I just saw a story about a coach in Florida
who took in a homeless student and football
player. Apparently the controversy comes
from what is allowable in football as a
business/industry.
The coach was suspended, and
apparently there was a fine.
It seems it all might work out,
but things like this scream
trouble to me. In a world
where we always seem to have to
be guarded against those who will
game the system, there seems to
be an inevitable cost to those
who could really use some help.
Something similar seemed to be
a part of The Blind Side story.
Someone does good, so there
must be an ulterior motive.
Yuck.
When rules and laws start hurting
people instead of helping them,
we got a problem.
And the bigger problem is
how do we fix it?
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Uniquely Qualified | Video
This is a great ad and speaks to the
power of being unique in our
"be like everyone else and fit in" world.
I also think he has some valid
points to consider.
I'll be curious to see if he wins.
power of being unique in our
"be like everyone else and fit in" world.
I also think he has some valid
points to consider.
I'll be curious to see if he wins.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Oh...the irony
Today, in the space of just a few hours
I had one guy tell me how inexpensive he
thought my rates were, and told me I
should raise them and another one ask
me why I was so expensive in this recession.
Just goes to show everything is perspective.
Funny thing is among those who have a
reputation in this arena (and even many
who don't) my price tends to be on the
lower end.
In addition, out of an awareness of people's
time and money, I am willing and able to do
sessions that are significantly shorter in
duration once a first call/session has been
had (many others have minimal call
requirements).
Pricing is a tricky business for sure, but
more important is the value for dollar and
time spent, don't you think? You may spend
less time with me, but I feel pretty
confident that you'll likely have more
pleasure with me than you will with many
others who are less expensive. You can also
spend more on someone else and get a lot less
than what a session with me would offer.
You'll also get someone who cares about you.
I can't tell you how many times my approach
to hypnosis and what I do has surprised
a person I was speaking with. A session with
me is about more than just hypnosis.
Smart (and informed) people know it's about
more than just the money, honey.
I had one guy tell me how inexpensive he
thought my rates were, and told me I
should raise them and another one ask
me why I was so expensive in this recession.
Just goes to show everything is perspective.
Funny thing is among those who have a
reputation in this arena (and even many
who don't) my price tends to be on the
lower end.
In addition, out of an awareness of people's
time and money, I am willing and able to do
sessions that are significantly shorter in
duration once a first call/session has been
had (many others have minimal call
requirements).
Pricing is a tricky business for sure, but
more important is the value for dollar and
time spent, don't you think? You may spend
less time with me, but I feel pretty
confident that you'll likely have more
pleasure with me than you will with many
others who are less expensive. You can also
spend more on someone else and get a lot less
than what a session with me would offer.
You'll also get someone who cares about you.
I can't tell you how many times my approach
to hypnosis and what I do has surprised
a person I was speaking with. A session with
me is about more than just hypnosis.
Smart (and informed) people know it's about
more than just the money, honey.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Typecasting
I was speaking with someone today about Types.
As with anything there are pluses and minuses
in regard to types. When you know what you
want there is a chance you are better able
to get it. However it also limits your options,
and there may be better ones, you just aren't
aware of yet.
There have been a few cases when I met someone
and they weren't what I thought they'd be. In
a couple of cases I had even seen pictures, but
the in person vibe was different than expected.
However in both cases, there was a connection
with the person that trumped what I thought of
them physically. It wasn't that I was unattracted,
it was just that I wasn't initially attracted.
I know people who are adamant about their "type,"
and feel that nothing else will do. If they are
that certain, then one of two things will usually
happen, they'll either be right, or they'll be
knocked off their feet by someone who doesn't fit
the model at all. I personally think the second
option so much more fun and appealing from an
observer's point of view. :)
People often ask me if I have a type, and I do.
However my type has been side stepped many times
to the point that I have been attracted to a range
of types physically. Sometimes my interest has
even surprised me.
But it just goes to show that when you are truly
connecting with someone it is the soul that you see
first, and it leads you to the rest. I am sure is a
place like that that the saying "beauty is in the
eyes of the beholder" must have come from.
So...if you are having any difficulty finding what
you are looking for, consider what effect your
typecasting has. If the things you want are things
that are important to you then I would never suggest
that you give them up. However, consider that there
may be other ways to accomplish what you want, and
with a willingness to adjust you may enhance your
possibilities.
Also consider - as a side note - that you may have
been hypnotized to feel the way you do about what you
do. And, as with anything hypnotic, it can be rewired
in a way that can be beneficial for you if you find
that it limits you, is a detriment to you, or is
something you would like to change for one reason
or another.
Of course this conversation (as with any conversation)
has many angles and perspectives. There will be those
who can and will disagree with the idea of what defines
beauty. For the record, this conversation is more
about attraction (which is much more elusive) than
beauty. And attraction, which is something that is
very difficult to define, is not exclusively linked to
what some may deem (physically) attractive.
The beauty of life is that we all get to make our own
choices, and when we get caught up in trying to define
absolutes that we can all agree upon, it is easy to
lose sight of what is important. In the end, the thing
or things you are best suited to be doing are the things
that work for YOU.
As with anything there are pluses and minuses
in regard to types. When you know what you
want there is a chance you are better able
to get it. However it also limits your options,
and there may be better ones, you just aren't
aware of yet.
There have been a few cases when I met someone
and they weren't what I thought they'd be. In
a couple of cases I had even seen pictures, but
the in person vibe was different than expected.
However in both cases, there was a connection
with the person that trumped what I thought of
them physically. It wasn't that I was unattracted,
it was just that I wasn't initially attracted.
I know people who are adamant about their "type,"
and feel that nothing else will do. If they are
that certain, then one of two things will usually
happen, they'll either be right, or they'll be
knocked off their feet by someone who doesn't fit
the model at all. I personally think the second
option so much more fun and appealing from an
observer's point of view. :)
People often ask me if I have a type, and I do.
However my type has been side stepped many times
to the point that I have been attracted to a range
of types physically. Sometimes my interest has
even surprised me.
But it just goes to show that when you are truly
connecting with someone it is the soul that you see
first, and it leads you to the rest. I am sure is a
place like that that the saying "beauty is in the
eyes of the beholder" must have come from.
So...if you are having any difficulty finding what
you are looking for, consider what effect your
typecasting has. If the things you want are things
that are important to you then I would never suggest
that you give them up. However, consider that there
may be other ways to accomplish what you want, and
with a willingness to adjust you may enhance your
possibilities.
Also consider - as a side note - that you may have
been hypnotized to feel the way you do about what you
do. And, as with anything hypnotic, it can be rewired
in a way that can be beneficial for you if you find
that it limits you, is a detriment to you, or is
something you would like to change for one reason
or another.
Of course this conversation (as with any conversation)
has many angles and perspectives. There will be those
who can and will disagree with the idea of what defines
beauty. For the record, this conversation is more
about attraction (which is much more elusive) than
beauty. And attraction, which is something that is
very difficult to define, is not exclusively linked to
what some may deem (physically) attractive.
The beauty of life is that we all get to make our own
choices, and when we get caught up in trying to define
absolutes that we can all agree upon, it is easy to
lose sight of what is important. In the end, the thing
or things you are best suited to be doing are the things
that work for YOU.
Language of Love
Everything about life is subject to interpretation,
and that includes the assignment of value to any
one thing.
There is a book called the Five Love Languages that
I have never read, but have heard much about.
According to the author the Languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
It is interesting to me to consider this idea, as
I realized a year or two ago something about myself.
People are always telling me things, but it's the
people who DO things for me that really get my
attention. In Love Language terms, that would be
the "Acts of Service" category.
I appreciate all things, and it's those acts that
carry more weight for me, and ultimately mean more.
If you are in a relationship and your Love Language
varies from your partner, you might see how there
could be a problem. If the way you felt loved was
primarily through touch, and your partner rarely
touched you, it would be easy to see how there might
be some difficulty.
The thing is that the "problem" isn't so much a
problem as much as a difference in perspective.
Most people tend to try to give love in the way
they most appreciate receiving it.
When we can look at things as different as opposed
to problematic it gives people a chance to be able
to communicate. The thing is, though, sometimes
due to various factors, even the knowledge doesn't
always help or if it does, it helps people to
realize that it might not be in their best interest
to be together.
If you're interested where you fall in these
languages, you can find out an official answer
by a 30 question quiz. Odds are though you,
like me, probably already know the answer.
Let me know what you think.
Click here for the (free) quiz.
5 Love Languages Assessments
and that includes the assignment of value to any
one thing.
There is a book called the Five Love Languages that
I have never read, but have heard much about.
According to the author the Languages are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
It is interesting to me to consider this idea, as
I realized a year or two ago something about myself.
People are always telling me things, but it's the
people who DO things for me that really get my
attention. In Love Language terms, that would be
the "Acts of Service" category.
I appreciate all things, and it's those acts that
carry more weight for me, and ultimately mean more.
If you are in a relationship and your Love Language
varies from your partner, you might see how there
could be a problem. If the way you felt loved was
primarily through touch, and your partner rarely
touched you, it would be easy to see how there might
be some difficulty.
The thing is that the "problem" isn't so much a
problem as much as a difference in perspective.
Most people tend to try to give love in the way
they most appreciate receiving it.
When we can look at things as different as opposed
to problematic it gives people a chance to be able
to communicate. The thing is, though, sometimes
due to various factors, even the knowledge doesn't
always help or if it does, it helps people to
realize that it might not be in their best interest
to be together.
If you're interested where you fall in these
languages, you can find out an official answer
by a 30 question quiz. Odds are though you,
like me, probably already know the answer.
Let me know what you think.
Click here for the (free) quiz.
5 Love Languages Assessments
The Truth Within | Video
You can find it in yourself...
Keep on loving what is true
and the world will come to you
You can find it in yourself."
- Michael Buble
Great song about finding
what you want and need within.
What do you think of it?
Having a Rough Time? Maybe it's Time for a Change.
Someone I know has been having a rough
time lately. She has had some very
serious issues on the major fronts:
family, financial, health.
Recently she expressed her dismay and
even as she plowed forward couldn't
understand why she was so particularly
hard hit.
It was a tough moment to be a witness
to. In a moment like that there isn't
too much that could be said that could
be helpful because odds are it truly
couldn't be heard.
However the thing that occurred to me
after the fact, and the thing I would
very much like to say has to do with a
potential need for a change.
I know she thought that some things
that didn't happen were going to make
everything right with the world, so it
would be difficult to suggest that perhaps
the path she was on was trying to shake
her.
She has been living in an impossible
situation and has been unable to see
the forest for the trees. It is all
she knows, so it would be difficult
to know anything else.
However, when all we know seems to be
destroyed (or come close to destruction)
it seems that it might be a message that
is trying to get through, a message that
says "time for a change."
Whether or not that is "true" who the
heck knows? But the times in my life
when devastation appeared to strike,
there were things that came out of it
that were better than one might have
expected was possible.
As I write this, I am reminded of what I
heard recently about the Titanic.
Apparently when it hit the iceberg it just
kept going which forced it to take on
water faster than if it had just shut down
the engines. According to what was said,
it it had just shut down its engines and
stopped, more people on board may have
survived as it would have potentially
floated long enough for help to arrive.
It occurs to me that people can sometimes
be like that. Someone has a problem or
difficulty or conflict and instead of
taking what happens as a sign to slow or
shut down for a bit, they plow forward
which results in a bigger problem.
So...I present it as a possibility to
consider. The next time you are hit by
something less than desirable, consider
that it might be time to do something
else, even it is just to slow down enough
to consider other options instead of
plowing forward the way you always have.
Will it be easy? Ha! What do you think?
I know you already know the answer to
the question. But I bettcha easy or not,
it'll be better than you think - especially
when you get to the other side.
time lately. She has had some very
serious issues on the major fronts:
family, financial, health.
Recently she expressed her dismay and
even as she plowed forward couldn't
understand why she was so particularly
hard hit.
It was a tough moment to be a witness
to. In a moment like that there isn't
too much that could be said that could
be helpful because odds are it truly
couldn't be heard.
However the thing that occurred to me
after the fact, and the thing I would
very much like to say has to do with a
potential need for a change.
I know she thought that some things
that didn't happen were going to make
everything right with the world, so it
would be difficult to suggest that perhaps
the path she was on was trying to shake
her.
She has been living in an impossible
situation and has been unable to see
the forest for the trees. It is all
she knows, so it would be difficult
to know anything else.
However, when all we know seems to be
destroyed (or come close to destruction)
it seems that it might be a message that
is trying to get through, a message that
says "time for a change."
Whether or not that is "true" who the
heck knows? But the times in my life
when devastation appeared to strike,
there were things that came out of it
that were better than one might have
expected was possible.
As I write this, I am reminded of what I
heard recently about the Titanic.
Apparently when it hit the iceberg it just
kept going which forced it to take on
water faster than if it had just shut down
the engines. According to what was said,
it it had just shut down its engines and
stopped, more people on board may have
survived as it would have potentially
floated long enough for help to arrive.
