Who wants to be hypnotized when they could be hypnotouched*?
(It's ALL) About Me (yeah, right!) I am about many things...to box me into ONE would be a very big mistake. People experience me as intelligent and offbeat, with a perspective that is NOT down the worn path. Those who enjoy speaking with me quite frequently find things they didn't even know they were looking for. If what I have to say seems interesting or might be helpful to you, let's talk!
There is a chat box in the right column, feel free to chat with others when I am not there, or with me, when I am. (If you're hearing *blips* while visiting, there is likely to be conversation going on at the time).
Funny how life does that to us sometimes - actually much more than we might like, or would allow, given the opportunity to control things.
What did happen was pretty awesome, and I had a great time and was glad to get away. While I have only been back a few hours, it already feels like I never left!
The good news is I came home to a package, and in it was a goodie for you. A new picture will be up in the next day, or so.
I enjoyed the sessions I had so much, I am extending my offer to do more live sessions. They're still rare, so should we meet you'll be part of a relatively exclusive club. :)
If interested, please speak with me, or write me at IsisWantsYou AT Yahoo.com (typed that way to attempt to avoid spammers) to ask questions or get details.
The picture above was taken on my return flight, as we were going over the Grand Canyon. I have other pics, and may consider sharing, if there is an interest, or a reason to.
I hope you have been well as the summer ticks away in its final hours. For some I know it is a big bummer. As for me, fall is my favorite season, so you can say I am quite happy about it all!
I saw this today, and thought it kind of interesting.
You might wonder why.
If so, I'll tell you. :)
I thought about how sexually we aren't always in the same place as our partners. I thought about how it would be really great if there was a way to know how to make the things we want to have happen, happen.
What if there was an "access hole" and there were directions on how to open and close it?
Now, of course, I am speaking of a situation in a consensual environment. So often if those who weren't in sync were willing to be in sync, but don't know how, knew how - would they use what they knew?
Hypnosis is pretty cool. It can make the soft hard. It can make spark the seemingly unsparkable. It cam stoke fires, and it can put them out.
Why put them out? Maybe there would be a reason NOT to do something one night. I know for some that might be unfathomable. However, should that be the case, the beauty is that it could help the person who could potentially feel denied or frustrated.
Hypnosis isn't a "fix all," but it certainly is as multi-purpose as almost anything gets.
A real man doesn't love a million girls. He loves one girl in a million ways.
(I saw this quote, but no attribution. If you know if it should be attributed, please let me know.)
A few thoughts on this quote:
What exactly is a "real" man?
If you're not a "real" man, what are you?
Interesting to note the use of the word "man" with the word "girls" (as opposed to "women").
What kind of love are we talking about? Are we talking about sex? Are we talking about romantic love? Love falls into many categories, which one or ones are being referred to?
Does it even matter what kind of love it is?
The problem, as I see it, with this statement is that it limits the possibilities. What is so wrong with the idea of loving more than one person?
Nothing.
Unless.
Unless one considers all of the appendages that come along with that love, and becomes the definition of love. When love is appended, then it isn't about love any more. It is about those things instead.
There is something beautiful about relationships that are on the same page, and if two people want to focus on each other only, then loving each other (not just men, not just women) a million ways could potentially bring a kind of spark that can keep things going and bring steam to the relationship dynamic.
To make it seem like someone is inferior or a terrible person because they are open to caring about more than one person at a time just seems wrong to me (and I am not one usually to claim something as right or wrong).
It isn't an easy conversation to be had, or an easy tight rope to walk, as it takes communication and understanding between people that is uncommon. However, when two people can navigate those roads, and allow breathing room, one can always hope that it makes the world a better place in the process.
If two people are meant to be together, there is nothing that will keep them apart, and there is also nothing that can keep two people together if they are supposed to be apart. Trying to keep relationships going that should have ended in the name of "love" is one of the biggest errors we can make. Sometimes loving someone means letting that person go their separate way.
The more that we can identify the pieces and parts of what creates the dynamics in which we live, the less likely we are to be at the unconscious effect of them and the resulting choices.
Things that are so much a part of who we are, aren't recognized for what they are separate from who we are. If we were to be able to recognize them, we might also recognize that they don't really fit who we are or want to be.
What really matters is that you find your true self and allow yourself to be the person you were designed to be.
Is it easy? Will everyone around you like it or appreciate it? Likely the answer is NO.
