The Soul of Sex

"The person who knows only the compulsions
of sex has never experienced its soul."

- Thomas Moore
Soul Mates
Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship

There have been times I have used hypnosis
erotically for someone I have been intimate
with. As wonderful as it was, there were
times I didn't want it to be a part of our
dynamic.

Some might wonder why that is, as for some
it would be a fantasy come true to be always,
ever wrapped up within a hypnotic, erotic
web of pleasure.

For me, it has something to do with what
Thomas Moore refers to. In some way, hypnotic
suggestion can remove a person from being
truly in touch with one's self, one's soul.

There is nothing - in my mind - that is more
beautiful, amazing or profound than connecting
with someone in an unfiltered way, and that
includes the effect of best hypnotic suggestion
you've ever felt.

For those who have had the experience, I am
sure you must know what I am talking about.
For those who haven't, consider that it might
be something beautiful to aspire to.

Just so you know, I am not saying that one should
be an absolute substitute for the other, but
rather that one complement the other, creating a
greater wealth of choices to choose from. As a
result it creates even more opportunity for
pleasure, as I would suggest that the pleasure of
compulsions can be rather one-sided, while the
pleasure of the soul is amplified because of the
connection it shares with another.

There is someone that I found out was going into
trance every time he masturbated. He thought it
was a good thing - until I stopped him from doing it.

He went from never remembering what was happening,
or the pleasure he felt to being fully aware, and
loved being able to know how good what he was doing
felt. He thanked me for making the change.

It can be similar when you get caught up in the
feelings of triggers. It is almost something that
is separate from you. If you take a step back,
you can be more aware of what is happening, and
make it even better as a result. Connection is
a pleasure key, even if it is "just" connecting
with yourself.

Don't believe me? Try it for yourself. For
anyone who sees sex as an escape, this might be
an intimidating suggestion. It will threaten
what appears to be a safety net. It is the
vulnerability of the approach that helps to bring
about the "reward." It might seem ironic that
out of trance you are more vulnerable, but if
you think about it, it will likely make sense.
You are much less vulnerable when it is perceived
that you are without a choice than when the choice
is yours to make.

If you aren't sure how to do this, feel free to
ask me about it. You really might be surprised
at just how amazing it could be.

Have a great night.
 

Some Edumacation for you

A little lightness for a "heavy" subject.

I find that some that I talk to don't know
a few things about sexually contacted
diseases. I have thought more than once
about posting about at least one in
particular - HPV.

Today I saw something about gonorrhea.

So I thought today should be the day.

Some people think if they're careful,
they'll be safe. I sure would like to
think that myself. However in both
cases - gonorrhea and HPV - there may
be no signs of any symptoms.

For a man, HPV is not likely to produce
any symptoms. As a matter of fact, he
could have it, and would never know.

However, if he gave it to a woman, she
could possibly get cervical cancer.

It is genital skin to skin contact
that promotes the sharing of the virus,
so a condom will not necessarily do
anything when those private areas
"collide."

In addition, there has been some
speculation that oral sex with an
infected party could possibly be the
pathway to throat cancer.

I tell you these things because some
married men may think they're playing
safe, and yet may do something to put
their wife at risk. I tell you these
things because some single men may
think there is no real risk for them,
as they're single.

If a man can't be tested for HPV
(which he can't) he can't know if he
has contacted it, or if he has it.
So theoretically, he could be tested,
and say he's clean when in actuality,
he may not be. Sadly, there doesn't
seem to be any way to know.

Also, it seems that at one time or
another a good percentage of the
population is infected, or has been
affected with a strain (some strains
more serious than others), so it may
treated more casually than it should be.

Vaccinations are proposed, but they
only cover a few strains, and as the
message about gonorrhea shows, some
things become resistant to our attempts
to manage them with drugs.

What is one to do?

I wish I knew the answer. However,
what I do know is that hypnotic sex
is a pretty darn real experience, and
is a safe one. So before you consider
going out into the world and experimenting,
perhaps consider working with what is
between your ears.

A few links for your discovery:
http://www.aolnews.com/health/article/gonorrhea-close-to-gaining-superbug-status/19420157
http://www.ktvu.com/health/11741524/detail.html
http://www.cdc.gov/hpv/