the one you love...If you are
demanded to do things that would hurt
or compromise you - and you do them...
odds are what you have is something
that is filling a void, and is something
else going by the name of Love. If it
is truly Love, it won't be seamless and
easy, but it will empower you in its wake
and aftermath, instead of weakening
or demoralizing you.

While it may sometimes be scary to
take it in and you may at times feel
like you aren't worthy of the real
thing, please know that the very
fact that you here and living and
breathing tells me, and should tell
you, that you are worthy of the REAL
thing. Just because you feel inferior
or deficient in some way doesn't mean
that you are unworthy...if anything,
it likely just means you need it even
more.

No one is perfect. If we waited for
perfection for things to happen -
nothing would ever get done. Perfection
is a nice - yet improbable - standard.
The best we can hope for is to do the
best we can with what we've got, and
at times we might just be lucky enough
to find ourselves at perfect.

If these words speak to you and your
heart, then please never accept any
saccharine form of Love. It's never
as good as the real thing, and can
also have some harmful side effects.

I realize this is an usual topic of
discussion, however, I am seeing more
and more how necessary it is. When
I speak with someone from my heart,
it often allows me to have a conversation
that comes from their heart.

Just because it isn't spoken of,
doesn't mean it shouldn't be
addressed, and also doesn't mean
that it will diminish your erotic
experience. If anything, a person
who is aware of himself and his
motivations and his escapes is
more likely to find what he was
looking for than someone who
unconsciously signed on to what
another told him he should want
to fulfill his quest.

And...even better still...that
same person may just find LOVE
in the REAL world, instead of
having to settle for some
version of it in the virtual one.

If you want to explore the idea
of love more in the context of
hypnosis, I have a few recordings
that you can do it with, just ask
me about them.

Have a great day! And may Love
be with You. :D

Isis
 

Playing in the Erotic Hypnosis Rabbit Hole

When I began to do erotic hypnosis,
I did it because I was sensual
and I enjoyed the idea that it
could be used in a way that could
make someone feel good.

When I first started I never used
the words "Good Boy" and I didn't
really do recordings or sessions
that were more than just some
immediate form of control.

I was never one to do things that
would inhibit another's enjoyment
of the art form by suggesting that
they be with ME exclusively.

As time went by, the "market"
was clamoring for me to be more
"domme-like" so I started to
include certain facets in the
mix, always mindful of the life
of a person outside of the
environment we had between us
(sometimes to the chagrin of
those who wanted to see how
far things could be pushed).

I have played a role of sorts
in what I have done, and have
been more and more careful and
specific about how I attempt
to classify myself, as the labels
I have attempted to wear have
been used against me on occasion
when someone has gone with the
perception of the label instead
of going with who I am.

It is a difficult position to
be in at times. If I didn't
"pose" a certain way, those who
would "need" someone like me
wouldn't likely find me.

There seems not to be much
middle ground - just a very
narrow ledge...one that I
would very much like to widen.

Being dominant is what I do,
it isn't who I am.

For some, that is a huge block
as they want the "real thing."
And, while some may think they
want the real thing, there is
a good chance in a number of
situations that when reality
meets fantasy, there will not
only be disappointment, there
will be even more significant
issues.

If you are new to this type
of hypnosis you may want to
taste the many flavors, going
from hypnotist to hypnotist.

If you do, what you may not
realize is how affected
unconsciously by the suggestions
that have been given.

It won't necessarily be a bad
thing, until or if it becomes
a bad thing.

The problem is that there are
so many variances in the equation
of erotic hypnosis, not the least
of which is the originating
mindset of those involved.

If you think you're just going to
dip your toes in the water, be
careful about walking up to
someone who may have a reputation
for pulling people into the pool.

Just because you have your beliefs,
desires, and ground rules and limits
does not mean that someone else will
respect them. Just because you only
intended to spend 30 minutes doesn't
meant you won't find yourself
awakening 90 minutes later having
spent an additional amount of money
on files, in tributes, or in gift
certificates.

I know that there are some who will
read this and get all turned on by
the idea that someone could do that
to you. However consider that what
might be a one time thrill could
become a self-destructing habit
guided by the type of person who
knows what they're doing and can
take you places you never imagined
(and *not* in a good way).

Sometimes we need to lose what we
have to appreciate what we had.

Occasionally someone will get side
tracked from sessions with me by
another hypnotist. It is interesting
to hear about what happened in their
absence. Often the sessions were
taking a turn that was undesired.
In addition, they come to discover
that they were much more affected
by the other person than they realized
(also *not* in a good way).

So why am I telling you all of this?

Because it is important to go into
sessions with as much knowledge as
possible...asking as many questions
as possible (even if just in your
own mind).

Many come to me with a "do me" attitude
that could very likely one day get them
into trouble if they speak to the "wrong"
type of hypnotist for what they may want.

For several reasons, erotic hypnosis is
very much a rabbit hole...you really never
know just where you will wind up. Well
done hypnosis becomes who you are and is
no longer what you do.

It is possible you could lose sight of
the person you once were, and have no
idea how to get back. You may not even
know that there is "someone" to get back
to.