Is it worth it?
Likely the answer will be YES.
There will always be disagreement. The question is what is important to you, and is it worth taking a stand for despite what others will say or think?
Of course, if you're in a relationship, the other person should matter. But if that relationship causes you to compromise in ways that compromise things that are important to you or has you doing things with a blatant disregard of the other person and their desires, it might be time to look at things and decide if a change might be warranted.
Different people are like different cars and, with each, your mileage will vary. There will be a lot less difficulty, conflict and disappointment and a lot more respect and love, if you know who you are first, and then find someone who is suited to your preferences.
The key then will be to remember that people and preferences change. When that happens, adjustments may become necessary. As much as we want things to remain the same they rarely, if ever, do.
While it is inherent in the message of the quote what the author believes is wrong, I'd say the only thing that is "wrong" is when one person's perspective is perpetuated as THE truth.
Sometimes men call me because they want to orgasm like women. Sometimes they want to be feminized so they can feel what it feels like. I tell them feminization is unnecessary if that is the only reason they want to be feminized.
Even as a guy it is possible to have that feeling of an orgasm over and over and over, and never physically come.
It is also possible to come without touching.
And both can be accomplished with or without hypnosis.
As a side note, I can't believe the inconsistency of YouTube. They allow a video like the one below, and ban other things that are a lot less sexual. It makes no sense to me.
Any way...let me know what you think of this idea and of the video!
While it has been rare for me to meet with someone live, I met
with someone while in Baltimore, and this is what he had to say
about our time together:
Recently experienced an arranged live, in-person session with Isis; days later I'm still reeling from being in Her presence and being Her good boy. All the pics, audio, and video were great and helped to give a general description of Isis' beauty. I was surprised, yet I shouldn't have been, that she was even more lovely than I imagined; I don't think any description I could give would do Her justice.
As with Her audio and video sessions, I felt very excited, soothed, and safe in Her capable hands. It's hard to remember how or when She got me under first; it all still feels like a blissful blur of sensual erotic stimulus now, and the details I feel are comfortably in the back of my mind. The smile on Isis' face was an indicator that things went exactly as She wanted them to, which made me happy in making Her happy. Never have I felt so confident and empowered after a session too; I know I've benefitted more from this meeting than originally anticipated.
My first in-person session with a hypnotist was a screaming success thanks to the hypnotist with heart. I only hope there are future opportunities She makes available. This is one of the best decisions I've ever made with hypnosis - meeting and trusting in Isis.
How do you know if what you are doing is the "right" thing?
How do you know that what you are doing is the "right" way to do it?
There are some things that can be painfully evident when something goes wrong, and there are many more that are a much more difficult call.
In the guilt ridden, socially judgmental world in which we live people are often driven to do what is "right" by someone else's standard, and in the process of trying to live up to what something "should" be wind up suffering as a result.
How do you know if something is the right thing for YOU?
You are at peace about it. When you know something is right, there is a sense of calm that prevails. If a situation you are in doesn't bring you peace, odds are the situation is in some way not the right one for you.
You also don't have to "try" to be someone or something. Odds are if you are trying to be something, it also isn't the right thing, or you're not with the right person.
This is not to say that sometimes there are things we need to look at or change about ourselves, however if you are trying because of what someone else thinks you should be or do, then it is likely not the right situation to be in.
Chances are good in either case you will find the more invested you are, the more likely you are to invest because you have already invested (NOT because you truly want to invest), and it is what is comfortable (even in your discomfort) and familiar. And the more that you invest in something that isn't right the more you will likely find yourself becoming angry, upset, even passive aggressive.
Situations that we force ourselves into often do not bring out the best of who we are, and quite often bring on feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness, frustration. Being something (or trying to be something) we're not does no one any favors.
Change will often be uncomfortable because it brings change. How do you know if you are making the right choice? Often you may not know, however, what you do know is how your current situation is, and if it has you unhappy, unsettled, and isn't giving you what you need, you can consider your levels of discomfort a sign to look at your situation, and perhaps consider a change.
When you find yourself an environment in which you are supposed to be, you will likely find that you have the greatest sense of peace you have ever had...
and wouldn't THAT be something?
(If you think about it, I bet you know exactly what I am talking about, don't you?)
However, I got a glimpse today of how far I've strayed.
