Me? A Phone Sex Operator?

I received a call from a first time caller
today. I knew it wasn't going to go well
pretty quickly.

For starters, he asked me my "real" name.
When I told him I go by "Isis," he said
that was disappointing because he liked
talking to "real" people.

At that point I actually encouraged him
to go elsewhere, because I already had a
feeling things weren't going to click,
however he said he might be OK, depending
on how good I was. He also made a point
of telling me he wasn't submissive (not
a big deal, really, but I was getting the
feeling he was anything but).

He started to tell me how freaky he was,
and it seemed as though he didn't know
I was a hypnotist, so I clarified that
point, and that was when the call pretty
much abruptly ended.

I've had several calls like that recently,
and it has gotten me thinking about the
arena of phone sex, in general.

For a long time I have been told that I
have a "voice for phone sex." That was
before my voice ever showed up on any
phone sex sites.

I have always said that I would never want
to do phone sex, and have never considered
what I do to be phone sex, at least not in
a "traditional" (kind of an ironic word in
this context, don't you think?) sense.

This is not to put it, or those who do it,
down, or make any judgments of it, but
rather just a personal assessment of what
I believe is expected in contrast to what
I believe I can deliver. I never prolong
a conversation in which the intended
outcome is something I am unable to
accommodate - in any context - hypnotic,
or otherwise.

And...in a "traditional" phone sex situation,
I guarantee you, I would suck - lol - and
not in a good way, for those whose mind just
went in "that" direction.

I know labels help us to know how to
interact with someone, and help us to know
what to expect, but it is that same
"knowledge" that can get in the way of
effective communication.

Maybe someone knows what he wants, and
what he likes, and I can appreciate that,
however it is unfair to expect me to
conform to what he thinks I should do,
and how I should be. I could hang a sign
out that says I cut hair, but I guarantee
you just because I have that label, doesn't
mean you're going to like what I do for you.

If you've read my blog for a while, or have
spoken to me at any length, odds are you know
how I feel about labels. Maybe this is a
label I need to deal with and accept, however,
it needs to be on my own terms.

It did get me wondering, though, how others
experience/view things.

So...for those who know me, and have called
me, I would like to ask you three questions:

Do you consider what we do "phone sex"?
Do you consider me a PSO (phone sex operator)?
How do you define phone sex?

I'd like to know whatever your answer may
be, privately or within the comments, it's
up to you. As always your comments and
thoughts are welcome.

Thanks.