Who wants to be hypnotized when they could be hypnotouched*?
(It's ALL) About Me (yeah, right!) I am about many things...to box me into ONE would be a very big mistake. People experience me as intelligent and offbeat, with a perspective that is NOT down the worn path. Those who enjoy speaking with me quite frequently find things they didn't even know they were looking for. If what I have to say seems interesting or might be helpful to you, let's talk!
There is a chat box in the right column, feel free to chat with others when I am not there, or with me, when I am. (If you're hearing *blips* while visiting, there is likely to be conversation going on at the time).
When I see things like this, I wonder if someone who considered themselves to be a good boy of mine met me if this is how they would look and feel.
Apparently, Kim Cattrell was supposed to look terrible in this role. Not sure how terrible she was, however, if she looked that terrible, interesting how the guy saw only what he wanted to see. (I wonder how the actor felt in the role, given how sexy Kim does seem to be).
What do you think? Would you see the "real" me or would you see what you wanted to see? And... just how would you be?
I appreciate anything anyone ever does for me big or small, however sometimes someone has the ability and desire to treat me to something of some significant cost that I desire.
Yesterday one such gift showed up, and I'll give you one guess, given the title of this blog, what that is.
Thanks to icman55, I now have a Wii in my possession. Given that Nintendo has said that sales are down, and the reason appears to be that their market is mostly saturated, that makes me one of the last on board.
Many who are interested in erotic hypnosis seem to be self-professed tech geeks, so to watch someone be the last to get something, must be somewhat dumbfounding, LOL.
Needless to say, I am enjoying my new toy, especially the tennis program. I used to play tennis, but haven't in a long time, and it is cool to be able to have this electronic substitute :).
(Wondering where my racquet is...)
And, of course, my sensually deviant mind is thinking about how I could make the game really interesting, should I have someone to play with, while playing with the Wii.
Next up for me is likely to be Guitar Hero. My introduction to Wii included this program, and I loved it, too!
Just to let you know, this is an advisory that NF has posted.
One can only hope 1 hour is, indeed, 1 hour.
"We will have a Site Maintenance tonight at 9pm PST (12am EST). If you are on a call at this time, the call will be allowed to continue however, new calls will not be initiated while the site is down and you will not be able to access your NiteFlirt Account.
We expect the site to be back up at 10pm PST (1am EST)."
I made this image for myself from art I believe is called "Cherished." I was trying to remember the artist's name, but don't seem to be able to at the moment.
I also don't know who said the words. I was trying to locate attribution, perhaps there isn't any to be had, otherwise I would have likely have included it.
If anyone knows whose image or quote this is please let me know!
Any which way, I thought you might appreciate it as well, so I am sharing it.
There is an on going conversation in the erotic world about the pictures of the women represented.
To be, or not to be oneself, that is the question.
Some would say to be oneself is the way to be, and to tout one's genuineness, and own beauty.
When beauty can be defined any number of ways (although some would most certainly dispute that), it is difficult to know what is best for someone trying to make a decision based on the seeming prevailing winds outside.
Interestingly, there are men who don't even prefer the glossy-fied, model version pictures. But how far can this be taken, really?
I just posted in the previous entry about how men see the overall perspective, so perhaps a woman who is au-naturel would be attractive if she had the "right," shall we say, assets.
It's hard to make a complete generalization as always because everyone is different, and has different sensibilities, and to limit the conversation is to lack a piece of the pie.
We can certainly appreciate something for what it is. Let's say, the color red. We can appreciate it for its passion. We can appreciate it for its depth. We can appreciate it for whatever pleasure it can bring us by its associations.
However, when we see a red shoe, the feeling of red can take on a slightly different meaning and feeling. The same with a red article of clothing, like a bra. And even yet another layer of appreciation may come from the foot or breasts that the shoe or bra cover. When we extend that to the part of the body that it is attached to, there can be even more appreciation.