A friend (who happens to be a guy) and I were spending time together today, and at one point we were going to play Wii. He told me to get my "strap on," in regard to the remote. However, my mind went elsewhere.
I am imagining - given this world in which I spend a lot of time - you know where my mind went.
My friend knows what I do, so he just kinda shook his head when he realized how I took it.
Made me wonder how sexual my world has become.
The other observation came when we went out for a walk. I was in his neighborhood, and I was taking pictures of things that to him, were "common."
I said that the mark of art is to make the common, uncommon. I like to find things appealing that others don't necessarily even pay attention to, and bring out their beauty.
I was loving taking pictures, and at one point I went to take a picture between two houses, and he was trying to get me to stop. I didn't know why, until we were walking away.
Turns out that the house is a big drug den that is a big problem in the neighborhood. Now before you wonder what kind of neighborhood I was in, I should tell you that it is a nice one...so nice that apparently the drug dealers decided to move in, too.
Guess it's another way of saying that within all things there are dichotomies. In plainness there is beauty. In beauty there is ugliness.
I would suppose it is all in what you are willing to see, or where your attention is drawn by those things around you. Where is your attention?
Apparently he was a plastic surgeon in Beverly Hills who had some very high profile clients.
On the 16th of this month, he passed away after his car plunged from a cliff.
There is speculation that he might have been tweeting at the time of the accident, as only 20 minutes before he had tweeted a picture of his dog.
I don't know about you, but something like this makes me think about how precious each moment of life is...as you never know when you'll be in the midst of your last one.
Only 20 minutes before he was seemingly loving and appreciating life.
It is so easy to let opportunities in life go by when you think there will always be another moment or another opportunity.
It is so easy to get caught up in the drama, the confusion, the excitement that life has to offer and lose sight of something that might truly make a difference, or have a desirable impact.
The beauty about life is that it can change in an instant, and it is also the thing in life that at times can cause regret from an experience unclaimed.
I'd say better to do the thing that speaks to you when you have the chance than to live in regret of an opportunity lost. I wouldn't even mention regret, except for the fact that all too many people find their way to its company, and sometimes wind up living with it for a lifetime.
There are ways to cope with situations like that, and you might be amazed at what is possible...if you've ever had something like that, and would like to change the way you experience it (which likely means - in part - that you are willing to stop beating yourself up), let's talk about the possibilities.
In the meantime, consider looking at what life has presented you right here right now, and imbibing all that you find juicy and delicious.
1. My "neighbor" called, wanting to know if I could give him my impressions of his new bathing suit. He also wanted me to bring over some of that wonderful coconut oil sunscreen.
Usually I don't take calls like that (ones that aren't hypnosis or purely sensually oriented), but yesterday I figured what the heck? So I just went with what he was saying, hoping that I wouldn't have to back out at an inopportune time. He got what he needed, and just hung up when the time ended. No personal connection whatsoever, I was just a conduit for his moment of fantasy. I realize this may be common in the phone sex world but not in my experience, as I don't do typical phone sex calls, so it was an unusual call for me.
2. One caller wanted to be verbally humiliated.
I told him that that I was "too nice" and wouldn't be able to pull it off. I said if it was that important to him, he needed to find someone else. Call ended.
Even if I could "pull it off," I wouldn't want to. I am not interested in reinforcing suggestions of inadequacy hypnotically, or in any other way for that matter.
3. Another person expressed an interest in hypnosis. When I asked if he had the time, and explained how I do things, he said yes. Right after we get the "1 minute remaining" and I tell him to be sure to add the right amount (suspecting he might not) telling him he could be wasting his money otherwise. He "yeses" me and then, surprise (not), he hangs up when the time runs out, not to be heard from him again.
I often get asked about the types of calls and callers I get, so hopefully entries like this are helpful and/or of interest. I would tend to think that it would give some insight into how I am. Those it doesn't work for will know to find someone else, those it works for will be more sure they want to call me, and for those who are just plain curious, it is a nibble to feed that appetite.
"What if someone you never met, someone you never saw, someone you never knew was the only someone for you?" (Sleepless in Seattle Movie Tagline)
While it is a far fetched type of story, the things that seem impossible and unlikely are the ones that often take us by surprise and run us over like a MACK truck, because we're looking in a different direction. Thankfully, most times those are good things, and "recovery" can be swift and amazing, if we are willing to see the impossible unfold in front of us and allow the experience to surround us, taking us to places never thought possible (sounds a little like hypnosis to me).
