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A First

I got a call from someone I have spoken
to a few times. I am not really what
he wants or is looking for, and we've
never really spoken at length.

Today he called to ask me for another
person's NF extension.

I found it rather amusing, and wondered
how others might react to such a
request.

I am guessing that it might mean that
he sees me as approachable, and that
would seem to me to be a good thing.

It might mean something else, instead,
but I think I'll go with what I just
said. It sounds good to me. :P
 

Some Beautiful Art

I just saw these works today. I'd
say this woman is a very talented
artist, and also quite sensual.

What would you say?
 

When you know...

When you know something is right,
there is a feeling you get.

The feeling is a feeling of
strength, of conviction.

When you know something is right,
there is a peace where there might
otherwise be a possibility of turmoil.

When you know something is right,
walking into the unknown there
is a sense of fearlessness.

When you know something is right,
it is something that you know
you must do.

When you know something is right,
and you don't act on it, the
feeling can be torturous.

When it's right, the mountains are
more likely to seem like molehills.

When you know something is right,
there is an inner knowing that
will guide you through - and you
will get to where you are going
amazed that you ever questioned
yourself, and amazed by the
reactions of others - as you will
most likely think nothing of it.

What do you know is right?
And, more importantly,
are you acting on it?
 

Uncovering and Discovering

I just saw a poll asking if the person
being polled thought that Gabrielle
Giffords' husband should take the
shuttle mission.

My thought: Why is this anyone's
business (outside of Gabrielle and
her husband)?

Why do we spend so much time and effort
focused on other people's issues? Is
it in part because we don't want to
face our own?

If so, what does that say?

Perhaps it is time for a change.

I know it's never easy to look at the
things you have spent time avoiding,
however once you are willing to look
- and better yet - act, it is likely
to be better than you might imagine.

Remember - we go for the things we
know - even when they don't work
for us. Just because it is in our
nature to do it, doesn't mean we
can't make a change. It just might
be a little more difficult, scary,
or uncertain, but it is possible,
and quite likely preferable when
we are numb or unhappy.

I had a caller who didn't know who
he truly was. He had been conditioned
by religious hypnosis, societal hypnosis,
and also by a mistress and a hypnotist.

He was scared to uncover who he truly
was, and yet a part of him already knew
that there was someone inside who wasn't
being addressed, as he was very confused.

By the time we were done, he felt more
in control and more at peace, and was
on his way to discovering what had been
covered up. You might even say he was
nervously excited.

It is easy to see why, as all that he
had known had disappeared, and he then
had a great opportunity to create and
recreate until he found what he needed
and who he wanted to be.

You can't furnish a room that has
already been furnished. Clean things
out, and you'll have an opportunity
to create something better than you
even imagined.

Need help?
Come and find me. :)
 

One drop too many

Have you ever wondered why something
seemingly small and insignificant
seems like a big deal?

Consider a bucket that collects drops
of water. The first few probably
don't seem like much. But once you
have added many more, there is going
to come a point that one more drop
will have the bucket overflow.

But it's ONLY a drop, right?

And then there is another drop, so
there is more overflow, and even
more drops will soon make a mess.

But they're ONLY drops, aren't they?

If a person focuses on the drops,
they'll never see the big mess
that is the overflow.

Many times when people interact,
they only see the drops, and many
times it is difficult, if not
impossible, for someone to see
another's overflow because
individual buckets have unique
contents which when added up
create a unique combination of
things that can cause a lot of
stress and a big mess.

Ever have someone ask, "What's
the big deal?" and it pissed you
off? Maybe you even wondered, too.
But if you went back and looked at
what had been happening up until
that point, you may recognize
what was adding up, and how those
little drops became a "big" thing.

I'd like to think that people
want the best for those they care
about, but often their observations
and suggestions aren't helpful
(or are minimally beneficial)
because they are unable to take
into consideration the entire
mix that is causing the reaction
of anger, of stress, of whatever
might be going on at the moment.

The unique chemistry that is you
is what will give you the
experience you have, and there
are only so many things that can
be added together before the
cracks will begin to show.

The best thing you can do for
yourself is recognize what is
happening. After you recognize
it, you can share with others
your recognition. It might help,
but, sadly, most still will not
get it because they will still
be focused on the drop and
unable to understand what is
going on for you. It is still
worth a shot, though, because
you never know when it might
be helpful, and ease some of
the pressure of their need to
be helpful in a way that isn't
so helpful.

You could also let the person
know that if they want to help,
the best thing they can do is
listen, and resist the urge to
try to help resolve your problem.

Another thing you could do is
just stay away from others for
a bit. It isn't always the
best solution, but sometimes
it can be helpful, as their
input only adds to the overflow.

Last, but not least, is probably
the most obvious and likely most
overlooked piece which is to
empty that bucket.

When you let the stress go, you
are better able to cope with the
things that truly are "just a
drop."

Don't know how to let them go?
There are lots of ways, but the
biggest trick will be to allow
yourself to utilize one or more
of them.

Often it feels "comfortable" to
hold on to the stress, as odd
as that may sound.

Of course, hypnosis can help,
but so can breathing properly
(many times we don't breathe
properly when stressed),
breaking up the pattern that
is occurring, doing something
fun, speaking with someone
who will just listen.

Sometimes we just need to
express ourselves to be able
to diffuse the pressures
that have been built up
within.

One last thing to consider
is what it feels like to
be on the other side. It
is easy to see how this
might suit our own
overwhelming experiences,
but it also suits the
ones those we care about
are having, too.

The next time someone is
feeling overwhelmed, and
is talking to you, consider
that the best thing you
can do is to listen, and
refrain from the attitude
of "what's the big deal?"
 

Want to feel weak?

I find many people I talk to who consider
themselves submissive tell me how weak
they feel, or want to feel.

They do this - in part - because they
want another person to be strong.

This is a perspective that is quite
common and encouraged over and over.

While I may sometimes work within that
context, it is rare, because contrary to
popular belief, feeling weak is unnecessary
to accomplish the experience you want to
have.

As with everything, there are varying
perspectives and I will always respect
a person's choice. I will also respect
their ability to choose, which many
conversations around this will take
away.

I tell you this because I find that not
everyone truly wants to feel weak, they
just think they're "supposed" to.

As with many things in regard to me,
you would likely be very surprised
at what is possible.

Hypnosis is magical, and so is an
experience with me.

Have a great day, and stay safe.
 

Brain Science & Differences in Perception | Video

This video is about an hour long. I know for many
spending that time might be difficult to do, however,
if the way our mind works is of interest to you,
it is an hour likely to be well spent.

The piece I found most interesting was the part
that said that our mind is as unique as our
fingerprint. That being the case, there truly
can't be any general assumptions about how the
world is seen. Of course, that creates difficulties
when the moral judgments of some become the laws
of all.

Of course this is a tricky topic, and there are
many shades of gray, however, one would have to
hope that we can come together in a way that
there are shades that most of us can come to
some form of agreement on.

Another thing that struck me is that, as with
anything, the good that could come out of this
could also be used for things not so good.

If you watch the video, I would love to hear
your thoughts in the comments below, or even
privately...it's up to you. However, I wouldn't
mind an interactive conversation here. :)

Watch the full episode. See more NOVA scienceNOW.