Of course, if it goes one way, it would also seem to lend itself to a reverse effect... that we could lose an interest, based on the associations we have with one thing.
So...does the make up make the woman? Probably not. However, it does add some enhancements that may have favorable associations for some, and as a result bring an added attraction.
Do the clothes make the woman? Probably not. However, how something is crafted and worn does add some enhancement that may create the favorable benefits appreciated by some.
I wonder why we feel the need to impress our standards on others? Does it make us feel better about our choices?
It is also curious to me about how the pics are taken. The ones that seem the most unflattering are without the best lighting, and not the best angle and/or perspective. I know from taking most of my own pictures, angle is everything! And even my most unflattering angles are me. However, my hunch is that you like the ones you see, because you have some pleasant associations attached to them and, perhaps even me. Association, or not, I suspect you appreciate the best of the angles for the little sumthin' extra they provide for you and your experience of me.
So...how much fantasy? I would suppose the answer to the question is another question, how much would you like?
According to this Cosmopolitan piece, women use both sides of their brain to see beauty, while men just use their right side (interestingly, the left side is the "logical" one). The effect of this apparently is that women will see more details than men will. Men will see something and focus on the overall effect.
I imagine that there are many employees of many companies who spend time surfing for porn while at work. Sadly, perhaps even some "forced" to do it by a domme (I know some can't understand why it would happen, but it does...).
Knowing what I know I have to wonder a few things that others might not when I see a story like this SEC Watchdogs Surf for Porn.
I wonder if any of these guys are "under the influence" of any woman, even if she doesn't claim to be hypnotic. I wonder if they could be stressed out, and using porn as an escape and/or release (no pun intended).
I am not intending to excuse anyone for any potential oversights. However, I have seen how people lose control, and don't even realize it's happening. I have seen how some are so stressed, they need an outlet, and the outlet only causes more stress. I have seen how many married men are unhappily married, and feel they need sexual outlets, and instead of figuring things out differently in their relationship, they stay, and find ways to pursue what they feel they need.
Something like this is a complex web, and as with many things, it likely runs much deeper than a superficial, scandalous news story.
It could also be these men just thought they were above it all. Only they would know. However, what has been brought to light is one of those things that often is not spoken of, and likely known.
I am sure it's not just men watching. There are sexual women as well, who likely indulge more than they should in situations where they shouldn't.
It is too easy to stereotype and say it's "just" men. When we gloss over issues in the ways that media tends to, I think it is easy to miss the finer points of things that we should be noticing.
What does something like this say about the culture that we have? What if the things I posed as possibilities are what is happening to those stressed in our society?
Perhaps things like this can be signposts that suggest that something is happening, and we need to be more aware, and need to act differently.
Is it just me, or does it seem like there are many who are in a daze, and just don't want to come out?
It may seem safer to refrain from looking, however, it almost inevitably leads to actions that are worse than if things were faced head on to begin with.
When I speak with someone who is empowered, there is nothing better...and oddly enough it need never even be sexual. As a matter of fact, the more powerful someone feels, the less likely s/he may feel they need a sexual escape.
Perhaps these men in their power positions felt less than powerful? Or perhaps in an effort to find some sort of balance, they wanted to give their power away for a time.
Not all men want to be powerful and in charge at all times. I asked one guy once what he liked about talking to me, and his response was, "You don't ask me to fix things."
I can practically guarantee there is a bigger picture here. The question is what is it, and more importantly what do we do about it?
There is one thing I do know, and that is that the answer does not lie in monitoring or filtering or judging...and it likely has nothing to do with sex.
Probably not too many. However, I would have to say that in my experience there are many who want to be dominated who really want and need some TLC. In that way, they become related. Some would mistake control for the missing piece in their life.
Are there that few understanding people and places to get unconditional love and understanding and support? I kinda think I know the answer. The problem is I wish I didn't.
Why is it so difficult for us to be who we truly are, and even better, feel the love that we very much need?