I love the playfulness of this song from the movie, and the analogy of two people in a relationship being like a "wink and a smile."
I was dreaming about a friend of mine, and her husband. In the dream he was talking about how she (my friend) had some rules for him when they first got together, one of which was "Don't break my heart."
I don't remember much more about the dream, but I woke up thinking about how as a whole people don't want their heart to break, and how this belief has them interact with others.
For some, it never means reaching out, and allowing the vulnerability that begets love. For others, when things don't work out they blame the person who broke their heart for not treating the love the way they believe it should have been treated.
The problem is that (as I have discussed before) sometimes people confuse love with the things that come to represent love so when those things go away, the appearance of love tends to disappear with it.
Notice I said "appearance" because love can still be present, and just not look and feel the way the recipient wants it to.
The question might be if a person doesn't recognize love, does love exist?
It's a valid question, and one can't look at the question without considering the responsibility aspect for all parties concerned. Who is responsible for the recognition of love?
There is also the language factor in love. Some "speak" love differently than others. If someone speaks it differently, one must either learn the other's language, teach their own language, or at least learn how to interpret what is there so that each person can benefit from what is available.
So many factors...it is amazing how we manage to get along sometimes, you know?
The fact is that love can exist for another without there having to be sex or a relationship involved. Sometimes it is an act of love to break up with someone if things aren't working out.
Society in general doesn't often make these distinctions, and when expectations that love is going to look, sound, and feel a certain way aren't met by someone they're in love with, often that is when a person feels that their heart is broken by that person.
And who has those expectations? The person who feels that they're heart is broken, not the person perceived to be breaking the heart.
So if you ever think that someone has the possibility of breaking your heart, you may want to think again.
Just so you know, I know this isn't easy. Relationships can sometimes be so very rewarding, especially when our hopes and desires (often translated into expectations) are met by another we care about.
There are sometimes disappointments when something shifts, and we no longer have what we need. That is when it is important to find out what is important, and when communication is even more important than before.
Relationships can be forced by their expectations, but they become uncomfortable nightmares. Is that what you really want?
Odds are I would think not. That is why you'd likely want to know how to separate out the things that matter and know how to communicate with others about them in a way that is responsible to you and honors the other person.
Possible? Yes. Easy? Well...like anything, it can get easier with time and with practice.
Sometimes love means growing together, and sometimes love means saying good bye. Knowing, acknowledging, and loving yourself (among other things) will give you the ability to recognize which is which, and even if you were to find yourself without what you need, you might be able to avoid the feeling that someone has "broken your heart."
If you think about it, what you are most likely to be feeling is a case of disappointment that things didn't go the way YOU wanted them to, based on expectations YOU had, and while the other person was involved, what is ultimately causing you the feeling is -- YOU.
Sorry...I know it is so much better and easier to blame the other person. Ooops, maybe I should have warned you before you read too far? That's OK...if that is you, I can always hypnotize you to forget what you just read. ;)
On the other hand, the good news is that if anyone ever tells you you broke their heart, you now know better.
Be well, and be loved.
PS Have you heard my recordings about love? If not, check this out (click here) for more on love and the recordings.
I speak with people all of the time who are insecure about their looks.
If you're one of them, you're not alone...not by a long shot.
In the superficial world in which we live, there are those who would like to define an ultimate sense of what attractive is, and heaven help someone who isn't secure within if they don't live up to it.
I don't know about you, but in my experience there is no absolute when it comes to defining beauty, despite what the media may want us to believe.
I remember meeting someone once I had come to care about, but hadn't physically met in person. He was nothing physically like "my type."
At first, I wasn't sure what I thought, but there certainly wasn't an immediate attraction.
However I was attracted to who he was, and how he was in relation to me, and I found myself assimilating his looks with the inner self that I found so attractive, and it wasn't long before I was attracted to the whole of who he was.
It wasn't the first time something like that had happened, either.
Being open to the idea that someone can be attracted to you for who you are and not how you are packaged can give you a sense of peace, if you let it. Not only that, but your "package" becomes more attractive, the more the other person experiences the beauty within you.
Before you think that I disregard the outer wrapping, I will also say that even the most attractive person physically can appear quite unattractive, if what is on the inside is ugly.
Believe it, or not, I don't think I am "all that," but there are some who would call me gorgeous. I may be OK in the physical department, but I suspect part of the "gorgeous factor" is what they see in who and how I am in relation to the qualities they deem attractive.
