Who wants to be hypnotized when they could be hypnotouched*?
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I have heard that at the rate that we are growing things, we are depleting the soil's nutrients. It sounds troubling, and yet it seems we keep going.
The video below apparently showcases an old idea that is getting an opportunity in a 2010 setting on a rooftop in New York City.
As with anything, who knows what the good and the bad of anything is, unless you're intimately involved, but it seems like a solution that is worth looking into for a myriad of reasons, and a variety of people.
Here is a case where it would seem that the change might just do us some good.
So many times I talk with guys who have a fantasy about an "evil hypnotist" that can make them do things, or have control over them and their orgasms, even their ability to get hard.
What they don't realize is that fantasy can become reality, and what one wishes for one might just get.
I know of instances when this has happened, and while some may think how lucky a guy was for it, it often can happen even when someone is married or in a relationship.
Is the fantasy worth the risk that any short term pleasure might give you? What if anything ever happened to that domme or hypnotist? Some guys don't know where to turn in a case like that, or in a case where he might want to "escape" from the situation he finds himself in, and the person buries him even more deeply as he tries to get out.
Who would you tell? What would you tell?
If you are doing things that are potentially detrimental to your life and well being or that is potentially detrimental to someone, or a relationship, you care about, that is a very important time to step back and look at things.
You CAN have even MORE pleasure from taking care of yourself and the things that matter to you than setting out on a path of that might look like pleasure, but really is likely to lead to some form of destruction.
Your mind may dispute it or question it. It may seek to get its "hit," even as you spiral in a direction that has an unhelpful/unhealthy dynamic.
Our wiring is meant to help us, but often it can be used against us.
If you're in a situation and need some help, I might be able to help you. If you're still in fantasy mode, please be careful, and respect your mind enough to know that you may get a surprise at some point, and it may not be a pleasant one.
Ask anyone who has been in an abusive relationship why they stayed, odds are if they didn't say something like, "I love her," he would likely tell you he didn't know why.
Dysfunction of any type that has this "pull," seems inexplicable, seems unable to escape or change, has its own polarity and magnet...and it is called the unconscious or subconscious.
It is the part of the person that drives them to do certain things, even if they are violent or hurtful to one's self or others.
I don't know that I could say this is a 100% kind of way, however it would seem to me to be a very high percentage of the time.
For some, love is pain. Love is arguing. Love is fighting and making up. The definition of love depends very much on the individual's experience of what s/he believed to be love, and the associations s/he made. The person then makes choices to find love in the only way it knows how.
(There are other factors, as well...hard to have a comprehensive conversation of a complex topic in a short blog entry.)
Eminem's song/video below is intense. It speaks to the most violent of relationships, however, there are all kinds of abuse, and some of the worst isn't even as obvious as being mistreated physically. Just because there is no physical experience of mistreatment doesn't mean that a person isn't mistreated.
Some people are good at manipulating others with just their words...and it's a form of influence, and perhaps even hypnosis of the non-trance kind. When that is added to the mix it becomes a form of suggestion, and makes a bad situation even more difficult to extricate oneself from.
Some people may read this or view the video and go, "huh?" I noticed there were some comments on YouTube, as some didn't understand that message of the music. In some way they may even be like those who believe they could never be hypnotized to do something detrimental and believe that hypnosis isn't really real, and don't understand how some could get into the difficulties they do.
Hopefully they will never truly understand the message from a personal experience point of view, but perhaps they can still have some form of understanding and/or compassion for another who knows all too well what it means.
If you find yourself stuck, you CAN get unstuck. Is it likely to be easy? Probably not...but with enough desire, you can find your way. Better yet, afterward you'll wonder why you didn't leave sooner. When that happens celebrate the perspective, and be kind to yourself...you did the best you could with who you were at that moment in time.
*curious about the title of this blog? Be sure to watch video, reference at 3:19.
