On the Job: Porn

I imagine that there are many employees of
many companies who spend time surfing for
porn while at work. Sadly, perhaps even
some "forced" to do it by a domme (I know
some can't understand why it would happen,
but it does...).

Knowing what I know I have to wonder a few
things that others might not when I see a
story like this SEC Watchdogs Surf for Porn.

I wonder if any of these guys are "under
the influence" of any woman, even if she
doesn't claim to be hypnotic. I wonder
if they could be stressed out, and using
porn as an escape and/or release (no pun
intended).

I am not intending to excuse anyone for
any potential oversights. However, I have
seen how people lose control, and don't
even realize it's happening. I have seen
how some are so stressed, they need an
outlet, and the outlet only causes more
stress. I have seen how many married men
are unhappily married, and feel they need
sexual outlets, and instead of figuring
things out differently in their relationship,
they stay, and find ways to pursue what
they feel they need.

Something like this is a complex web, and
as with many things, it likely runs much
deeper than a superficial, scandalous news
story.

It could also be these men just thought
they were above it all. Only they would
know. However, what has been brought to
light is one of those things that often
is not spoken of, and likely known.

I am sure it's not just men watching.
There are sexual women as well, who likely
indulge more than they should in situations
where they shouldn't.

It is too easy to stereotype and say it's
"just" men. When we gloss over issues in
the ways that media tends to, I think it
is easy to miss the finer points of things
that we should be noticing.

What does something like this say about
the culture that we have? What if the
things I posed as possibilities are what
is happening to those stressed in our
society?

Perhaps things like this can be signposts
that suggest that something is happening,
and we need to be more aware, and need to
act differently.

Is it just me, or does it seem like there
are many who are in a daze, and just don't
want to come out?

It may seem safer to refrain from looking,
however, it almost inevitably leads to
actions that are worse than if things were
faced head on to begin with.

When I speak with someone who is empowered,
there is nothing better...and oddly enough
it need never even be sexual. As a matter
of fact, the more powerful someone feels,
the less likely s/he may feel they need
a sexual escape.

Perhaps these men in their power positions
felt less than powerful? Or perhaps in an
effort to find some sort of balance, they
wanted to give their power away for a time.

Not all men want to be powerful and in charge
at all times. I asked one guy once what he
liked about talking to me, and his response
was, "You don't ask me to fix things."

I can practically guarantee there is a bigger
picture here. The question is what is it,
and more importantly what do we do about it?

There is one thing I do know, and that is that
the answer does not lie in monitoring or
filtering or judging...and it
likely has nothing to do with sex.