It occurs to me that people can sometimes
be like that. Someone has a problem or
difficulty or conflict and instead of
taking what happens as a sign to slow or
shut down for a bit, they plow forward
which results in a bigger problem.
So...I present it as a possibility to
consider. The next time you are hit by
something less than desirable, consider
that it might be time to do something
else, even it is just to slow down enough
to consider other options instead of
plowing forward the way you always have.
Will it be easy? Ha! What do you think?
I know you already know the answer to
the question. But I bettcha easy or not,
it'll be better than you think - especially
when you get to the other side.
The Best Deal You Could Ever Make?
There was a point in my life several years
ago in which I had to make a choice.
It was a tough choice for me to make. In
some ways, I would have been better off
making a different one than the one I chose.
However, the one really great thing that
came out of the results was a perspective
that I have never forgotten.
I had wondered at the time if I didn't
follow through if I would find myself
looking back with regret for a path not
chosen wondering what could have been.
I knew it was a situation that I did not
want to be in so I made myself the promise
that whatever happened I would never be
upset with myself about the choice I made.
Interestingly, despite all of the twists
and turns and upsets that came as a result,
I never once regretted my choice. I knew
it was something I just had to do.
I share this because I know sometimes others
find themselves in situations and don't know
what to do. Many times they're not easy ones.
There may be cases where the best option is
not to act, however, there are also likely to
be cases like mine where one small step not
taken would lead to a lifetime of questioning
and possible regret.
If you can make yourself a deal like the one
I made perhaps it will help you to do what you
feel you need to do. One clue that you might
want to act is if you have an inner battle
about the choice. Odds are there is something
that is trying to get you to pay attention.
The thing is, though, (as was my case) the
action isn't necessarily going to guarantee
you the outcome you want. But what it will
do is give you peace of mind that you are or
were doing the right thing for yourself when
you did it.
Countless people sit on their deathbeds spending
more time mourning what they didn't do than
what they did do. If something gnaws at you
find a way to interact with it that you can live
with, and consider doing something so that you
will never have to live with a pang of regret.
It was one of my best life lessons and one of
the best deals I ever made with myself. I am
happy to say I am more than OK with it now,
more so because I acted on it, and am not sitting
here wondering, "what if...?"
Perhaps it is a lesson that will be helpful
to you, too.
ago in which I had to make a choice.
It was a tough choice for me to make. In
some ways, I would have been better off
making a different one than the one I chose.
However, the one really great thing that
came out of the results was a perspective
that I have never forgotten.
I had wondered at the time if I didn't
follow through if I would find myself
looking back with regret for a path not
chosen wondering what could have been.
I knew it was a situation that I did not
want to be in so I made myself the promise
that whatever happened I would never be
upset with myself about the choice I made.
Interestingly, despite all of the twists
and turns and upsets that came as a result,
I never once regretted my choice. I knew
it was something I just had to do.
I share this because I know sometimes others
find themselves in situations and don't know
what to do. Many times they're not easy ones.
There may be cases where the best option is
not to act, however, there are also likely to
be cases like mine where one small step not
taken would lead to a lifetime of questioning
and possible regret.
If you can make yourself a deal like the one
I made perhaps it will help you to do what you
feel you need to do. One clue that you might
want to act is if you have an inner battle
about the choice. Odds are there is something
that is trying to get you to pay attention.
The thing is, though, (as was my case) the
action isn't necessarily going to guarantee
you the outcome you want. But what it will
do is give you peace of mind that you are or
were doing the right thing for yourself when
you did it.
Countless people sit on their deathbeds spending
more time mourning what they didn't do than
what they did do. If something gnaws at you
find a way to interact with it that you can live
with, and consider doing something so that you
will never have to live with a pang of regret.
It was one of my best life lessons and one of
the best deals I ever made with myself. I am
happy to say I am more than OK with it now,
more so because I acted on it, and am not sitting
here wondering, "what if...?"
Perhaps it is a lesson that will be helpful
to you, too.
Monday, September 27, 2010
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Expression as an Art Form
When I first wrote anything that
resembled poetry, it was like a
distant cousin - very distant.
It was nothing like the abstract
words that were in textbooks and
the works of literature that have
endured through the years.
When I wrote, I wrote for me.
Occasionally I would share what
I wrote with others, and if they
appreciated it, it made me feel
good, but it wouldn't have stopped
me from writing what I did if they
didn't like my works, as I truly
wrote what I did for myself.
Today I saw something that made me
think about this. Someone didn't
seem too happy about what seemed to
be a lack of response to a well
thought out and lengthy post.
I am not sure what he was hoping for,
but it seemed apparent that one thing
he didn't get was the acknowledgment
of being heard.
I got to thinking about those who
consider themselves artists. Yes, it
would likely be great to make a living
with one's art, however a great many
seem to do it for what it inspires
within, and what it helps to nurture
or release. The artists would continue
to create, even if there was no money
involved (no acknowledgment) because
the value comes from an internal
dynamic. It also wouldn't matter what
another person thought of the work,
because it came from - and was for -
the same individual. Any additional
input and acknowledgment and liking
would possibly be gravy.
It can be difficult to put one's internal
self into the external world. The minute
that something internal manifests externally
the person might be - or feel - vulnerable,
among other things. In addition, words of
any kind (written or spoken) are bantered
about constantly so we often don't think
of them as an art form (and then again not
everyone views art the same way, but that
is a different conversation).
It is wonderful to be heard and appreciated.
There is no denying that. I love when I
hear from people that they appreciate the
works and words that I share. And, yes,
there are times I think certain things glow
a bit more than others, and I want them to
be noticed and acknowledged, but it doesn't
always happen, and certainly not as frequently
as I might like.
The beauty of coming to the point where I am
at the moment is that I can see what I put
out there, I can see what I'd like to have
happen, I can see what does happen, and I can
observe my reaction to it.
Who am I writing/creating for? Mostly me.
Sometimes I will write/create just for my own
information, my own clarity, my own thought
processes or expression.
Sometimes I create because I want to hear what
others might say about my expressions. When
people disagree with me (or don't appreciate
what I have done) I sometimes solidify my
position and sometimes I change it. I always
learn something from it.
Would I like for people to pay attention to my
words and works? If it could make the world a
better place, absolutely. Does everyone care
who the heck I am or if the world is a better
place? Absolutely not.
I create because I want to, and I create because
there might just be someone out there who can
relate to my expressions, and who might just care
about and appreciate how I look at things.
Yummy gravy.
resembled poetry, it was like a
distant cousin - very distant.
It was nothing like the abstract
words that were in textbooks and
the works of literature that have
endured through the years.
When I wrote, I wrote for me.
Occasionally I would share what
I wrote with others, and if they
appreciated it, it made me feel
good, but it wouldn't have stopped
me from writing what I did if they
didn't like my works, as I truly
wrote what I did for myself.
Today I saw something that made me
think about this. Someone didn't
seem too happy about what seemed to
be a lack of response to a well
thought out and lengthy post.
I am not sure what he was hoping for,
but it seemed apparent that one thing
he didn't get was the acknowledgment
of being heard.
I got to thinking about those who
consider themselves artists. Yes, it
would likely be great to make a living
with one's art, however a great many
seem to do it for what it inspires
within, and what it helps to nurture
or release. The artists would continue
to create, even if there was no money
involved (no acknowledgment) because
the value comes from an internal
dynamic. It also wouldn't matter what
another person thought of the work,
because it came from - and was for -
the same individual. Any additional
input and acknowledgment and liking
would possibly be gravy.
It can be difficult to put one's internal
self into the external world. The minute
that something internal manifests externally
the person might be - or feel - vulnerable,
among other things. In addition, words of
any kind (written or spoken) are bantered
about constantly so we often don't think
of them as an art form (and then again not
everyone views art the same way, but that
is a different conversation).
It is wonderful to be heard and appreciated.
There is no denying that. I love when I
hear from people that they appreciate the
works and words that I share. And, yes,
there are times I think certain things glow
a bit more than others, and I want them to
be noticed and acknowledged, but it doesn't
always happen, and certainly not as frequently
as I might like.
The beauty of coming to the point where I am
at the moment is that I can see what I put
out there, I can see what I'd like to have
happen, I can see what does happen, and I can
observe my reaction to it.
Who am I writing/creating for? Mostly me.
Sometimes I will write/create just for my own
information, my own clarity, my own thought
processes or expression.
Sometimes I create because I want to hear what
others might say about my expressions. When
people disagree with me (or don't appreciate
what I have done) I sometimes solidify my
position and sometimes I change it. I always
learn something from it.
Would I like for people to pay attention to my
words and works? If it could make the world a
better place, absolutely. Does everyone care
who the heck I am or if the world is a better
place? Absolutely not.
I create because I want to, and I create because
there might just be someone out there who can
relate to my expressions, and who might just care
about and appreciate how I look at things.
Yummy gravy.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
A Human Moment
I just read about an arranged meeting between
mothers in Iraq who lost their children, and
American mothers who also lost their children.
While the circumstances of the loss may vary,
all were mothers, and all lost a child due to
a form of violence. It sounded like the trip
had a profound impact on the women.
The best part for me was the connecting of one
human to another. It seems (even as the world
seems to grow increasingly smaller due to
communications and technology) we as world culture
are tending to less and less identify ourselves
with others and the human condition we all share.
In situations like that ignorance, disrespect,
violence are given free reign.
The more we can identify with others, the less
likely we will be to hurt them. However it
means - at least in some part - giving up the
label making machine that we are.
The labels that we use to unite us also have a
way of dividing us. I wonder what the Olympics
would look like if there were teams that weren't
based on one's country. What if there were teams
that consisted of members from varying countries?
I know it's a wild idea, and not likely one to
be supported any time soon, if ever. However,
this isn't really about anything specific. If
we could start looking at the bigger picture
more perhaps the world in which we live would be
a lot less scary and a lot more supportive place.
Just my couppla cents for the day.
Care to share yours?
mothers in Iraq who lost their children, and
American mothers who also lost their children.
While the circumstances of the loss may vary,
all were mothers, and all lost a child due to
a form of violence. It sounded like the trip
had a profound impact on the women.
The best part for me was the connecting of one
human to another. It seems (even as the world
seems to grow increasingly smaller due to
communications and technology) we as world culture
are tending to less and less identify ourselves
with others and the human condition we all share.
In situations like that ignorance, disrespect,
violence are given free reign.
The more we can identify with others, the less
likely we will be to hurt them. However it
means - at least in some part - giving up the
label making machine that we are.
The labels that we use to unite us also have a
way of dividing us. I wonder what the Olympics
would look like if there were teams that weren't
based on one's country. What if there were teams
that consisted of members from varying countries?
I know it's a wild idea, and not likely one to
be supported any time soon, if ever. However,
this isn't really about anything specific. If
we could start looking at the bigger picture
more perhaps the world in which we live would be
a lot less scary and a lot more supportive place.
Just my couppla cents for the day.
Care to share yours?
Would you like a Hollywood Happy Ending? | Video
I just finished watching "Just Wright."
True to Hollywood form, there was a
happy ending. It cut to the chase,
minimized the pain, and delivered the
fairytale ending right on cue.
I would say everyone likes a neat and
tidy story with glazed over conflict,
but it is not often the case in real
life.
Sometimes in real life the two that
are supposed to get together, don't.
Sometimes (perhaps even often) the
unlikeable people stay unlikeable.
Sometimes things twist and contort and
get messy and never get cleaned up...
no Hollywood Happy Ending for many
relationships.
It's too bad we couldn't script our own
happy endings...I know a few I would have
enjoyed for myself. :)
Even though we can't, though, it doesn't
mean that we can't give it our best shot.
It doesn't mean that we can't pull out
all the stops and say what we really mean
and really feel. It doesn't mean we can't
risk ourselves in the process of opening
ourselves up to another and pursuing
something (or someone) we believe is
important.
We may not wind up with the Hollywood
Happy Ending but remember we haven't
gotten to the end, just yet. This
moment might be one of those dramatic
plot twists that will keep you guessing
for a while.
If things suck, maybe there's room in the
script for a novel or upbeat turn. As
the actor in the story only the moment
reveals itself, and you won't know you
got "there" until the moment itself
arrives.
But you know what?
I'm rooting for ya!
Happy Endings for all...
and for all, a good night!
True to Hollywood form, there was a
happy ending. It cut to the chase,
minimized the pain, and delivered the
fairytale ending right on cue.
I would say everyone likes a neat and
tidy story with glazed over conflict,
but it is not often the case in real
life.
Sometimes in real life the two that
are supposed to get together, don't.
Sometimes (perhaps even often) the
unlikeable people stay unlikeable.
Sometimes things twist and contort and
get messy and never get cleaned up...
no Hollywood Happy Ending for many
relationships.
It's too bad we couldn't script our own
happy endings...I know a few I would have
enjoyed for myself. :)
Even though we can't, though, it doesn't
mean that we can't give it our best shot.
It doesn't mean that we can't pull out
all the stops and say what we really mean
and really feel. It doesn't mean we can't
risk ourselves in the process of opening
ourselves up to another and pursuing
something (or someone) we believe is
important.