I have been hearing about how the light bulbs that we are currently
using are going to be phased out. In the back of my mind, I
imagined stocking up on a lifetime supply before they were no longer
available in stores. I also thought that the difference between the
new bulbs and old ones would only be how the top part of the
bulb looked, so I thought I would always have a choice: same
fixture, but using preferred bulb type.
I guess a part of me was apathetic about it all. It seemed to be
the way we were going, but it hadn't yet affected me.
Yesterday that changed.
Where I live there is a requirement that lighting be more energy
efficient. I had hoped that I would have a choice, that perhaps
just the bulbs were going to be changed.
Sadly, I found out that the new fixtures are made differently than
the old ones because the bulbs are made differently. It makes me
wonder if it is a way of forcing people into using the new bulbs.
I am not one for much lighting to begin with, however I am now
seeking ways to have different lighting that isn't fluorescent. Yes,
the newer light bulbs aren't as hideous as what flourescents have
been in the past, but there are two main issues I have with them.
If you break one of these new lightbulbs, you have a toxic mess on
your hands. There is an 11 step process for cleaning up the toxic
waste you now have in your home. In addition, apparently there
aren't clear cut disposal methods for these bulbs, so that mercury
is supposedly getting places where it shouldn't be. I also understand
that the bulbs are made overseas, so I cannot imagine that it is a
good thing that something that has become so crucial to our way of
life isn't even made here.
I am not sure I agree with everything said in this video, but here is
some interesting perspective on the topic:
The video below talks about the disposal of the bulbs and the dangers
of Mercury, and assures people that it is the "right" thing to do for the
planet. Wondering if they're hypnotized, or just want us to be?
Added to the Mercury Issue, which is no small one, is the fact that
there are many people who seem to be affected adversely by
fluorescent lighting. Those who aren't affected poo-poo it, and
make fun of those who are, taking this particular part of the issue
lightly. However, there does seem to be some credence to the
possibility that lighting like this can cause issues for some, and
this law takes away the ability for there to be other options, short
of going back to candlelight, or stocking up on incandescent light
bulbs, and holding onto older lamps and fixtures.
So now I am more aware of the situation, but don't know what if
anything can be done. I suspect that there are many who are like
me who were (and are) just bopping along, and won't care much
about this until it's too late.
For the moment, I will just write about this, and my concerns, and
see if anyone out there may have some thoughts. I am all for
helping the environment. I am just not sure that this is the way
to do it, and if anything, it seems like it might potentially cause
more harm than good because we are good about not caring about
those things that are outside of what we can see. Look at how we
already handle waste.
I was told that by making these changes, I would save on electricity.
I already was only using 2 of 4 bulbs that were in a couple of my
fixtures. Perhaps if we just cut back on what we had it would help,
too. The bulb legislation to me seems to be more of a reaction, and
about money than anything else.
Of course, we need to be led to believe otherwise.
Our country was founded on the freedom of choice, and it seems
to me that - in our best interests - our freedom to choose is being
taken away little by little. I can't imagine what is motivating the
people who are making these choices on our behalf. I'd like to give
the benefit of the doubt, but this does not seem thought through
for the best all round effect.
Ignorance and apathy only feed situations like this, and unless
something happens to alter the plan, the world in which we live will
be looking much different in just a few short years from now, and
that will likely just be the beginning. I am usually a pretty positive
person, but I don't even want to think about what repercussions this
may bring in ways we don't yet know or realize.
If you want someone to do something when they're hypnotized, you
give them only the choices you want them to have...and they may
be no choice at all. You can also get them to believe that the choice
they make is theirs, and that it is the one that is "best" for them.
When we no longer recognize our ability to have other choices it
verges on too late. However there are always other choices...we just
to have to allow ourselves to see them unfettered by the fog of
limitation that is often brought upon us by someone or something
else.
There is no question tough choices need to be made, but perhaps we
should consider that they need to be made more on a micro (personal)
level than a macro (government) one. Isn't that the way government
in this country is supposed to work any way?