I personally am uncertain about those
types of changes, as I believe we all
have a purpose in being who we are.

And, while at times, there may be things
to enhance and tweak, I find it difficult
to believe that the whole of a person
being washed away is a good thing.

But that's just me.

Your mileage may vary, and
I certainly respect that.

If you take a turn and find yourself
in a place you don't want to be,
I might be able to help, although
I hope never to meet you under those
circumstances.

May all your rabbit holes be safe ones.
:)
 

TLC or Domination?

Does that sound odd to you?

It might.

Who would think they are related?


Probably not too many. However, I would have
to say that in my experience there are many
who want to be dominated who really want and
need some TLC. In that way, they become
related. Some would mistake control for the
missing piece in their life.

Are there that few understanding people and
places to get unconditional love and
understanding and support? I kinda think I
know the answer. The problem is I wish I
didn't.

Why is it so difficult for us to be who we
truly are, and even better, feel the love
that we very much need?

Is it easy to love what people say and do?
Often I'd have to say probably not. However,
love would never require loving actions and
words that don't work for us. It, however,
would allow us to love in spite of them.
(How we express the love, and what we do
with it, is another conversation addressed
in part here.)

Have you heard my Pure Love: The Gift
recording yet? If not, do yourself a
favor and listen. It lives up to its
name. I promise. Click below and buy.



PS The pic above is a preview of
things to come :)

a few thoughts...

So...NF's call buttons now work again.

How wonderful is that?

Now when you click one of those buttons
to call me, you will be able to call me.

I hope you have been well. There are
many that I haven't heard from in recent
months, and I am uncertain as to why
that is - whether it is Niteflirt issues,
or the economy, or other things, or a
combination.

I am used to someone calling me at random
moments,and I learned a long time ago that
I should never get attached to my callers,
but it doesn't stop me from wondering what
happened to them.

Of course, I always hope for the best,
however, when someone quits me cold turkey
it is always a bummer. It is a bummer, too,
when someone says they're no longer going
to call because they can't, or have gotten
into a relationship.

Of course I am happy for them, but I am
bummed for me. For someone who doesn't get
attached, I get attached. I have never been
one to hypnotically try to keep someone
calling, buying files, thinking of me -
beyond where he wants to be. I know of
instances where that has happened, and
despite the "logic" of any prevailing
hypnotic suggestion, I can tell it makes
a person quite unhappy.

I really do care about those I speak with
and connect with. There is something very
special that occurs when someone lets you
play with them in the intimate way that I do.

So...if you happen to be reading this, but
haven't called in a while, know that it is
quite likely that you have been thought of,
and not forgotten.

I hope you are well, and should an occasion
arise when we can speak again, I hope that
I will again here you on the other end of
the line.

Isis

PS If you are on NF, and have been a caller
of mine, you should make sure to read your
emails. There have been some interesting
things there lately, including a new, free
recording which I was told today is
"beautiful."

The Wall Street Journal Talks Hypnosis

Today I saw an article
about a NYC hypnotist.
Apparently I am not the
only one who is talking
about hypnosis in relation
to financial stresses.

If you are interested in
seeing the article,
click here.

I would say a few sessions
can go a long way...if done
well. However the benefits
of repetition can not be
overstated.

If you're having issues,
feel free to ask me about
how hypnosis might
be able to help you get some
peace and balance around how
you feel around your financial
situation.

You may be
pleasantly surprised
and amazed.

Isis

Feeling Stressed?

I noticed something interesting awhile ago about the men who have called me.

What I am about to share is about my experience only and my personal thoughts, and I in no way intend to indicate that what I say fits the whole picture, or works as a broad generalization. However, my intention in sharing it is to provide anyone who is reading a framework that might just be helpful in their own experience.

I have said previously to callers (and think I have alluded to it in this blog), I believe that men and women don't know how to be these days. There are women being "men" and men being "women," in both physical transformation and in masculine and feminine characteristics. It would be enough for some to feel confused. After all, aren't men and women's roles defined? Aren't they "supposed" to be a certain way?

Now add to that the pressures of modern day life. If "we" go by the "standard" definition of what a man is supposed to be, it means a lot more than it did in our caveman days. In the caveman days, life was very simple: kill and feed your family, or be killed. It might be an oversimplification, but hopefully you get my point.

Today, it is much more than that. There are many family obligations to take care of, some fun, some not so fun. There are tvs everywhere. We walk around with ipods. There are web services that keep us up on tidbits of all the information we may never need to know. We keep heaping more and more things into the mix.

Interestingly, part of what hypnotizes us is when we are overloaded with information. We have a breakdown, of sorts, and it makes us more susceptible to what is happening around us. It would be nice to think, as I am sure many people who think they are invincible do, that there is no breaking point. The unfortunate thing in my mind is that I would say for many a breaking point is equated with a sign of weakness (which many are uncomfortable with), rather than a reality of the human mind's ability to simultaneously cope with details that are constantly bombarding us.

