The Perfect Present

It must be difficult at times to live
as a public persona - especially one
that is an entertainer.

You get all kinds of people talking
about your failures probably more
often than your successes.

You get people assessing your every
thought, your every move, your every
thing.

All businesses have their brands and
their brands need to perform or they
are laid to rest.

While the the branding thing is more
noticeable in things like toothpaste,
it most certainly applies to celebrities,
and even those who aren't a celebrity.

People have become most fickle. In
some ways we have been hypnotized to
be that way. We have been taught
that new is better than old. We have
been taught new is cooler than old.
We have been taught that to be "in"
we have to be with whoever and whatever
the hottest and newest "thing" is.

It takes a special kind of attitude
to remember that what one does is not
who one is. It takes a special kind
of effort to recognize that if
something fails, it does not a failure
make.

It takes us being able and willing to
be aware that the qualities of the
things around us are not who we are.

Someone can be outwardly beautiful
and still be a very ugly person.

Someone can be outwardly rich
and still be a very poor person.

When the going is good, the connection
will feed us, but when it is not so
good it can destroy us.

It might be difficult to know who you
are separate from all of the labels
you wear. However, to have the best
chance of being peaceful and accepting
of yourself, it is best to distinguish
yourself separate from those labels.

For some it is easier to wear the
labels, as uncomfortable as they may
be, than to figure out who they are.

As with all of life's experiences,
that can work for some. However, for
others there will come an inevitable
time when who that person is must be
reckoned with.

It is likely a better experience overall
when it is done by choice rather than
when it is thrust upon someone by the
things that are happening in that
person's life at the time.

There was a particular time in my life
when I came face to face with a facet
of myself that was long hidden by its
perceived pretty side.

It was VERY uncomfortable to recognize
it and even harder to claim it.

BUT...once I did, something quite
magical happened. I found that I was
less inclined to be that way over time.
By turning the metaphorical light on it,
it made it mostly disappear, almost like
magic.

At the time, though...it was painful
beyond words. We work hard to protect
those things we think we know and it
can be difficult beyond words to tear
down the old and make way for something
new and unknown.

For me, it was worth it, and I am sure
that there are other parts of me that
are now on alert to prevent that from
ever happening again!! LOL.

Who you are - when stripped naked of
all that things say you are - is quite
vulnerable and it can be very scary.
And yet when you are stripped bare you
have possibilities unlike any other
you've ever had and nothing weighing
you down, stopping you.

Ever wanted the perfect Christmas
present? It isn't one that anyone else
could ever give you. It is one only
you can give yourself.

Consider giving yourself you this
Christmas. Others in your life might
not be so sure it's such a good thing,
as they become dependent on who they
think you are...but that is a discussion
for another day.

One step at a time.
 

Shake it up | Christmas | Video

So few songs seem to have much
substance these days. A few
words, a few lines, and repeat.

I love the concept for this video,
and I love that there is some
substance to the song.

Perhaps you'll enjoy it, too. :)


 

Playing in the Erotic Hypnosis Rabbit Hole

When I began to do erotic hypnosis,
I did it because I was sensual
and I enjoyed the idea that it
could be used in a way that could
make someone feel good.

When I first started I never used
the words "Good Boy" and I didn't
really do recordings or sessions
that were more than just some
immediate form of control.

I was never one to do things that
would inhibit another's enjoyment
of the art form by suggesting that
they be with ME exclusively.

As time went by, the "market"
was clamoring for me to be more
"domme-like" so I started to
include certain facets in the
mix, always mindful of the life
of a person outside of the
environment we had between us
(sometimes to the chagrin of
those who wanted to see how
far things could be pushed).

I have played a role of sorts
in what I have done, and have
been more and more careful and
specific about how I attempt
to classify myself, as the labels
I have attempted to wear have
been used against me on occasion
when someone has gone with the
perception of the label instead
of going with who I am.

It is a difficult position to
be in at times. If I didn't
"pose" a certain way, those who
would "need" someone like me
wouldn't likely find me.

There seems not to be much
middle ground - just a very
narrow ledge...one that I
would very much like to widen.

Being dominant is what I do,
it isn't who I am.

For some, that is a huge block
as they want the "real thing."
And, while some may think they
want the real thing, there is
a good chance in a number of
situations that when reality
meets fantasy, there will not
only be disappointment, there
will be even more significant
issues.