There is beauty in each one of us, and it is worn on each person differently, and filtered by other people differently.
When you are secure in who you are, it is only natural that you will radiate attractiveness to those who will appreciate you for all that you are.
Will it be for everyone? Nope!
However, the more comfortable you are with yourself, the more likely you will be able to allow others to see that part of you, as your insecurity can obscure the beauty that is you.
Just because someone is beautiful, doesn't mean they're attractive.
Just because someone is attractive, doesn't mean they're beautiful.
Just because one finds another to be beautiful or attractive, doesn't mean another will agree.
A beautiful and/or attractive person isn't predisposed to being capable of, or being in, happy and healthy relationships.
That leaves a lot of open territory and wiggle room for appreciating the one you are with or finding her, if you haven't yet.
PS Here is another way hypnosis can help in a practical way. For example, I have noticed if I am hypnotizing someone to be more confident, I can see their expression changing and s/he becomes more attractive (if the person can be seen). If I can only hear the person's voice, the quality of voice will change, and become more attractive.
Working with is going on between your two ears can make all the difference in what happens in your body and your experience with others, and how others experience you.
Things that don't fit logically may get bumped by things that "seem" to fit.
The problem is, sometimes it's an illusion.
Sometimes things don't seem make sense.
Sometimes things don't seem to fit.
Sometimes the thing to do isn't the thing logic would dictate.
That gut feeling, the feeling that comes from the heart of who you are, knows what is best, and sometimes you may risk being the fool. But odds are you are in good company.
I bet these people were being most illogical in their time in their approach.
Consider that a needed answer may not lie in logic. Consider that the answer you may need to change YOUR world may require you to be (in the words of the video) "crazy" or (in the words of this blog) illogical.
I see people in the phone sex and erotic hypnotic world who get taken advantage of, and seem to ask for it. I can't help but wonder what prompts the openness to abuse.
I want to say they deserve better. However, when I think about it, I wonder if they think they deserve better. If they don't think they deserve better, then perhaps they deserve what they get.
Frankly, I don't like the sound of abuse any which way it is sliced, especially since I think there is a lot that can go into it, mostly unconscious.
If you are a person who seeks that treatment, or settles for it, perhaps you could be treated better if you were willing to consider that you deserved better. It will take a change of attitude to change the atmosphere, and sometimes a change of atmosphere will bring a change of attitude.
If you don't believe you deserve better, you will find yourself with those people and circumstances that reinforce your perceived position. On some level it works for you, because it is where you are.
But it doesn't mean that it truly does work. If you find yourself doubtful or regretful or angry or frustrated, these are most certainly signs that a change likely would be welcome...and, if that is the case, know that you CAN change. It may not be easy, but perhaps easier than you might realize, and it most certainly IS possible.
As usual, this applies to other relationships and experiences in other contexts within our world, as well. The more discontented you are, the more you might want to consider there is something to address that you've been avoiding.
If it's time for a change, and you need a hand, or a friendly voice, let's talk.
Since not everyone does the Niteflirt "thing," and because Niteflirt limits the number of characters in comments, I got to thinking that it might be cool to have an entry that people can comment on with their experiences of me.
Here is a chance to do something that would most certainly please me. I always like to share with others about what happens in a session, and always better to come from the "horse's mouth."
It can be a comment that is about a specific session or recording or file, or it can be more specific to your experience of me. You can comment as many times as you like, should there be a unique and enticing reason to share.
I want this to be helpful and valuable for anyone who might be considering introducing themselves to me.
Commenting anonymously is OK, although it would likely carry a little more weight if you were to sign it in some way. It's up to you, however you feel most comfortable acting upon this request.
Thank you for taking the time to share. So often I am told the reason that I am contacted is because of what others have had to say, so I know that those shared tidbits are vital and likely have everything to do with why I continue to get to meet great new people.
Sometimes we need to hear what we already know. Sometimes we need to be reminded of who we already are. Sometimes we need a loving heart a compassionate ear and to know who we are is OK.
From the sound of the article, there are other close knit relationships that have come from the resulting bonding. It is difficult for me to comprehend why certain things happen as they do, and I can't help but wonder if there are other ways that things could happen. As much as those people likely cherish the relationships formed, I am sure they likely would have preferred their loved ones still be here.