Is it easy to love what people say and do? Often I'd have to say probably not. However, love would never require loving actions and words that don't work for us. It, however, would allow us to love in spite of them. (How we express the love, and what we do with it, is another conversation addressed in part here.)
Have you heard my Pure Love: The Gift recording yet? If not, do yourself a favor and listen. It lives up to its name. I promise. Click below and buy.
PS The pic above is a preview of things to come :)
I just wrote about "family hour" advertising issues in relation to a Lane Bryant (a store that makes clothing for larger sized women) television ad.
I find the "family hour" argument an interesting one, especially when there are advertisements like these everywhere, available 24/7.
Perhaps those who are so adamant about things like this could consider that the more something is taboo, the more it becomes the shiny thing we need to touch.
Maybe sex isn't the problem, but the way we deal with it is.
Apparently there is a big brouhaha brewing over a new Lane Bryant lingerie commercial.
Wanting to be fair to the situation, I sought out what information I could. The initial coverage made me think that the issue was "too much cleavage," however it now seems it was too much cleavage for the "family hour," plus the message was, according to some, too risque.
I have always had ample cleavage, and I must admit I was triggered by this, LOL. I used to be in the corporate world, and more than once I was criticized for how I dressed.
I never dressed inappropriately. I just didn't dress to minimize what I had (not sure how much I could have done that, even if I tried). Most of those who had issues (as far as I knew) were women, and they didn't have what I had.
If they were the size I was, I'd like to see how they would dress. Clothing is not made for bigger sized women. Most things can't help but highlight was is there.
As a side note, knowing what I know now... I can't help but wonder what the men thought. I am not usually one to make lines, but I suspect in this case there might have been one.
Of course, this also begs the question in my mind, why is this an issue in the first place?
What do you think?
Per a post comment, here is a Victoria Secret commercial to compare the above with.
I suspect part of the issue with Lane Bryant were the suggestive words. It could be hypocrisy but, as usual, since I really don't know all the details, I am willing to give the benefit of the doubt, and just pose the questions.
I know some professional masseuses who get rather pissed by the idea that a client might be "hinting" that he might want a happy ending.
As with anything, there will be those who will break the rules. For some, if it's behind closed doors, who'll know?
When someone's license is at stake, it could be an issue. But one has to wonder why a happy ending isn't something that is ok.
Is it protection for the masseuse? Is it a issue that some have with sexuality? Are there women who feel threatened? Jealous? Who exactly is against it, and are they truly against it, or just saying they are?
With those few cents, this video made me laugh out loud, for real!
I am feeling kinda restless tonight, and I found these videos. They are very soothing so I thought I would share. They may not be everyone's cuppa tea, but if they are, you may want to save them for any restless night you may have. Of course, you could call me, too ;). Always nice to have choices.
I like things in the simplest, plainest language possible. I don't like when people throw around terms trying to sound important or like an "expert." If they're a real expert, speak in language that people can understand.
That is why I like this video. It explains in very plain terms how hypnosis works in relation to the mind/body connection.
There is one small piece I take slight issue with...however for the most part I think it a helpful perspective. If you'd like to better understand why you are affected by hypnosis, or why you might be the way you are without it, this video can be insightful.
In the end he invites you to contact him and/or his site, and if you are inclined, by all means use what is available. However, I am more than happy to answer any questions you may have myself, should you have a leaning in that direction.
Watching these guys will likely give you at least a smile. (Hmmm...on second thought, wondering if you'll even notice them) I feel badly for guys sometimes. It is easy to be drawn in, but you can tell how they've been "trained" (for the most part) not to look, at least while anyone is paying attention. For some it seems awkwardly funny.
At least from the comfort of your own home, odds are you can watch and enjoy without any of the awkward feeling. :)
The following quote is from someone who knew how to appreciate what I had to offer, and ultimately me. It's always nice when someone calls me and let's me "do my thing." Often they are rewarded with an experience that transcends what is thought possible.