If you are new to this type
of hypnosis you may want to
taste the many flavors, going
from hypnotist to hypnotist.

If you do, what you may not
realize is how affected
unconsciously by the suggestions
that have been given.

It won't necessarily be a bad
thing, until or if it becomes
a bad thing.

The problem is that there are
so many variances in the equation
of erotic hypnosis, not the least
of which is the originating
mindset of those involved.

If you think you're just going to
dip your toes in the water, be
careful about walking up to
someone who may have a reputation
for pulling people into the pool.

Just because you have your beliefs,
desires, and ground rules and limits
does not mean that someone else will
respect them. Just because you only
intended to spend 30 minutes doesn't
meant you won't find yourself
awakening 90 minutes later having
spent an additional amount of money
on files, in tributes, or in gift
certificates.

I know that there are some who will
read this and get all turned on by
the idea that someone could do that
to you. However consider that what
might be a one time thrill could
become a self-destructing habit
guided by the type of person who
knows what they're doing and can
take you places you never imagined
(and *not* in a good way).

Sometimes we need to lose what we
have to appreciate what we had.

Occasionally someone will get side
tracked from sessions with me by
another hypnotist. It is interesting
to hear about what happened in their
absence. Often the sessions were
taking a turn that was undesired.
In addition, they come to discover
that they were much more affected
by the other person than they realized
(also *not* in a good way).

So why am I telling you all of this?

Because it is important to go into
sessions with as much knowledge as
possible...asking as many questions
as possible (even if just in your
own mind).

Many come to me with a "do me" attitude
that could very likely one day get them
into trouble if they speak to the "wrong"
type of hypnotist for what they may want.

For several reasons, erotic hypnosis is
very much a rabbit hole...you really never
know just where you will wind up. Well
done hypnosis becomes who you are and is
no longer what you do.

It is possible you could lose sight of
the person you once were, and have no
idea how to get back. You may not even
know that there is "someone" to get back
to.

I personally am uncertain about those
types of changes, as I believe we all
have a purpose in being who we are.

And, while at times, there may be things
to enhance and tweak, I find it difficult
to believe that the whole of a person
being washed away is a good thing.

But that's just me.

Your mileage may vary, and
I certainly respect that.

If you take a turn and find yourself
in a place you don't want to be,
I might be able to help, although
I hope never to meet you under those
circumstances.

May all your rabbit holes be safe ones.
:)
 

What if you could talk to the you you will be this time next year? | Site

Apparently, you can.

I heard about an organization recently
that will take a letter that you write
to yourself about the upcoming year
and mail it to you the following year.

I have done things like that...although
some have been more "official" than
others. It is interesting to be able
to reflect on what has come before
(although sometimes I don't always
remember why I wrote what I did).

It reminded me of a site that I had
heard of futureme.org. You can email
yourself and set a future date for
delivery. Provided you maintain the
email address that it is supposed to
be sent to, you might receive an
interesting surprise one day.

This time of year is common for making
wishes and making plans and this
might be an interesting thing to use
to keep tabs on yourself and where
you've been and where you intend to be.

You can also send a message to another
also for future delivery.

It's free so, of course, you have to
figure that there may be some quirks
or bugs. But if it comes through, it
might just be pretty cool.
 

From a Letter Unsent

Earlier this year I wrote a letter to
someone. It was a letter I wasn't
sure I was going to send.

In some ways it was an attempt for me
to say the things I wanted to say.

The letter as a whole was never sent,
and a few pieces were shared other
ways. Ever wish you could say what
you really feel? I wonder sometimes
if we are meant to say all that comes
to mind to another, or if some of it
is just for us.

Either way, odds are the letter will
never be shared directly with the
person it was intended for however,
like a couple of the previous entries,
it seems to me to be a message that
can speak to others.

Once again, I share some of my
heartfelt words with you.

--

You are a very special person. There
is zero doubt about that in my mind,
in my heart, in my soul. You may have
quirks, imperfections, doubts, however,
there is every indicator within me that
you are an incredible and passionate
person. A person who has known the
restraint that society has put upon
you, and a person who has other pieces
and parts to himself that seek acceptance
from the only person that truly matters -
YOU.

--

Once again, if these words resonate for
you, imagine that they were written
to you, and feel free to take them in.
 