I don't know about you, but there are times I just need quiet. I just need the company of my own thoughts. I very rarely watch tv, or listen to the radio any more. I have too much going on, and I just don't want to "handle" it, which is pretty much what it would amount to. Occasionally, my escape will be into a movie - which doesn't even happen all that often. But when it does, it probably feels like how you feel once you've been able to escape into a hypnotic state for awhile.

With so many men having to feel like they have to be in control in their day to day lives in all levels of their lives, it is no wonder that they seek out a place that they can just give up and give over to someone else. In a way, it is a natural balancing mechanism that we also have as human beings. When we're out of balance, we seek to find it. Unfortunately there are times that it comes in destructive ways, in part I believe, because consciously we won't allow it. The result is that we need it, so we will find it/create it any way we can. The results can be disastrous, even outside of a hypnotic context.

Hypnosis is a wonderful tool. However, especially in cases like what I have described, it can become a destructive one. Did you know that there are some theories of the mind that say that will power and conscious choice is only about 7% of our experience? That says a lot about our unconscious mind's control over what we ultimately do. Ever wonder why your willpower seems to be on the losing side of what you say you want more often than not? Well...now you know at least one potential explanation.

I love what I do, and often try to understand what is going on with someone as I am hypnotizing them. It is sometimes under appreciated. After all, if you are coming for an escape, do you really want to think about it? What those with an open mind come to see is that an awareness of what is going on, coupled with what the potential outcomes are, is actually even better than ignoring it. There is an expression that what you resist, persists. To avoid it is to have it be the pink elephant in the room - the one that is too big to go through the door because the room was built around it.

Hypnosis (and other things) can help that elephant to disappear, which to me is much better than having a temporary fix to life's stresses.

Perhaps you could see how that might be possible? Perhaps you can see how this might be useful to know? Perhaps you're just fine the way you are. In which case, this might just be something to tuck away for future (or a friend's) reference.

If you appreciate entries like this one, please let me know. I suspect that for some it does take away some of the "charm" of the experience of erotic and sensual hypnosis. While I understand it, I'd like to think that the reason that I have callers who call me again and again is because they are the ones who appreciate my appreciation of all of who they are...and not just that part between their legs...and not just my appreciation of their appreciation of my assets.

I have always found myself sharing what I know. If that is something you'd prefer not to know, maybe I am not the right one for you.

And then again, maybe you just never knew how right I could be. Smile.

I hope you enjoy whatever is left of your weekend.

Isis

An Experience with Isis

Isis asked me to put together
some thoughts about
my experience with her.

The first thing I must say is that,
for me, the transition to trance
is seamless (much like the stockings
that many of us imagine
adorning Her legs).

Next, Her voice is many things.
It is so melodic,
compelling,
arousing,
engaging,
reasurring,
relaxing
and entrancing
that i'm never sure
where the trance begins in the call.

I do know where it ends
and that is always
in pleasure.
Pleasure for me that is always
methodically built
over the
duration of the call or recording.
It can be experienced directly:
elicited in me by Isis through visualization
or other hypnotic techniques.

It can also originate indirectly,
experienced in me through the realization that
connecting with Isis for hypnosis
is an action of a good boy.

There is certainty and
pleasure in attaining this honour
bestowed on me by Isis
when She has been pleased
and this term - good boy -
when uttered feels incredible.

With Isis,
it is as if the means is the end.
In other words,
pleasure in listening
produces pleasure in obeying.

My experience of Isis is layered for sure -
so much is multi-dimensional
where Isis is concerned.
I know I must never think
or analyze too much.

I imagine that anyone
listening to Isis
understands that pleasure
and the sound of Her voice are linked -
Bonded so tightly that it becomes nearly
impossible to consider one without the other.

Isis is pleasure and pleasure is Isis.

She has an amazing skill for appealing to
my senses. When She describes a texture,
or touch, it is vivid and real.
Scent, images, sounds, even feelings...
sensations of any kind are
carefully cultivated,
created and intensified
to suit
the purposes and creativity of Isis
during any call or recording.

Her mp3s are as unique as live calls.
Each time I am privileged to listen,
it is clear to me that the mp3s are
well crafted and thought out that
each playing is like hearing the
sounds for the first time.
Having heard many of Her recordings
dozens of times i can attest to the novel
and fresh sound they have
even after hearing them over and over again.

I love how she works with my submissive side
in the content of her recordings.

There are layers to all that surrounds
Her 'points of contact.'
And it is fun discovering all
the means of engagement
(subtle and obvious, conscious and unconscious).

i really enjoy the intense splash of red
that is a signature color for much of
Her internet presence. There is so much eye candy
and stimuli that appeal to all the senses
in all that she presents:
Her You Tube videos,
email through Niteflirt,
Her Yahoo Group,
Her website: Listenandobey,
Her Yahoo Messenger ID and messages,
Her mp3s,
online select and click games,
and of course
Her live, intense and
all encompassing phone sessions.

Isis is a terrific and captivating guide in the
world of erotic and sensual hypnosis.
When I first called, she encouraged me to
to start where I felt comfortable.

Do yourself a favor, and do as she suggests,
Listen and obey, call today.