(This conversation reminds me of the movie Sliding Doors. Ever see it? If not, if I had a list of recommended movies, this one would most certainly be on it. It may make you think, so don't watch it if you're wanting to avoid having to think. ;)
In it you get to see the main character (Gwyneth Paltrow) live out her life in two different ways, one based on her catching a train, the other with her missing it. There are 2 Gwenyth's that know nothing of the trials and tribulations of the other.)
There are times that we are very much aware of what pain we have in our life, and perhaps the thing in instances like that is that within life there is both joy and sorrow, and we can choose to focus on either one.
That above mentioned couple chooses to focus on their love, while still acknowledging what has come before - and even building upon it. I don't imagine that sorrow and pain are meant to be ignored or forgotten, and we'll likely never know why things happen as they do.
And since events that we can't control, and will possibly never understand, are likely to continue to occur, it probably is not what happens as much as what we do in relation to what happens that matters. As a result, our actions and how we interact with the events will ultimately make the difference in how we experience life and what comes next.
There are times that people become affected by suggestions and become dual minded.
A part of them wants the suggestion, and a part of them wants it to stop.
Unless the part that wants them to stop acts on the desire to stop, the part that wants them to keep going will will.
Not only is it often is the path of least resistance, it is also often (especially in the erotic, hypnotic world) one full of potential pleasure lost.
It might be difficult for the mind to conceptualize that things can be different, however in cases where there is a dual mind odds are that a difference can be not only a good thing, it can even be better than what one thinks he has.
If you're conflicted, it might be time to change song(s) and/or partner(s).
I know all too often I have goodies that people miss for one reason or another, so I have decided that I will keep the 8 Days of Isis available until the end of August.
So if you'd like to give me a belated birthday present, and help yourself to an awesome birthday yourself, feel free to partake after the fact. Read here for the original details
Thanks to one of my good boys who suggested a month long celebration. :)
For the final day I have 2 options for you, both of which have surprises included. Since I want this to be more about what you'd like to do for me, you won't know what you get until you open the Pay Email.
Hopefully the idea of the gift will make you feel good, which means that anything else is really just the cherry on top!
VERY IMPORTANT: There is nothing inside for anyone who hasn't participated all 8 days. If you want what is included you will need to go back and participate in the pay emails of the last week.
Pick one or the other:
Option One:
Option Two (an even bigger gift for me): (Includes option one, plus more)
Want to really splurge? (a VERY generous Payment Request) (no prior participation required)
Want an alternative? Any of these would be great (but they would stand alone, and would not be a part of the above 8 Days of Isis offers)
When you're in the middle of beating yourself up, there is rarely any rational thinking.
In the midst of pain, anger, and disappointment it is easy to be blinded to anything helpful.
It is the times in between those moments that we have opportunities for perspectives that will help us at those times when we are our most vulnerable.
Often we don't like that term: vulnerable. We don't like the idea that we can't be as strong as we need to be. However consider that by allowing yourself to have support in a time of need, you are making yourself strong.
Structures have supports that allow them to stand, why would we think that our structure isn't the same?
Why did we ever decide that we were weak because we may at times be stronger when supported?
Today I am thoughtful about this because someone I know is having a crisis and as I have helped, I am reminded about how many humans (including myself) can be.
We have trip wires that can be counterproductive to what we think we are doing while we are busy beating ourselves up.
Sometimes you'll be your best self, and it won't be "enough."
Sometimes you'll do the best you can, and it won't be "enough."
Sometimes you'll do all that you are able, and it won't be "enough."
Sometimes who you are won't fit the situation in the way you think it needs to for the outcome you desire.
Sometimes you'll want to control everything, but feel like you control nothing.
Sometimes life sucks.
Human beings sometimes strive for a level of perfection that could never exist. We can never be all things to all people at all times in all places...and yet, the minute something goes wrong we kick ourselves because somehow we should have been able to be just that.
Even if we could somehow seem to be that perfect, I suspect that there would be some other standard above that, given the way we seem to be wired. So odds are we would set ourselves up to fail, as we'd never be enough as long as there is some standard we haven't met, that we never could meet.
Sometimes our pain and grief and anger can play a role in getting through, and sometimes it is destructive. Sometimes it can motivate, other times it can make someone immobile.
I wish I knew how to "make things right" when things seem to go wrong. But...
Sometimes life will suck. Sometimes we will suck. Sometimes we'll disappoint. Sometimes we'll be disappointed.
