Insecure about your looks?...You're not alone.

I speak with people all of the time
who are insecure about their looks.

If you're one of them, you're not
alone...not by a long shot.

In the superficial world in which
we live, there are those who would
like to define an ultimate sense
of what attractive is, and heaven
help someone who isn't secure within
if they don't live up to it.

I don't know about you, but in my
experience there is no absolute
when it comes to defining beauty,
despite what the media may want us
to believe.

I remember meeting someone once I
had come to care about, but hadn't
physically met in person. He was
nothing physically like "my type."

At first, I wasn't sure what I
thought, but there certainly wasn't
an immediate attraction.

However I was attracted to who he
was, and how he was in relation to
me, and I found myself assimilating
his looks with the inner self that
I found so attractive, and it wasn't
long before I was attracted to the
whole of who he was.

It wasn't the first time something
like that had happened, either.

Being open to the idea that someone
can be attracted to you for who you
are and not how you are packaged
can give you a sense of peace, if
you let it. Not only that, but your
"package" becomes more attractive,
the more the other person experiences
the beauty within you.

Before you think that I disregard the
outer wrapping, I will also say that
even the most attractive person
physically can appear quite unattractive,
if what is on the inside is ugly.

Believe it, or not, I don't think
I am "all that," but there are some
who would call me gorgeous. I may
be OK in the physical department,
but I suspect part of the "gorgeous
factor" is what they see in who and
how I am in relation to the qualities
they deem attractive.

There is beauty in each one of us,
and it is worn on each person
differently, and filtered by other
people differently.

When you are secure in who you are,
it is only natural that you will
radiate attractiveness to those who
will appreciate you for all that
you are.

Will it be for everyone?
Nope!

However, the more comfortable you
are with yourself, the more likely
you will be able to allow others
to see that part of you, as your
insecurity can obscure the beauty
that is you.

Just because someone is beautiful,
doesn't mean they're attractive.

Just because someone is attractive,
doesn't mean they're beautiful.

Just because one finds another to
be beautiful or attractive,
doesn't mean another will agree.

A beautiful and/or attractive person
isn't predisposed to being capable
of, or being in, happy and healthy
relationships.

That leaves a lot of open territory
and wiggle room for appreciating the
one you are with or finding her, if
you haven't yet.

PS Here is another way hypnosis can
help in a practical way. For example,
I have noticed if I am hypnotizing
someone to be more confident, I can
see their expression changing and s/he
becomes more attractive (if the person
can be seen). If I can only hear the
person's voice, the quality of voice
will change, and become more attractive.

Working with is going on between your
two ears can make all the difference
in what happens in your body and your
experience with others, and how others
experience you.

If this is of interest, let's talk!