We may not wind up with the Hollywood
Happy Ending but remember we haven't
gotten to the end, just yet. This
moment might be one of those dramatic
plot twists that will keep you guessing
for a while.
If things suck, maybe there's room in the
script for a novel or upbeat turn. As
the actor in the story only the moment
reveals itself, and you won't know you
got "there" until the moment itself
arrives.
But you know what?
I'm rooting for ya!
Happy Endings for all...
and for all, a good night!
First Hand Account
Here is another "report" of time
spent with me...just in case you
are interested:
Due to just pure unbelievable luck
on my part i happened to be near
Isis on one of her recent trips
east.
Let me just say first off what a
beautiful classy and very
intelligent lady she is.
We went to a nice seafood restaurant
and had a wonderful dinner. Isis
is...very intelligent and can discuss
easily and freely a wide range of topics.
I don't think that hypnosis even
entered the dinner conversation.
i know you are all drooling wanting
to know about the hypnosis part.
Well just kill your motor we will
get to that :-).
Isis is even more sexy and
seductive than in her very sexy
and hypnotic videos.
It was rather difficult to keep
my eyes where they should have been.
After dinner we were walking along
the waterfront and the next thing
i was aware of it was 2 and half
hours later we were sitting in my
car and she had the biggest most
beautiful smile on her face.
I don't remember anything that
happened other than i felt
incredibly good. I do get bits
and flashes of things that i
don't know if they happened or not.
If you ever have the chance to
meet or talk with Isis don't
pass that opportunity up or you
will have missed something awesome.
**
Thanks to hypnoprogrammed for his
kind words :)
spent with me...just in case you
are interested:
Due to just pure unbelievable luck
on my part i happened to be near
Isis on one of her recent trips
east.
Let me just say first off what a
beautiful classy and very
intelligent lady she is.
We went to a nice seafood restaurant
and had a wonderful dinner. Isis
is...very intelligent and can discuss
easily and freely a wide range of topics.
I don't think that hypnosis even
entered the dinner conversation.
i know you are all drooling wanting
to know about the hypnosis part.
Well just kill your motor we will
get to that :-).
Isis is even more sexy and
seductive than in her very sexy
and hypnotic videos.
It was rather difficult to keep
my eyes where they should have been.
After dinner we were walking along
the waterfront and the next thing
i was aware of it was 2 and half
hours later we were sitting in my
car and she had the biggest most
beautiful smile on her face.
I don't remember anything that
happened other than i felt
incredibly good. I do get bits
and flashes of things that i
don't know if they happened or not.
If you ever have the chance to
meet or talk with Isis don't
pass that opportunity up or you
will have missed something awesome.
**
Thanks to hypnoprogrammed for his
kind words :)
Friday, September 24, 2010
From a Bygone Era | I'm Yours | Video
What a beautiful song from a bygone era.
I bet Eddie Fisher had girls swooning
with words like these.
---
I'm yours
Heart and soul I am yours
Can't you see it in my eyes
Can't you hear it in my sighs
I'm yours
I'm yours
Every kiss says I'm yours
Take my lips and take my arms
I'm a victim of your charms
I'm yours
My life and my love, dear
Are yours to command
I stand here before you
My heart in my hand
I'm yours
All the world knows I'm yours
And I only hope and pray
That some day I'll hear you say
I'm yours
My life and my love, dear
Are yours to command
I stand here before you
My heart in my hand
I'm yours
All the world knows I'm yours
And I only hope and pray
That someday I'll hear you say
I'm yours
It's Never Too Late...
Sometimes people think that because they're
in the midst of something, that is where
they need to remain. The reasons may vary
from need, financial, guilt, thinking there
is no other option, to feeling there is no
way out.
The fact is, even in the midst of the
darkness and confusion of situations like
that, there is always a way out.
It may not be as simple as turning on a
light switch, and it may involve some
fumbling in the dark, but there is always
a way to make other choices.
The problem sometimes comes when there are
things attached to the choices, and those
things can weigh as heavily as lead. It
makes it very difficult to move, but just
like any exercise (of sorts) it can work
out those muscles of inner growth and
awareness - only as long as you never give
up or give in to the misery that you might
be feeling.
One step at a time will bring you out of
the night and into the day...and if you
find someone who wants to help you out of
that dark, and you know that you can trust
him or her, let that person help. Sometimes
we need another person to be our eyes and
ears until we can see and hear clearly.
Help is never a sign of weakness. As a
matter of fact it is a sign of strength
to know when to ask for, or seek, or accept
another's help.
If you are unhappy, things can always change -
if you change them.
Yet another thing so much more easily said
than done...but I've been in some really
sucky places where I felt trapped and didn't
know how far down things would go (notice
the direction my thoughts were going in),
and I know how difficult and impossible a
change may seem.
But I am here today because those times were
transitory, and one step at a time I did what
I could, and without knowing what was possible
I came to a different place. Some of those
new places were pretty sucky too, lol...but
it seems that we like to learn while we are
caught up in the muck. Not sure why that is,
but some would say we wouldn't appreciate the
sun so much if we never had night.
I'd like to think we don't need it...but until
we get to that point I imagine we will continue
to find ourselves in the kinds of situations
that can suck so that we can appreciate the ones
that don't.
in the midst of something, that is where
they need to remain. The reasons may vary
from need, financial, guilt, thinking there
is no other option, to feeling there is no
way out.
The fact is, even in the midst of the
darkness and confusion of situations like
that, there is always a way out.
It may not be as simple as turning on a
light switch, and it may involve some
fumbling in the dark, but there is always
a way to make other choices.
The problem sometimes comes when there are
things attached to the choices, and those
things can weigh as heavily as lead. It
makes it very difficult to move, but just
like any exercise (of sorts) it can work
out those muscles of inner growth and
awareness - only as long as you never give
up or give in to the misery that you might
be feeling.
One step at a time will bring you out of
the night and into the day...and if you
find someone who wants to help you out of
that dark, and you know that you can trust
him or her, let that person help. Sometimes
we need another person to be our eyes and
ears until we can see and hear clearly.
Help is never a sign of weakness. As a
matter of fact it is a sign of strength
to know when to ask for, or seek, or accept
another's help.
If you are unhappy, things can always change -
if you change them.
Yet another thing so much more easily said
than done...but I've been in some really
sucky places where I felt trapped and didn't
know how far down things would go (notice
the direction my thoughts were going in),
and I know how difficult and impossible a
change may seem.
But I am here today because those times were
transitory, and one step at a time I did what
I could, and without knowing what was possible
I came to a different place. Some of those
new places were pretty sucky too, lol...but
it seems that we like to learn while we are
caught up in the muck. Not sure why that is,
but some would say we wouldn't appreciate the
sun so much if we never had night.
I'd like to think we don't need it...but until
we get to that point I imagine we will continue
to find ourselves in the kinds of situations
that can suck so that we can appreciate the ones
that don't.
When You're Doing the Best You Can...
So often I talk to people who are stressed out.
They're stressed out in part because they think
that they're inadequate, that they some how
need to be, or should be, better.
If you're one of them, consider this:
If you are doing the best you can, consider
that it is good enough. It may not be perfect.
It may need additional help or support. It
may, in some way, not be enough. However,
instead of seeing yourself in some way inferior,
give yourself credit for what you have done.
You will never be the super human being you
somehow think you should be. You can not be
everywhere in every moment being everything
to everyone. It's just impossible, and if
you think you can you will likely stress
yourself and others out in unproductive ways.
Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.
Let me repeat that:
Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.
If you are taking a beating for something you
were unable to help or have an inability to
change, that would define needlessly. Sometimes
you might think you need to be perfect, and the
fact is that sometimes perfect looks differently
than you might think it looks. While you are
busy beating yourself up, you might be in the
midst of perfection and not know it.
Even if it is not perfect by any standard or
definition, if you did the best you could then
give yourself some breathing room. Restricting
your airspace will only stifle you, in more
ways than one.
Your best is a gift.
Never cheapen it by selling yourself short.
They're stressed out in part because they think
that they're inadequate, that they some how
need to be, or should be, better.
If you're one of them, consider this:
If you are doing the best you can, consider
that it is good enough. It may not be perfect.
It may need additional help or support. It
may, in some way, not be enough. However,
instead of seeing yourself in some way inferior,
give yourself credit for what you have done.
You will never be the super human being you
somehow think you should be. You can not be
everywhere in every moment being everything
to everyone. It's just impossible, and if
you think you can you will likely stress
yourself and others out in unproductive ways.
Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.
Let me repeat that:
Beating yourself up needlessly serves no one.
If you are taking a beating for something you
were unable to help or have an inability to
change, that would define needlessly. Sometimes
you might think you need to be perfect, and the
fact is that sometimes perfect looks differently
than you might think it looks. While you are
busy beating yourself up, you might be in the
midst of perfection and not know it.
Even if it is not perfect by any standard or
definition, if you did the best you could then
give yourself some breathing room. Restricting
your airspace will only stifle you, in more
ways than one.
Your best is a gift.
Never cheapen it by selling yourself short.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
On Lying
A few years ago I got into trouble with
one of my siblings. I told my young
nieces and nephews that everyone lies.
As you might imagine, that didn't go
over too well. Although, I was oblivious
at the time.
I saw it as being honest with them. But
it seems you're not supposed to tell kids
things that might justify their behavior.
I don't know that I agree. Of course,
there is a bigger conversation to be
had but often it is avoided, along
with the truth. But they aren't my kids,
so I just had to take my lumps.
I have heard amazing statistics about the
number of lies people tell daily. I
wanted to find the statistic, but found
a semi-recent study that claims that men
and women only do it a couple/few times
a day on average.
The irony, of course, of a study about
lying is how does one know that the
participants were being honest in their
responses. After all, I don't know too
many people who take to lying in a
positive way, even if it is in someone's
supposed best interests and many times
people will lie to look better.
I think most people find lying to be
frustrating at best. I find that most
of my frustration comes from when
someone lies to me about something
that they could just tell the truth about.
Of course, everyone could just tell the
truth about anything, however often the
truth is met with disapproval, disappointment,
disdain, coercion to be/do/say otherwise.
We seem to get trained from an early age
that if we tell the truth it isn't always
going to be OK. Perhaps it is better to
cover up the truth and hope never to be
found out. Of course childhood training
is often not left in one's childhood.
I can not tell you how often in interacting
with men I will tell them something about
me and how I feel, and give them every
indication that what they feel and say is
OK. Of course I may not always like it,
appreciate it, or support it, but I will
always respect it because it is the truth,
and even if I can't support whatever the
thing is, I will always support the person.
I will also always be willing to entertain
a conversation about whatever the thing is
to see if there might be some mutual place
to come to, should there be a need for one.
At the core of the communication is a hope
for respect. I often talk about this word
because I believe that it is a very powerful
concept. It can make a big difference in
how anything turns out. I respect the other
person and the places he goes and wants to
go, and I can only ask that he do the same
for me.
More than anything I want the truth. If
I am interacting with something that isn't
the truth, then it does me and the person
a disservice. I say it's best to give the
person the freedom to be themselves,
without giving them hell to pay about it.
When I find out about a lie it bothers me
more when I have put myself out there in
a way that says I am accepting and OK with
any response than if I had never said anything
like that.
When someone continues to lie to me, even
when they know what I say and believe it is
because they don't believe the environment
to be safe likely because past environments
weren't safe for them. Likely there have been
times that there might have been a bait and
switch, or someone said things would be OK
as a form of manipulation. When one gets
burned, one wants to stay away from the heat
the next time.
The problem often is that people want the
truth to be what they want it to be, so if
someone knows that that version of truth
varies from what it truly is it might be
in their best interest to lie.
Part of the equation is good communication
which, sadly, most would flunk at if a test
was ever given in Effective Communication
101. It is something that we think we do
when we speak, but often words are exchanged
with the illusion of being able to communicate.
No one likes lies, but if they really want
the truth, part of the process is to truly
be OK with whatever the truth is. The other
part is a little more tricky: you gotta get
those you interact with to believe you.
The communication part I got. The acceptance
part I got. The part that is the most
difficult for me is getting people to believe
that I mean what I say. (The irony is that
people think *I* am lying). If more people
would mean what they said, I'd have a better
shot at it. Can't help but wonder what it would
take for people to mean what they say, and
be OK with others doing the same thing.
It might be a shock to the system - but I'd
think it'd be a good one. I can't tell you
what a relief it is for those who do believe
me, and it elevates our ability to communicate.
I know I may be dreaming to think that someone
could actually take me at my word - but a girl
can dream, can't she?
one of my siblings. I told my young
nieces and nephews that everyone lies.
As you might imagine, that didn't go
over too well. Although, I was oblivious
at the time.
I saw it as being honest with them. But
it seems you're not supposed to tell kids
things that might justify their behavior.
I don't know that I agree. Of course,
there is a bigger conversation to be
had but often it is avoided, along
with the truth. But they aren't my kids,
so I just had to take my lumps.
I have heard amazing statistics about the
number of lies people tell daily. I
wanted to find the statistic, but found
a semi-recent study that claims that men
and women only do it a couple/few times
a day on average.