We can demand all the certainty we want in life. The problem is: we live in an uncertain world.
The next time something happens and you are tempted to beat yourself up go a few rounds, if you must.
But realize that beating yourself up doesn't change a thing on the inside. As odd as it may sound, you are always likely doing the best you can at any given moment. Give yourself a break.
I have heard that at the rate that we are growing things, we are depleting the soil's nutrients. It sounds troubling, and yet it seems we keep going.
The video below apparently showcases an old idea that is getting an opportunity in a 2010 setting on a rooftop in New York City.
As with anything, who knows what the good and the bad of anything is, unless you're intimately involved, but it seems like a solution that is worth looking into for a myriad of reasons, and a variety of people.
Here is a case where it would seem that the change might just do us some good.
So many times I talk with guys who have a fantasy about an "evil hypnotist" that can make them do things, or have control over them and their orgasms, even their ability to get hard.
What they don't realize is that fantasy can become reality, and what one wishes for one might just get.
I know of instances when this has happened, and while some may think how lucky a guy was for it, it often can happen even when someone is married or in a relationship.
Is the fantasy worth the risk that any short term pleasure might give you? What if anything ever happened to that domme or hypnotist? Some guys don't know where to turn in a case like that, or in a case where he might want to "escape" from the situation he finds himself in, and the person buries him even more deeply as he tries to get out.
Who would you tell? What would you tell?
If you are doing things that are potentially detrimental to your life and well being or that is potentially detrimental to someone, or a relationship, you care about, that is a very important time to step back and look at things.
You CAN have even MORE pleasure from taking care of yourself and the things that matter to you than setting out on a path of that might look like pleasure, but really is likely to lead to some form of destruction.
Your mind may dispute it or question it. It may seek to get its "hit," even as you spiral in a direction that has an unhelpful/unhealthy dynamic.
Our wiring is meant to help us, but often it can be used against us.
If you're in a situation and need some help, I might be able to help you. If you're still in fantasy mode, please be careful, and respect your mind enough to know that you may get a surprise at some point, and it may not be a pleasant one.
Ask anyone who has been in an abusive relationship why they stayed, odds are if they didn't say something like, "I love her," he would likely tell you he didn't know why.
Dysfunction of any type that has this "pull," seems inexplicable, seems unable to escape or change, has its own polarity and magnet...and it is called the unconscious or subconscious.
It is the part of the person that drives them to do certain things, even if they are violent or hurtful to one's self or others.
I don't know that I could say this is a 100% kind of way, however it would seem to me to be a very high percentage of the time.
For some, love is pain. Love is arguing. Love is fighting and making up. The definition of love depends very much on the individual's experience of what s/he believed to be love, and the associations s/he made. The person then makes choices to find love in the only way it knows how.
(There are other factors, as well...hard to have a comprehensive conversation of a complex topic in a short blog entry.)
Eminem's song/video below is intense. It speaks to the most violent of relationships, however, there are all kinds of abuse, and some of the worst isn't even as obvious as being mistreated physically. Just because there is no physical experience of mistreatment doesn't mean that a person isn't mistreated.
Some people are good at manipulating others with just their words...and it's a form of influence, and perhaps even hypnosis of the non-trance kind. When that is added to the mix it becomes a form of suggestion, and makes a bad situation even more difficult to extricate oneself from.
Some people may read this or view the video and go, "huh?" I noticed there were some comments on YouTube, as some didn't understand that message of the music. In some way they may even be like those who believe they could never be hypnotized to do something detrimental and believe that hypnosis isn't really real, and don't understand how some could get into the difficulties they do.
Hopefully they will never truly understand the message from a personal experience point of view, but perhaps they can still have some form of understanding and/or compassion for another who knows all too well what it means.
If you find yourself stuck, you CAN get unstuck. Is it likely to be easy? Probably not...but with enough desire, you can find your way. Better yet, afterward you'll wonder why you didn't leave sooner. When that happens celebrate the perspective, and be kind to yourself...you did the best you could with who you were at that moment in time.
*curious about the title of this blog? Be sure to watch video, reference at 3:19.
I have been hearing about how the light bulbs that we are currently
using are going to be phased out. In the back of my mind, I
imagined stocking up on a lifetime supply before they were no longer
available in stores. I also thought that the difference between the
new bulbs and old ones would only be how the top part of the
bulb looked, so I thought I would always have a choice: same
fixture, but using preferred bulb type.
