The most difficult thing to be is what
other people want you to be."
- Leo Buscaglia, from his book Love
If you never heard of him, it would be no
surprise. The book I read is (c)1972. I
think the Amazon link goes to the same book,
but I am not certain.
This man was apparently, according to his
book and video (below) thought to be "crazy"
and ridiculed for his interest in, of all
things, LOVE: something so basic to being
human, and largely ignored.
He has some very wise words, and a few
things stuck out to me. One of those
things was the above quote. At some time
or another, I think I have likely said
something similar.
We try so hard to be like others, when
it is indeed so much easier to be ourselves.
I have spoken to so many people in the
last several years, and while much of it
may have been sexual, a lot of it has
been "human." I have gotten to hear about
the sadness of not being able to be oneself.
I have gotten to hear about the shame.
I have gotten to hear the frustrations
of having to hide.
I suppose if you're going to "come out"
it is best to come out with something
that seems somehow acceptable. However,
in Leo's case, he might as well have
come out and said he was into any kink,
as much as the reaction he had was
seemingly adverse and difficult, and
he had to be "OK" with being judged.
I love what he says in the video about
being judged as "crazy."
Not everything about us is going to be
perfect, or even work for us. However,
WE need to be the ones to decide for
ourselves what needs amending.
When there is a part of us that "nags"
at us, it is likely that it is a part
that wants to be fully embraced.
Is it easy to do that? Often the answer
is a resounding (and maybe even
deafening) "NO."
I can truly only speak for myself.
There are parts to me that I had an
issue with at other times in my life
which once the first steps to out myself
were taken in trepidation, I was able to
speak about it as freely
as yesterday's lunch.
However, life being that great journey,
there are always new ways to uncover
and discover oneself and I am ever
amazed at how life gives me new
opportunities to gift me with myself.
And...the more I have of myself, the
more I have to give to others.
If you are having questions, you
will find your way, if you are willing
to step into the uncomfortable territory
of the Unknown. Interestingly,
hypnosis can help you uncover the
things you believe, and why you
believe them, and help you move
forward if you're feeling stuck
and/or trapped (you knew I was
going to say that, didn't you?).
While hypnosis is a way, it is
hardly THE way. You are able to
discover (and truly be) yourself
as long as you have a willingness
to be open and explore.
There is much (in my opinion) to value
about the uniqueness of who you are...
and I hope you will allow it to shine
for those around you. The interesting
thing about those who step out - they
can be an incredible, shining star as
they can't help but stand out.
In the midst of it all it is difficult
to see other possibilities, as the
darkness of the room has them well
hidden, and the fearful part of us
would likely prefer they stay that way.
Fortunately, even if they're hidden -
the possibilities ARE there.
Want to learn more about Leo, or what
he has to say on Love?
Check out the video below. It's
part 1 of a talk he did. I think
other parts are on YouTube as well.
Enjoy!
with Love,
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