"I'm not exactly sure why I had resisted calling Isis for so long. Part of me thought she was out of my league I guess, but last night I took the plunge and I am so glad I did. Isis was warm, professional, sensual and knew exactly how to press my buttons. We spoke for a while as she felt me out and what my prior experiences with hypnosis had been. Even before our session proper began, my mind was melting thanks to her seductive, erotic tones." - icman55
Of course the economy is "old news." Everyone knows that we're hurting.
You hear numbers and it sounds bad, but it's hard to sometimes know how bad, unless it personally affects you. I saw this economic graphic
today, and it certainly adds a dimension to what is happening.
Last September, the main site that I work off of went off line in a big way, and it has yet to recover completely. In addition, the limping economy hasn't helped.
I have heard mixed things from those who work in the phone sex industry. For some, business is booming (one of which is a Pro Domme). For others, you could hear a pin drop.
I personally have noticed a decline in those who call and interact with me in the timeframe represented by the graphic.
When I am asked about it, it makes sense to me that there would be an effect. After all, money on the type of things I do is likely to be discretionary income for most.
In times of difficulty, where does discretionary income go? Out the window.
At the same time, the pressure is on. People are more stressed out than ever, and are looking for a much needed escape. As a result, those who are spending money might be spending what they don't have to alleviate some of the pressure.
Sometimes we need some sunshine where we don't expect it to be. Sometimes we need some help, but are not in a position to take advantage of what someone can do for us when they're charging for their services.
There is nothing worse than knowing we need some help, and not being able to get it.
Most things given for free, are often given with the intention to manipulate. Give someone something for free, and they'll likely want to do something for you, buy your product, and/or your service.
Not every free thing has a string of manipulation attached to it, but in this world currently, I suspect few things are truly "free."
It is a hard balancing act that I do. What I do as "Isis" is primarily how I make my living, and just like you I have only 24 hours in a day and 7 days in a week. I have just so much energy, and have financial obligations to meet.
If I had the financial well being to give away my services and products, I might be inclined, as I love what I do, and would love for others to be able to have access to it.
However, I have come to realize that everything is a form of currency, even energy. I spend energy on my work, and when someone takes it in without giving anything in return (even just an acknowledgment or a thank you), it is in some part a deflation of the value of what is offered.
While there are some things I am still willing to share freely, my time is not one of them. In order for me to spend my time, I need something in return. It isn't necessarily something tangible, and definable, however, there needs to be something that I get from our exchange, and money is a good (and often times the best) option, however not the only one.
Those who want to do something for me can: - write stories - create graphics - leave feedback for my files - leave feedback of our interactions - leave comments on my blog - post in my Yahoo Group - send amazon gift cards - buy files - tell me what talents they have, and see how it might be of benefit to me - find places to tell others about me/ tell others about me
Have you ever thought about this for yourself? Have you ever thought about what you give away for free? Many I know give of themselves endlessly, and don't realize that by doing that there will come a point where there will be nothing left to give.
If that is you, consider the possibility that you are doing no one any favors focusing on them to the exclusion of yourself.
While it may not seem related, consider that we might have a financial (a "worth") crisis going on because we have lost our inner worth and value while being so focused on things outside of ourselves.
It may be radical to consider...but truly, at this point, what do we have to lose?
Many people are suffering hardships due to what is happening. My question is just because they can raise the rate, does it mean they should? What would be so terrible in being kind to those who are having issues? Is there a chance they could even afford some good will, and lower the price?
This makes me think about how I sometimes get requests from people, and some think that just because I am capable of honoring the request I should. Some get upset with me if I don't want to give them what they want, how they want it.
I have a feminization line that I charge more for than for my other listings. Why do I charge more? It's because of the nature of it. I want people to be clear what they are asking for, and what the potentials might be. I want it to be something that stares someone in the face before they make a casual choice.