It's all about Perspective | A frivolous Gal

This has been passed around for
quite some time. It's pretty
humorous, and even if you're too
young to appreciate it personally,
you might know someone of that
"right" age that could identify.

"She" makes her life sound so
grand...not sure how the person
who wrote it really felt, but I
could see that person in the
midst of discomfort with a smile
on their face.

Circumstances are one thing and
often something we may not be
able to change. How we look at
them is another, and is often
the one thing we do have control
over.

I hope this brings a smile. :)

Old folks are worth a fortune.
With silver in their hair,
gold in their teeth, stones in
their kidneys, lead in their
feet, and gas in their stomachs.

I have become a lot more social
with the passing of the years;
some might call me a frivolous
old gal. I'm seeing five gentle-
men every day.

As soon as I wake, Will Power
helps me get out of bed. Then
I go to see John. Then Charley
Horse comes along, and when he
leaves, Arthur Ritis shows up
and stays the rest of the day.
(He doesn't like to stay in one
place very long, so he takes me
from joint to joint.) After such
a busy day, I'm really tired and
glad to go to bed - with Ben Gay.

What a life!

PS The preacher came to call the
other day. He said that at my age,
I should be thinking about the
hereafter I told him I do, all
the time. No matter where I am
- in the parlor, upstairs in the
kitchen, or down in the basement -
I ask myself, "Now, what am I here
after?"
 

What YOU deserve (perhaps this will resonate for you)

Here is something else that I
wrote to another. I suspect
that this is the type of thing
that would resonate for more
than just the intended person.

For that reason, I share it,
just as I shared the other
words (in this blog entry).

--

Do not shortchange yourself.

While you may have questions
about who you are...remember
that who you are is never
what you do. You deserve
love beyond your wildest
dreams and desires. You
deserve the respect that
goes along with it. You
deserve someone who is a
true partner, someone who
will not take advantage -
or take for granted - your
willing nature, and someone
who knows how to balance all
aspects of you and your
relationship, without
expecting you to compromise
who you are.

You believe in yourself
professionally, and it is
just as important to
believe in yourself
personally.

People make the mistake of
believing that what they
deserve has to do with what
they have or haven't done.

The mistake you would make
would be to be one of them.

--

If it resonated for you,
might I suggest you
go back
and
read it again,
and take it in,
as though it was
written just for your
eyes and your heart,
and for the love
of who you are and
what you stand for.

If it didn't
resonate for you,
perhaps you know
someone who could
appreciate these
words, and may
even need to
hear them.

If you didn't know
what to say before,
perhaps you will
know now.

Have a good night. :)
 

On Trusting Impressions

Have you read Blink? I have, but
not recently. I was reminded of
it now, and need to go back and
revisit it.

I mention it because I was thinking
about impressions and gut feelings.

Apparently, the physical image we
present provides people with 55-80%
of what they believe about us.

Interestingly, Malcolm suggests that
the more complex something is, the
more we should trust our first
impression. The more simple it is,
the less facts there are, the more
he would suggest further analysis.

In some way, that makes sense to me.
Some things are so big, so much,
they can overwhelm. In some cases
you could never know enough. It
could cause serious paralysis and
stress.

I would suggest that people are one
of those complex things which means
your first reaction to someone is
likely to be the best one. You can
possibly access by the appearance
of a person, but often the appearance
won't align with the nature of the
gut feeling.

In addition, this can tie into my
last blog entry about going on what
we know from the past. Sometimes
it might be correct, but there could
be times our past-based assessments
could short circuit our efforts or
cheat us out of an opportunity.

While our appearance may "tell"
someone who they think we are,
it could be lying. The person's
assessment tools may also be
biased.

The physical things around us may
say something, but it often will
not relay who we truly are. Just
like the other blog entry about
what makes a good man, the things
and who we are may at times be
connected, but the things themselves
don't often equate to who we are.

(By the way, it is the unconscious
mind that likes things to be known.
It seeks out those things because
it finds comfort in it.

It is likely to be a good thing at
times, however when it rules it
may choose things that don't really
work for us, at all.)

Confused yet?

One thing gives one message. Another
thing gives another message. Which
one is the "right" one?

YOU know, and when you pay attention
to that inner voice and direction you
will find that the things people say
won't matter as much any more, unless,
that is - you want them to.

Would you like to read more about
Blink? See this link, and tell me
what you think.

I am the poet,
don'tja know it?

:)