advantage of them, and there are times that
they "hint" at it, instead of being direct.
When I don't go that route, they usually are
gone pretty quickly. I get some who try to
manipulate me into manipulating them, and
they're often quite unsuccessful.
I have had opportunities to take advantage
of callers, and as tempting as some might
think it would be, I wouldn't be able to
live with myself.
If I knew that I was contributing to some
behavior that was detrimental to another or
important people or things in their life,
I wouldn't be able to be OK with it...and
it doesn't matter whether it was deserved,
or asked for, or any other thing one might
come up with to justify it.
Whenever someone is generous with me, I
always make it clear that it can't be to
their own detriment. When I do that, I
wind up passing on some "opportunities"
for "gifts."
Kermit used to say "it's not easy being
green" well, sometimes it's not easy being
me. I sometimes sit back in awe as I watch
those who are willing to take advantage of
others doing quite well for themselves,
and watch while some people that have come
to me at one time or another do things that
are self-destructing.
The pull toward the "negative" is incredible
to me. Some would say it is pain, self-
loathing, a need to punish oneself. The
negative, sadly, feeds off of itself. One
who feels a need to be punished hurts himself
more to only feel a greater need to punish
himself for more perceived wrongs.
I won't pretend to understand it all, however,
what I DO know is that the cycle can be broken,
and that anyone caught up in it IS WORTHY of
better treatment and capable of different
behavior. Notice I didn't say "better" behavior.
I do my best to refrain from judgment of the
choices of others, as some might be just fine
with the results. The only place I take issue
is when I know that a person who is doing
what he is doing is unhappy about it, being
guided and encouraged by another to do it,
and suffering in the process.
Some who are in my shoes won't take the time
to find that out, and if they did, they
wouldn't care.
My rules are different, and I will always seek
to find out how someone feels about what I am
doing, and even if he doesn't care, I DO.
I truly would like to believe that no one really
wants to hurt themselves, and if they're not
going to look out for themselves (or aren't sure
how to help themselves, or have difficulty making
choices more suited to would be a better personal
choice), I am unwilling to help them dig a bigger
hole.
We're all hypnotized all of the time, and are
affected by our stresses and interactions with
others. Sometimes we can't see the forest for
the trees, and eventually if that is the case,
a person will hide in the forest in shame.
Please know if that is you, you aren't alone,
and you don't need to hide. There is at least
one person in this world who would do their
best to help you see things more clearly for
yourself, and in that one moment when you are
desiring to make that change, pick up the phone
and call me.
The time to act is in the moment of the thought
of the action, and never a second later, as you
will talk yourself out of it each and every time,
and talk yourself back into more of what is
causing you pain. If this is you, the pain is
comfortable in that it is familiar, so it will
always beckon you back.
If you are in pain or feel conflict, my heart
goes out to you, however there is nothing I
can do from here, unless you are willing to
make a change, and reach out to me.
The choice is yours, and I respect whatever
it is. However, if this speaks to you, let's
talk, and see what we can create together.
(By the way, in the erotic phone sex world
often someone will offer "help," only to turn
around and "use" what they know to further
bury a person. Just in case there is any
question in your mind (or hope) that this
is what that is, let me tell you, it's NOT.
It is anything but a bait and switch.)
You might be amazed at what is possible, if
you're willing to step out of your uncomfortable
"comfort" zone.
All the BEST to you,
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