While I can only observe what these hotels are doing, and can't speak for them, we all have reasons behind what we choose, and we have to live with the results of our choices.
The hotels might be having fiscal problems, and need the increased monies to survive. For them, this might be a good thing that they can raise the prices, and it may save jobs (giving them the benefit of perspective).
If I chose to do something that I am uncomfortable with, the results I might not be able to live with, even if the person I worked with wanted to and could. I respect their desire and ability to choose, as well, and that is why I will tell them it is likely best to find someone else.
We may not always agree with another's choices however, as with anything, communication and a healthy respect can go a long way in helping each party get what s/he needs. Occasionally my unwillingness to do something will shed some light on the subject in a way the person hadn't considered, and in the end, a few have even changed their mind.
Just because someone can do something, does it mean they should? I bet you know my answer now. What's yours?
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So yesterday I see some new pics of Britney Spears that elicit a not so curious response from men I've spoken to about it (interesting advertising choices, I must say). A couple of them reminded me of a pic that I took a while ago. I was standing in front of a mirror, legs apart, in a leather dress and lace up black boots, and there was someone laying between my legs.
I hadn't used the pic, in part because I wasn't sure I wanted to, as it contained someone else. I had permission, but sometimes I feel uncertain about "exposing" someone else.
So I went back to the picture, and edited him out. What remains, I would say is hypnotic, tantalizing, and oh so inviting for someone who would appreciate this kind of pose (Britney Spears).
Today I heard from 2 people: one I hadn't heard from in several months, the other someone I have spoken to once, and communicated through emails, mostly.
The one I hadn't heard from in several months sounded like he was doing well. In some ways, it was a relief. When we were last speaking with any kind of regularity, he was very F***ed up by hypnotists, and their brand of erotic hypnosis.
It was a difficult thing to be a part of for so many reasons, and I was grateful and relieved that he went to get a professional hypnotist to help untie the hypnotic knots he was in. I had tried to help, but what I could do was limited by a lack of proximity and workable circumstance.
The other person is someone I get that something is "up." I don't know details, but I know enough to know that hypnosis is messing with his head to the point that he doesn't seem particularly reachable, and yet he has reached out to me - more than once.
I wish I could say this was an unusual scenario, but it's not. I wouldn't say I face it every day, but it is more common than one might think in a world populated by those who believe "you can never do anything against your will."
It is difficult to help someone whose mind is in the throes of the effects of the confusion of hypnotic suggestion. A part of them wants the help so very badly, another part has them so twisted.
I wrote the following as a response to this type of situation. I don't know how helpful it can be, however it is my hope that it will be.
If you find yourself in a position like I described, perhaps give it a listen, and see what you think.
There was a time (granted gone for a while now) that young girls were not only having sex, they were having babies, and that was "normal."
One has to wonder if it "worked," or if it was just what was. How did it get to be that age 18 was appropriate? Who decided that, and why? If anyone knows the history of this, I would be curious to know.
I bring this up because how we define our culture is how our culture interacts with us. I would suggest that the mental attitudes of adults everywhere are affecting how the children of today become the adults (ready or not) of tomorrow.
Just because we want to "ignore" something, doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. To raise the topic (and or the conversation) does perhaps make it more available to those it is raised to. However, how many kids out of curiosity already do the types of things that adults might fear/have concerns about?
Wouldn't guided curiosity be better than unguided? I realize it is a loaded conversation, like many societal conversations are, but perhaps we should consider interacting with things as they are, and not as we judge them to be. If adults would refrain from using their judgments of things as a way to attempt to control them, then children may be more likely to take things in stride, and without a charge that some might feel inappropriate.
There is a place for judgment. It can show one the consequences of one's actions prior to taking an action. To use it as a means of dissuading an action I would suspect is not very powerful and even, at times, quite ineffective.
Complex topic. Hard to cover in just a few words. As with anything, I think conversation and communication are key, and a place to start. With them, anything is possible. Without them, very few things are.