The irony, of course, of a study about
lying is how does one know that the
participants were being honest in their
responses. After all, I don't know too
many people who take to lying in a
positive way, even if it is in someone's
supposed best interests and many times
people will lie to look better.
I think most people find lying to be
frustrating at best. I find that most
of my frustration comes from when
someone lies to me about something
that they could just tell the truth about.
Of course, everyone could just tell the
truth about anything, however often the
truth is met with disapproval, disappointment,
disdain, coercion to be/do/say otherwise.
We seem to get trained from an early age
that if we tell the truth it isn't always
going to be OK. Perhaps it is better to
cover up the truth and hope never to be
found out. Of course childhood training
is often not left in one's childhood.
I can not tell you how often in interacting
with men I will tell them something about
me and how I feel, and give them every
indication that what they feel and say is
OK. Of course I may not always like it,
appreciate it, or support it, but I will
always respect it because it is the truth,
and even if I can't support whatever the
thing is, I will always support the person.
I will also always be willing to entertain
a conversation about whatever the thing is
to see if there might be some mutual place
to come to, should there be a need for one.
At the core of the communication is a hope
for respect. I often talk about this word
because I believe that it is a very powerful
concept. It can make a big difference in
how anything turns out. I respect the other
person and the places he goes and wants to
go, and I can only ask that he do the same
for me.
More than anything I want the truth. If
I am interacting with something that isn't
the truth, then it does me and the person
a disservice. I say it's best to give the
person the freedom to be themselves,
without giving them hell to pay about it.
When I find out about a lie it bothers me
more when I have put myself out there in
a way that says I am accepting and OK with
any response than if I had never said anything
like that.
When someone continues to lie to me, even
when they know what I say and believe it is
because they don't believe the environment
to be safe likely because past environments
weren't safe for them. Likely there have been
times that there might have been a bait and
switch, or someone said things would be OK
as a form of manipulation. When one gets
burned, one wants to stay away from the heat
the next time.
The problem often is that people want the
truth to be what they want it to be, so if
someone knows that that version of truth
varies from what it truly is it might be
in their best interest to lie.
Part of the equation is good communication
which, sadly, most would flunk at if a test
was ever given in Effective Communication
101. It is something that we think we do
when we speak, but often words are exchanged
with the illusion of being able to communicate.
No one likes lies, but if they really want
the truth, part of the process is to truly
be OK with whatever the truth is. The other
part is a little more tricky: you gotta get
those you interact with to believe you.
The communication part I got. The acceptance
part I got. The part that is the most
difficult for me is getting people to believe
that I mean what I say. (The irony is that
people think *I* am lying). If more people
would mean what they said, I'd have a better
shot at it. Can't help but wonder what it would
take for people to mean what they say, and
be OK with others doing the same thing.
It might be a shock to the system - but I'd
think it'd be a good one. I can't tell you
what a relief it is for those who do believe
me, and it elevates our ability to communicate.
I know I may be dreaming to think that someone
could actually take me at my word - but a girl
can dream, can't she?
Some Thoughts on Erotic Hypnosis & The Business & Me
In the 6, or so, years that I have been an erotic hypnotist
I have seen the neighborhood explode. When I first
began there was a seemingly small group of women who
were "entertaining" in a similar vein as I.
I remember when I took my first hypnosis course I thought
there might be some interesting uses for what I was learning,
but of course they don't teach you the more interesting
aspects (even though I think they may have been alluded
to once or twice).
I was kind of timid entering the waters because I didn't
really know what I was doing erotically, and had enough
sense to know that even if in the vanilla business world
there would be those you could ask for help, those who
did erotic hypnosis would not be likely to share what
they knew.
In a way it was OK, as I knew even then that who these
people were I could not be. I had to find my way and my
lines in the sand. I had to create who I was in this erotic
world.
Seeing the growth of the "industry" of erotic hypnosis, I
have also seen many things that I would rather not. I
have also heard people's opinions of what should be.
There is a conversation on and off about the "business"
of the business. There are some who would be offended
by the idea that their arousal was tied to a business
transaction and would never pay for a session whether
it be live or a recording. They would just feed off of/
flirt with the freebies. While there are others who more
reasonably (in my mind) see the "business" for what it is -
a trade.
I give you hypnosis in some form or fashion, and in
exchange for the experience I provide you, you trade
me with money.
There is some irony in some of the messages of those
who are in the world of erotic hypnosis. These people
want more, but they don't want to pay for it. The irony,
of course, is that there are very few people who can
work for free. And, heaven forbid, it should be "work."
But then...if it wasn't "work" how would it work for so
many at once as it quite often does?
In addition, along with the "free" mentality often comes
a desire to truly connect with the person who is
hypnotizing them. I know the erotic hypnotic world is
unreal, however how is it that someone can afford to
work her ass off, and give and give of herself, and
be accessible to each and everyone touched by her
hypnotic ways?
I have never been much of a business person. In so many
ways I am turned off by the drive to control a market.
A market is made up of individuals, and individuals that
are herded will spend their money in an attempt to get
the thing they think they need. Whether or not they
actually do, few who get them to spend their money will
care enough to do anything differently.
The fact is people DO have needs, wants, and desires
but they're often left unfulfilled because they're not
truly connecting with what can be helpful. They are
interacting with shadows of possibilities.
I have seen how often those I connect with have a desire
for something more. It is that combined with my interest
in also connecting, and connecting in a responsible way,
that I have worked the way I have. To go off and make
a number of recordings that people can listen to, and get
lost in, and never connect with me personally is not my
style.
I would much rather have a small group of people I talk
to that appreciate me and my style and connect with me
than more minions than I could possibly know that enter
into my world while emptying out themselves.
So unless that small group is emptying out their pockets
to me, that isn't exactly the best business plan, is it?
I wish I knew what to do in terms of "business," and at the
same time I have to believe that treating people with respect,
and making choices that benefit another and not me (like in
a case when someone needs help) pay off in other ways.
So I will continue on my merry way, and plan to meet with
those who can and do enjoy my sensual style, tinged with
fun, and an edge of playful devlishness, and are willing to
"trade" me for my efforts.
I will always have respect and a care and concern for you
and your well being, in ALL aspects of your life, even if
you never choose to share them all with me. Life is about
getting what we need while finding a way to balance all the
many things that matter.
Many people come to me for an escape. The last thing
you need is to add to the things you are concerned about.
If I am right for you, you already know. If you want to be
used, abused, taken for granted, under-or-unappreciated...
you want someone else.
If you want pleasure and respect and to find the best that
there is in you, then it's time to talk to me. Why wait any
longer when now is likely to be the perfect time?
I have seen the neighborhood explode. When I first
began there was a seemingly small group of women who
were "entertaining" in a similar vein as I.
I remember when I took my first hypnosis course I thought
there might be some interesting uses for what I was learning,
but of course they don't teach you the more interesting
aspects (even though I think they may have been alluded
to once or twice).
I was kind of timid entering the waters because I didn't
really know what I was doing erotically, and had enough
sense to know that even if in the vanilla business world
there would be those you could ask for help, those who
did erotic hypnosis would not be likely to share what
they knew.
In a way it was OK, as I knew even then that who these
people were I could not be. I had to find my way and my
lines in the sand. I had to create who I was in this erotic
world.
Seeing the growth of the "industry" of erotic hypnosis, I
have also seen many things that I would rather not. I
have also heard people's opinions of what should be.
There is a conversation on and off about the "business"
of the business. There are some who would be offended
by the idea that their arousal was tied to a business
transaction and would never pay for a session whether
it be live or a recording. They would just feed off of/
flirt with the freebies. While there are others who more
reasonably (in my mind) see the "business" for what it is -
a trade.
I give you hypnosis in some form or fashion, and in
exchange for the experience I provide you, you trade
me with money.
There is some irony in some of the messages of those
who are in the world of erotic hypnosis. These people
want more, but they don't want to pay for it. The irony,
of course, is that there are very few people who can
work for free. And, heaven forbid, it should be "work."
But then...if it wasn't "work" how would it work for so
many at once as it quite often does?
In addition, along with the "free" mentality often comes
a desire to truly connect with the person who is
hypnotizing them. I know the erotic hypnotic world is
unreal, however how is it that someone can afford to
work her ass off, and give and give of herself, and
be accessible to each and everyone touched by her
hypnotic ways?
I have never been much of a business person. In so many
ways I am turned off by the drive to control a market.
A market is made up of individuals, and individuals that
are herded will spend their money in an attempt to get
the thing they think they need. Whether or not they
actually do, few who get them to spend their money will
care enough to do anything differently.
The fact is people DO have needs, wants, and desires
but they're often left unfulfilled because they're not
truly connecting with what can be helpful. They are
interacting with shadows of possibilities.
I have seen how often those I connect with have a desire
for something more. It is that combined with my interest
in also connecting, and connecting in a responsible way,
that I have worked the way I have. To go off and make
a number of recordings that people can listen to, and get
lost in, and never connect with me personally is not my
style.
I would much rather have a small group of people I talk
to that appreciate me and my style and connect with me
than more minions than I could possibly know that enter
into my world while emptying out themselves.
So unless that small group is emptying out their pockets
to me, that isn't exactly the best business plan, is it?
I wish I knew what to do in terms of "business," and at the
same time I have to believe that treating people with respect,
and making choices that benefit another and not me (like in
a case when someone needs help) pay off in other ways.
So I will continue on my merry way, and plan to meet with
those who can and do enjoy my sensual style, tinged with
fun, and an edge of playful devlishness, and are willing to
"trade" me for my efforts.
I will always have respect and a care and concern for you
and your well being, in ALL aspects of your life, even if
you never choose to share them all with me. Life is about
getting what we need while finding a way to balance all the
many things that matter.
Many people come to me for an escape. The last thing
you need is to add to the things you are concerned about.
If I am right for you, you already know. If you want to be
used, abused, taken for granted, under-or-unappreciated...
you want someone else.
If you want pleasure and respect and to find the best that
there is in you, then it's time to talk to me. Why wait any
longer when now is likely to be the perfect time?
Audio Sample | Oh Baby!
Listen below
This is meant to be humorous.
It comes from the sarcastic New Yorker in me.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Guard, Guilt and Gut
Today I was talking with someone who had her
guard up and it was getting in the way of her
getting what she wanted.
Part of what she was feeling was also guilt
about how things had been in her relationships,
which was a part of why her guard was up.
It was a complex situation. At the same time,
I told her that if she listened to her gut she
wouldn't have any need for that guard. Her
gut would tell her what best to do, and she
would be better able to trust it the more that
she used it.
We have our guard up when we aren't listening
to our gut. We would have a lot more peace,
and would more often be doing the things that
are best suited to us, if we were willing to listen
to that inner voice that really DOES know best.
Our guard, in some ways, is that part of us
that is seeking to keep things static, seeking
to keep that comfortable, uncomfortable,
familiar feeling intact. Interestingly, the more
we try to tune into what is best (which can
often be at odds with what is), the greater
the static (which can equate to confusion)
because the "norm" is threatened.
Is it good for us? Odds are, probably not as good
as we may think it is and that is why guilt can
often come into play. We know we're not handling
things as we "should." When we're doing right by
our inner guidance systems there is peace. When
we're not doing right, there's a lot of noise on the
line which can take our energy and peace of mind.
Feeling guarded? Feeling drained?
Consider listening to yourself more.
There is peace (and peace of mind)
when you know that what you are
doing is right.
guard up and it was getting in the way of her
getting what she wanted.
Part of what she was feeling was also guilt
about how things had been in her relationships,
which was a part of why her guard was up.
It was a complex situation. At the same time,
I told her that if she listened to her gut she
wouldn't have any need for that guard. Her
gut would tell her what best to do, and she
would be better able to trust it the more that
she used it.
We have our guard up when we aren't listening
to our gut. We would have a lot more peace,
and would more often be doing the things that
are best suited to us, if we were willing to listen
to that inner voice that really DOES know best.
Our guard, in some ways, is that part of us
that is seeking to keep things static, seeking
to keep that comfortable, uncomfortable,
familiar feeling intact. Interestingly, the more
we try to tune into what is best (which can
often be at odds with what is), the greater
the static (which can equate to confusion)
because the "norm" is threatened.
Is it good for us? Odds are, probably not as good
as we may think it is and that is why guilt can
often come into play. We know we're not handling
things as we "should." When we're doing right by
our inner guidance systems there is peace. When
we're not doing right, there's a lot of noise on the
line which can take our energy and peace of mind.
Feeling guarded? Feeling drained?
Consider listening to yourself more.
There is peace (and peace of mind)
when you know that what you are
doing is right.
Brought up to Believe | Video
I have a friend who could tell his life story
via a Rush soundtrack. I didn't know much
(if anything) of Rush until this friend
introduced me to their work.
I don't know that I appreciate all of their
many works. However, their music often
does touch on some interesting themes
and thoughts.
They have recently released a new album
and this song is on it. If you listen, let me
know what you think. The video includes
the lyrics.
via a Rush soundtrack. I didn't know much
(if anything) of Rush until this friend
introduced me to their work.
