Just because you can...

does it mean you should?

Previously I have written about how just
because I can give someone something,
doesn't mean I should.

This time I am turning it around. Just
because you can ask for, and get, something,
does it mean you should?

Lately there are some I have spoken with
who have admitted to asking for things
hypnotically that they knew weren't the
best for them. In some regards, the
reaction is like a shrug, but in others
there is concern, and even some disdain.

Logically people know things. Logically
a person knows if he stops putting
cigarettes up to his lips, he can stop
smoking. Logically most people know that
if they stop eating ice cream every night
they will likely lose weight.

Logically we know a lot of things, and
yet we still find ourselves indulging in
ways that aren't exactly the best for us.
It is likely the work of our subconscious
driving us. Since it seeks what is familiar,
in cases of the hypnotic edge, it may seek
out the excitement of something new (the
excitement being the familiar feeling) over
and over for the dopamine hit.

For some, the new, the edge is like a drug.
For some, the "drug" numbs what is going on
in one's life that one is not happy with.
Some look and look and look for something,
but never find it because what they are
looking for isn't what the think they are
looking for. What they say they are looking
for is only a "fix." And because it is a
fix, it is likely a new "hit" will be needed
at some point.

Life isn't always easy. Life can even really
suck at times. Unfortunately we have way too
many numbing options available to us, along
with an unwillingness sometimes to deal with
the "real" issues at hand. To be fair, we
don't always realize that our perceived
reality is nothing more than a ruse, so we
have no way to know that there might be something
else to consider.

Having said that, if you find yourself drawn to
things that aren't the best or healthiest for you,
and you find yourself conflicted, odds are there
is something else that is seeking expression or
some form of attention.

It might just be a good idea to step back and
start asking some questions before seeking out
that thing that you want to have, just because
you can. It may not be easy, but it might be
more rewarding than that path you are about to
go down.

Just my couple of cents. As always, your thoughts
are welcome, privately or publicly (I often think
it is helpful when others share publicly, as it
helps people to know they aren't alone in their
experience. So if you are willing, thank you!)

Be well.

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