I guess a part of me was apathetic about it all. It seemed to be
the way we were going, but it hadn't yet affected me.
Yesterday that changed.
Where I live there is a requirement that lighting be more energy
efficient. I had hoped that I would have a choice, that perhaps
just the bulbs were going to be changed.
Sadly, I found out that the new fixtures are made differently than
the old ones because the bulbs are made differently. It makes me
wonder if it is a way of forcing people into using the new bulbs.
I am not one for much lighting to begin with, however I am now
seeking ways to have different lighting that isn't fluorescent. Yes,
the newer light bulbs aren't as hideous as what flourescents have
been in the past, but there are two main issues I have with them.
If you break one of these new lightbulbs, you have a toxic mess on
your hands. There is an 11 step process for cleaning up the toxic
waste you now have in your home. In addition, apparently there
aren't clear cut disposal methods for these bulbs, so that mercury
is supposedly getting places where it shouldn't be. I also understand
that the bulbs are made overseas, so I cannot imagine that it is a
good thing that something that has become so crucial to our way of
life isn't even made here.
I am not sure I agree with everything said in this video, but here is
some interesting perspective on the topic:
The video below talks about the disposal of the bulbs and the dangers
of Mercury, and assures people that it is the "right" thing to do for the
planet. Wondering if they're hypnotized, or just want us to be?
Added to the Mercury Issue, which is no small one, is the fact that
there are many people who seem to be affected adversely by
fluorescent lighting. Those who aren't affected poo-poo it, and
make fun of those who are, taking this particular part of the issue
lightly. However, there does seem to be some credence to the
possibility that lighting like this can cause issues for some, and
this law takes away the ability for there to be other options, short
of going back to candlelight, or stocking up on incandescent light
bulbs, and holding onto older lamps and fixtures.
So now I am more aware of the situation, but don't know what if
anything can be done. I suspect that there are many who are like
me who were (and are) just bopping along, and won't care much
about this until it's too late.
For the moment, I will just write about this, and my concerns, and
see if anyone out there may have some thoughts. I am all for
helping the environment. I am just not sure that this is the way
to do it, and if anything, it seems like it might potentially cause
more harm than good because we are good about not caring about
those things that are outside of what we can see. Look at how we
already handle waste.
I was told that by making these changes, I would save on electricity.
I already was only using 2 of 4 bulbs that were in a couple of my
fixtures. Perhaps if we just cut back on what we had it would help,
too. The bulb legislation to me seems to be more of a reaction, and
about money than anything else.
Of course, we need to be led to believe otherwise.
Our country was founded on the freedom of choice, and it seems
to me that - in our best interests - our freedom to choose is being
taken away little by little. I can't imagine what is motivating the
people who are making these choices on our behalf. I'd like to give
the benefit of the doubt, but this does not seem thought through
for the best all round effect.
Ignorance and apathy only feed situations like this, and unless
something happens to alter the plan, the world in which we live will
be looking much different in just a few short years from now, and
that will likely just be the beginning. I am usually a pretty positive
person, but I don't even want to think about what repercussions this
may bring in ways we don't yet know or realize.
If you want someone to do something when they're hypnotized, you
give them only the choices you want them to have...and they may
be no choice at all. You can also get them to believe that the choice
they make is theirs, and that it is the one that is "best" for them.
When we no longer recognize our ability to have other choices it
verges on too late. However there are always other choices...we just
to have to allow ourselves to see them unfettered by the fog of
limitation that is often brought upon us by someone or something
else.
There is no question tough choices need to be made, but perhaps we
should consider that they need to be made more on a micro (personal)
level than a macro (government) one. Isn't that the way government
in this country is supposed to work any way?
Being responsible for our choices is different than being made to be
responsible. The minute human beings start to manipulate things is
the moment that other issues are likely to arise.
I'll leave you with this last thought about a bigger picture awareness
with smaller picture actions:
"Among the Indians there have been no written laws. Customs handed
down from generation to generation have been the only laws to guide
them. Every one might act different from what was considered right
did he choose to do so, but such acts would bring upon him the
censure of the Nation. This fear of the Nation's censure acted as a
mighty band, binding all in one social, honorable compact."
- Quote by Tecumseh, Shawnee Indian Tribe
How can we better honor ourselves and the world in which we live?