I don't know that I appreciate all of their
many works. However, their music often
does touch on some interesting themes
and thoughts.
They have recently released a new album
and this song is on it. If you listen, let me
know what you think. The video includes
the lyrics.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Profound | Video
Too bad we can't always take advantage of it
when we're in the middle of what is happening.
(the lyrics)
Dirty Electricity | Video
Previously I posted about the new fluorescent light bulbs.
This is additional insight/information that wasn't in the
previous videos and reporting.
Something to think about.
This is additional insight/information that wasn't in the
previous videos and reporting.
Something to think about.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Playing with Balls | Video
Bet some will find this ad offensive.
Technically, though, there is nothing to be offended by
(except for one's own dirty mind).
Reminder: Heading back east soon
Would you be interested in meeting with me live?
If so, you should contact me and let me know.
I am not publicly posting my plans, but it will be
coming up this fall.
If you live in the Baltimore area (and possibly NYC
area) and have been hypnotized by me previously,
a meeting might be something to consider.
The last time I did it, a great time was had by all.
I could have had some video, however I was so
focused on those I was hypnotizing, I decided to
forego it in the interest of their experience.
So...you'll just have to take my word for it, and
see what me-chan had to say about our time
together in a previous entry. :)
Have a great night!
If so, you should contact me and let me know.
I am not publicly posting my plans, but it will be
coming up this fall.
If you live in the Baltimore area (and possibly NYC
area) and have been hypnotized by me previously,
a meeting might be something to consider.
The last time I did it, a great time was had by all.
I could have had some video, however I was so
focused on those I was hypnotizing, I decided to
forego it in the interest of their experience.
So...you'll just have to take my word for it, and
see what me-chan had to say about our time
together in a previous entry. :)
Have a great night!
Saturday, September 18, 2010
Radiant in Red | JPG
Radiant in Red,
this image is actually a
black lace top and bra
tinted with a rich, deep red.
It's a dreamy image
with a hint of hair.
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More Misdirects
Frustrating and interesting.
NF has been having an issue with misdirecting
callers using the audio message portion of
the 800#.
I can not tell you how many callers I have
gotten that had zero interest in speaking
with me.
Some have been nice about it, some not so nice.
It is frustrating to have to apologize for something
I have no control over. It is also frustrating to be
interrupted for only a minute or two of a call not
intended for me.
As I hear these guys, I get to enhance my experience
of NF, as I get callers and requests and interests that
don't usually come knocking. I guess it really goes
to show that if you have a message someone is
interested in - and at a price that is willing to be
paid - there will be those who will come and spend
their time and money with you.
It also shows me a thing, or two, about those who
call me because they want me and I'd have to say
it is those who want an intelligent conversation and
approach that seem to appreciate me the most.
I've also found that while an intelligent conversation
and approach is a great thing for many, there are
times that they just want to dumb themselves down,
or minimize their part in the phone dynamic. At
times like that, they may need someone other than
me and what I can provide.
It's all good...just sucks when the technology designed
to help doesn't want to cooperate. There are no
winners in a situation like this, except in cases where
the parties involved have an open mind and find an
unexpected treasure. Problem is, treasures aren't
always easily found and if they are, they aren't always
recognized for their value if packaged differently than
what one is familiar with.
Onward and upward.
NF has been having an issue with misdirecting
callers using the audio message portion of
the 800#.
I can not tell you how many callers I have
gotten that had zero interest in speaking
with me.
Some have been nice about it, some not so nice.
It is frustrating to have to apologize for something
I have no control over. It is also frustrating to be
interrupted for only a minute or two of a call not
intended for me.
As I hear these guys, I get to enhance my experience
of NF, as I get callers and requests and interests that
don't usually come knocking. I guess it really goes
to show that if you have a message someone is
interested in - and at a price that is willing to be
paid - there will be those who will come and spend
their time and money with you.
It also shows me a thing, or two, about those who
call me because they want me and I'd have to say
it is those who want an intelligent conversation and
approach that seem to appreciate me the most.
I've also found that while an intelligent conversation
and approach is a great thing for many, there are
times that they just want to dumb themselves down,
or minimize their part in the phone dynamic. At
times like that, they may need someone other than
me and what I can provide.
It's all good...just sucks when the technology designed
to help doesn't want to cooperate. There are no
winners in a situation like this, except in cases where
the parties involved have an open mind and find an
unexpected treasure. Problem is, treasures aren't
always easily found and if they are, they aren't always
recognized for their value if packaged differently than
what one is familiar with.
Onward and upward.
Judging Lindsay Lohan
Judging another. We're all good for that.
Right now many are judging Lindsay for
how she lives her life. Some are astounded
by the recent drug test that she failed which
likely means she'll be going back to prison.
Does she want to go to prison? Odds are
likely a big, fat NO, and yet she has done
something she knows was possibly going to
take her there.
Most people not in her situation would likely
call her stupid and array of other things
including, perhaps, arrogant.
Since no one is in her shoes, no one truly can
judge her or her actions by the source. They
can only judge by the result. Even standing in
her shoes odds are good that she either questions
things herself and doesn't know why she does it
or thinks she knows why and continues to do it,
justifying it in some way.
What has happened with her has happened with
each of us. We all have something at some time
or another that we are drawn to that isn't good
for us. And even though doing that thing, or
being involved in that thing, isn't in our best
interest we are drawn in like a magnet. Fortunately
for most of us we don't have the public scrutiny of
someone "known."
The good thing about a situation like this is that
things CAN change, but it can sometimes feel like
an uphill battle. If there is something that weakens
you and/or is harmful to you that you are actively
doing to yourself, odds are there is something
unconsciously driving you that believes that thing
is somehow to your benefit.
Getting someone to help you see things more clearly
is one step you can take to find a different (and better)
way. Many times the unconscious mind doesn't want to
give up what it knows as the known aspect can be a form
of comfort and/or pleasure. Because of that, logical
explanations do very little to sway a person's actions
to change. What the unconscious part of us often doesn't
realize is that it can trade up and have something that
is able to be what we need without harming ourselves
in the process.
If you're unhappy it is a sign that something better IS
possible. You just gotta allow yourself to get there,
and "all" it takes is consistently taking one step at a time
starting with the first one.
The fight to keep things intact will want to derail you
and stop you in your tracks and/or have you run back
to your original comfort zone, and there may be times
you're so uncomfortable you may think you're not
doing the right thing. It may be hard to tell what the
"truth" is at times like that. But if you chose to make
the change because of the harm of your previous choices,
know that the discomfort will be temporary, and an
altered reality that you'd prefer may be closer than
you think.
Right now many are judging Lindsay for
how she lives her life. Some are astounded
by the recent drug test that she failed which
likely means she'll be going back to prison.
Does she want to go to prison? Odds are
likely a big, fat NO, and yet she has done
something she knows was possibly going to
take her there.
Most people not in her situation would likely
call her stupid and array of other things
including, perhaps, arrogant.
Since no one is in her shoes, no one truly can
judge her or her actions by the source. They
can only judge by the result. Even standing in
her shoes odds are good that she either questions
things herself and doesn't know why she does it
or thinks she knows why and continues to do it,
justifying it in some way.
What has happened with her has happened with
each of us. We all have something at some time
or another that we are drawn to that isn't good
for us. And even though doing that thing, or
being involved in that thing, isn't in our best
interest we are drawn in like a magnet. Fortunately
for most of us we don't have the public scrutiny of
someone "known."
The good thing about a situation like this is that
things CAN change, but it can sometimes feel like
an uphill battle. If there is something that weakens
you and/or is harmful to you that you are actively
doing to yourself, odds are there is something
unconsciously driving you that believes that thing
is somehow to your benefit.
Getting someone to help you see things more clearly
is one step you can take to find a different (and better)
way. Many times the unconscious mind doesn't want to
give up what it knows as the known aspect can be a form
of comfort and/or pleasure. Because of that, logical
explanations do very little to sway a person's actions
to change. What the unconscious part of us often doesn't
realize is that it can trade up and have something that
is able to be what we need without harming ourselves
in the process.
If you're unhappy it is a sign that something better IS
possible. You just gotta allow yourself to get there,
and "all" it takes is consistently taking one step at a time
starting with the first one.
The fight to keep things intact will want to derail you
and stop you in your tracks and/or have you run back
to your original comfort zone, and there may be times
you're so uncomfortable you may think you're not
doing the right thing. It may be hard to tell what the
"truth" is at times like that. But if you chose to make
the change because of the harm of your previous choices,
know that the discomfort will be temporary, and an
altered reality that you'd prefer may be closer than
you think.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Mistakes | Quote
”The greatest mistake we make in living
is living in constant fear that we will
make one.”
-John C. Maxwell
Ironic, if you think about it, as mistakes
are inevitable and often feed who we come
to be - even for the better. In a way, we
fear becoming ourselves.
is living in constant fear that we will
make one.”
-John C. Maxwell
Ironic, if you think about it, as mistakes
are inevitable and often feed who we come
to be - even for the better. In a way, we
fear becoming ourselves.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
Good for a laugh...a big and long one | Video
This should get you laughing...especially from 1:49 on.
Need a laugh? Watch this.
The guy's a good sport.
Need a laugh? Watch this.
The guy's a good sport.
A Grimm Tale | Video
What a great story this man has.
He just won America's Got Talent.
When I listened to the song he
sang here, I heard it like it
was the first time.
What beautiful lyrics.
He has one heck of a voice.
Everything's Relative | Video
Character: You wish to report a murder.
Depp: Attempted murder.
Character: That's not so serious.
Depp: Not when you downgrade it from murder, but when
you upgrade it from room service it is quite serious.
We often forget that things can appear different by having
a different perspective. I love those lines. Wonder if the
writer had fun writing them.
Too bad most times there is a difference in perspective
we take it so seriously. If we could have a little more
humor or willingness to see things differently than the
way we think they "are," our experience of life might
not be as stressful or have as much conflict.
Will you be seeing the movie?
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Knight or Slave?
Q: What would you prefer, a Knight in Shining Armor or
an obedient, mindless slave?
A: WIthout question, a Knight in Shining Armor
Q: What if the Knight in Shining Armor was an obedient,
mindless slave?
A: Wouldn't be interested.
This was asked of me tonight, and I thought it an
interesting question but a no brainer (lol).
Often people think that because I do what I do, I must
love the idea of someone being mindlessly obedient to
me. In actuality, it couldn't be the farthest from the
reality that I would enjoy most.
I enjoy people. I enjoy their diversity, and what they
think. I don't want to take that away from my interactions
with someone, and if someone isn't a person I am likely
to be interested in, I wouldn't likely want to spend my
time with him, even in a mindless, obedient state.
I am sensual first, then comes then more fetish-y
aspects of what I do. I am reluctant to even call myself
a domme these days because while I may do domme-
like acts, it is an act subject to change with whomever
I may be working with.
I play a role, and I use my "control" to give people a
safe place in which ot explore, and also create a
framework that helps support the person in being the
best person he can be. I don't believe in tearing a
person down. I would much rather build him up.
So get the word out. Any and all Knights willing and
wanting an audience with me are invited to come and
have one. I anxiously await their arrival. All deeds
done with well intentioned heart and a respectful
spirit are met with gratitude and sensual pleasures.
an obedient, mindless slave?
A: WIthout question, a Knight in Shining Armor
Q: What if the Knight in Shining Armor was an obedient,
mindless slave?
A: Wouldn't be interested.
This was asked of me tonight, and I thought it an
interesting question but a no brainer (lol).
Often people think that because I do what I do, I must
love the idea of someone being mindlessly obedient to
me. In actuality, it couldn't be the farthest from the
reality that I would enjoy most.
I enjoy people. I enjoy their diversity, and what they
think. I don't want to take that away from my interactions
with someone, and if someone isn't a person I am likely
to be interested in, I wouldn't likely want to spend my
time with him, even in a mindless, obedient state.
I am sensual first, then comes then more fetish-y
aspects of what I do. I am reluctant to even call myself
a domme these days because while I may do domme-
like acts, it is an act subject to change with whomever
I may be working with.
I play a role, and I use my "control" to give people a
safe place in which ot explore, and also create a
framework that helps support the person in being the
best person he can be. I don't believe in tearing a
person down. I would much rather build him up.
So get the word out. Any and all Knights willing and
wanting an audience with me are invited to come and
have one. I anxiously await their arrival. All deeds
done with well intentioned heart and a respectful
spirit are met with gratitude and sensual pleasures.
Now I know why (I think)
Tonight, just for the heck of it, I listened to some of
the NF phone greeting listings.
Previously I had mentioned the kind of calls I was
getting. I think I may know why I was getting them
now, and I suspect it has at least 2 parts to it.
First, NF has been having connection issues. I have
several times gotten a call intended for someone
else. Secondly, several of the actresses/models
(so don't like those terms, but maybe in their cases
it fits) said that they would just love c*ck you know
where.
So...
I am thinking that it is quite possible that the guys
who got me thought they were getting someone else.
In a way that might be a relief. Perhaps I'll stop
getting those kinds of calls once NF works through
their issues.
