When You're Doing the Best You Can...

So often I talk to people who are stressed out.
They're stressed out in part because they think
that they're inadequate, that they some how
need to be, or should be, better.

If you're one of them, consider this:

If you are doing the best you can, consider
that it is good enough. It may not be perfect.
It may need additional help or support. It
may, in some way, not be enough. However,
instead of seeing yourself in some way inferior,
give yourself credit for what you have done.

You will never be the super human being you
somehow think you should be. You can not be
everywhere in every moment being everything
to everyone. It's just impossible, and if
you think you can you will likely stress
yourself and others out in unproductive ways.

Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.

Let me repeat that:
Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.

If you are taking a beating for something you
were unable to help or have an inability to
change, that would define needlessly. Sometimes
you might think you need to be perfect, and the
fact is that sometimes perfect looks differently
than you might think it looks. While you are
busy beating yourself up, you might be in the
midst of perfection and not know it.

Even if it is not perfect by any standard or
definition, if you did the best you could then
give yourself some breathing room. Restricting
your airspace will only stifle you, in more
ways than one.

Your best is a gift.
Never cheapen it by selling yourself short.