How do you know?

How do you know if what you are doing
is the "right" thing?

How do you know that what you are
doing is the "right" way to do it?

There are some things that can be
painfully evident when something
goes wrong, and there are many more
that are a much more difficult call.

In the guilt ridden, socially judgmental
world in which we live people are often
driven to do what is "right" by someone
else's standard, and in the process of
trying to live up to what something
"should" be wind up suffering as a result.

How do you know if something is the
right thing for YOU?

You are at peace about it. When you
know something is right, there is a
sense of calm that prevails. If a
situation you are in doesn't bring
you peace, odds are the situation is
in some way not the right one for you.

You also don't have to "try" to be
someone or something. Odds are if you
are trying to be something, it also
isn't the right thing, or you're not
with the right person.

This is not to say that sometimes
there are things we need to look at
or change about ourselves, however
if you are trying because of what
someone else thinks you should be
or do, then it is likely not the
right situation to be in.

Chances are good in either case you
will find the more invested you are,
the more likely you are to invest
because you have already invested
(NOT because you truly want to invest),
and it is what is comfortable (even
in your discomfort) and familiar.
And the more that you invest in
something that isn't right the more
you will likely find yourself becoming
angry, upset, even passive aggressive.

Situations that we force ourselves
into often do not bring out the best
of who we are, and quite often bring
on feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness,
frustration. Being something (or
trying to be something) we're not
does no one any favors.

Change will often be uncomfortable
because it brings change. How do
you know if you are making the
right choice? Often you may not
know, however, what you do know is
how your current situation is, and
if it has you unhappy, unsettled,
and isn't giving you what you need,
you can consider your levels of
discomfort a sign to look at your
situation, and perhaps consider a
change.

When you find yourself an environment
in which you are supposed to be, you
will likely find that you have the
greatest sense of peace you have ever had...

and wouldn't THAT be something?

(If you think about it, I bet you
know exactly what I am talking
about, don't you?)