To anyone who is having NF hassles, I am sooo sorry.
I sure wish there was something I could do. I feel
badly for those who want one thing or one person
and get another.
It has gotta suck...and not in a good way. :P
Have a good night.
the NF phone greeting listings.
Previously I had mentioned the kind of calls I was
getting. I think I may know why I was getting them
now, and I suspect it has at least 2 parts to it.
First, NF has been having connection issues. I have
several times gotten a call intended for someone
else. Secondly, several of the actresses/models
(so don't like those terms, but maybe in their cases
it fits) said that they would just love c*ck you know
where.
So...
I am thinking that it is quite possible that the guys
who got me thought they were getting someone else.
In a way that might be a relief. Perhaps I'll stop
getting those kinds of calls once NF works through
their issues.
To anyone who is having NF hassles, I am sooo sorry.
I sure wish there was something I could do. I feel
badly for those who want one thing or one person
and get another.
It has gotta suck...and not in a good way. :P
Have a good night.
Inés and the Jets | Video
Inés Sainz of TV Azteca apparently had an incident of sorts
in the locker room of the Jets. Interestingly, it didn't seem
to be as a big of a deal for her as it seemed to become in
the media and once other people became involved.
I found it interesting that she was asked in the interview
if she was concerned about the more "interesting" pictures
of her on her personal website. The way she replied was
awesome. Here is a woman who knows who she is, and
she is apparently many things, and wants to be all of them.
Why do we insist in trying to fit people into limited boxes?
It is such a difficult world in which we live. The internet
and various media make it so easy for things to be out
in the open so, even if she wanted to hide it, I bet it would
be difficult, if not impossible.
If we stopped labelling things, we might just be able to
let people be who they are. As it is, once a person is
labelled, they best stay within the confines of it, or else
stir up possible controversy or being treated in a way
that doesn't somehow fit (like in this case, it was "her"
fault for being too attractive/sexy and calling attention
to herself. She is the reason she wasn't treated respectfully
in a "professional" environment).
The "funny" thing is that someone recently (Lawrence
Fishburne's daughter, I believe) made a porno because
getting known was taking too long for her. If someone
has to go to there to get known, how long before people
just start to shrug their shoulders because it no longer
means anything that different? One can only hope sooner,
rather than later, and before anyone thinks to do anything
that could be harmful to themselves, or another in the
interest of getting "out of the box" attention.
In the meantime, I can only hope that the more we can
talk about these kinds of things the greater the chance
we have of altering them -
hopefully in a productive and good way.
Who are you? | Are you who advertisers suggest you should be? | Video
These 2 videos are an interesting perspective (and there
is a little repetition).
I'd be curious what your thoughts are about her comments.
She speaks of dehumanization, which includes the focus on
just "parts" of a woman. That is one of the most interesting
pieces for me (although there are several interesting parts),
given that my pictures are just that.
I have experienced some who have seen me merely as my
assets, and admittedly I am not terribly comfortable when
treated that way. While some might say I encourage that
by the pictures I create, I have always seen it as a way of
drawing someone in to the greater whole that is me (among
other things a little more complicated than I want to go
into now).
Many things are a complex maze made up of perspectives
and beliefs and input from ourselves, others and society.
Nothing truly stands alone. So how in the world do we do
what is best for ourselves as a whole, and tomorrow's
adults?
I have gotten to experience many types of attitudes and
approaches from men by where I do my work primarily.
I have been on the receiving end of both respect and
a lack of respect in both approach to and exit from a
conversation. Where do the guys I talk to learn how to
treat someone on a phone sex line, or is their treatment
just an extension of how they treat women (and perhaps
people in general) in their life already?
Interestingly, I can turn it around too, as I see no shortage
of women who are ready and able to humiliate and demean
men. Given the environment of a phone sex line, I am sure
many would say it's just "play,"or that it isn't "reality."
It's almost like the minute you enter that world, you can
forsake who you are to the rest of the world, and be
something and someone you normally do not seem to be.
I think the bigger issue at hand is an inability for us to
be who we truly are because of some preconceived notion
and/or expectation of who others think we should be
(which includes advertiser driven perceptions).
I don't know how much advertising can truly be "blamed"
for the status of our perceptions. If I only spoke to one
type of person I would likely give the idea more credence.
But the fact that I speak to men of all shapes, sizes,
ethnicities, attitudes, and behaviors tells me that there
is likely to be other factors that influence how a person
comes to be. Perhaps some weren't exposed to as much
advertising, and perhaps that was a function of how their
parents raised him. So maybe advertising could still be
guilty, it just wasn't accessed enough to make a difference,
and that has to do with other influences. Or perhaps, in
addition to the advertising messages, they were also
given messages that countered what the advertising
implied/suggested.
Is blaming advertising an abdication of personal
responsibility? If it is, it isn't the only thing in our
culture that has us being less than responsible to
ourselves and our life experiences.
Of course, I can't address this topic without also addressing
the unconscious' role in the mix. Unconsciously we are
making associations all of the time, and advertisers are
quite adept at helping that along. It is only the person who
is willing and able to question his actions, words, and
beliefs that will truly be able to be himself and not a sum
total of the unconscious messages he receives.
I'd say what this all comes down to is whether or not we
are willing and able to be self aware, and whether or
not we are willing to be the person we were meant to
be instead of a carbon copy of someone else.
Simple? Yes. Easy? Well...
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Do You Have Your Ducks in a Row?
So many people that I talk to like things THEIR way.
In other aspects of their life they are in some part
control freaks. They like to have everything just as
they would want it to be.
Problem is...
If it is that way it is likely an illusion, and if it's not
that way, they're possibly miserable when something
takes a different than expected turn.
As human beings we love to KNOW things. That
knowing has an air of certainty to it that it has no
right to. Nothing is as permanent or as certain
as it would seem to be and yet we are constantly
seeking to have things as they "should be" by some
standard we have created.
It is a standard of perfection that is self-inflicted,
and likely unable to be maintained. The results of
an inability to maintain it can be anger, frustration,
tears, passive aggressive behavior, aggression,
belittling of another, belittling of oneself, and much
more.
Is there anything good about it?
Possibly. That depends on the person and
circumstance, though. Those who seek perfection
are likely to get the most out of anything that
they do. That alone is a good thing. However,
if in the process they harm people or relationships,
or their health, there is a cost that needs to be
factored in and the question becomes, is it worth it?
As I have said before, things can be changed, with
a willingness to change them and a mindset that
allows for the change. If you always do what you've
always done you'll always get what you've always
gotten. I think it was Einstein who said something
to the effect of "you cannot solve a problem with
the same mind that created it."
Most things about us never NEED to be changed.
However, the choice to make a change needs to
come from within, and whether or not a change
should occur will need to be decided on an
individual basis. The key is, once you've determined
the costs and the benefits, does it work for you?
Keep in mind that you can keep the best of who
you are, and give yourself some breathing room.
Having to have things a certain way takes a lot
of energy and is quite restrictive. You might
just be amazed at what is possible. The best of
who you are comes out when you aren't restricting
it to what is known about yourself.
Yeah, I know. Scary, isn't it?
How about we replace "scary" with "exciting"?
Yeah, I know. Exciting, isn't it?
Has a different feel, doesn't it?
The world is full of possibilities, and it can be quite
exciting if you don't let the fear run away with your
attention.
So...do you have your ducks in a row?
No? Great!
What's next?
(If it's still scary, just know it's only natural as it
is what you are used to. If only words could make
a difference, the world would be a much different
place. Your practice and efforts over time can
alter your realty. If, that is, you want it altered).
Monday, September 13, 2010
Hypnosis Exploited by Professionals?
uh-oh.
Controversy stirs from someone from Australia
who says that he can get anyone to do anything
under hypnosis, and suggests that professionals
may back door their way into someone's mind
and wallet and more (click to read article).
I happen to know of a few instances personally when
so-called professionals weren't exactly doing what
they were supposed to be doing. One story could easily
be a MCStory type of story. One day I may say more.
I know the person involved was considering writing
up his experience for me, so we'll see how it goes/
what happens.
In the meantime, while some may be quick to write off
this person and question his motives, there is something
to be paid attention to in what he says. Do I enjoy telling
people of these types of things? Absolutely not. However,
to pretend like all is "just dandy" in the world of hypnosis
does no one any favors.
So many come to me with a "Do me" attitude, having no
idea what they are exposing themselves to, or potentially
opening themselves to. Best to be aware than not.
Although all too often, when I say what I do I am "yessed"
until someone gets a personal sense of the possible
difficulties. But, of course, it could/would NEVER happen
to them.
Sadly, odds don't favor the never. How easy or difficult
it would be to do may vary depending on a number of
factors, but possibilities exist, especially when someone
is well trained and devious and given time to create a
foundation for their handiwork.
So...as always, a word of caution. with a suggestion to
learn, explore, and ask questions and a reminder to
listen to your gut. I can't tell you how many times
someone who got into trouble told me that they knew
that something wasn't "right."
Controversy stirs from someone from Australia
who says that he can get anyone to do anything
under hypnosis, and suggests that professionals
may back door their way into someone's mind
and wallet and more (click to read article).
I happen to know of a few instances personally when
so-called professionals weren't exactly doing what
they were supposed to be doing. One story could easily
be a MCStory type of story. One day I may say more.
I know the person involved was considering writing
up his experience for me, so we'll see how it goes/
what happens.
In the meantime, while some may be quick to write off
this person and question his motives, there is something
to be paid attention to in what he says. Do I enjoy telling
people of these types of things? Absolutely not. However,
to pretend like all is "just dandy" in the world of hypnosis
does no one any favors.
So many come to me with a "Do me" attitude, having no
idea what they are exposing themselves to, or potentially
opening themselves to. Best to be aware than not.
Although all too often, when I say what I do I am "yessed"
until someone gets a personal sense of the possible
difficulties. But, of course, it could/would NEVER happen
to them.
Sadly, odds don't favor the never. How easy or difficult
it would be to do may vary depending on a number of
factors, but possibilities exist, especially when someone
is well trained and devious and given time to create a
foundation for their handiwork.
So...as always, a word of caution. with a suggestion to
learn, explore, and ask questions and a reminder to
listen to your gut. I can't tell you how many times
someone who got into trouble told me that they knew
that something wasn't "right."
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Sunday, September 12, 2010
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oooh boy...what a weekend...(and a thank you)
This weekend I think I have set a record for 1-2 minute calls.
I don't know what is different now, but I could certainly
be raking in the dough if I was into phone sex.
It's unbelievable (and frustrating) at the same time. The calls
are always an interruption, and often the guys just aren't nice
about me telling them that I'm not into typical phone sex.
"You're on a phone sex line, aren't you?" (with accusing,
annoyed tone).
Well...yeah...but that doesn't have to mean I do phone sex.
I am like the steak option at the fish restaurant, these
guys don't know what they're missing, and how I might
feed their sexual appetite.
It is interesting to observe the types of people in the world,
and to realize how many guys when they get horny want
their c*ck in some strange woman's mouth.
I try to be respectful and open minded when someone
calls, but it is difficult to be on the receiving end of
rudeness and disrespect. I realize things may not always
be what we want them to be, but why take it out on
someone who isn't who you want her to be?
So let me take this opportunity to thank those of you who
are appreciative of what I do and respectful of me. It is
so incredibly appreciated!
YOU are the reason I continue to pick up the phone.
Have a great day!
I don't know what is different now, but I could certainly
be raking in the dough if I was into phone sex.
It's unbelievable (and frustrating) at the same time. The calls
are always an interruption, and often the guys just aren't nice
about me telling them that I'm not into typical phone sex.
"You're on a phone sex line, aren't you?" (with accusing,
annoyed tone).
Well...yeah...but that doesn't have to mean I do phone sex.
I am like the steak option at the fish restaurant, these
guys don't know what they're missing, and how I might
feed their sexual appetite.
It is interesting to observe the types of people in the world,
and to realize how many guys when they get horny want
their c*ck in some strange woman's mouth.
I try to be respectful and open minded when someone
calls, but it is difficult to be on the receiving end of
rudeness and disrespect. I realize things may not always
be what we want them to be, but why take it out on
someone who isn't who you want her to be?
So let me take this opportunity to thank those of you who
are appreciative of what I do and respectful of me. It is
so incredibly appreciated!
YOU are the reason I continue to pick up the phone.
Have a great day!
Saturday, September 11, 2010
More than "just" a day | September 11, 2001
Since I am from the NYC area, and was living
there in 2001, I knew many people who had
connections to the World Trade Center. I
knew many who were touched on 9/11 by the
devastation and the loss of someone.
I remember walking around the downtown area
a month after what happened. It was very sad.
There were pictures everywhere of loved ones
who were missing. The loss in so many ways
defies description, and yet we seek to describe
it any way that we can.
Today I was reading about how beautiful and
clear that day was. The person who wrote it
wrote that there wasn't a cloud in the sky.
He also went on to say that now whenever the
sky is so clear it reminds him of that day,
so now he always looks for at least one cloud.