Being responsible for our choices is different than being made to be
responsible. The minute human beings start to manipulate things is
the moment that other issues are likely to arise.
I'll leave you with this last thought about a bigger picture awareness
with smaller picture actions:
"Among the Indians there have been no written laws. Customs handed
down from generation to generation have been the only laws to guide
them. Every one might act different from what was considered right
did he choose to do so, but such acts would bring upon him the
censure of the Nation. This fear of the Nation's censure acted as a
mighty band, binding all in one social, honorable compact."
- Quote by Tecumseh, Shawnee Indian Tribe
How can we better honor ourselves and the world in which we live?
In Cosmo's May 2010 issue, there was an article about how to "build" up a man, make him feel like a "man of steel," like a "superhero." It talks about stroking his ego, and making him feel invincible.
I thought it was an interesting article because I know so many men who want to be anything but that in the bedroom - at least at times.
The one thing the article suggests is "getting in his head," and I would absolutely agree with that. However, it implies that getting in his head will be empowering him to take charge.
As with anything, I think blanket statements do a disservice. The thing about getting into someone's head is that you may find things that don't necessarily agree with what you believe, or how you see things.
It means taking a risk. It means that you care about someone enough to allow them to be who they want to and need to be, not who you want or demand them to be.
What is right for any relationship is the same thing that is right for any individual. In my opinion, of course. What is right is what works, and if there is something in between the sheets that isn't working, a good partnership owes discovery and good communication between its partners.
Odds are men are reading this...and it really should be addressed to the women in their lives. However, if you are a man who is in a situation that doesn't seem to allow you a part of yourself, you might want to consider that more is possible.
At one point I received an email from an angry wife. Apparently she found out about her husband's interest and about money spent, and had pretty much kicked him out. I mention this because in her correspondence with me she mentioned that had he wanted to investigate hypnosis with her, she would have been game.
Whether or not he wanted to entertain it with her, might have been a different story, however if his relationship was important to him (and I will presume that it was) he was taking an awfully big risk by doing what he did. It may have cost him a lot more than money in the end.
Another person I spoke with, but never hypnotized, was seeking to explore in the full awareness of his wife. However, as they went forward, it wasn't working for her. He ultimately made the choice to forgo the hypnotic experience, and it sounded like it was to their mutual benefit.
Every person and every experience is going to be different. I don't believe any one person has the answers for any other one person. However there may be elements that can work for some.
You owe it to yourself to be as honest as you can be with your significant other, and yourself. The rewards may be surprisingly great. I realize for some it may not be wise or practical, but you may just be surprised. Just be careful that your desire doesn't drive you to do something that could hurt a relationship that you care about...and even if it comes to a point where it just seems to hurt you, you could still be hurting the relationship, as you are 50% of that dynamic. Things don't happen in a void.
Be wary any time someone seems to have THE answer. You may find yourself going down a path that doesn't work in your world. When that happens all kinds of things can happen, including wondering what is wrong with you. After all, it worked for others, what is wrong with you that it isn't working?
The fact is there are as many solutions as there are people, and the more you tune into what is right for your experience, the happier you will likely be.
Perhaps the new male sex need is the same as the female one: A need to be heard and respected for one's choices.
In it he says something about how our vulnerability is one of the greatest gifts we can give another.
Being able to be open to another isn't always easy, and often the tendency is likely to go another way especially when there is fear or previous pain.
For a long time now I have been a witness to the vulnerability of those who I have spoken with. At times I must say I am quite honored by the willingness to be open with me. Some really amazing and beautiful things happen in the process.
It makes me sad sometimes when I see that trust betrayed and manipulated. I always want to leave a person who comes to me with nothing less of themselves when we started, and possibly even better off than when we began.
So much pleasure (and more) awaits. As I said when you showed up here, "Thank you for coming into my world."
