Do You Have Your Ducks in a Row?

So many people that I talk to like things THEIR way.
In other aspects of their life they are in some part
control freaks. They like to have everything just as
they would want it to be.

Problem is...

If it is that way it is likely an illusion, and if it's not
that way, they're possibly miserable when something
takes a different than expected turn.

As human beings we love to KNOW things. That
knowing has an air of certainty to it that it has no
right to. Nothing is as permanent or as certain
as it would seem to be and yet we are constantly
seeking to have things as they "should be" by some
standard we have created.

It is a standard of perfection that is self-inflicted,
and likely unable to be maintained. The results of
an inability to maintain it can be anger, frustration,
tears, passive aggressive behavior, aggression,
belittling of another, belittling of oneself, and much
more.

Is there anything good about it?

Possibly. That depends on the person and
circumstance, though. Those who seek perfection
are likely to get the most out of anything that
they do. That alone is a good thing. However,
if in the process they harm people or relationships,
or their health, there is a cost that needs to be
factored in and the question becomes, is it worth it?

As I have said before, things can be changed, with
a willingness to change them and a mindset that
allows for the change. If you always do what you've
always done you'll always get what you've always
gotten. I think it was Einstein who said something
to the effect of "you cannot solve a problem with
the same mind that created it."

Most things about us never NEED to be changed.
However, the choice to make a change needs to
come from within, and whether or not a change
should occur will need to be decided on an
individual basis. The key is, once you've determined
the costs and the benefits, does it work for you?

Keep in mind that you can keep the best of who
you are, and give yourself some breathing room.
Having to have things a certain way takes a lot
of energy and is quite restrictive. You might
just be amazed at what is possible. The best of
who you are comes out when you aren't restricting
it to what is known about yourself.

Yeah, I know. Scary, isn't it?

How about we replace "scary" with "exciting"?

Yeah, I know. Exciting, isn't it?

Has a different feel, doesn't it?

The world is full of possibilities, and it can be quite
exciting if you don't let the fear run away with your
attention.

So...do you have your ducks in a row?

No? Great!

What's next?

(If it's still scary, just know it's only natural as it
is what you are used to. If only words could make
a difference, the world would be a much different
place. Your practice and efforts over time can
alter your realty. If, that is, you want it altered).