For some today 9 years ago became a tribute
of what beauty and love could come from the
bonding of those affected by tragedy. For
others it became a reason to incite fear
and cause pain stemming from the anger that
came as a result of what happened.
The range is a vast as any there could be,
and likely depends much on what that day
meant for the individual.
To anyone who was affected by the events
personally or knew someone who was, my
heart goes out to you. Whatever you may
feel, I am certain, is something I could
probably never truly comprehend.
My heart also goes out to the world at
large, too, because I know in some ways
it wasn't the same after what happened.
Not only did people of varying faiths,
ethnicities, and citizenships die that
day, but so did something about what
the US stood for in the world.
The events did more than the facts of the
day relate. The effects still reverberate
in how we interact with our family, our
friends, our culture, and the world in
which we live.
What will history have to say about that
day? What will be understood in retrospect?
What associations made along the way will
carve out the historians' versions of
September 11, 2001?
I'd say it's an interesting
thing to consider,
and so is the fact that
every day and
every moment
we're actively
writing that history
by who we believe
ourselves to be,
and the actions we take.
Isis
there in 2001, I knew many people who had
connections to the World Trade Center. I
knew many who were touched on 9/11 by the
devastation and the loss of someone.
I remember walking around the downtown area
a month after what happened. It was very sad.
There were pictures everywhere of loved ones
who were missing. The loss in so many ways
defies description, and yet we seek to describe
it any way that we can.
Today I was reading about how beautiful and
clear that day was. The person who wrote it
wrote that there wasn't a cloud in the sky.
He also went on to say that now whenever the
sky is so clear it reminds him of that day,
so now he always looks for at least one cloud.
For some today 9 years ago became a tribute
of what beauty and love could come from the
bonding of those affected by tragedy. For
others it became a reason to incite fear
and cause pain stemming from the anger that
came as a result of what happened.
The range is a vast as any there could be,
and likely depends much on what that day
meant for the individual.
To anyone who was affected by the events
personally or knew someone who was, my
heart goes out to you. Whatever you may
feel, I am certain, is something I could
probably never truly comprehend.
My heart also goes out to the world at
large, too, because I know in some ways
it wasn't the same after what happened.
Not only did people of varying faiths,
ethnicities, and citizenships die that
day, but so did something about what
the US stood for in the world.
The events did more than the facts of the
day relate. The effects still reverberate
in how we interact with our family, our
friends, our culture, and the world in
which we live.
What will history have to say about that
day? What will be understood in retrospect?
What associations made along the way will
carve out the historians' versions of
September 11, 2001?
I'd say it's an interesting
thing to consider,
and so is the fact that
every day and
every moment
we're actively
writing that history
by who we believe
ourselves to be,
and the actions we take.
Isis
Friday, September 10, 2010
Heading East Again Soon...
In case you've missed it...I am heading to the Baltimore
area again soon, and would entertain the idea of a
live session with those who I have hypnotized previously.
If you live around there, or would be able to travel to
the area, and would be interested in a session, please
email me at IsisWantsYouATYahoo.com to get more
details as I will not be publicly posting my plans.
Hope your weekend is off to a great start. :)
area again soon, and would entertain the idea of a
live session with those who I have hypnotized previously.
If you live around there, or would be able to travel to
the area, and would be interested in a session, please
email me at IsisWantsYouATYahoo.com to get more
details as I will not be publicly posting my plans.
Hope your weekend is off to a great start. :)
Thursday, September 9, 2010
What does it all mean?
Apparently, the pastor who was going to do a major
Koran burning has *perhaps* reconsidered. The amount
of flurry around this story has been amazing.
Many have been aghast about the burning of a
religious book. When I consider what a religious
book is in its most basic sense, it occurs to me
that it is bound paper with words.
I know for some it is more than that. For those
people, life is pumped into an object by the meaning
they place on it. Is it a good thing? a bad thing?
It would, I suppose, depend on who you talk to.
If life has no meaning, then what the heck are we
doing here? If life has meaning, whose meaning
do we subscribe to and what does that meaning
look like? sound like? taste like? feel like? smell like?
Many religious books (words on paper) will likely
give a different answer to these questions by the
practices and beliefs they subscribe to. Wars will
be fought and arguments had over which one(s)
are the best or "right" ones.
Some may think that I am not giving religion the
respect it is due, however I do respect an individual's
ability to choose what beliefs are best for him or
herself.
Is there a grand meaning to life? With so much
diversity it would seem hard to determine that
there is ONE answer, or even if there seems to
be one answer, an answer that is acceptable to
one and all.
Curious about the idea of "Meaning of Life," I
Googled the term, and then I Googled "Sex."
I am sure there is a diversity of pages that encompass
many pieces of both topics, however I found it
interesting to note that Sex had approximately
8Xs more results than "Meaning of Life."
A few thoughts occur to me around this:
1. The meaning that we put into things is
often so inherently a part of who we are,
we are unable to separate meaning from
self. Therefore for some, the quest for
meaning would be meaningless, because
one wonders what he'd be searching for.
2. Anyone who might be able to separate
things out, and be on a search for meaning,
might not want to, as it might seem to
"heavy" or "obscure," which leads me to...
3. It is easy to avoid a heavy topic - one
that seems intangible (and perhaps unable
to be resolved) - with one that isn't so heavy,
and one that is not only quite tangible, but
also pleasurable and may even appear more
accessible - like - SEX.
4. Is it possible that SEX is such a big topic
because it is an escape? Is it possible that
it is a way to avoid the things that really
matter?
I realize that as with any points, these points
have counterpoints, and that nothing is
absolute. I would say that the act of sex
can be many things, including the act of
making love which can be one of those
things that some might say add to the
meaning of life.
In the end, it is the meaning that makes the
difference, and makes or breaks the different
types of relating we do. It is the meaning
that can bring us together, or can tear us
apart.
It makes me wonder how the world would
be if we could see the pages of a book for
what they are - white pages with black
specks...If we could see people for who
they are - a combination of body parts,
organs, and systems whose hearts' beat,
and lungs breathe...If we could see things
for what they are - instead of resources
to be violated and plundered...If we could
hear words for what they are - letters
aligned a certain way that when expressed
through the mouth make a certain sound.
Meaning is important, there is no question
about that, and it is often unconsciously
attached to many pieces of the human
experience. The thing is, it is so important
that it is the very thing that our survival
depends upon, and it is one of the things
we are the least aware of in a productive
and helpful and conscious way.
As often happens...I have more questions
and observations than answers, but for me
the meaning conversation, like many
conversations, is best entertained in an
environment of respect.
For me that logically leads to the question:
If you are respecting another, are you
defacing or destroying the things that hold
meaning for them?
Koran burning has *perhaps* reconsidered. The amount
of flurry around this story has been amazing.
Many have been aghast about the burning of a
religious book. When I consider what a religious
book is in its most basic sense, it occurs to me
that it is bound paper with words.
I know for some it is more than that. For those
people, life is pumped into an object by the meaning
they place on it. Is it a good thing? a bad thing?
It would, I suppose, depend on who you talk to.
If life has no meaning, then what the heck are we
doing here? If life has meaning, whose meaning
do we subscribe to and what does that meaning
look like? sound like? taste like? feel like? smell like?
Many religious books (words on paper) will likely
give a different answer to these questions by the
practices and beliefs they subscribe to. Wars will
be fought and arguments had over which one(s)
are the best or "right" ones.
Some may think that I am not giving religion the
respect it is due, however I do respect an individual's
ability to choose what beliefs are best for him or
herself.
Is there a grand meaning to life? With so much
diversity it would seem hard to determine that
there is ONE answer, or even if there seems to
be one answer, an answer that is acceptable to
one and all.
Curious about the idea of "Meaning of Life," I
Googled the term, and then I Googled "Sex."
I am sure there is a diversity of pages that encompass
many pieces of both topics, however I found it
interesting to note that Sex had approximately
8Xs more results than "Meaning of Life."
A few thoughts occur to me around this:
1. The meaning that we put into things is
often so inherently a part of who we are,
we are unable to separate meaning from
self. Therefore for some, the quest for
meaning would be meaningless, because
one wonders what he'd be searching for.
2. Anyone who might be able to separate
things out, and be on a search for meaning,
might not want to, as it might seem to
"heavy" or "obscure," which leads me to...
3. It is easy to avoid a heavy topic - one
that seems intangible (and perhaps unable
to be resolved) - with one that isn't so heavy,
and one that is not only quite tangible, but
also pleasurable and may even appear more
accessible - like - SEX.
4. Is it possible that SEX is such a big topic
because it is an escape? Is it possible that
it is a way to avoid the things that really
matter?
I realize that as with any points, these points
have counterpoints, and that nothing is
absolute. I would say that the act of sex
can be many things, including the act of
making love which can be one of those
things that some might say add to the
meaning of life.
In the end, it is the meaning that makes the
difference, and makes or breaks the different
types of relating we do. It is the meaning
that can bring us together, or can tear us
apart.
It makes me wonder how the world would
be if we could see the pages of a book for
what they are - white pages with black
specks...If we could see people for who
they are - a combination of body parts,
organs, and systems whose hearts' beat,
and lungs breathe...If we could see things
for what they are - instead of resources
to be violated and plundered...If we could
hear words for what they are - letters
aligned a certain way that when expressed
through the mouth make a certain sound.
Meaning is important, there is no question
about that, and it is often unconsciously
attached to many pieces of the human
experience. The thing is, it is so important
that it is the very thing that our survival
depends upon, and it is one of the things
we are the least aware of in a productive
and helpful and conscious way.
As often happens...I have more questions
and observations than answers, but for me
the meaning conversation, like many
conversations, is best entertained in an
environment of respect.
For me that logically leads to the question:
If you are respecting another, are you
defacing or destroying the things that hold
meaning for them?
Venting...and perhaps something helpful
I have a friend who is a geek about technology.
He'll say things like, "just put the plug in the
socket," except the words will be something
that I am unfamiliar with. He says things
like I am supposed to know what he is talking
about.
Thankfully he is quite patient, and will work
with me and my limitations and quirks when
it comes to things technological.
The funny thing is recently he wanted to buy
curtains for various rooms in his house. He
went to the store, and he said the woman at
the store, he realized, was speaking to him
about curtains and rods and hooks the way
that he speaks to others about technology.
He was rather lost and overwhelmed.
It was good perspective for him to have that
experience, however he's had other experiences
that were similar, only to have forgotten what
it was like to be on the receiving end of "it's
so easy, all you do is..."
This is on my mind today as I have at various
times been on the receiving end of someone
who just "knows" how things should be, and
it's just so "easy" to make them the way they
envision, of course.
Of course...NOT. If it WAS that easy, then
people would be better able to do the things
that these self proclaimed experts believe
is the right thing to do.
I won't even question what the "right" thing
is, as it may not be. I'll even give them the
benefit of the doubt and say that their idea
is a sure-fire winner.
However, there are only so many things that
one person can do, and only so many of those
things that one person can be good at. There
comes a limit. There comes a time that you
either do nothing, or you do what you can.
I would say most people get stopped by the
fact that they can't do something perfectly,
so they don't do anything at all.
Interestingly, when one is willing to take
baby steps, they tend to build upon themselves.
It is amazing to me how that works. There
is much that I know now that I would have
been in disbelief about a few years back.
I would have thought some of the things I
know wouldn't have been within my scope
and reach.
However much I do know (and some think
I know a lot) there is a TON more that I don't.
As much as I would like to be grateful to those
who point out how I am insufficient, there is
a part of me that just isn't too happy about
it all.
It's kinda like that song in a previous entry,
King of Anything. If I don't ask, then maybe
I am doing what I can and am OK about it.
People are entitled to their opinions, but
it doesn't mean that their opinion suits me
or my circumstance.
Remember that when someone tries to tell
you what to do, or what s/he thinks is best.
Remember that sometimes you may know
better, or you may just be doing the best
you can and, if so, consider that it might
just be good enough - at least for the
moment.
Ok. I feel better now. Thanks for listening.
LOL.
Have a good night.
He'll say things like, "just put the plug in the
socket," except the words will be something
that I am unfamiliar with. He says things
like I am supposed to know what he is talking
about.
Thankfully he is quite patient, and will work
with me and my limitations and quirks when
it comes to things technological.
The funny thing is recently he wanted to buy
curtains for various rooms in his house. He
went to the store, and he said the woman at
the store, he realized, was speaking to him
about curtains and rods and hooks the way
that he speaks to others about technology.
He was rather lost and overwhelmed.
It was good perspective for him to have that
experience, however he's had other experiences
that were similar, only to have forgotten what
it was like to be on the receiving end of "it's
so easy, all you do is..."
This is on my mind today as I have at various
times been on the receiving end of someone
who just "knows" how things should be, and
it's just so "easy" to make them the way they
envision, of course.
Of course...NOT. If it WAS that easy, then
people would be better able to do the things
that these self proclaimed experts believe
is the right thing to do.
I won't even question what the "right" thing
is, as it may not be. I'll even give them the
benefit of the doubt and say that their idea
is a sure-fire winner.
However, there are only so many things that
one person can do, and only so many of those
things that one person can be good at. There
comes a limit. There comes a time that you
either do nothing, or you do what you can.
I would say most people get stopped by the
fact that they can't do something perfectly,
so they don't do anything at all.
Interestingly, when one is willing to take
baby steps, they tend to build upon themselves.
It is amazing to me how that works. There
is much that I know now that I would have
been in disbelief about a few years back.
I would have thought some of the things I
know wouldn't have been within my scope
and reach.
However much I do know (and some think
I know a lot) there is a TON more that I don't.
As much as I would like to be grateful to those
who point out how I am insufficient, there is
a part of me that just isn't too happy about
it all.
It's kinda like that song in a previous entry,
King of Anything. If I don't ask, then maybe
I am doing what I can and am OK about it.
People are entitled to their opinions, but
it doesn't mean that their opinion suits me
or my circumstance.
Remember that when someone tries to tell
you what to do, or what s/he thinks is best.
Remember that sometimes you may know
better, or you may just be doing the best
you can and, if so, consider that it might
just be good enough - at least for the
moment.
Ok. I feel better now. Thanks for listening.
LOL.
Have a good night.
Del Corazon | Video
I believe "Del Corazon" means something
like "from the heart." This song is
beautiful, and if that is the meaning,
it is certainly apropos.
Enjoy.
like "from the heart." This song is
beautiful, and if that is the meaning,
it is certainly apropos.
Enjoy.
Amazing Generosity = Amazing Story | Video
I am sure there are many more of them,
but news outlets think we want to hear
more about the negative stuff.
What would it be like if news was
redefined from something inherently
wrong, bad and negative?
Interesting thought, don't you think?
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Un: A Remarkable MP3
If not, let me introduce you to "Un"
Click above to get this file
Click Here to Hear a Sample
Beautiful Woman | Image
Bazile Perrault - La Baigneuse
Just saw this image for the first time today.
I think it amazingly beautiful and sensual.
You?
A day without you... | Quote
"A day without you is like a year without rain."
- Selena Gomez, A Year Without Rain
- Selena Gomez, A Year Without Rain
Just because we can...does it mean we should? | Video
I have always marveled at the ingenuity of human
beings. There is so much that is created, and I
have to wonder sometimes if that is a good thing.
So often people call me and want me to do things
to them that I could do, but don't. Their point of
view is if it can be done, why wouldn't I do it. My
point of view is just because I am capable of
doing something doesn't mean I should.
Here is one of those questionable cases in my
mind. Of course, these Carlashes are painted as
a good thing. Why wouldn't they be? This is not
to say it's a "bad" thing...but it is just one of those
things that make me sit back, and go hmmmm...
beings. There is so much that is created, and I
have to wonder sometimes if that is a good thing.
So often people call me and want me to do things
to them that I could do, but don't. Their point of
view is if it can be done, why wouldn't I do it. My
point of view is just because I am capable of
doing something doesn't mean I should.
Here is one of those questionable cases in my
mind. Of course, these Carlashes are painted as
a good thing. Why wouldn't they be? This is not
to say it's a "bad" thing...but it is just one of those
things that make me sit back, and go hmmmm...
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
King of Anything | Video
I love how it speaks to what many go
through on a regular basis, and more
importantly the level of self confidence
that comes along with knowing oneself.
Let me know what you think, and enjoy!
Monday, September 6, 2010
about what doesn't matter... | Quote
"I think about the cosmic snowball theory.
A few million years from now the sun will
burn out and lose its gravitational pull.
The earth will turn into a giant snowball
and be hurled through space. When that
happens it won’t matter if I get this guy out."
-Bill Lee (Major League Pitcher, 1969-1982)
I imagine it wouldn't even take that long
to realize how fleeting any moment would
be in the grand scheme of things. We just
have to remind ourselves that we, and this
moment, aren't all THAT striking, despite
any appearance to the contrary.
A few million years from now the sun will
burn out and lose its gravitational pull.
The earth will turn into a giant snowball
and be hurled through space. When that
happens it won’t matter if I get this guy out."
-Bill Lee (Major League Pitcher, 1969-1982)
I imagine it wouldn't even take that long
to realize how fleeting any moment would
be in the grand scheme of things. We just
have to remind ourselves that we, and this
moment, aren't all THAT striking, despite
any appearance to the contrary.
As Serious as a Heart Attack
Back in August, one of my callers had
a serious family crisis. It left him
with a tremendous amount of stress,
and he wasn't sleeping much at all.
As a matter of fact, when we first
spoke, he hadn't slept for 3 days.
He wasn't sure if I could even hypnotize
him at that point. I wasn't sure what
would happen, either, but I knew that
we had been doing some incredible work
up until that point, and figured that
odds were good that he would be responsive
to the release that hypnosis could offer.
It took a little bit for him to get into
the hypnotic state, but he did get there.
Once there, I spoke with him about what
he was feeling, and part of the range of
emotions was guilt, as he felt he should
have been able to prevent what had
happened. The fact was there was no way
he could have.
When our session was over, and I awakened
him, he looked better (as I was watching
him on video) sounded better, and was
yawning for the first time in days. I
am not sure about the yawning part, but
I speculate that because he allowed himself
to come down from the highly stressed state
he was in, his body could now realize that
it was tired, and he was able to give himself
some rest.
The second time I spoke with him he told me
that the night we spoke he actually slept and
slept well and that when he went back to the
hospital the next day, the doctors and nurses
said that there was a difference in how he
seemed to be, and that he seemed much more
productive and helpful instead of angry.
A couple of nights ago we were talking,
and he told me that his left arm was numb
and that he was having chest pains. I had
been doing some hypnosis in regard to
stress relief when he told me that, but
made sure not to directly touch his symptoms
(a hypnotist should always be cautious in
that regard, as physical symptoms can be
the sign of something that should be
addressed by a doctor).
If his symptoms were stress related,
chances are good they would have likely
have gone away from the hypnosis we were
doing, but they did not. I highly
suggested that he ask someone at the
hospital about it.
He didn't want to. He wanted any efforts
to be focused on the person who he felt
needed them the most (the person who he
had been concerned about for weeks).
However, when he went to the hospital
yesterday, he did ask the doctor about what
he was experiencing, but only after he
resisted and first got a headache, and then
felt nauseous.
I am not sure if the resistance and the
physical symptoms directly correlate,
but it is interesting to note that has
come to feel very much like he is my good
boy, and that he needs to obey me. Apparently
my "suggestion" to talk to the doctor was
something he felt he needed to obey perhaps
so much so that he developed physical symptoms.
It is also interesting to note that once he
did talk to the doctor, the symptoms went away.
I never told him that he would experience
discomfort if he didn't obey me (I would
never do that), however it is how he interacted
with his unwillingness to follow what he heard
as a command.
In the end it was a good thing that he felt
he needed to obey me in that regard as it
turns out that he had had a heart attack,
and didn't know it. If he didn't say something
there would have been a good chance he could
have another, and that one would likely have
killed him. He is in the hospital today having
a procedure done.
I share this story with you for a few reasons.
One. I wanted to share how hypnosis can be to
help someone function effectively in a time of
crisis. I was able to help him acknowledge
what he needed to, and focus on what was
productive and helpful instead of being bogged
down in guilt and other unhelpful emotions.
Two. I also wanted to share this story because
people always say, "you'll never do anything
against your will" when it comes to hypnosis.
Here is a case where his "will" did not want
to speak to the doctors. He had no desire to
have that conversation, but felt compelled to
because of the effects of suggestions given.
Three. The mind is an incredible place. You
never know what is possible in both good and
bad ways. While the hypnosis we had been doing
originally had been erotic, it wound up having
real life benefits that were not predictable.
I always tell those I work with who want to be
a good boy that they need to take care of
themselves. He isn't even sure at this point
why he told me about his arm and chest pain.
Might that have been the part of him that knew
it would be in his best interest?
In some ways, I know he was unhappy about what
happened, but thankfully his gratitude at this
moment is much greater.
I am usually most respectful of a person's right
to choose. As a matter of fact, I really had
no idea how driven this guy was to obey me, and
was just suggesting what a concerned friend
might suggest, hoping that he would see the
benefit in speaking with a doctor.
I know he knows that I only want him to do what
is in his own best self interest, so I have to
hope that on some level that is what drove him
more than his need to obey me, even though
technically in this case they are truly one in
the same.
Sometimes we are meant to make a difference for
another, and we may need another's coaxing for
our own benefit. It should never be seen as an
act of an inferior man, but rather an act
of wisdom to know when something needs to be
done for our own best interest.
Last, but not least, while seeing a doctor may
never be desired, there are times it most
certainly is warranted. If there are significant
signs, please pay attention and DO something
about it.
It might just save your life.
a serious family crisis. It left him
with a tremendous amount of stress,
and he wasn't sleeping much at all.
As a matter of fact, when we first
spoke, he hadn't slept for 3 days.
He wasn't sure if I could even hypnotize
him at that point. I wasn't sure what
would happen, either, but I knew that
we had been doing some incredible work
up until that point, and figured that
odds were good that he would be responsive
to the release that hypnosis could offer.
It took a little bit for him to get into
the hypnotic state, but he did get there.
Once there, I spoke with him about what
he was feeling, and part of the range of
emotions was guilt, as he felt he should
have been able to prevent what had
happened. The fact was there was no way
he could have.
When our session was over, and I awakened
him, he looked better (as I was watching
him on video) sounded better, and was
yawning for the first time in days. I
am not sure about the yawning part, but
I speculate that because he allowed himself
to come down from the highly stressed state
he was in, his body could now realize that
it was tired, and he was able to give himself
some rest.
The second time I spoke with him he told me
that the night we spoke he actually slept and
slept well and that when he went back to the
hospital the next day, the doctors and nurses
said that there was a difference in how he
seemed to be, and that he seemed much more
productive and helpful instead of angry.
A couple of nights ago we were talking,
and he told me that his left arm was numb
and that he was having chest pains. I had
been doing some hypnosis in regard to
stress relief when he told me that, but
made sure not to directly touch his symptoms
(a hypnotist should always be cautious in
that regard, as physical symptoms can be
the sign of something that should be
addressed by a doctor).
If his symptoms were stress related,
chances are good they would have likely
have gone away from the hypnosis we were
doing, but they did not. I highly
suggested that he ask someone at the
hospital about it.
He didn't want to. He wanted any efforts
to be focused on the person who he felt
needed them the most (the person who he
had been concerned about for weeks).
However, when he went to the hospital
yesterday, he did ask the doctor about what
he was experiencing, but only after he
resisted and first got a headache, and then
felt nauseous.
I am not sure if the resistance and the
physical symptoms directly correlate,
but it is interesting to note that has
come to feel very much like he is my good
boy, and that he needs to obey me. Apparently
my "suggestion" to talk to the doctor was
something he felt he needed to obey perhaps
so much so that he developed physical symptoms.
It is also interesting to note that once he
did talk to the doctor, the symptoms went away.
I never told him that he would experience
discomfort if he didn't obey me (I would
never do that), however it is how he interacted
with his unwillingness to follow what he heard
as a command.
In the end it was a good thing that he felt
he needed to obey me in that regard as it
turns out that he had had a heart attack,
and didn't know it. If he didn't say something
there would have been a good chance he could
have another, and that one would likely have
killed him. He is in the hospital today having
a procedure done.
I share this story with you for a few reasons.
One. I wanted to share how hypnosis can be to
help someone function effectively in a time of
crisis. I was able to help him acknowledge
what he needed to, and focus on what was
productive and helpful instead of being bogged
down in guilt and other unhelpful emotions.
Two. I also wanted to share this story because
people always say, "you'll never do anything
against your will" when it comes to hypnosis.
Here is a case where his "will" did not want
to speak to the doctors. He had no desire to
have that conversation, but felt compelled to
because of the effects of suggestions given.
Three. The mind is an incredible place. You
never know what is possible in both good and
bad ways. While the hypnosis we had been doing
originally had been erotic, it wound up having
real life benefits that were not predictable.
I always tell those I work with who want to be
a good boy that they need to take care of
themselves. He isn't even sure at this point
why he told me about his arm and chest pain.
Might that have been the part of him that knew
it would be in his best interest?
In some ways, I know he was unhappy about what
happened, but thankfully his gratitude at this
moment is much greater.
I am usually most respectful of a person's right
to choose. As a matter of fact, I really had
no idea how driven this guy was to obey me, and
was just suggesting what a concerned friend
might suggest, hoping that he would see the
benefit in speaking with a doctor.
I know he knows that I only want him to do what
is in his own best self interest, so I have to
hope that on some level that is what drove him
more than his need to obey me, even though
technically in this case they are truly one in
the same.
Sometimes we are meant to make a difference for
another, and we may need another's coaxing for
our own benefit. It should never be seen as an
act of an inferior man, but rather an act
of wisdom to know when something needs to be
done for our own best interest.
Last, but not least, while seeing a doctor may
never be desired, there are times it most
certainly is warranted. If there are significant
signs, please pay attention and DO something
about it.
It might just save your life.
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